Ke kali nei ʻoe i nā māhoe? A i ʻole ke noʻonoʻo nei ʻoe i ia mea? He hoʻomaikaʻi pālua nā māhoe e hiki koke mai ana i kou home. Akā, ke kamaʻilio maoli nei anei mākou e pili ana i nā pilikia a me nā pilikia e hele mai me kēlā hauʻoli? I kēia lā, e kamaʻilio mākou e pili ana i ka moʻolelo o kahi makuahine i kapa ʻia ʻo Maureen nāna i kū i kēlā ʻano ʻike. Ma o kāna moʻolelo, e hoʻāʻo mākou e hoʻomaopopo i ke ʻano maoli o ke ola me nā māhoe .
Ka moʻolelo a Maureen: Nā māhoe ma hope o ka IVF
Ua loaʻa iā Maureen Downey lāua ʻo kāna kāne ʻo Bo Emerson ʻelua keiki. Ua noʻonoʻo lāua i ke kolu o ke keiki, akā ua loaʻa iā Maureen kekahi mau hāʻule keiki. No laila ua hoʻoholo lāua e huli i kahi lāʻau lapaʻau hānau hou, ʻo IVF (In-Vitro Fertilization), e loaʻa ai kahi keiki.
He 42 makahiki ʻo Maureen i ia manawa. Ua hoʻokomo nā kauka i ʻelua mau embryo i loko o kona ʻōpū. ʻAʻole lākou makemake maoli i nā māhoe, akā ua manaʻo lākou he mea maikaʻi inā makemake lākou. "No kekahi mea i loaʻa ʻole nā keiki ma mua, he mea maopopo ia e makemake lākou i nā māhoe no ka mea ʻo ia paha ko lākou manawa kūpono wale nō," wahi a Maureen. "Akā makemake mākou i ke kolu o ke keiki. No laila, ʻaʻole wau i manaʻo ua makemake au i nā māhoe. Akā ke manaʻolana nei au e maikaʻi nā embryo ʻelua."
He ʻokoʻa anei ka hāpai ʻana i nā māhoe ma mua o ka mea i manaʻo ʻia?
Ua ʻōlelo ʻo Maureen ua holo mālie kāna hāpai ʻana , me ka ʻole o nā pilikia nui. ʻO ia hoʻi, ʻaʻole pono ʻo ia e noho ma kahi moe. Eia naʻe, pono ʻo ia e haʻalele i kāna hana ma mua o kāna mau hāpai ʻelua ma mua. Pono nō hoʻi ʻo ia e kū i nā mea hou he nui āna i ʻike ʻole ai ma mua.
"Ua loaʻa iaʻu ka ʻeha puʻuwai aʻu i ʻike ʻole ai ma mua. I ka manawa mua i hana ʻia ai, ua manaʻo wau he hāʻule puʻuwai koʻu. He ʻino loa ia. Ua nui koʻu mau ʻehaʻeha liʻiliʻi a me nā ʻehaʻeha ma koʻu kino holoʻokoʻa. ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻo ka mahina a me ka hapa hope o ka hāpai ʻana he mea luhi loa ia. ʻAʻole wau i manaʻo e like me kēia i ka wā i hānau ai au i kaʻu mau keiki mua ʻelua."
ʻO ka maʻamau, ke loaʻa iā ʻoe nā māhoe, hoʻonui ka ʻōpū, e kau ana i ke kaomi hou aku ma luna o nā ʻōpū o ka ʻōpū. Hiki i kēia ke hōʻeha i ka umauma, ka paʻakikī o ka hanu ʻana, a me nā ʻeha kino. Inā ʻike ʻoe i kēia mau hōʻailona, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ke kamaʻilio ʻana me kāu kauka e pili ana i ia mea.
He aha ka mea i hana ʻia ma hope o ka hānau ʻana o nā pēpē?
I ka piha ʻana o nā pule he 39, kokoke i ka wā hānau piha, ua hoʻolālā ʻia kahi ʻoki cesarean no Maureen.Ua hānau ʻia ʻo Rebecca lāua ʻo Joey ma o ka ʻoki ʻoki C. ʻOiai ua maikaʻi nā mea a pau, ua ʻoi aku ka nui o nā pilikia i kū iā Maureen ma mua o ka mea i manaʻo ʻia ma hope o ka hānau ʻana.
ʻAʻole i ʻūlū pono kona ʻōpū, no laila ua hoʻomaka ʻo ia e kahe nui ke koko. Ua kapa ʻia kēia maʻi ʻo Postpartum Hemorrhage .
"Ua ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī o nā mea ma hope o ka hānau ʻana o nā pēpē ma mua o kaʻu i manaʻo ai. Manaʻo wau ua nalowale iaʻu ma kahi o ka hapakolu o ke koko i loko o koʻu kino. Ua hoʻi au i ka home me ka nāwaliwali loa ʻaʻole hiki ke hele, a he anemia nui hoʻi."
He pilikia olakino kēia ʻano kahe koko nui. Ma Sri Lanka, i kēlā mau hihia, ua hoʻokomo koke ʻia ka mea maʻi i ka Emergency Treatment Unit (ETU) a hāʻawi ʻia i ka lāʻau lapaʻau e pono ai.
Ua ʻōlelo ʻo Maureen ua hala hoʻokahi makahiki piha e hoʻi hou ai i kona ikaika a me ke olakino, ka mea e hāʻawi iā ʻoe i kahi manaʻo o kona nāwaliwali.
