Wake wezwa ngabantu abasondelana nabathumbi babo? Lokhu kubizwa ngokuthi iStockholm Syndrome!

Wake wezwa ngesimo lapho othile ethunjwa futhi eboshwe khona bese uzwelana nomuntu okuthumbile, mhlawumbe ngisho nomuzwa wobungane, nomuntu okuthumbile? Kuyamangaza, akunjalo? Kodwa empeleni kungaba yisimo sengqondo esiyinkimbinkimbi. Namuhla sizokhuluma ngesimo sengqondo esingavamile, kodwa esibaluleke kakhulu. Yilokhu odokotela abakubiza ngokuthi iStockholm Syndrome.

Iyini i-Stockholm Syndrome?

Kalula nje, i-Stockholm Syndrome inqubo lapho umuntu, lapho ebanjwe noma ehlukunyezwa kakhulu, eba nokusondelana okunamandla ngokomzwelo kanye nozwela ngomhlukumezi noma umthumbi. Cabanga ukuthi kumangalisa futhi kuyinkimbinkimbi kangakanani ukwakha isibopho nozwela ngomuntu okuhlukumezayo noma okuhlukumezayo.

Nakuba lesi simo saqala ukutholakala ezimweni zokuthumba, odokotela manje bathi singabonakala nakwezinye izehlakalo ezibuhlungu kakhulu . Okusho ukuthi, kwakheka isibopho esingajwayelekile nesinzima ukuqondana phakathi komhlukumezi nomuntu ohlukunyeziwe.

Ochwepheshe abaningi bezempilo yengqondo babona lokhu njengendlela yokubhekana nesimo umuntu obhekene nalesi simo esibuhlungu ayisebenzisayo ukuze asinde ezinsukwini, amasonto, futhi ngezinye izikhathi iminyaka yokulimala nokuhlukunyezwa . Kuyindlela engavamile yokuthi ingqondo izivumelanise nesimo esiyingozi futhi izivikele.

Kunezinye izimo zengqondo eziningana ezifana nalezi, futhi ezihlobene nazo, odokotela abazitholile:

• Ukubophana ngokwezimo eziphuthumayo: Lokhu kuyisibopho esiyingozi esikhula phakathi komhlukumezi kanye nesisulu ngenxa yokulimala okukhulu.
• Ukufunda ukungabi namandla: Lokhu kusho ukungabi namandla ngokukholelwa ukuthi awukwazi ukuphunyuka kulesi simo nokuthi alukho usizo olutholakalayo.
• Isifo somuntu oshaywayo: Isimo sengqondo esibangelwa ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba noma ngokwengqondo isikhathi eside futhi esibunjwa yilokho kuhlukunyezwa.

Lokhu kwalithola kanjani igama elithi 'Stockholm'?

Yathola igama layo ngenxa yesigameko esikhethekile kakhulu esadonsa amehlo omhlaba wonke. Kwenzeka ngo-1973, edolobheni elibizwa ngokuthi iStockholm, eSweden . Iqembu labantu lafika lizophanga ibhange futhi labamba izisebenzi eziningana zasebhange izinsuku eziyisithupha. Lokhu kwenzeka ngesikhathi amaphoyisa ebazungezile. Into emangalisayo ukuthi ngemva kokuba laba bathunjwa sebekhululwe ngandlela thile, abanye babo babengafuni ngisho nokufakaza enkantolo ngokumelene nabaphangi basebhange . Akukhona lokho kuphela, kodwa ngokumangazayo, baqoqa nemali yokusiza ngezinqubo zomthetho zokusindisa abaphangi!

Ngakho-ke, isazi sezobugebengu kanye nodokotela wezifo zengqondo owayecwaninge ngokujulile ngalesi sigameko baba ngabokuqala ukusebenzisa igama elithi 'Stockholm Syndrome' ukuchaza lobu bungane obungavamile kanye nozwela abasebenzi basebhange abalubonisa kubaphangi. Okungukuthi, lesi sifo esabonakala edolobheni laseStockholm. Leli gama belilokhu lisetshenziswa ezimweni ezinjengalesi kusukela ngaleso sikhathi.

