How to win life with positive thinking?

Imagine you're trying to quit smoking, or you're trying to lose weight and start exercising . You really want to do it. But then you make one small mistake and you're like, "Oh, I can't do this..."? At that point, the way you talk to yourself can change your entire journey. It can either motivate you or completely discourage you.

You, the power of the way you talk to yourself.

Let's talk a little about a study that was done on this. A group of water polo players were given a new skill to practice. One group was told to say positive things to themselves while doing it. That means things like, "I can do this," and "I'm good." The other group practiced normally without saying anything.

The results were amazing. The players who fed their brains positive thoughts improved significantly more than the others. They also had fewer unwanted thoughts in their minds. This allowed them to focus fully on what they were learning.

So when you find yourself having bad, negative thoughts , how do you redirect your mind to a positive, positive direction? Let's look at some ways to help you do that.

Do you talk to yourself like a friend?

Imagine your best friend, let's say his name is 'Kasun', is very upset that something went wrong. Do you scold him? Do you hurt him even more by saying, "You can't even do that right"? No, right? What you do is reassure him by saying, "It's okay, man, that's how it is. Let's try again," right?

But when we talk to ourselves, we often do the opposite. When something small goes wrong, we blame ourselves. We think things like, "I could never do this," "I'm so lazy." If the voice inside your head is like someone you'd never want to be around, it's time to change that voice.

The next time you find yourself blaming yourself, think: "If my best friend were with me right now, what kind of things would I say to him?" In the same way, speak to yourself gently and kindly, just as you would to someone you love .

Write down your successes! That's a great strength.

When we're feeling down, it's easy to forget all the good things we've worked so hard to achieve. Imagine trying to lose weight. If you gain a little weight one day, you might think, "Oh, everything I've worked so hard for so long has been wasted."

But if you write down your success , that is, the progress you've made, somewhere, you have tangible proof of your efforts.

It's good to keep track of your weight, but it may not be enough, especially if you have a lot of weight to lose.

So, get into the habit of writing down a few more things. For example:

• How long did you exercise per day?
• Didn't you have breakfast ?
• Did you go to the gym?
• The number of times you chose to eat a fruit instead of a biscuit.

When you write down those little things, when a bad thought comes to your mind and you're trying to sabotage yourself, you can take that book and look at it. Then you'll see, "How many good things have I done?" You can be happy about all of them.

'Mistakes' are just 'feedback' for learning!

You've probably heard the saying, "No failure, only feedback ." What it means is that when something doesn't go your way, instead of dwelling on it, look at it objectively and without emotion.

Let's look at an example: You've gained about one kilo in weight.

• Failure Response: "Oh my god, this week is a disaster. I'll never get skinny."
• Positive Feedback Response: "Hmm... I've gained a little weight. It's probably because the soy sauce I had for dinner last night was too salty. I'll have to avoid that next week."

Do you understand the difference? The first one discourages you. The second one makes you learn from your mistake.

To better understand this concept, let's look at two mindsets introduced by psychologist Carol S. Dweck.

The second mindset is always the one that creates hope. When you remove the idea of ​​'mistakes' from your goal, all you're left with is success and learning .

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