Koj tus menyuam puas chim siab? Cia peb tham txog qhov no!

Ua ib leej niam los yog ib leej txiv, tej zaum koj yuav xav tias, 'Vim li cas kuv tus menyuam thiaj coj cwj pwm li no?' Thaum koj tus menyuam me me pib quaj, qw, lossis dov ncig hauv pem teb, nws tuaj yeem ua rau koj chim siab heev, thiab qee zaum txawm npau taws. Nws yog ib qho ib txwm muaj. Tab sis es tsis txhob saib cov 'teeb meem' ​​no ua ib qho kev ntxhov siab lossis ib yam phem, yuav ua li cas yog tias peb pom lawv ua lub sijhawm zoo los qhia peb cov menyuam ib yam dab tsi thiab nkag siab lawv?

Vim li cas cov menyuam yaus thiaj li muaj teeb meem zoo li no? Temper Tantrums yog dab tsi?

Hais yooj yim xwb, cov kev chim siab no, lossis raws li peb hu ua lus Askiv, yog ib txoj hauv kev rau cov menyuam yaus tso tawm kev xav muaj zog, xws li kev tu siab, kev npau taws, kev chim siab, lossis kev ntshai, uas lawv muaj sab hauv. Nws zoo li lub roob hluav taws me me. Nws tsis tuaj yeem raug kaw hauv thiab tam sim ntawd tawg. Cov no feem ntau pom muaj nyob rau hauv cov menyuam yaus hnub nyoog ntawm ib thiab peb xyoos, qee zaum plaub xyoos . Nws tsis muaj teeb meem seb nws yog ntxhais lossis tub, ob leeg tuaj yeem qhia cov cwj pwm zoo sib xws thaum muaj hnub nyoog no.

Muaj ib txhia me nyuam mos dov ntau zaus, txawm tias ob peb zaug hauv ib hnub. Lwm tus ua qhov no tsis tshua muaj, zoo li ib hlis ib zaug. Txawm li cas los xij, peb txhua tus yuav tsum nkag siab ua ntej tias qhov no yog ib theem ib txwm muaj ntawm tus menyuam txoj kev loj hlob . Qhov ntawd txhais tau tias, tsis txhob xav tias koj tus menyuam yog tib tug uas ua qhov no. Qhov no yog ib yam dab tsi uas txhua tus me nyuam hauv ntiaj teb tau ntsib qee yam.

Vim li cas cov menyuam yaus thiaj tawm tsam? Cia peb saib qee qhov laj thawj.

Zoo, tam sim no cia peb saib seb vim li cas cov menyuam yaus no mam li pib ua li no. Tsis yog muaj ib qho laj thawj xwb, tej zaum yuav muaj ntau yam laj thawj.

Qhov no puas yog ib txwm muaj rau lawv txoj kev loj hlob?

Yog, yeej muaj tseeb tiag. Koj yuav tsum tsis txhob xav tsis thoob thaum hnov ​​qhov no. Raws li peb tau hais ua ntej lawm, kev chim siab yog ib feem ntawm kev loj hlob ntawm tus menyuam txoj kev xav . Lawv txhua tus yog ib feem ntawm lawv txoj kev taug kev los nkag siab lub ntiaj teb, txheeb xyuas lawv txoj kev xav, thiab kawm paub tswj hwm lawv. Nws zoo li ib tsob nroj me me uas loj hlob thiab nws cov ceg ntoo tab tom poob sib nrug. Lawv yeej sim hais tias, 'Kuv mob heev tam sim no, kuv tsis tuaj yeem ua qhov no lawm, pab kuv!'

Cov laj thawj me me rau kev hloov pauv

Tam sim no cia peb saib seb muaj lwm yam me me, txhua hnub twg uas yuav ua rau ib tug menyuam yaus pib ua ib qho kev hloov pauv.

