Yuav qhuab ntuas koj tus menyuam li cas? Cia peb tham txog qhov no!

Ua niam txiv, ib qho ntawm peb lub luag haujlwm loj tshaj plaws yog kev cob qhia peb cov menyuam kom muaj kev qhuab ntuas zoo thiab kev coj cwj pwm zoo. Tab sis qee zaum qhov no tsis yooj yim li peb xav, puas yog? Tshwj xeeb tshaj yog rau ib tug menyuam yaus, kev piav qhia 'tsis txhob ua li no' thiab 'tsis txhob ua li ntawd' tuaj yeem yog ib qho kev sib tw loj. Qee zaum peb xav paub yuav ua li cas kom ib tug menyuam yaus nkag siab txog cov no. Hnub no, cia peb tham txog yuav ua li cas qhuab ntuas koj tus menyuam hauv txoj kev hlub tab sis ruaj khov uas haum rau hnub nyoog, ib yam li tham nrog ib tug phooj ywg.

Vim li cas kev ua tib zoo sib xws thiaj li tseem ceeb hauv kev xyaum qhuab qhia?

Thaum nws los txog rau kev qhuab ntuas, lo lus thawj zaug uas yuav tsum nco ntsoov yog kev ua tib zoo . Hais yooj yim xwb, cov cai thiab cov lus qhia uas koj muab rau koj tus menyuam yuav tsum zoo ib yam. Yog tias koj hais ib yam hnub no thiab lwm yam tag kis, lossis yog tias niam hais ib yam thiab txiv hais lwm yam, koj tus menyuam xav li cas? Lawv yuav tsis meej pem heev. Lawv yuav xav tias, 'Auj, qhov no tsis yog ib qho teeb meem loj,' thiab tsis quav ntsej cov cai.

Xav txog seb, hnub no koj hais tias 'tsis txhob muab cov khoom ua si tso rau hauv chav nyob', tab sis tag kis yog tias txiv tsis hais dab tsi txog nws, lossis koj tsis nco qab nws koj tus kheej, nws nyuaj rau tus me nyuam nkag siab. Cov menyuam yaus zoo heev ntawm kev khaws cov yam no. Yog li ntawd, nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb heev uas koj thiab koj tus txiv/tus poj niam pom zoo rau qee txoj cai sib xws thiab koj ua raws li lawv txhua hnub. Tom qab ntawd tus menyuam nkag siab tias 'qhov no yog txoj hauv kev zoo, qhov no yog qhov kev txiav txim ntawm peb lub tsev'. Qhov kev sib xws no ua rau tus menyuam muaj kev nyab xeeb, vim nws paub tias yuav xav li cas thiab qhov txwv yog dab tsi.

Yuav ua li cas thiaj qhuab ntuas cov menyuam yaus hnub nyoog 0-2 xyoos?

Cov menyuam yaus hnub nyoog no xav paub ntau yam. Thaum lawv pom tej yam tshiab hauv ntiaj teb, lawv xav kov txhua yam thiab muab tso rau hauv lawv lub qhov ncauj. Nov yog lub sijhawm uas lawv tab tom tshawb nrhiav lawv lub ntiaj teb. Yog li ua ntej peb qhia lawv txog kev qhuab ntuas, peb yuav tsum ua kom ib puag ncig muaj kev nyab xeeb rau lawv. Qhov ntawd yog txoj hauv kev zoo tshaj plaws los txo qhov xav tau rau lawv hnov ​​​​lo lus 'tsis yog' txhua lub sijhawm.

Peb puas yuav tsum khaws cov khoom txaus ntshai thiab cov khoom uas hais tias 'tsis txhob kov' kom deb?

Yog koj muaj ib tug menyuam yaus hauv koj lub tsev uas nkag tau lossis taug kev, thawj qhov koj yuav tsum ua yog khaws cov khoom uas yuav ua rau nws muaj kev phom sij, lossis cov khoom uas peb feem ntau hais kom nws tsis txhob kov, kom deb ntawm nws. Qhov no hu ua 'kev tiv thaiv menyuam yaus'.