Ziyini izimpawu zeStockholm Syndrome?

Uma umuntu ene-Stockholm Syndrome, angase abonise lezi zimpawu. Kodwa khumbula, akuwona wonke umuntu ozoba nazo zonke lezi zimpawu, futhi zingahluka kuye ngomuntu nomuntu.

• Ukuzizwa kahle ngalabo abakubambile noma labo abakuhlukumezayo. Okusho ukuthi, umuzwa wozwela ngabo, mhlawumbe isifiso, umuzwa wokufuna ukubavikela.
• Ukuvumelana nezinkolelo zabo kanye nokuziphatha kwabo, ukuzwelana nabo. Njengoba nje lokho abakwenzayo, ngokombono wabo, kubonakala kulungile, ukuzama ukubaqonda.
• Ukuba nemizwa emibi ngamaphoyisa, ezinye iziphathimandla, noma labo abazama ukukusindisa. Lokho kusho ukuphikisa nokungathembi labo abeza ukuzokusindisa.

Ngaphezu kwalokhu, izimpawu ezifana neze -Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) , isimo sengqondo esenzeka ngemva kwesigameko esibuhlungu, nazo zingabonakala. Zihlanganisa:

• Ukubuyela emuva: Lokhu kusho ukuthi izenzakalo ezenzekile zibonakala ziphinde zibuye phambi kwamehlo akho, futhi imisindo, amaphunga, nemizwa kubonakala sengathi ikhona ngaleso sikhathi.
• Ukuzizwa ungakhululekile, uthukuthele njalo, ukhathazekile, futhi ucasukile. Ukucasuka nokuthukuthela ngezinto ezincane.
• Ukungakwazi ukujabulela izinto ezazikulethela injabulo, ukungakwazi ukuphumula.
• Ubunzima bokugxilisa ingqondo. Ukulahlekelwa yinkumbulo nakho kungenzeka.
• Ukungalali, amaphupho amabi.

Kungani abanye abantu benalesi simo?

Eqinisweni, abacwaningi abakaqiniseki ngokuphelele ukuthi kungani abanye abathunjwa noma abahlukumezi beba ne-Stockholm Syndrome, kanti abanye abaye babhekana nesimo esibuhlungu ababi naso. Kodwa kunemibono embalwa engase ichaze ukuthi kungani.

Enye inkolelo-mbono ukuthi lena yindlela efundiwe edluliselwa ezizukulwaneni ngezizukulwane kokhokho bethu . Cabanga, esikhathini esidlule, kwakukhona izimpi phakathi kwezizwe, futhi kwakuhlale kunengozi yokubanjwa nokubulawa elinye iqembu lomphakathi. Ngaleso sikhathi, lapho wakha uhlobo oluthile lobuhlobo noma ubungane nalabo abakuthumbile, amathuba akho okusinda ayanda.Abanye odokotela bengqondo abakholelwa ekuziphendukeleni kwemvelo bakholelwa ukuthi leli qhinga lasendulo lingase libe isici semvelo somuntu esiye sasiza abantu ukuba basinde.

Omunye umbono uwukuthi uma othile eboshiwe noma ehlukunyezwa, kuba yisimo esithinta imizwa . Okusho ukuthi, ingcindezi inkulu kakhulu engqondweni ukuba ingakuthwala. Ngemuva kwalokho, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uma uthola umusa omncane noma uzwela kumhlukumezi (isibonelo, ukumnika ukudla, ukumnika amanzi, ukukhuluma naye kancane), ungashintsha imizwa yakho ekuphenduleni futhi uhlakulele uzwela kumhlukumezi. Futhi, ungase uzizwe sengathi ungaqinisekisa ukuphepha kwakho ngokubambisana nomhlukumezi, kunokuba ulwe naye. Uma ungalinyazwa ngumhlukumezi, uyalingeka ukuba umbonge lowo muntu, futhi mhlawumbe uze umbheke njengomhlukumezi “njengomuntu omubi kangako.” Lena inqubo yengqondo engazi lutho nhlobo.

