So wusuro sɛ wo ba no nso bɛdan akɔ nnubɔnenom so? Momma yɛnka saa ahunahuna a ɛyɛ hu (Nnubɔne) yi ho asɛm!

Sɛ yesusuw yɛn mma ho nnansa yi a, ehu kɛse a ɛba yɛn adwenem ne nnubɔne ho ɔyaredɔm yi. Ɛnyɛ saa? Ɛyɛ hu ankasa sɛ ɛtɔ mmere bi mpo a wubesusuw ho. Enti yɛbɛyɛ dɛn agye yɛn mma afi eyi mu? Ɔkwan a eye na etu mpɔn sen biara a yɛbɛfa so ayɛ saa ne sɛ yɛne yɛn mma bɛbɔ ho nkɔmmɔ pefee na yɛadi nokware fi wɔn mmofraase. Ma yɛnhwɛ sɛnea yɛbɛyɛ saa pɛpɛɛpɛ.

Dɛn nti na ɛsɛ sɛ yɛne yɛn mma bɔ nnubɔne ho nkɔmmɔ?

Sɛ yɛbɛka no tiawa a, sɛ yɛkyerɛkyerɛ yɛn mma nokware a ɛfa nnubɔne yi ne asiane a ɛwɔ mu ho ansa na wɔahyia tebea biara a asiane wom a, ɛbɛboa kɛse ma wɔagye wɔn afi asiane kɛse bi mu. Afei wɔrensɔ nnubɔne nhwɛ kɛkɛ , na saa ara nso na wɔrentie wɔn nnamfo na wɔmfa nsɛm a ɛnteɛ nhyɛ wɔn tirim. Susuw ho hwɛ, wo na woyɛ nhwɛso kɛse ma wo ba. Wo ne ne "ɔbran". Enti ɔkwan a wofa so susuw nsa, sigaret, ne nnubɔne ho, sɛnea wohwɛ no, ka sɛnea wo ba no susuw ho, ne sɛnea ɔyɛ n’ade wɔ ho no tẽẽ. Enti, sɛ wotaa ka nneɛma te sɛ akwahosan, ahobammɔ, ne suban pa ho asɛm kyerɛ wo ba a, ɛho hia paa sɛ woma nnuru yi ho nkɔmmɔbɔ yɛ ne fã a ɛho hia.

Ɔkwan bɛn so na wo ne abofra kumaa kasa fa nnubɔne ho?

Sɛ mpo wo ba no da so ara yɛ abofra, te sɛ mfe 5 anaa 6 a, hokwan pii wɔ hɔ a wode bɛka eyi ho asɛm. Yɛfrɛ wɔn "mmere a wotumi kyerɛkyerɛ." Fa no sɛ, bere a mobom rehwɛ TV sɛ abusua no, sɛ muhu obi a ɔwɔ mfoninitwa anaa sini bi mu sɛ ɔrenom sigaret a, ɛno yɛ bere pa a mobɛka sigaretnom ho asɛm. Ka biribi a ɛnyɛ den te sɛ, "Ɔba, hwɛ saa onua barima a ɔrenom sigaret no. Wunim sɛnea enye ma wo nipadua? Ɛma wofefe na ɛma wo moma yɛ wo yaw." Afei, wubetumi de saa asɛm no akɔ nnuru afoforo so, na woakyerɛkyerɛ sɛnea epira wo ne sɛnea ɛyɛ awuduru ma wo nipadua no mu.

Nea ɛho hia sen biara ne sɛ, sɛ worekasa a, ɛsɛ sɛ wokasa brɛoo, ayamye kɛse, ne ɔdɔ mu . Fa nsɛmfua a ɛnyɛ den a abofra no te ase di dwuma. Ka nsɛm te sɛ, "Eyinom nyɛ papa mma nipadua no, ɔbabarima/ɔbabea. Sɛ yɛfa eyinom a, yɛn nipadua yare, yɛyɛ mmerɛw, na yentumi nni agoru." Kyerɛkyerɛ mu sɛ nnubɔne yɛ ade a ɛyɛ hu paa, na ɛnyɛ nipadua no nko na ebetumi de ɔhaw pii aba, na mmom yɛn adwene nso. Efi ne mmofraase pɛɛ no, sɛ obi bɔ mmɔden sɛ ɔbɛma no biribi a ɛyɛ hu anaa onnim a wonim a, kyerɛkyerɛ no sɛ ɔmpow denam ka a wobɛka sɛ, ‘Mempɛ!’ no so. na wɔnantew kɔ. Ɛno ho hia paa. Susuw ho hwɛ, sɛ ɛyɛ agode, sɛ ɔhɔho bi de ma wo a, ɛte sɛ nea wobɛka sɛ, "Oh, mempɛ, me maame/agya kae sɛ dabi."