Xav txog nws, cov TV, cov khoom siv video, cov xov hlau stereo, koj cov hniav nyiaj hniav kub muaj nqis, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog cov tshuaj, cov kua ntxuav (piv txwv li, Harpic, bleach), tag nrho cov no yog cov khoom uas cov menyuam yaus xav kov. Tsis tas li ntawd, cov khoom ntse (txiab, riam), cov khoom ua si uas tuaj yeem tawg ua tej daim me me, thiab cov hnab yas yuav tsum khaws cia kom deb ntawm lawv. Nws tseem yog ib lub tswv yim zoo los muab cov npog tiv thaiv rau ntawm cov qhov hluav taws xob.

"Kev ua kom ib puag ncig muaj kev nyab xeeb zoo dua li kev hais tias 'tsis tau, tsis tau' tas li. Ces tus me nyuam yuav ua si tau ywj siab, thiab koj kuj tuaj yeem muaj kev thaj yeeb nyab xeeb."

Piv txwv li, thaum Nilu tus me nyuam pib khiav, thawj qhov nws ua yog tshem lub khob tshuaj yej iav qis hauv chav nyob thiab muab lub xauv me me rau ntawm lub txee tshuaj hauv chav ua noj. Ua li ntawd, yuav tsis muaj kev ntshai tias tus me nyuam yuav raug mob, puas yog?

Hais tias 'tsis yog', cuam tshuam (Kev cuam tshuam)

Txawm li cas los xij, txawm tias koj ceev faj npaum li cas los xij, qee zaum koj tus menyuam yuav mus rau hauv qee yam txaus ntshai. Hauv qhov xwm txheej zoo li no, qhov zoo tshaj plaws ua yog hais tias, "Tsis yog, tus tub/ntxhais," thiab coj nws tawm ntawm qhov chaw ntawd. Tom qab ntawd, tig nws lub siab mus rau lwm yam uas zoo thiab muaj kev nyab xeeb. Qhov no hu ua kev cuam tshuam .

• Ua li cas koj thiaj li tsis xav txog koj tus kheej?
• Muab ib yam khoom ua si uas nws nyiam rau nws. "Saib koj lub pob zoo nkauj."
• Hu nkauj me me nrog nws, los yog ua si ntaus tes.
• Taw tes rau lub teeb los ntawm lub qhov rais thiab hais ib yam dab tsi zoo li, "Saib, muaj ib tug noog zoo nkauj nyob ntawd."
• Coj lawv mus rau lwm chav thiab siv rau lwm yam. "Peb puas yuav mus nyeem ib phau ntawv?"

Qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws yog hais tias 'tsis yog' nrog lub suab ruaj khov thiab meej, tsis txhob hais lus hnyav. Cov menyuam yaus me me tuaj yeem hnov ​​​​​​qhov sib txawv ntawm lub suab zoo heev. Yog tias koj hais nws maj mam tab sis khov kho, nws yuav ua tau zoo dua.

Txoj kev 'sijhawm so' puas haum rau cov menyuam yaus?

Rau ib tug me nyuam yaus uas tau hla dhau ib xyoos thiab tab tom pib nkag siab me ntsis, feem ntau tom qab 1.5 lossis 2 xyoos, ib txoj kev hu ua 'time-out' tuaj yeem siv los pab tiv thaiv qee yam kev coj cwj pwm tsis zoo (piv txwv li, txhob txwm ntaus, tom, pov khoom). Tab sis qhov no yog ib yam dab tsi uas yuav tsum nkag siab thiab ua kom raug.

• Cov cwj pwm twg thiaj li raug muab sijhawm so?
• Yog koj ntaus lossis tom lwm tus menyuam.
• Yog koj txhob txwm muab cov khoom noj lossis dej haus pov tseg.
• Yog koj pheej ua ib yam dab tsi ces koj hais tias tsis ua.
• Koj muab sijhawm 'so' li cas?

1. Ua ntej, qhia rau nws siv ob peb lo lus yooj yim seb nws ua dab tsi tsis yog thiab vim li cas ho ua tsis yog. Piv txwv li, "Ntxhais/tub ntaus lwm tus tsis yog qhov zoo." Tsis txhob ua phem lossis cem nws.

2. Tom qab ntawd, coj nws mus rau ib qho chaw ntsiag to, tsis dhuav uas koj tau npaj ua ntej (piv txwv li lub rooj zaum hauv chav ua noj, hauv qab ntaiv, ib daim lev me me tso rau ntawm qhov chaw ua si). Qhov no tsis yog qhov chaw rau txim, tab sis yog qhov chaw rau so me ntsis thiab xav txog qhov nws tau ua.

