Ukwelashwa ngempilo yengqondo ngokungenhloso yakho? Ake sifunde ngokuzibophezela okungenakuzithandela eNirogi Lanka

Ngezinye izikhathi, sidlula ezikhathini ezinzima kakhulu empilweni, akunjalo? Ikakhulukazi uma kukhulunywa ngempilo yengqondo , abanye abantu bangase bangaqapheli ukuthi badinga usizo. Ezimweni ezinjalo, kunezikhathi lapho othile angadinga ukudluliselwa khona ukuze athole ukwelashwa ngenxa yokuphepha kwakhe, ngisho noma engathandi. Namuhla, sizokhuluma ngesihloko esibucayi, kodwa esibaluleke kakhulu: 'Ukuzibophezela Okungahlosiwe'.

Kuyini 'Ukuzibophezela Okungahlosiwe'?

Kalula nje, 'Ukuzibophezela Okungenasidingo' kubhekisela enkambisweni yezomthetho yokukwamukela egunjini labagula ngengqondo ukuze welashwe isimo esibi sempilo yengqondo ngokungenhloso yakho. Ukuzwa lokhu kungakwenza uzizwe wesaba noma uthukuthele. Ungase uzibuze, "Bangakwenza kanjani lokhu ngaphandle kwemvume yami?" Impendulo yakho iyiqiniso ngokuphelele.

Kodwa-ke, into ebaluleke kakhulu okufanele uyiqonde ukuthi lokhu akwenzelwa ukukulimaza noma ukukuhlukanisa. Ithimba lakho lezokwelapha , kanye nenkantolo efanele (evame ukubizwa ngokuthi inkantolo ye-probate), lisebenzisana ukuze linqume isikhathi esifanele kanye nohlobo lokunakekelwa okudingayo. Okubaluleke kakhulu, ngaphandle komyalelo wenkantolo, akekho ongakuphoqelela imithi yezifo zengqondo.

Ngokuvamile, isinqumo sokuzibophezela ngokungazikhetheli senziwa uma isimo sempilo yengqondo sibeka engcupheni yokuzilimaza (ukuzibulala) noma abanye (ukuzibulala). Ngezinye izikhathi, lesi sinyathelo singadingeka futhi uma isimo siba sibi kakhulu kangangokuthi awukwazi ukwenza ukuzinakekela okuyisisekelo, njengokudla noma ukugqoka.

Uma othile ecela lokhu egameni lakho, sicela ungakubheki njengokuhlasela komuntu siqu. Akekho ozama ukukubopha noma ukukulimaza. Inhloso eyodwa ukuqinisekisa ukuphepha kwakho nokuvimbela imiphumela engaba yingozi empilweni engavela ngaphandle kokungenelela.

Yiziphi izimo zempilo yengqondo lokhu okusiza kuzo ngempela?

Ungase uzibuze, "Luhlobo luni lwezimo ezinzima eziholela ekwelashweni okuphoqelekile?" Eqinisweni, inqubo eyaziwa ngokuthi ukuzibophezela okungenakuzithandela yenzelwe ukusekela abantu ngesikhathi sezinhlekelele ezithile zempilo yengqondo . Sicela ukhumbule ukuthi lokhu akusetshenziswa kuwo wonke umuntu onesimo sempilo yengqondo. Le ndlela icatshangwa kuphela uma kukhona ingozi eseduze yokulimaza wena noma abanye .

Nazi ezinye zalezo zimo:

• Izimo zempilo yengqondo ezifana ne-Schizophrenia: Lezi zimo zingaholela ekungaxhumani neqiniso.
• Izinkinga zemizwa ezifana nokucindezeleka okukhulu kanye nesifo sokuphazamiseka kwengqondo: Lokhu kungabangela ukushintshashintsha okukhulu kwemizwa, ngezinye izikhathi okuholela ebuhlungwini obukhulu bemizwa kanye nemicabango yokuzilimaza.
• Ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo okubangelwa ukusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa: Izinto ezithile zingabangela ukungazinzi kwengqondo okwesikhashana, okunzima.
• Umbono wokuzibulala: Uma umuntu ehlala ecabanga ngokuzibulala, lokhu kubhekwa njengesimo esiphuthumayo esibucayi.
• Isifo sengqondo esihambisana nezimpawu zengqondo: Ukwehla kwengqondo ngezinye izikhathi kungahambisana nezinselele zengqondo ezicindezelayo.

Nakuba le ndlela ingeyona eyawo wonke umuntu, iba yindlela edingekayo lapho isimo sakho sempilo yengqondo sibeka engcupheni ukuphepha kwakho noma ukuphepha kwalabo abakuzungezile.

Yiziphi izindlela okumelwe zihlangatshezwe kulolu hlobo lokudluliselwa?

Ake sibheke izidingo zokwelashwa okungazikhetheli. Lesi akusona isinqumo esivamile; kuyinqubo yezomthetho elawulwa yimithethonqubo ethile ukuqinisekisa ukuthi amalungelo akho avikelwe.

