Ðe viwòa hã senɛ le eɖokui me be yetsi akogoa? Alesi nàwɔ axɔ kpekpeɖeŋu le kuxi sia me to hadomekadodowo dzi enye si!

Eva bɔ be mía viwo natsi akogo le ŋkeke siawo me. Anɔ eme be viwòŋutsu alo viwònyɔnu hã sena le eɖokui me nenema ɣeaɖewoɣi, alo? Egbea, míaƒo nu tsitotsito tso nusi akogotsitsi nye ŋutɔŋutɔ, nusita mía viwo senɛ le wo ɖokui me, kple nusiwo nye hadomekadodowo , si ate ŋu anye esia gbɔ kpɔnu nyuitɔ kekeake, kple alesi wole vevie le ɖeviwo ƒe agbenɔnɔ me ŋu.

Nuka tututue akogotsitsi fia?

Akogotsitsi nye nusi mí katã míesena le mía ɖokui me ɣeaɖeɣi. Kpuie ko la, ne míedi be míanɔ ame bubuwo gbɔ, be míate ɖe wo ŋu, be woaxɔ woƒe lɔlɔ̃ kple dɔmenyonyo la, míesena le mía ɖokui me be míetsi akogo, míele adzɔge tso ame bubuwo gbɔ, eye míeɖe mía ɖokui ɖe aga . Bu eŋu kpɔ, aleke viwòa ase le eɖokui me ne ɖevi bubuawo mewɔ ɖeka kplii le fefea me le suku o? Emae nye blanuiléle kple gbɔdzɔgbɔdzɔ si ƒomevi dona tso akogotsitsi ƒe seselelãme sia me.

Nɔnɔme siwo me ɖevi siwo le zɔzɔm kple ɖevi suewo ate ŋu ase le wo ɖokui me be yetsi akogo le:

Susu geɖewo li siwo ta mía viwo ate ŋu ase le wo ɖokui me be yetsi akogo ɖo. Kpɔɖeŋu ʋɛ aɖewoe nye esi:

• Ne èse le ɖokuiwò me be yetsi akogo eye xɔlɔ̃ aɖeke mele ye si o, alo ne ame bubuwo se le wo ɖokui me be wole yewo gblẽm ɖi: Bu alesi wòawɔ nublanui ne viwò ɖeka koe wogblẽ ɖi esime klass la me tɔ mamlɛawo le fefem ɖekae ŋu kpɔ. Ðewohĩ àsusu be, ‘Ame aɖeke metsɔ ɖeke le eme nam o, xɔlɔ̃ aɖeke mele asinye o.’
• Ne èse le ɖokuiwò me be, ‘Nyemele afisia o, nyemesɔ ɖe eme o’: Ɣeaɖewoɣi la, ɖeviwo sena le wo ɖokui me be yewomele yewoƒe klass, yewo xɔlɔ̃wo ƒe ƒuƒoƒo, alo yewoƒe ƒometɔwo gɔ̃ hã me o. Le ɣeyiɣi mawo tɔgbe me la, wosena le wo ɖokui me be yetsi akogo ŋutɔ.
• Ne ɖevi aɖe susu be yewo ɖeka koe kuxi aɖe le, susuwo abe, "Nye koe kuxi sia dzɔna ɖe edzi, ame bubu aɖeke mato esia me gbeɖe o, ame aɖeke mase egɔme nam o," ɖevia gaɖea eɖokui ɖe aga wu.
• Vevesese le wo ɖokui me le dzrewɔwɔ kple dzila, xɔlɔ̃, alo nɔvi aɖe megbe: Dziku sue aɖe gɔ̃ hã ate ŋu ana ɖeviwo natsi akogo eye yewole adzɔge ʋĩi.
• Eɖanye ame vevi aɖe ƒe ku alo kaklã o: Ne ƒomea me tɔ aɖe ku, dzilawo klã, alo xɔlɔ̃ vevi aɖe ʋu yi suku bubu me la, ɖeviwo ate ŋu ase akogotsitsi vevie.

Ðe ɖeviwo sena le wo ɖokui me be yewotsi akogo wu le ŋkeke siawo mea?