3. Cia nws nyob ntawd ib lossis ob feeb . Nws tsis muaj qab hau rau ib tug me nyuam yaus nyob ntawd ntxiv lawm. Feem ntau, ib feeb rau txhua xyoo ntawm tus me nyuam lub hnub nyoog. (Piv txwv li: 2 feeb rau ib tug me nyuam 2 xyoos). Yog tias koj tso nws nyob ntawd ntev dua li ntawd, nws yuav zoo li kev rau txim thiab tus me nyuam yuav npau taws ntxiv.

4. Thaum lub sijhawm 'sijhawm so' tas lawm, tsis txhob sim ua dua. Tuav nws nrog kev hlub, nug tias, "Koj puas nyob twj ywm tam sim no?", thiab tom qab ntawd ua lwm yam zoo rau nws. Yog tias nws nyob twj ywm lawm, khawm nws me ntsis thiab hais nrog kev hlub, "Thov tsis txhob ua li ntawd dua, puas tau?"

"Nco ntsoov tias, 'kev so kom txaus' tsis yog hais txog kev cem ib tug me nyuam vim nws chim. Nws yog ib txoj hauv kev los pab lawv tswj lawv txoj kev xav, ua kom nws lub siab tus, thiab sim ua kom lawv nkag siab tias qhov lawv ua yog qhov tsis yog."

Txoj kev no tej zaum yuav tsis nkag siab zoo rau cov menyuam yaus hnub nyoog qis dua 1.5 - 2 xyoos. Txoj kev cuam tshuam uas tau tham ua ntej lawm zoo dua rau lawv.

Kev ntaus thiab nplawm tsis zoo kiag li!

Qhov no yog ib yam uas ntau tus niam txiv yuav tsum xav txog, thiab nws tseem ceeb heev. Nws tsis zoo rau kev rau txim rau ib tug menyuam yaus txawm tias muaj hnub nyoog li cas los xij, xws li ntaus, nplawm, lossis zawm pob ntseg. Tshwj xeeb tshaj yog rau cov menyuam yaus hnub nyoog ntawm 0-2, lawv tsis nkag siab txog kev sib txuas ntawm lawv tus cwj pwm thiab kev rau txim rau lub cev. Lawv tsuas hnov ​​​​​​mob thiab ntshai xwb.

• Yuav ua li cas thaum koj ntaus?
• Tus me nyuam ntshai. Tej zaum nws yuav pib ntshai thaum nws pom koj.
• Tus me nyuam yuav ua nruj ua tsiv (lawv kuj feem ntau ntaus thiab mob thaum muaj teeb meem tshwm sim).
• Txoj kev sib hlub ntawm koj thiab koj tus menyuam raug puas tsuaj lawm. Kev ntseeg siab poob qis.
• Tus me nyuam yuav xav tias, 'Nws tsis ua li cas rau raug mob thaum ib tug neeg ua yuam kev' lossis 'Nws tsis ua li cas rau cov neeg laus ntaus cov neeg hluas dua'.
• Txawm hais tias tus cwj pwm tsis zoo ntawd zoo li tau tso tseg lawm los, tus me nyuam tsis tau kawm ib yam dab tsi los ntawm qhov ntawd. Nws tab tom kawm paub ua qhov no yam tsis raug niam/txiv ntes tau.

Feem ntau, cov niam txiv ntaus lawv cov menyuam thaum lawv tswj tsis tau lawv txoj kev npau taws lossis tsis muaj siab ntev. Tiamsis qhov ntawd tsis pab tus menyuam li. Hloov chaw, ua kom koj tus kheej nyob twj ywm me ntsis, ua pa tob tob, thiab siv lwm txoj kev. Yog tias tsim nyog, tawm hauv thaj chaw ntawd ib pliag, thiab nrog tus menyuam tham dua thaum koj lub siab tus.