• Qaug zog: Thaum lawv nkees los ntawm kev ua si, khiav ncig, thiab kawm tej yam tshiab thoob plaws hnub, txawm tias tej yam me me kuj tuaj yeem ua rau lawv xav tias loj heev. Ib yam li peb chim siab rau tej yam me me thaum hnub nkees heev.
• Kev tshaib plab: Yog tias tsis muab zaub mov raws sijhawm, cov menyuam yaus txoj kev ua siab ntev yuav txo qis txawm tias lawv tshaib plab los xij. Cov lus hais tias "Dab ntxwg nyoog seev cev thaum nws tshaib plab" tsis muaj tseeb.
• Ib qho kev tsis yooj yim:Yog tias cov khaub ncaws koj hnav nruj, lossis daim ntaub pam ntub, lossis koj tawm hws thiab chim siab, txawm tias qhov tsis yooj yim me me li ntawd los kuj tuaj yeem yog qhov pib ntawm kev hloov pauv loj. Xav txog nws, nws zoo ib yam li peb, puas yog? Vim tias cov menyuam mos tsis paub yuav ua li cas qhia nws nrog cov lus, lawv qhia peb los ntawm kev quaj.
• Tsis tau yam lawv xav tau: Qee zaum cov menyuam yaus xav tau ib yam khoom ua si, ib yam khoom qab zib uas lawv pom hauv khw, lossis ib daim duab tas luav los saib. Yog tias lawv tsis tau tam sim ntawd, lawv pib chim siab. Lawv qw thiab quaj tias, 'Kuv xav tau qhov ntawd! Kuv xav tau tam sim no!'
• Tau kev mloog zoo: Qee zaum, thaum niam thiab txiv tham xov tooj lossis ua haujlwm nrog lwm yam, thiab xav tau kev mloog zoo sai sai, cov menyuam yaus tuaj yeem pib ua txuj ua li ntawd. Thaum lawv tsis paub yuav hais li cas, "Niam, saib kuv!", lawv sim tau kev mloog zoo los ntawm kev quaj.
• Tsis muaj peev xwm ua kom lwm tus ua qhov lawv xav tau: Xav txog, koj tus muam tuav lub ntsiav tshuaj hauv nws txhais tes, thiab koj tus kwv tij xav tau tam sim no. Koj tus muam yuav tsis muab rau koj. Txawm tias thaum ntawd los, koj tus kwv tij yuav npau taws thiab chim siab heev. Los yog, yog tias koj niam hais tias 'tsis yog' rau qee yam, thiab koj ua tsis tau kom nws hais tias 'yog', qhov no tuaj yeem tshwm sim.

Kev kawm kom kov yeej qhov kev chim siab uas lawv xav tias muaj thaum lub sijhawm zoo li no yog ib qho kev txawj uas lawv yuav txhim kho mus ntxiv. Qhov no txhais tau tias nws yuav tsis tshwm sim ib hmos. Peb yuav tsum ua siab ntev thiab pab lawv nrog qhov ntawd.

Thaum lawv tsis tuaj yeem hais qhov lawv xav tau tiag tiag ...

Cov kev chim siab no, lossis kev chim siab , feem ntau tshwm sim rau xyoo thib ob ntawm tus menyuam lub neej . Ntawd yog, lawv feem ntau pom ntawm hnub nyoog ib thiab ob peb lub hlis thiab ob xyoos. Koj puas paub vim li cas qhov no tshwm sim thaum lub sijhawm ntawd? Qhov laj thawj tseem ceeb rau qhov no yog tias lawv cov txuj ci lus pib txhim kho thaum lub sijhawm ntawd. Lawv nkag siab ob peb lo lus thiab tuaj yeem hais ob peb lo lus. Lawv tuaj yeem siv cov lus yooj yim xws li "niam", "txiv", "me nyuam", "khoom noj", "dej".

Txawm li cas los xij, lawv cov lus tsis loj txaus kom qhia tau txhua yam uas lawv xav, txhua yam uas lawv xav tau, thiab cov kev xav uas lawv hnov ​​(cov kev xav nyuaj xws li kev tu siab, kev npau taws, kev zoo siab, thiab kev ntshai) ua ib kab lus tiav. Lawv cov txuj ci lus tseem nyob rau theem pib heev.