Nneɛma a ɛsɛ sɛ ɛtra w’adwenem bere a wo ne abofra a wadi mfe 8-12 rekasa no

Bere a mmofra nyin, a wɔadi fi mfe 8 kosi 12 no, ebia wɔate nnubɔne ho asɛm bi. Wɔ sukuu mu, efi nnamfo hɔ, adesua mu, anaa TV so, anaa Intanɛt so. Enti, sɛ wofi nkɔmmɔbɔ no ase a, bisa sɛ, ‘Ɔba/ɔbabea, dɛn na woate nnubɔne ho asɛm, nnubɔne ho asɛm, wii ho asɛm? Dɛn na wo nnamfo ka?’ Nanso sɛ wubisa a , mmisa wɔ atemmu anaa adwenem naayɛ kwan so .. Mfa nsɛm te sɛ ‘Dɛn nti na wubisaa saa?’ mmɔ no hu anaa nhunahuna no. anaasɛ ‘Hena na ɔka kyerɛɛ wo saa?’. Bisa no brɛoo, pefee, ne te sɛ nea ɔyɛ n’adamfo paa. Ɛno na obetumi aka nokware akyerɛ wo na waka nea ɛwɔ n’adwene mu.

Ma wo ba no nhu sɛ woretie nea ɔreka no yiye. Ɛsɛ sɛ ohu sɛ wudwen ne nsɛmmisa, ne suro, ne nea ɔpɛ sɛ ohu nneɛma pii no ho. Ebia ebehia sɛ woyɛ nhwehwɛmu ne akenkan bi na ama woabua ne nsɛmmisa na wode nsɛm a ɛyɛ nokware ama. Ɛno nyɛ hwee, ɛho hia. Mmofra a wɔadi mfe 8-12 (mfe 8-12) taa pɛ sɛ wɔne wɔn awofo bɔ nsɛmti a ɛho hia ho nkɔmmɔ pefee, na wohia. Enti, eyi ho asɛm a wobɛka mprempren no bɛboa ma ɔpon no abue ama no sɛ ɔbɛka nea ɛwɔ n’adwene mu akyerɛ wo bere a wanyin kakra, kyerɛ sɛ, ɔyɛ aberante a wanyin no .

Fa no sɛ, sɛ atesɛm krataa anaa atesɛm krataa bi ka sɛ wɔakyere agumadifo a wɔagye din sɛ wɔde nneɛma a wɔabara te sɛ `(Steroids) redi dwuma a, ɛnde wubetumi de ɛno adi dwuma sɛ hokwan pa a wode befi nkɔmmɔbɔ ase. Ɛdenam ɛno so betumi ama wo ba no ahu asiane a ɛwɔ nnubɔne mu ne nea efi mu ba bɔne a ebetumi de aba no. Wubetumi aka nsɛm te sɛ, ‘Hwɛ, ɔbabarima/ɔbabea, nea ɛba bere a wofa saa nneɛma yi. Ɛsɛ sɛ woyɛ adwumaden na wosua, na ɛnyɛ sɛ wobɛfa akwan tiawa te sɛ eyi so, ɛnte saa? Ɛnyɛ papa mma wo nipadua, na ɛbɛsɛe wo daakye.’

Sɛnea wo ne wo ba a onnii mfe aduonu bɛkasa afa nnubɔne ho

Bere a wo ba no bɛyɛ ɔbabun, kyerɛ sɛ, bere a wadi mfe 13 akyi no, hokwan pii wɔ hɔ sɛ ne nnamfonom de nsa ne nnubɔne bedi dwuma. Afei nso, eyi ne bere a ne nnamfo fi ase ka kar. N’ani gye ho sɛ ɔbɛkɔ apontow ase na wakɔ akwantu ahorow. Enti, saa bere yi de, ɛnyɛ sɛ ɛsɛ sɛ wo ne wo ba kasa na ama woate ne nsusuwii ne ne nkate ase nko, na mmom ɛsɛ sɛ woka asiane ahorow a ɛwɔ karka a wanom nsa anaa nnubɔne mu no ho asɛm pefee nso .