Izindlela eziyinhloko ezivame ukucatshangelwa yilezi:

• Unesimo esibi sempilo yengqondo esilimaza kakhulu umbono wakho, imizwa yakho , ukwahlulela kwakho, kanye nokuziphatha kwakho. Lokhu kungenza kube nzima ukuhlukanisa iqiniso nokukhohlisa noma kubangele ulaka olungalawuleki.
• Lezi zimpawu zisongela impilo noma ukuphepha kwakho, noma ukuphepha kwabanye . Isibonelo, ukuveza izinhloso ezicacile zokuzilimaza noma ukuziphatha kobudlova kwabanye.
• Ubunzima besimo sakho bukuvimbela ekunakekeleni izidingo zakho eziyisisekelo , njengokudla, ukugqoka, noma ukufuna indawo yokukhosela.
• Ukwelashwa esibhedlela okulaliswa esibhedlela kutholakala ukuthi kuzuzisa ekwelapheni kwakho.

KwaNirogi Lanka, sibeka phambili indawo enganamingcele eminingi ngangokunokwenzeka. Uma izidingo zakho zingahlangatshezwa ngezinsizakalo zeziguli zangaphandle, leyo ndlela izohlala ikhethwa kunokwamukelwa esibhedlela.

Isebenza kanjani inqubo 'Yokuzibophezela Okungenasidingo'?

Nakuba inqubo ingahluka kuye ngemithetho yomphakathi yendawo kanye nemikhuba yesifunda, ngokuvamile ilandela lezi zinyathelo:

1. Ukuqala isicelo:Umuntu othintekayo—njengelungu lomndeni, umngane, udokotela, isisebenzi sezenhlalakahle, noma isikhulu sezomthetho—uqala inqubo yokuzibophezela emphakathini ngokuxhumana neziphathimandla zempilo yengqondo ezifanele.

2. Ukudluliselwa kwezokwelapha: Kwezinye izimo, abaphenduli bezimo eziphuthumayo bangase bakuthuthe bakuyise ekamelweni lezimo eziphuthumayo ukuze uhlolwe ngumhlinzeki wezempilo.

3. Ukuhlolwa kwezokwelapha: Udokotela uzokuhlola ukuze anqume ukuthi uyahlangabezana yini nezindinganiso ezithile zokuzibophezela ngokungenhloso.

4. Ukwamukelwa esikhungweni sezifo zengqondo: Uma udokotela enquma ukuthi izidingo ziyahlangatshezwana, uzokwamukelwa esikhungweni sezifo zengqondo esilaliswe esibhedlela ukuze uzinziswe futhi unakekelwe.

5. Ukubuyekezwa kweNkantolo: Icala lenkantolo lingahlelwa ukuze kunqunywe ukuthi ukwelashwa okuqhubekayo nokwesikhathi eside ngaphandle kokuzithandela kuyadingeka yini ngokwezokwelapha.

Phakathi kwezinyathelo 3 no-4, ungase ugcinwe isikhathi esifushane sokubhekwa okuphuthumayo (ngokuvamile amahora angu-72). Lesi sikhathi sivumela ithimba lezokwelapha ukuthi lizinzise izimpawu zakho. Ngemva kwalesi sikhathi, ungase ube nenketho yokushintshela ekunakekelweni kweziguli ezilaliswe ngokuzithandela uma ukwazi ukuhlanganyela ekululameni kwakho. Kuyo yonke le nqubo, amalungelo akho nokuphepha kwakho kuyinto eza kuqala kithi.

Iyini imiphumela yokwelashwa okungazikhetheli?

Ukwamukelwa ngenxa yokwelashwa ngenkani kuhambisana nezinhlangothi ezinhle nezinselele. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kungasindisa impilo yakho futhi kukunikeze ithuba lesibili, okuwumphumela obaluleke kakhulu.

Kodwa-ke, kubalulekile futhi ukuqaphela ukuthi ukwamukelwa ngaphandle kwezifiso zakho kungaholela ekushaqekeni okukhulu, ukwesaba, kanye nemizwa yokungabi namandla . Kwezinye izimo, lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho kungaba nomthelela ezimweni ezifana ne -Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) .

Ukuzibophezela (Ukuzibophezela Ngokungathandi) kungaholela kokuhlangenwe nakho okulandelayo:

• Impilo yakho yansuku zonke kanye nesimiso sakho kungase kuphazamiseke .
• Ungase uzizwe sengathi ukhashelwe , ikakhulukazi uma abathandekayo bakho bebehilelekile kule nqubo.
• Ungase ubhekane nobunzima bezezimali .
• Ukuzimela kwakho siqu kungase kuzwakale kulinganiselwe ngesikhathi sokuhlala kwakho esibhedlela.
• Ungase ukuthole kunzima ukugcina ukwethembana ohlelweni lwezempilo noma izinhlangano zomthetho .

Ngezinye izikhathi, ngaphambi kokungeniswa esibhedlela, ungase ungabuboni ngokugcwele ubunzima bezimpawu zakho. Kodwa-ke, izifundo eziningi zibonisa ukuthi uma iziguli sezithole ukunakekelwa ezikudingayo futhi zelapheka, zivame ukuqaphela indima ebalulekile eyadlalwa (Ukuzibophezela Okungenakuzithandela) ekululameni kwazo.