Xav txog seb, koj tshaib plab heev, tab sis koj tsis paub yuav hais li cas tias 'Kuv tshaib plab, pub kuv noj'. Los yog, yog tias koj chim siab heev txog ib yam dab tsi, tab sis koj tsis tuaj yeem qhia qhov kev tu siab ntawd rau leej twg, koj yuav xav li cas? Qhov ntawd yog qhov nws tshwm sim rau cov menyuam yaus. Lawv muaj qee qhov teeb meem, qee qhov xav tau, tab sis lawv tsis paub yuav ua li cas qhia rau lwm tus, kom muab tso rau hauv cov lus. Thaum ntawd cov kev xav ntawd tawm los ua qhov tig nrog rau kev ntxhov siab uas tsim hauv lawv lub siab. Qhov no zoo li lawv cov lus, tus cwj pwm ntawd. Thaum lawv cov txuj ci lus maj mam zoo dua, koj yuav pom koj tus kheej tias qhov kev tig no kuj yuav maj mam txo qis.

"Kuv xav tau, kuv xav ua nws kuv tus kheej!" - Kev npau suav loj ntawm cov me nyuam yaus

Thaum muaj ib xyoos thiab ib nrab lossis ob xyoos, cov menyuam yaus me me pib muaj lub siab xav ua txhua yam ntawm lawv tus kheej (kev ywj pheej) . Lawv xav tswj lawv ib puag ncig. Lawv xav txog tej yam xws li, 'Kuv yuav hnav kuv tus kheej khau', 'Kuv yuav noj kuv tus kheej cov zaub mov', 'Kuv xav tau cov khoom ua si ntawd', 'Kuv yuav nce ntaiv kuv tus kheej'. Qhov no yog ib qho cim zoo ntawm lawv txoj kev loj hlob. Lawv maj mam kawm txog lub ntiaj teb thiab sim lawv lub peev xwm.

Tiam sis tom qab ntawd, lawv xav tau tej yam uas loj dua li lawv ua tau tiag tiag. Qhov ntawd yog, lawv muaj kev cia siab siab dua li lawv lub cev thiab lub hlwb. Thaum lawv xav tias, 'Kuv ua tau qhov no ib leeg xwb!' thiab ua tsis tau, lossis thaum lawv xav tias, 'Kuv xav tau qhov ntawd tam sim no!' thiab tsis tau txais, lawv npau taws heev thiab chim siab. Qhov ntawd yog thaum qhov kev thim rov qab pib dua. Nws zoo li ' kev sib ntaus sib tua hwj chim ' ntawm lawv tus kheej thiab lawv cov kev txwv. Lawv sim yeej lub ntiaj teb, lawv sim tau qhov lawv xav tau, tab sis thaum lawv ua tsis tau, lawv sim yeej nws los ntawm kev quaj lossis tig rov qab.

Cov menyuam yaus ua dab tsi thaum muaj kev hloov pauv?

Tam sim no cia peb tham txog tej yam thiab tus cwj pwm uas cov menyuam yaus ua thaum lawv chim siab . Qhov no yuav txawv ntawm ib tus neeg mus rau ib tus neeg. Tsis yog txhua tus menyuam muaj tib lub siab chim. Qee qhov kev chim yog me me xwb, thaum lwm qhov yog qhov hnyav heev.

• Muaj ib txhia neeg quaj ntsuag , tsuas yog rub thiab rub, quaj zoo li lawv nyob hauv qhov tsis nco qab.
• Lwm tus quaj nrov nrov , los kua muag.
• Muaj ib txhia neeg qw nrov nrov, nrov txaus kom hnov ​​​​​​thoob plaws hauv qhov kev ua si, tej zaum txawm tias los ntawm lub tsev nyob ib sab.
• Yog tias qhov teeb meem loj zuj zus tuaj, lawv yuav ncaws, ntaus , lossis txawm ntaus lawv niam lawv txiv, lossis pov ib yam dab tsi uas lawv muaj rau hauv lawv txhais tes.
• Nws pw hauv av, dov ib ncig , co nws txhais tes thiab ob txhais ceg.
• Muaj ib txhia menyuam yaus, qhov no nyuaj me ntsis saib, thiab ib yam dab tsi uas ua rau niam txiv ntshai heev, yog kev tuav lawv txoj pa (Kev Tuav Pa) . Tam sim ntawd lawv tsis ua pa lawm, qee zaum kom txog thaum lawv lub ntsej muag xiav. Tom qab ib pliag, lawv pib ua pa dua, thiab qee zaum lawv tsis nco qab lawm. Thaum cov niam pom qhov no, lawv ntshai heev. Tab sis qhov no (Kev Tuav Pa) kuj yog ib qho tsos mob uas qee tus menyuam pom thaum lub sijhawm hloov pauv, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog thaum lawv tsis tau txais yam lawv xav tau. Qhov no yog ib yam dab tsi uas peb yuav tsum tham txog nyias, vim nws yog ib qho tshwj xeeb me ntsis, thiab qee zaum nws yuav tsim nyog nrhiav kev pab kho mob.