Azɔ kpɔ ɖa, le ŋkeke siawo me la, menye ɖevi suewo koe o, ƒe ɖesiaɖe me tɔwo gblɔna be yewosena le yewo ɖokui me be yewotsi akogo wu. Nukatae wòle nenema? Susu vevi ɖekae nye dijitaal xexe sia si le zɔzɔm kabakaba . Ne wowɔ nusianu le telefon, kɔmpiuta, kple tablɛt dzi, dzeɖoɖo ŋkume kple ŋkume, alɔgbɔnukoko ŋkume kple ŋkume, kple bubuawo la, xɔlɔ̃wɔwɔ, kadodo, kpleMedzɔna tututu o. Ne míagblɔe tututu la, be xɔlɔ̃wɔwɔ nyui kple ƒomedodo kple ƒometɔwo nali ke la, ele vevie ŋutɔ be míado go ŋkume kple ŋkume ahaɖo dze, be míazã ɣeyiɣi ɖekae. Ne ema bu la, ɖevi kple sɔhɛ aɖewo sena le wo ɖokui me be yetsi akogo. Ne xɔlɔ̃ alafa geɖe le wo si le telefon dzi hã la, ne ame aɖeke mele wo si woaƒo nu tso nusi le susu me na wo le agbe ŋutɔŋutɔ me ŋu o la, ema hã nye akogotsitsi.

Ðevi ɖeka ƒe anyinɔnɔ alea ɣeyiɣi didi menyo na ɖevi ƒe susu ƒe lãmesẽ kpakple woƒe ŋutilã ƒe lãmesẽ o . Menye woƒe susu ɖeɖeko dzie wòate ŋu akpɔ ŋusẽ ɖo o, ke ate ŋu akpɔ ŋusẽ ɖe woƒe ŋutilã bliboa dzi.

Gake nya nyui aɖe li! Mɔ aɖewo li siwo dzi míato aɖe akogotsitsi sia dzi akpɔtɔ. Mɔ nyuitɔ si dzi nàto awɔ emae nye be nàdzi hadomekadodowo ɖe edzi.

Eyata nukae nye hadomekadodo sia?

Kpuie ko la, esia fia be woase le wo ɖokui me be yele ame bubuwo dome, yewole kplikplikpli, eye yewole kadodo me kplii, eye woase le wo ɖokui me be ‘Mele ƒuƒoƒo sia me’ kple ‘ame siawo xɔm’ . Esia nye amegbetɔ ƒe nuhiahiã vevi aɖe, abe nuɖuɖu, nunono, kple alɔ̃dɔdɔ ene. Abe alesi dɔwuame dzɔna ne míekpɔ nuɖuɖu o ene la, akogotsitsi ƒe seselelãme ƒuƒlu si megblɔ va yi la dzɔna ne hadomekadodo sia mesu mía si o.

Eyata nukae dzɔna ne hadomekadodo nyuiwo le ɖevi aɖe si abe esia ene?

• Akogotsitsi ƒe seselelãme dzi ɖena kpɔtɔna ŋutɔ. Womesena le wo ɖokui me be yewotsi akogo ɣesiaɣi o.
• Ne wose le wo ɖokui me zi ɖeka be yetsi akogo hã la, anɔ bɔbɔe na wo be woanɔ te ɖe enu. Woate ŋu aka ɖe edzi na wo ɖokui be, ‘Oo, esia anyo le ɣeyiɣi aɖe megbe, ame aɖe le asinye maƒo nu kplii.’
• Ne wose le wo ɖokui me be yetsi akogo gɔ̃ hã la, wote ŋu hayana kaba eye wogakpɔa dzidzɔ ake. Esia fia be womezãa ɣeyiɣi boo aɖeke tsɔ léa blanuiléle me ɖe asi o.

Aleke hadomekadodo ɖea akogotsitsi dzi kpɔtɔnae?

Hadome kadodo sia nyo ŋutɔ na ɖeviwo ƒe susu ƒe lãmesẽ kpakple woƒe ŋutilã ƒe lãmesẽ. Ne hadomekadodo nyuiwo le ɖevi dome la, le esi teƒe be wòase le eɖokui me be yetsi akogo la, esenɛ le eɖokui me be:

• Wosena le wo ɖokui me be yewo kple ame siwo le yewoƒe agbe me dome kplikplikpli ŋutɔ. Ema fia be wosena le wo ɖokui me be yewo kple amewo abe yewo dada, yewo fofo, yewo nɔviwo, yewo xɔlɔ̃wo, kple nufialawo ene dome le kplikplikpli ŋutɔ, eye xɔlɔ̃wɔwɔ le yewo dome.
• Ame bubuwo sena le wo ɖokui me be wolɔ̃ yewo, wotsɔa ɖe le eme na yewo, woɖoa to yewo, eye wosea nu gɔme na yewo. Bu alesi wòafa akɔ na ɖevi be wòagblɔ kuxi aɖe na wo dada ŋu kpɔ, eye vidadaa aɖo to agblɔ be, "Viŋutsu/vinyɔnuvi, mègavɔ̃ o, meva afisia." Seselelãme ma ƒomevie.
• Wosena le wo ɖokui me be woxɔ yewo nɔnɔme aɖeke manɔmee, yewole yewoƒe ƒuƒoƒoa me, eye wodea asixɔxɔ yewo ŋu abe alesi tututu yewole ene. Le esi teƒe be woatsi dzi ɖe nuwo abe ‘Menye ameyibɔ, nye ŋutigbalẽ le ƒuƒlu, nye lãme da ami’ ene ŋu la, kakaɖedzi sena le wo ɖokui me be ‘Menyo abe alesi mele ene, ame bubuwo le abe nye ene, eye asixɔxɔ le ŋunye.’
• Wosena le wo ɖokui me be yewole nane me.Ema fia be, èsena le ɖokuiwò me abe, ‘Nye ƒomeae nye esia, xɔ̃nyewo ƒe ƒuƒoƒoe nye esia, nye suku kriket-ha ye nye esia, nye kɔƒea me nutoe nye esia.’ Enyo ŋutɔ be nàse le ɖokuiwò me be menye ye ɖeka koe o, be teƒe aɖe le ye si si ƒe akpa aɖe nèle.
• Wosena le wo ɖokui me be ame siwo dzi yewoate ŋu aka ɖo la le yewo si, be yewoƒe dzi dzea eme eye yewokpɔa dzidzɔ ne yewole yewo gbɔ. Dzixɔse si nye be ‘kuxi ka kee ɖale ŋunye o, ame aɖe li mate ŋu agblɔ na wo, eye womagblẽm ɖi o’ nye ŋusẽ gã aɖe na susua.
• Wosena le wo ɖokui me be menye yewo ɖeɖe koe o, ke boŋ nane si lolo wu yewo ŋutɔ ƒe akpa aɖee. Ðewohĩ enye kadodo si le wo kple dzɔdzɔme dome. Alo, wosea seselelãme sia hã ne wole gome kpɔm le dɔ nyui aɖe, si nye hadomekpekpeɖeŋunadɔ aɖe, si wolɔ̃na me. Wosena le wo ɖokui me be, ‘Mele nu vevi aɖe wɔm na xexe sia.’

Dzilawo ate ŋu akpe asi ɖe ɖeviwo ƒe akogotsitsi dzi ɖeɖe kpɔtɔ ŋu!

Fifia ɖewohĩ èle eŋu bum be, ‘Ekema aleke mawɔ akpe ɖe vinyea ŋu wòaɖu akogotsitsi sia dzi? Aleke mawɔ akpe ɖe eŋu wòawɔ hadomekadodo siawo?’ Nu geɖe li dzilawo ate ŋu awɔ na esia.

Kpe asi ɖe hadomenunya tutuɖo ŋu

Nu vevitɔ kekeakee nye be woafia hadomenuwɔna siwo hiã be woatsɔ atu hadomekadodo siawo ɖo la ɖeviwo.

• Fia ame bubuwo be woanyo dɔme ahakpe ɖe ame ŋu: Àte ŋu adze egɔme kple nu suesuesuewo abe, ‘Vinye, ne xɔ̃wò ma ŋlɔ be be yeatsɔ pɛnsil vɛ egbea la, tsɔ wò pɛnsil si kpe ɖe eŋu la nɛ’, ‘Ne nyruiwò si le aƒeme hiã kpekpeɖeŋu vi aɖe la, taflatse wɔe.’ Nu siawo ana ɖevia nase le eɖokui me be ame bubuwo lɔ̃ ɖe edzi.
• Fia wo alesi woawɔ adze xɔlɔ̃ nyui, si le lãmesẽ me: Mehiã be nàdze xɔlɔ̃ ame sia ame o, gake ele vevie be nàdi xɔlɔ̃ siwo sɔ kpli wò, siwo nyo na wò, eye wosea nu gɔme na wò. Ele be nàfia wo hã be woaɖe wo ɖokui ɖa tso xɔlɔ̃ gbegblẽ siwo doa dziku na ame la gbɔ.
• Fia viwòa be wòaɖo to nya siwo ame bubuwo le gbɔgblɔm nyuie (Active Listening), eye wòagblɔ woƒe susuwo bubutɔe eye eme nakɔ. Esiawo le vevie ŋutɔ na ƒomedodo nyuiwo. Na viwòa nase alesi wòle vevie be nàlé ŋku ɖe ame aɖe ŋu ne ele nu ƒom ahaɖo toe la gɔme.
• Srɔ̃ alesi nàwɔ dɔ abe ƒuƒoƒo ene eye nàde bubu ame bubuwo ƒe nukpɔsusuwo ŋu. Woate ŋu atu aɖaŋu siawo ɖo ne wokpɔ gome le sukua ƒe kamedefefewɔha, ŋkutsalawo ƒe ƒuƒoƒo, alo ƒuƒoƒo ƒe dɔwɔna bubu aɖe me.