Odokotela bakubona kanjani lokhu njengesifo?

Nansi into ekhethekile okufanele uyazi. I-American Psychiatric Association ayizange ifake ngokusemthethweni i-Stockholm Syndrome njengesimo esihlukile encwadini yayo yakamuva yokuxilonga - i-Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), umhlahlandlela ohamba phambili emhlabeni wonke, owamukelwa emhlabeni wonke wokuhlonza izifo nezimo zengqondo.

Ngakho-ke, abanye abahlinzeki bezempilo, njengodokotela nodokotela bezifo zengqondo, bangase baqaphele noma bangaqapheli lesi simo ngalelo gama. Kodwa-ke, bonke bajwayelene nezindlela zokuziphatha ezenzeka ngemva kwesigameko esibuhlungu kakhulu, okungukuthi, izimpawu eziboniswa yisisulu. Izindlela ezisetshenziswa ukuxilonga isifo sokucindezeleka ngemva kokucindezeleka (PTSD) kanye nesifo sokucindezeleka okukhulu , kanye nezinye zezindlela zokwelapha, zifana kakhulu neStockholm Syndrome. Ngakho-ke okwenziwa udokotela ukuhlela ukwelashwa ngokusekelwe ezimpawini kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho.

Yiziphi izindlela zokwelapha i-Stockholm Syndrome?

I-Stockholm Syndrome ayichazwa ngokusemthethweni njengesifo sengqondo, ngakho-ke akukho ukwelashwa okujwayelekile kwayo. Kodwa-ke, njengoba kushiwo ngaphambili, i-Stockholm Syndrome iphathwa ngendlela efanayo ne-post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) . Lokhu kwenziwa kakhulu ngokwelashwa kwengqondo kanye/noma imithi uma kudingeka.

Uma wena noma othile oseduze nawe enalesi simo, nansi ezinye izindlela ezinempilo zokubhekana nesimo esibuhlungu oye waba naso.Ungafunda.

Ukwelashwa kungakusiza ngalezi zinto:

• Qonda okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho, okwenzekile kuwe, nokuthi kungani uzizwe ngendlela ozizwa ngayo.
• Qonda ukuthi imizwa yokuzwelana nabathumbi bakho noma abahlukumezi kwakuyikhono lokusinda owawunalo ngaleso sikhathi ukuze usinde futhi ubhekane nesimo. Yamukela ukuthi akulona iphutha lakho.
• Funda ukuthi ungaqhubeka kanjani empilweni yakho uqine futhi uqale kabusha ngemva kwalesi senzakalo esinzima.

Uma unezimpawu, njengokungalali kahle, ukukhathazeka, noma ukucindezeleka, udokotela wakho angase akunike imithi yokukusiza ulale kangcono futhi unciphise ukukhathazeka noma ukucindezeleka kwakho. Lezi zingasebenza kahle uma zisetshenziswa kanye nokwelashwa kwengqondo.

Singakwazi yini ukuphuma kulesi simo? Ikusasa lizosiphathelani?

Into yokuqala okufanele uyisho ukuthi akuwona wonke umuntu ohlukunyezwayo, ohlukumezekile, noma obanjwe eyisithunjwa othola iStockholm Syndrome . Empeleni lokhu kuyindlela engavamile kakhulu yokusabela kwengqondo. Okusho ukuthi, kuyinto engavamile kakhulu.

Kodwa-ke, noma ngabe lokhu kwenzeka, ukwelashwa kwengqondo kanye, uma kudingeka, imithi kungakusiza wena noma othandekayo wakho ukuba nilulame kulesi simo futhi niqhubekele phambili nempilo evamile nejabulisayo. Ngakho-ke ungalilahli ithemba. Inqubo yokululama ingathatha isikhathi, kodwa ngokusekelwa okufanele, ingenziwa.

Ingabe i-Stockholm Syndrome yenzeka kuphela ezimweni zokuthunjwa?