"Ɔbabarima/ɔbabea, eyi yɛ asiane sen sɛnea wususuw. Susuw ho hwɛ, sɛ wo anaa obi foforo ka kar bere a wabow nsa a, hokwan bɛn na ɛwɔ hɔ sɛ wobɛhwere nkwa, apira kɛse, anaasɛ wobɛhwere ne honam akwaa? Ɛnyɛ ɛno nko, na mmom mmara mu ɔhaw akɛse nso wɔ hɔ - afiase a wobɛkɔ, asotwe kɛse a wobɛbɔ, na wuntumi nnya adwuma ." Kyerɛkyerɛ eyinom mu pefee, nanso ɛnyɛ abufuw mu, na mmom ɔdɔ mu.

Ebia wubetumi ne wo ba no akyerɛw anaa wode ano ayɛ apam wɔ mmara a ɛsɛ sɛ wudi akyi bere a worefi adi anaasɛ wode kar redi dwuma no ho. Sɛ nhwɛso no, hyɛ bɔ sɛ, "Sɛ onipa a na ɛyɛ w'asɛyɛde sɛ ɔbɛfa wo (sɛ nhwɛso no, w'adamfo bi) nom nsa anaa ɔnom nnubɔne anadwo fã, 12:00 anaa 2:00 anaa nea ɛte biara a, mɛba abɛfa wo a minni nsɛmmisa biara a, frɛ me kɛkɛ." Eyi bɛma wo ba no anya wo mu ahotoso kɛse na wanya ahobammɔ.

Wɔ saa mfe yi mu no, ɛda adi sɛ wobebisa wo nsɛm pɔtee bi a ɛfa nnubɔne ho.. Te sɛ ‘Sɛ wonom wii a, dɛn na ɛba?’, ‘Dɛn ne nsukyenee?’. Saa bere no, a wonkwati no, kyerɛkyerɛ nea wunim ne nea woahu mu pefee. Sɛ wokyerɛkyerɛ wo akwanhwɛ ne wo gyinabea mu wɔ saa kwan yi so fi mfiase a, abofra no nso te nka sɛ ɔwɔ ahobammɔ sɛ ɔbɛba wo nkyɛn abɛka biribiara ho asɛm, na sɛ ɔhaw bi wɔ hɔ a, ɔbɛka akyerɛ wo.

Dɛn bio na metumi ayɛ de abɔ me mma ho ban afi nnubɔne ho?

Hwɛ, nnubɔne ho haw yi betumi aka abusua biara, obiara a ɔwɔ ɔmanfo gyinabea biara. Mma nnsusuw sɛ, ‘Ɛrento yɛn abusua no, ɛrensi me ba no so.’ Ɛno yɛ asiane. Nanso, sɛ wo ne wo mma kasa daa, sɛ wode wo ho hyɛ wɔn asetra mu, sɛ wote sɛ wɔn adamfo a, wubetumi aboa ma wɔabɔ wɔn ho ban afi asiane yi ho. Afotu foforo bi a ɛbɛma woanya saa ni:

H3: Boa abofra no anigyede

Hyɛ wo ba nkuran ma ɔmfa ne ho nhyɛ nneɛma a ɔde gye n’ani, agumadi, anaa akuw a n’ani gye ho mu. Saa dwumadi ahorow yi ma wonya fekubɔ, akannifo ntetee, na ɛma wonya obu ma wɔn ho . Sɛ abofra te nka sɛ ne ho ye na ɔte nka sɛ ɔsom bo a, ɛnyɛ den sɛ ɔde ne ho bɛhyɛ nneyɛe a epira te sɛ nnubɔne mu.