Yog li ntawd, peb yuav tsum xav li cas txog qhov kev hloov pauv no?

Yog li, tom qab hnov ​​​​​​txhua yam no, tej zaum koj yuav nkag siab tias cov menyuam yaus no qhov kev chim siab tsis yog ib yam dab tsi uas lawv ua vim lawv yog cov menyuam phem, lossis lawv tsuas yog sim ua rau koj npau taws lossis ua rau koj chim.

Qhov no yog ib feem ntawm lawv txoj kev loj hlob. Nws yog ib txoj hauv kev rau lawv kawm txog lub ntiaj teb, nkag siab lawv txoj kev xav, daws teeb meem, thiab sim qhia cov kev xav ntawd tawm.

Yog li ntawd, thaum ib tug me nyuam ua yuam kev, peb yuav tsum tsis txhob tsuas pom nws ua ib qho 'kev puas tsuaj' lossis 'teeb meem' ​​xwb, tab sis ua ib lub sijhawm zoo rau peb qhia tus me nyuam ib yam dab tsi, kom nkag siab nws, thiab pab nws daws nws txoj kev xav . Nws tsis yooj yim li nws suab, thiab nws nyuaj rau peb zam nws thaum tus me nyuam qw lossis dov rau hauv pem teb. Txawm li cas los xij, nrog qhov kev nkag siab no, nws yuav yooj yim dua rau peb los ntsib qhov xwm txheej.

Cov Lus Qhia Txog Kev Coj Mus Tsev

Zoo, yog li cia kuv sau qee yam tseem ceeb tshaj plaws rau koj kom nco ntsoov los ntawm qhov peb tau tham hnub no:

• Kev chim siab yog ib feem ntawm txoj kev loj hlob ntawm cov menyuam yaus hnub nyoog ntawm 1-3 (qee zaum 4) . Tsis txhob ntshai lossis txaj muag txog nws heev.
• Ib tug me nyuam yuav ua txuj ua li ntawd vim lawv nkees, tshaib plab, tsis xis nyob, tsis tau yam lawv xav tau, xav tau kev saib xyuas, lossis xav qhia kev chim siab lossis lwm yam kev xav tsis zoo .
• Tshwj xeeb tshaj yog txog thaum lawv cov txuj ci lus loj hlob tuaj , lawv yuav muaj feem ntau dua los ntsib cov kev hloov pauv no vim lawv tsis tuaj yeem qhia meej txog yam lawv xav tau lossis xav li cas hauv cov lus.
• Cov menyuam yaus muaj lub siab xav ua tej yam ntawm lawv tus kheej (kev ywj pheej) thiab tswj lawv ib puag ncig (kev tswj) . Thaum qhov no dhau lawv lub peev xwm thiab cov kev cia siab ntawd raug rhuav tshem, kev kub ntxhov tshwm sim.
• Thaum ib tug me nyuam chim siab, lawv yuav ua ntau yam cwj pwm, los ntawm kev quaj mus rau kev qw, dov rau hauv pem teb, co lawv ob txhais ceg, thiab txawm tias tuav lawv txoj pa (ua pa tuav) .
• Qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws yog tsis txhob pom cov kev hloov no ua ib yam dab tsi phem rau tus menyuam, tab sis ua ib lub sijhawm los pab tus menyuam, nkag siab lawv, thiab qhia lawv kom tswj hwm lawv txoj kev xav .

Yog li ntawd, lub sijhawm tom ntej koj tus menyuam me pib chim, ua ntej koj npau taws, siv sijhawm xav tias, 'Kuv tus menyuam tab tom sim qhia kuv dab tsi? Nws xav tau dab tsi tam sim no?' Kev nkag siab qhov ntawd yog kauj ruam loj tshaj plaws hauv txoj kev nyuaj tab sis zoo nkauj no. Yog tias koj muaj lus nug ntxiv txog qhov no, koj tuaj yeem tham nrog koj tus kws kho mob hauv tsev neeg lossis kws kho mob menyuam yaus.

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