Nakuba imizwa yentukuthelo noma ukudabuka ngokuphoqelelwa ukuba unakekelwe ivamile ekuqaleni, abantu abaningi kamuva bacabanga ukuthi, "Ngilapho engikhona namuhla ngenxa yosizo engaluthola ngaleso sikhathi."

Kuyodingeka ngibe sekwelashweni isikhathi esingakanani?

Ubude besikhathi sokwelashwa kwakho buxhomeke ezidingweni zakho ezithile zezokwelapha. Njengoba lokhu kuyinqubo yezomthetho, inkantolo izobamba izikhathi ezithile (ukulalelwa kwecala) ukuze ibukeze isimo sakho. Lokhu kungase kwenzeke ngezikhathi zezinsuku ezingu-7, 14, noma ezingu-30, kuye ngezimo. Uma uqhubeka nokuhlangabezana (nemigomo yokuzibophezela komphakathi)—okusho ukuthi uhlala usengozini yokulinyazwa wena noma abanye—ukuqhubeka nokulaliswa esibhedlela kungadingeka.

Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi ingozi yokuzibulala ingaba phezulu ezinyangeni ezimbalwa zokuqala ngemva kokuphuma esibhedlela. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukwakha (uhlelo lokusekela) oluqinile (kanye nokuxhumana nezinsiza zendawo) ongaxhumana nazo noma nini lapho uzizwa ukhungathekile. ESri Lanka, ungafinyelela ukwesekwa ngezinsizakalo ezifana neSumithrayo (1333) noma i-CCCline (1926) uma kudingeka.

Kungokwemvelo ukuzwa imizwa ehlukahlukene—njengokuzizwa udelelekile noma ungazwakali—uma usesimweni lapho uzizwa ungenakho ukulawula. Lokhu kuyindlela evamile yokusabela ngesikhathi senqubo (yokuzibophezela okungazikhetheli).

Ngisho noma lokhu kuzwakala kudida noma kucindezela, sicela ukhumbule ukuthi isinyathelo ngasinye kule nqubo senzelwe ukuqinisekisa ukuphepha kwakho kanye nenhlalakahle, kanye nokuphepha kwalabo abakuzungezile. Umuntu okukhathalela kakhulu wanquma ukufuna usizo egameni lakho ngoba efuna uphile impilo enempilo. Nakuba kungase kube nzima ukukubona lokhu ngenkathi usephakathi kwenqubo, yazi ukuthi uzungezwe abantu abakhona ukukusiza, hhayi ukukulimaza.

Uma unemibuzo mayelana nenqubo noma lokho ongakulindela, sicela ungangabazi ukubuza (abanakekeli bakho), (izisebenzi zezenhlalakahle), noma yiliphi ilungu lethimba lakho lezokwelapha.

Izinto Ezibalulekile Okufanele Uzithathe (Umyalezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya)

(Ukuzibophezela Okungenasidingo) kuyisihloko esiyinkimbinkimbi nesibucayi, kodwa kubalulekile ukuba nolwazi.

• Lokhu akusijeziso: Ukwelashwa okungenanhloso akuhlosiwe njengohlobo lwesijeziso noma ukuboshwa. Kusetshenziswa njengendlela yokugcina yokuvikela wena nalabo abakuzungezile.
• Inqubo yezomthetho: Lena inqubo ehlelekile ehilela ochwepheshe bezokwelapha kanye nohlelo lwezomthetho ukuqinisekisa amalungelo akho nokuphepha.
• Vuma imizwa yakho, kodwa funa usizo: Kuvamile ukuzizwa uthukuthele, udabuke, noma wesaba phakathi nalesi simo. Ungabhekani nale mizwa wedwa. Odokotela, abahlengikazi, nabeluleki balapha ukuzokusekela.
• Ukusekelwa ngemva kokwelashwa kubalulekile: Ngisho nangemva kokuphuma esibhedlela, qhubeka nokubeka impilo yakho yengqondo phambili, usebenzise (ukwelulekwa), futhi uthembele emndenini wakho nakubangani bakho ukuze bakusekele.
• Awuwedwa: Uma wena noma othile omaziyo ebhekene nalokhu, khumbula ukuthi awuwedwa. Kunezinsiza ezitholakalayo zokukusiza.

Sithemba ukuthi lolu lwazi luzokusiza ukuthi uthole ukucaca ngale ndaba eyinkimbinkimbi. Nakuba sithemba ukuthi akekho ozobhekana nesimo esinjalo, uma singenzeka, sikufisela amandla okusinqoba nokuphulukisa, esilethwe kuwe yiNirogi Lanka.

INirogi Lanka: Impilo Yengqondo, Ukwelashwa Okungenasidingo, Isibhedlela Sezifo Zengqondo, Ukuvimbela Ukuzibulala, Ukugula Kwengqondo, Inqubo Yezomthetho, Ukuzibophezela Okungenasidingo, Iyunithi Yezifo Zengqondo, Umyalelo Wenkantolo