H3: Hwɛ wo ba no nnamfo ne mmeae a ɔne no bɔ

Ɛho hia paa sɛ wubehu nnipa ko a wo ba no nnamfo yɛ, sɛnea wɔte, baabi a wɔne wɔn bɔ kɛse, ne nea wɔbom yɛ. Efisɛ mmofra a wɔwɔ nnamfo a wɔnom nnubɔne no ankasa taa sɔ nnubɔne hwɛ . Eyi nkyerɛ sɛ ɛsɛ sɛ wususuw adamfo biara ho. Nanso eye sɛ yɛbɛma yɛn ani ada hɔ. Sɛ ɛbɛyɛ yiye a, fa wo ba no nnamfo bra fie, ne wɔn nkasa, na hu wɔn awofo.

H3: Kyerɛkyerɛ wɔn sɛ wɔnka sɛ ‘dabi’ na boa wɔn ma wɔnkɔ fie dwoodwoo

Sɛ obi bɔ mmɔden sɛ ɔbɛma wo nnubɔne, sigaret, anaa nsa a, kyerɛkyerɛ wo ba no pefee sɛnea ɔbɛpow. Fa yɛ wo ho sɛ wobɛka sɛ, "Dabi, mempɛ, merennye, m'awofo mpɛ." Afei nso, sɛ ɔkɔ ɔhaw mu da bi, ɔkɔda baabi a ontumi ntena, anaa ɛsɛ sɛ ofi hɔ a, ka kyerɛ no sɛ ɔmfrɛ wo anaa ɔnkyerɛw wo wɔ text so. Ma no ahotoso sɛ, "Mɛba abɛfa wo, meremmisa nsɛm biara, nsuro."

Kae: Sɛ wo ba frɛ wo sɛ ɔmmoa wo a, mma ɔkasa, nteɛteɛm, anaa nka n’anim. Nea edi kan no, fa no kɔ fie dwoodwoo. Sɛ ne bo dwo wie a, kasa brɛoo ne ɔdɔ mu.

H3: Yɛ abusua tebea a ɛyɛ hyew na ɛbue

Dodow a ofie no mu yɛ hyew, abue, na ɔdɔ wom no, dodow no ara na eye. Ɛno kyerɛ sɛ ɛsɛ sɛ wo fie yɛ beae a mmofra betumi de wɔn ho aka wɔn nkate, wɔn haw ahorow, wɔn nkonimdi, ne wɔn nkogudi ho asɛm wɔ ahofadi mu. Kyerɛ wɔn nkonimdi nketenkete no ho anisɔ, na nya obu a wɔwɔ ma wɔn ho no.. Afei mmofra bɛba anim abɛka wɔn haw ne adesoa a ɛda wɔn adwene so akyerɛ wo. Wɔ tebea a wɔkasa tia, bɔ asodi, na wɔkasa tia biribiara mu no, mmofra bɔ mmɔden sɛ wɔbɛhintaw na wɔadi atoro.

H3: Ma wo ba a wo ne no bɛkasa no nyɛ wo da biara da dwumadi fã.

Ma wo ba a wo ne no bɛkasa no nyɛ wo da no fã daa. Bisa nsɛm nketenkete te sɛ, "Sukuu teɛ dɛn?", "Dɛn na na ɛyɛ soronko nnɛ?", "Dɛn na wo ne wo nnamfo yɛe?" Hwehwɛ bere mfa nyɛ nneɛma a mo ani gye ho sɛ abusua (didi, agodie, nhoma akenkan). Eyi hyɛ abusuabɔ a ɛda obiara ntam no mu den na ɛboa ma nkitahodi a ɛda adi pefee kɔ so. Ɛtɔ da bi a mmofra pɛ sɛ wɔkasa wɔ ɔkwan a wɔn ho adwo wɔn so bere a wɔreyɛ biribi foforo, te sɛ bere a wɔreka kar, bere a wɔbom nantew, anaa wɔreyɛ afie mu nnwuma. Fa saa mmere no di dwuma.

H3: Yɛ aso ma wo ba no mmere a emu yɛ den.