Peb puas tuaj yeem ua tus qauv zoo? (Kev Ua Qauv Zoo)

Cov menyuam kawm los ntawm yam peb ua, tsis yog yam peb hais. Qhov ntawd yog qhov uas kev ua qauv qhia txog lawv lub luag haujlwm . Niam txiv yog lawv thawj tus qauv thiab zoo tshaj plaws. Lawv zoo li daim txhuam cev, nqus txhua yam peb ua thiab hais.

• Yog koj qw rau koj tus menyuam kom 'muab cov khoom ua si tso tseg' thiab tso koj cov ntawv xov xwm, phau ntawv, thiab khaub ncaws rau txhua qhov chaw, tus menyuam yuav kawm tau dab tsi? 'Auj, lawv tsis ua raws li niam/txiv hais,' puas yog?
• Yog koj qw thaum koj npau taws, kaw qhov rooj, lossis pov khoom, koj tus menyuam yuav kawm ua tib yam li ntawd.
• Yog koj siv cov lus xws li 'thov txim,' 'ua tsaug,' thiab 'thov', thiab hwm lwm tus, koj tus menyuam yuav kawm cov lus thiab tus cwj pwm ntawd tau.

"Yog li ntawd, cov cwj pwm zoo uas peb sim qhia peb cov menyuam, peb yuav tsum xub xyaum peb tus kheej. Yog tias peb khaws peb cov khoom kom huv si, yog tias peb noj kom zoo thaum peb noj mov, yog tias peb siv cov lus zoo thaum peb hais lus, tus menyuam kuj yuav coj tus qauv ntawd (Tus Qauv Zoo). Qhov no yog ib txoj hauv kev muaj zog dua los xyaum kev qhuab ntuas dua li koj xav."

Txaus siab rau tej yam zoo (Kev txhawb zog zoo)

Kev qhuab ntuas tsis yog tsuas yog kev rau txim rau qhov ua yuam kev xwb. Kev qhuas ib tug me nyuam txawm tias yog qhov zoo me me uas lawv ua yog kev txhawb zog zoo .Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb heev rau kev xyaum qhuab ntuas. Qhov no pab tus menyuam nkag siab txog qhov yog thiab qhov peb xav tau ntawm nws.

• Xav txog seb, yog tias koj tus me nyuam ua si tas thiab muab ib qho khoom ua si rov qab rau hauv lub thawv, thiab hais tias, "Auj kuv tus tub/ntxhais, zoo kawg li!" nrog luag ntxhi me ntsis, qhov ntawd yuav txhais tau ntau rau lawv.
• Yog koj thov zaub mov thiab noj, thiab hais tias, "Saib seb, kuv tus menyuam noj mov zoo heev," nws yuav xav ua qhov zoo ntawd dua.
• Yog lawv ua ib yam dab tsi me me uas koj thov, hais tias, "Ua tau zoo heev, tus tub/ntxhais, rau qhov pab niam/txiv."

Los ntawm kev mloog thiab qhuas tus cwj pwm zoo es tsis txhob mloog tus cwj pwm phem, tus me nyuam yuav muaj feem ua tej yam zoo dua.

Rau cov menyuam yaus hnub nyoog li no, koj luag nyav, koj cov lus hlub, txawm tias yog ib qho me me ntawm tes yog ib qho kev txhawb zog zoo heev. Qhov no kuj ua rau lawv muaj kev ntseeg tus kheej.

Kev mob nkeeg thiab kev txom nyem hauv cov tub ntxhais hluas

Thaum muaj hnub nyoog ib xyoos thiab ib nrab mus rau ob xyoos, ntau tus menyuam yaus pib quaj nrov nrov, dov, qw, thiab ntaus lawv lub taub hau rau ntawm phab ntsa txawm tias yog tej yam me me xwb los xij. Qhov no yog qhov peb hu ua 'tantrums' lossis temper tantrums. Cov niam txiv tuaj yeem npau taws thiab chim siab thaum lawv pom cov no.

• Vim li cas cov menyuam yaus thiaj ua li no?
• Thaum lawv muaj hnub nyoog li no, lawv tsis tau hais lawv tej kev xav loj xws li kev npau taws, kev chim siab, kev tu siab hauv cov lus. Yog li ntawd, lawv thiaj li tso tawm li no.
• Kev chim siab los thaum koj xav tau ib yam dab tsi thiab tsis tau txais.
• Tej yam xws li qaug zog, tshaib plab, thiab tsaug zog kuj tuaj yeem ua rau qhov no.
• Qee zaum, lawv yuav kawm tau tias qhov no yog ib txoj hauv kev kom tau yam lawv xav tau (yog tias lawv tau yam lawv xav tau los ntawm kev quaj thiab qw).
• Koj ua dab tsi thaum koj muaj kev chim siab?