Nakuba igama elithi Stockholm Syndrome laqanjwa ngegama ledolobha laseStockholm, lapho kwenzeka khona ukuphangwa kwebhange nokuthunjwa kwabantu, ukuziphatha okufanayo nemizwa kungabonakala nakubantu abaye babhekana nezinye izehlakalo ezibuhlungu kakhulu. Lokhu kusho ukuthi akugcini nje ngokubathunjwa. Nazi izibonelo ezimbalwa:

• Ukuhlukumeza ngokocansi, ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo: Ikakhulukazi ezimweni ezifana nodlame lwasekhaya lwesikhathi eside.
• Ukuhlukunyezwa kwengane: Ingane ingase yakhe ubuhlobo nomuntu omdala oyihlukumezayo ngoba ingane ayinayo enye indlela noma isivikelo.
• Ukuxhashazwa kwabaqeqeshi nabadlali: Cabanga nje, abanye abadlali bayavuma ukujima ngokweqile, okunzima, ngisho nokuhlukumeza okuvela kumqeqeshi wabo ngoba bakholelwa ukuthi umqeqeshi uyazi ukuthi yini engcono kakhulu kubo futhi angabenza banqobe.
• Ukushushumbiswa kwabantu ngokocansi: Nalapha futhi, kube nemibiko yezisulu ezakha uhlobo oluthile lobuhlobo nabashushumbisi bazo.
• Ukuzinikela okungaboni kwamalungu amanye amahlelo enkolo kubaholi bawo kungaqhathaniswa nalokhu ngezinga elithile.

Kuzo zonke lezi zimo, i-Stockholm Syndrome iyindlela yokubhekana nesimo . Esikhundleni sokuzizwa wesaba, ukwesaba, noma inzondo ngomhlukumezi wakho, ungaqala ukuzizwa unobuntu nozwela ngaye.

Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuthi uma wena noma othile oseduze nawe eke waba ne-Stockholm Syndrome, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi imizwa emihle onayo ngomhlukumezi wakho akuyona iphutha lakho. Kuyindlela yokuqonda ukuthi uzizwa kanjani, ukuthi ubhekana kanjani nokwenzekile kuwe, nokuthi ubhekana kanjani nakho. Udokotela wakho noma umeluleki angakusiza wena noma othandekayo wakho ukuba alulame kulesi simo.

Okokugcina, izinto ezibaluleke kakhulu okufanele uzikhumbule (Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya)

Kulungile, manje sesiyiqonda kahle i-Stockholm Syndrome. Nakuba kuyisihloko esiyinkimbinkimbi, kubalulekile ukuqaphela. Nazi ezinye izinto ezibalulekile okufanele uzikhumbule:

• I-Stockholm Syndrome iyindlela engavamile, kodwa engenzeka, yokusabela kwengqondo lapho kubuhlungu noma kuhlukunyezwa kakhulu lapho isisulu sithola khona uzwela noma ukunamathela kumhlukumezi waso.
• Lokhu akulona iphutha lesisulu , kuyindlela yokubhekana nesimo esetshenziswa yingqondo ukuze isinde, isu lokusinda elingazi lutho .
• Lesi simo asigcini nje ekuthathweni kwabantu abathunjiwe, kodwa singabonakala nasezigamekweni ezahlukene zokuhlukumeza kanye nezehlakalo ezibuhlungu .
• Nakuba ingachazwanga ngokusemthethweni njengesifo, ikhombisa izimpawu ezifana nesifo sokucindezeleka ngemva kwenhlekelele (PTSD) , futhi ukwelashwa kuyafana.
• Ngokwelashwa kwengqondo kanye, uma kudingeka, nemithi, kungenzeka ngempela ukululama kulesi simo futhi ubuyele empilweni evamile.
• Uma wena noma othile omaziyo ehlushwa yilesi simo, noma eke wabhekana naso, kubaluleke kakhulu ukufuna iseluleko sezokwelapha esifanele kanye nokusekelwa uchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo ofanelekayo .

Ungalokothi uzizwe unesizungu, unamahloni, noma unecala ngesipiliyoni esinjengalesi. Ungesabi ukucela usizo. Impilo yakho yengqondo iyigugu. Unelungelo lokuyivikela.

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