Sɛ wuhu sɛ wo ba no refa bere a emu yɛ den mu anaasɛ wuhu sɛ nsakrae bi aba ne suban mu a, yɛ aso tie. Ebia sɔhwɛ bi, ɔhaw bi a wɔne wɔn adamfo bi wɔ, ɔdɔ mu abusuabɔ, anaa biribi foforo bi nti na wɔahaw anaa wɔadi awerɛhow. Ma wɔn mmoa a wohia saa bere no, ma wɔnte nka sɛ ɛnyɛ wɔn nkutoo, na sɛ ɛho hia a, nya mmoa foforo (e.g., sukuu fotufo, ɔpanyin a wogye no di, oduruyɛfo). Sɛ abofra bi te nka sɛ ankonam na ɔte nka sɛ obiara nte wɔn ase a, ɛdan kɔ biribi bɔne te sɛ nnubɔne so.

H3: Hwehwɛ aduruyɛfoɔ afotuo sɛ ɛho hia a.

Sɛ wo anaa wo ba hia nnuru yi ho nsɛm anaa akwankyerɛ pii, na wunni obiara a wo ne no bɛkasa a, wo ne w’abusua oduruyɛfo nkasa . Wobetumi akyerɛ wo kwan pa, ama wo afotu, na ebia mpo wɔde wo akyerɛ ɔfotufo pa. Eyi nyɛ biribi a ɛsɛ sɛ yɛhyɛ no aniwu anaasɛ ɛsɛ sɛ yesuro. Nea ehia paa ne sɛ yebesusuw yɛn mma daakye ho.

Nea etwa to no, nneɛma a ɛho hia sen biara a ɛsɛ sɛ wokae (Take-Home Message) .

Okay, enti ɛfiri deɛ yɛaka ho asɛm no mu no, ɛsɛ sɛ ɛda adi pefee ma mo sɛdeɛ ɛhia sɛ yɛn sɛ awofoɔ de asɛdeɛ, nteaseɛ, ne ɔdɔ yɛ adwuma de gye yɛn mma firi saa ahunahuna a ɛyɛ hu a wɔfrɛ no nnubɔne yi mu.

• Nkitahodi a ɛda adi pefee yɛ ade titiriw . Ma wo ne wo ba nya ahotoso denam biribiara a wobɛka akyerɛ no ne aso a wubetie no a wunni atɛn no so.
• Yɛ nhwɛsofo a oye sen biara . Ɔkwan a wofa so susuw nnubɔne, nsa, ne sigaret ho, ne sɛ́ wode bedi dwuma anaasɛ womfa nni dwuma no nya wo ba no so nkɛntɛnso kɛse.
• Kasa wɔ ɔkwan a ɛfata abofra no mfe so . Ɛnyɛ ɔkwan a wobɛfa so akasa akyerɛ abofra ketewa, na mmom wobɛkasa akyerɛ abofra kumaa. Ne tiawa, wɔ ɔkwan a wobetumi ate ase so.
• Tie nea wo ba no reka no yiye . Tew wɔn nsɛmmisa ne wɔn suro so, na ma wonhu sɛ obi retie wɔn.
• Kyerɛkyerɛ wo ba ma ɔnka sɛ ‘dabi’.Na ma wɔn nkrasɛm sɛ wowɔ hɔ sɛ wobɛboa sɛ wɔkɔ ɔhaw mu a, saa ahotoso no.
• Yɛ abusua tebea a emu yɛ hyew, ɔdɔ wom, na wɔboa . Afei wo mma bɛkyɛ biribiara akyerɛ wo, na hokwan a ɛwɔ hɔ sɛ wɔbɛyera no sua.
• Mfɛre sɛ wobɛhwehwɛ mmoa afi animdefo hɔ sɛ ɛho hia a . Nnuruyɛfo ne afotufo wɔ hɔ sɛ wɔbɛboa yɛn.

Eyi nyɛ biribi a wobetumi ayɛ no da koro. Eyi yɛ adeyɛ a ɛkɔ so bere tenten. Nanso, ɛdenam wo mmɔdenbɔ, ɔdɔ, ne ahofama so no, akyinnye biara nni ho sɛ wubetumi agye wo ba afi nnubɔne ho asiane yi mu. Mma ɛnhaw wo, ɛnyɛ wo nko, momma yɛn nyinaa bom nyɛ adwuma mma eyi! Ɛmmra sɛ wo ba no ho bɛtɔ no!

` Nnubɔne, mmofra, awofo, nkitahodi, nnubɔne a wɔde di dwuma ɔkwammɔne so, ahobammɔ, afotu