ʻO ka makahiki mua: he manawa paʻakikī ma mua o ka mea i manaʻo ʻia
Ua ʻōlelo ʻo Maureen ʻaʻole ʻo ia he mea hou i ka hānai ʻana i nā keiki. Ma muli o kona hānai ʻana i ʻelua mau keiki ma mua, ua mākaukau nā mea a pau ma mua o ka lawe ʻana mai i nā māhoe i ka home. Ua hoʻonohonoho pono ʻia ka lumi o ka pēpē, nā lole, a me nā mea pono ʻē aʻe.
"I ka pō mua a mākou i hoʻi mai ai mai ka haukapila mai, ua manaʻo mākou ua loaʻa iā mākou nā mea a pau a mākou e pono ai. Ua hoʻonohonoho pono ʻia nā lole maʻemaʻe i loko o nā drawers. Akā i kēlā pō mua, ua pulu loa nā pēpē a ua luaʻi pinepine a pono mākou e haehae i nā lepili mai nā lole hou i loko o nā pahu a hoʻokomo iā lākou. ʻAʻole mākou i mākaukau no kēlā."
He mea kupanaha nui ia no Maureen. Ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia, "Pono wau e hoʻokiʻekiʻe nui i koʻu pae no ka paʻakikī o kēia hana."
" Ua like kēlā makahiki mua me ka moeʻuhane i koʻu hoʻomanaʻo ʻana. Ma kekahi ʻaoʻao, ʻaʻohe mea nāna e kōkua iaʻu. Ma kekahi ʻaoʻao, he mea hoʻohoka nui ia i koʻu kino, ka mea i nalowale ke koko he nui a ua nāwaliwali. Eia kekahi, he mea luhi loa ia i kēlā manawa, me ka hānai waiū ʻana iā māua ʻelua."
| Ka manawa kūpono e ʻike ai | Ka ʻike o Maureen (me nā māhoe) |
|---|---|
| Ka wā hāpai | ʻO nā ʻeha umauma a me nā ʻeha kino i ʻike ʻole ʻia. ʻOi aku ka luhi ma mua o ka hāpai ʻana hoʻokahi. |
| Ma hope o ka hānau ʻana | Ka nalowale ʻana o hoʻokahi hapakolu o ke koko o ke kino ma muli o ke kahe nui ʻana o ke koko (hemorrhage) a me ka anemia koʻikoʻi. |
| ʻO ka manawa i hoʻolōʻihi ʻia e ho'ōla ai ke kino | Hoʻokahi makahiki piha ka lōʻihi e hoʻihoʻi i ka ikaika. |
| Ka ʻike makahiki mua | He pālua ka nui o ka hana ma mua o kou manaʻo. He manawa luhi loa ia me ka hiamoe ʻole, ʻaʻohe mea e kōkua, a ʻaʻohe mea e huli ai. |
Ua like anei ke ola me nā māhoe me kahi 'circus'?
Ua ʻōlelo ʻo Maureen makemake ʻo ia i kahi wahi walaʻau a hoʻomaha ʻole.
"Inā manaʻo ʻoe ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka lawelawe ʻana i kou ʻohana e hoʻokahi wale nō keiki , hiki i nā māhoe ke lilo i mea hoʻololi nui nou. Ua like lākou me kā lākou 'circus huakaʻi' liʻiliʻi ponoʻī."
"He walaʻau nui lākou. He paʻakikī nā mea a pau. ʻOiai i ka wā ʻōpiopio o nā pēpē, he mea paʻakikī loa ke hele i ka hale kūʻai, e kau i ʻelua i loko o nā noho kaʻa, e hoʻopaʻa iā mākou ʻelua i loko o ke kaʻa. Ua maʻa iki māua me kaʻu kāne i ka walaʻau. Akā i ka wā e hele mai ai kahi hoaaloha nona hoʻokahi keiki i koʻu hale, ua ʻike au iā lākou e lele ana. Manaʻo wau no ka mea he ʻehā kā mākou mau keiki ma ka home. Akā, ʻo ka hapa nui o ka walaʻau mai nā māhoe mai."
Hōʻike mai ka moʻolelo a Maureen iā kākou he hoʻomaikaʻi a he pilikia hoʻi nā māhoe e hoʻāʻo ana i ke ahonui, ka ikaika, a me ke kākoʻo piha ʻana o nā mākua kekahi i kekahi.
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- Inā ʻoe e hāpai ana i nā māhoe, hiki i ka hāpai ʻana ke ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī o ke kino ma mua o ka wā e hāpai ana ʻoe i hoʻokahi pēpē. E hoʻomākaukau iā ʻoe iho no ka noʻonoʻo a me ke kino no kēlā.
- Aia kahi pilikia o nā pilikia e like me ke kahe koko nui ma hope o ka hānau ʻana. No laila, he mea nui e hahai pololei i nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo lapaʻau a hoʻomaopopo i ke kauka e pili ana i nā hōʻailona ʻē.
- Hiki i ka makahiki mua o ka hānai ʻana i nā māhoe ke paʻakikī loa ma mua o kou manaʻo. Inā hiki, he kōkua nui ka loaʻa ʻana o ke kākoʻo mai ka ʻohana a i ʻole kekahi e kōkua iā ʻoe.
- He mea nui loa iā ʻoe a me kāu hoa e kākoʻo, hoʻomanawanui, a hoʻomaopopo kekahi i kekahi i kēia manawa. Ua like kēia me kahi haʻuki hui.
- He ʻokoʻa kēlā me kēia ʻike. ʻOkoʻa ke ʻano o ka ʻike o Maureen. He ʻokoʻa paha kou ʻike. Akā, he mea kūpono ke ʻike mua i kēlā mau pilikia.
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