1. Nyob twj ywm: Yog tias koj chim siab lossis qw, qhov xwm txheej yuav hnyav zuj zus. Ua pa tob tob.

2. Xyuas kom tus me nyuam muaj kev nyab xeeb: Xyuas kom nws nyob rau hauv qhov chaw uas nws yuav tsis ua rau nws tus kheej raug mob. Yog tias muaj tej yam khoom ntse ntse nyob ze, tshem tawm lawv.

3. Tsis txhob quav ntsej yog tias ua tau: Yog tias tus me nyuam muaj kev nyab xeeb, qee zaum qhov zoo tshaj plaws ua yog tsis txhob ua tib zoo mloog lawv tus cwj pwm ntau dhau thaum ntawd. Yog tias koj sim ua ntau dhau (ntxub, sib cav, tej zaum ua raws li lawv thov), lawv yuav siv nws los kom tau txais kev mloog dua lossis tau txais yam lawv xav tau.

4. Tom qab nws chim: Thaum nws siab tus, tham nrog nws nrog kev hlub. Qhia tias koj nkag siab nws txoj kev xav, xws li "Koj chim heev, puas yog?" Piav yooj yim, "Tab sis koj yuav tsum tau qhia niam/txiv es tsis txhob qw." Khawm nws nrog kev hlub.

"Tsis yog txhua qhov kev chim siab yog tus menyuam txoj kev coj tsis zoo. Nws yog ib feem ntawm kev loj hlob ntawm lub hnub nyoog no. Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb uas peb ua siab ntev, nkag siab, thiab ua siab tawv thaum lub sijhawm ntawd."

Thaum kawg, qee yam tseem ceeb uas yuav tsum nco ntsoov

Yog li ntawd, kev qhuab ntuas koj tus menyuam me yog ib txoj kev taug kev loj heev. Nws tsis yog ib yam dab tsi uas koj ua tau ib hmos. Tej yam tseem ceeb tshaj plaws yog kev hlub, kev ua siab ntev, thiab kev ua tas mus li.

• Ua siab hlub, tab sis ua siab tawv: Piav qhia koj cov cai nrog kev hlub, tab sis ua siab tawv thaum ua raws li lawv. Tsis txhob cia koj tus menyuam muaj kev ua xyem xyav txog koj txoj kev hlub.
• Tsim Nyog Rau Hnub Nyoog: Siv cov txheej txheem tsim nyog rau hnub nyoog, tsis yog txoj kev uas tus menyuam muaj ob xyoos yuav nkag siab.
• Ua siab ntev, ua siab ntev, ua siab ntev: Muaj tej yam yuav siv sijhawm rau ib tug me nyuam kawm. Tej yam me me yuav tshwm sim txhua hnub. Tsis txhob txhawj.
• Ua Ib Tug Qauv Zoo: Koj tus menyuam kawm tau ntau tshaj plaws los ntawm qhov lawv pom los ntawm koj.
• Tsis txhob ntaus lossis hem: lawv ua rau muaj kev phom sij ntau dua li qhov zoo. Hloov chaw, siv cov txheej txheem zoo.
• Txaus Siab Rau Tej Yam Zoo (Kev Txhawb Nqa Zoo): Txaus siab rau tej yam me me zoo. Nws yuav txhawb lawv lub zog.
• Koj tsis yog tib tug xwb: Txhua tus niam txiv ntsib cov teeb meem no. Yog tias tsim nyog, nrhiav kev pab tswv yim los ntawm kws kho mob, kev pab tswv yim los ntawm tus neeg ua haujlwm hauv tsev neeg, lossis kev pab tswv yim los ntawm tus neeg laus uas koj ntseeg siab.

Kev tsa ib tug me nyuam tsis yog ib qho yooj yim, tab sis nws yog ib lub luag haujlwm zoo nkauj thiab muaj nqis. Kuv xav kom koj muaj lub zog los ua kom txoj kev taug kev no ua tiav!

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