Tu ƒomedodo ɖo kple viwòa gbesiagbe.

Azɔ hã, di ɣeyiɣi nàɖo dze kple viwòa gbesiagbe eye nàzã ɣeyiɣi ɖe wo ŋu. Aleke kee vovo mele ŋuwò o, ɖo miniti 15-20 ɖi gbesiagbe na viwòa ɖeɖeko.

Ele be ɖevia nase le eɖokui me be kakaɖedzi le eŋu be "Dada/Papa ​​dia ɣeyiɣi nam, ɖoa to nya si megblɔna, eye wònɔa anyi nam eɖanye kuxi ka kee le ŋunye o."

Esiae nye woƒe ŋusẽ gãtɔ kekeake. Ne èzã ɣeyiɣi aɖe ɖe viwòa ŋu heƒo nu tso nusi dzɔ gbemagbe ŋu la, anɔ bɔbɔe be woagblɔ woƒe dzidzɔkpɔkpɔwo, nuxaxawo, kple kuxiwo na wò. Esia akpe ɖe ŋuwò nàse nusi le edzi yim le viwòa ŋu, nenye be etsi akogo, kple kpekpeɖeŋu si ƒomevi wòhiã la gɔme. Nu suesuesuewo abe fefe ɖekae, agbalẽ xexlẽ, alo kpekpeɖeŋu nana le nuɖaɖa me ene gɔ̃ hã ate ŋu ado ŋusẽ kadodo sia.

Viwò ƒe hadomekadodowo dodo ɖe ŋgɔ le mɔ sia nu akpe ɖe eŋu menye egbea ɖeɖeko o, ke akpe ɖe eŋu le eƒe etsɔme bliboa hã me, ne ele tsitsim gɔ̃ hã. Ðevi si si ƒomekadodo sẽŋu le la ate ŋu akpɔ dzidzedze le hadome.

Eyata nu vevi kawo dzie wòle be míaɖo ŋkui le nusiwo ŋu míeƒo nu tsoe me? (Gbedasi si Wotsɔ Yi Aƒeme)

• Akogotsitsi nye nusi ame sia ame ate ŋu ase le eɖokui me. Mègakpe ŋu nɛ o, mègavɔ̃e o, eye mègabui be ɖevia ƒe vodadae o.
• Susu geɖewo ate ŋu anɔ anyi siwo tae ɖeviwo sena le wo ɖokui me be yetsi akogo. Nya esia eye nàlé to ɖe tɔtrɔ siwo ava viwòa ƒe nuwɔna me ŋu.
• Hadome kadodoe nye akogotsitsi gbɔ kpɔnu nyuitɔ kekeake. Ele vevie ŋutɔ na ɖeviwo ƒe susu kple ŋutilã ƒe lãmesẽ.
• Dzilawo ate ŋu akpe asi ɖe akogotsitsi sia dzi ɖeɖe kpɔtɔ ŋu to wo viwo ƒe hadomenuwɔnawo tutuɖo kple ƒomedodo sẽŋu tutuɖo kpli wo me. Wòe nye viwòa ƒe nufiala gbãtɔ kple nyuitɔ kekeake.
• Zã ɣeyiɣi aɖe nàtsɔ aɖo dze kple viwòa gbesiagbe, nàɖo to wo. Na woanya be yele yewo gbɔ. Gblɔ na wo be, "Nu ka kee ɖadzɔ o, mele mia gbɔ."

Ne èkpɔe be viwòa le sesem le eɖokui me be yetsi akogo la, ƒo nu tso eŋu na wo le lɔlɔ̃ kple dɔmenyonyo me. Ɣeaɖewoɣi la, nya siwo woatsɔ aɖee manɔ wo si o, gake woaʋu woƒe dzi me ne wokpɔ wò ɖetsɔleme. Ne ehiã la, mègahe ɖe megbe le atikewɔlawo ƒe aɖaŋuɖoɖo , suku ƒe aɖaŋuɖola, alo aɖaŋuɖola bibi didi me o . Ðevia ƒe dzidzɔkpɔkpɔ kple susu ƒe nyonyo le vevie wu nu bubu ɖesiaɖe!

` Akogotsitsi, Hadome Kadodo, Ðeviwo, Susu ƒe Lãmesẽ, Dzilawo, Akogotsitsi, Dzilanyenye, Ðeviwo ƒe Susuŋutinunya