Yu redi fɔ bɔn pikin naw? (Family Planning) Lɛ wi tɔk bɔt dis!

Wi kin disayd fɔ du sɔntin na wi layf. Sɔm pan dɛn rili simpul. Fɔ disayd lɛk wetin fɔ wɛr tide ɔ us biskit fɔ bay na di stoa nɔ at so. Bɔt, di disayd "Wi fɔ gɛt pikin naw?" na dip pasmak, i big pasmak, nɔto so? Dis na big wok we tu pipul dɛn fɔ tek togɛda. I nɔ fayn fɔ rɔsh fɔ disayd dis. Na dat mek a de rayt dis atikul fɔ ɛp yu fɔ no if yu rili rɛdi fɔ dis big waka.

"We mi ɛn mi man bigin tink bɔt fɔ bɔn pikin, wi bin de na Kɔlɔmbɔ. Wi mama ɛn papa ɔl tu bin de liv na di vilej. A bin de wɔnda if i go rayt fɔ bɔn pikin so fa frɔm dɛn. A bin lɛk fɔ waka bɔku ɛn go aut wit padi dɛn bak. A bin de fred bak se wans pikin kam, da layf stayl de go lɔs. Di big tin na mɔni. Wi go ebul fɔ pe fɔ dɛn tin ya." spɛn mɔni?" Dis na kwɛstyɔn we bɔku yɔŋ man ɛn in wɛf kin aks na wi kɔntri. Mared pipul dɛn de we dɔn de tink bɔt dis fɔ lɔng lɔng tɛm, sɔntɛm ivin fɔ lɔng tɛm, wit bɔku kwɛstyɔn dɛn lɛk dis. So aw yu go no fɔ tru if yu rɛdi naw? If una ɔl tu kin ansa "yes" to di 4 kwɛstyɔn dɛn we de dɔŋ ya, una kin rɛdi pas aw una tink.

1. Yu rileshɔnship strɔng?

Strɔng nɔ min pafɛkt rilayshɔnship, we nɔ gɛt ɛni prɔblɛm . No rilayshɔnship dɛn de we tan lɛk dis. Bɔt, una ɔl tu go ebul fɔ tɔk fayn to unasɛf ɛn sɔlv prɔblɛm dɛn? Una rɛspɛkt unasɛf? Yu kin du di sem wok dɛn we yu kin du na os ɛn di wok dɛn we yu kin du? Na dɛn tin ya impɔtant.

Sɔntɛnde, mared pipul dɛn kin gɛt smɔl smɔl tin dɛn we dɛn nɔ kin gri pan bɔt mɔni, mami ɛn dadi biznɛs, ɛn aw fɔ mɛn pikin. I impɔtant fɔ sɔlv dɛn prɔblɛm ya as yu ebul bifo yu bɔn pikin. Bikɔs dɛn smɔl smɔl tin ya kin big wit di strɛs ɛn bizi we pɔsin kin gɛt we i bɔn pikin. So, fɔs, mek di fawndeshɔn fɔ una padi biznɛs strɔng. If yu de plan fɔ bɔn pikin fɔ yusɛf, tink bɔt fɔ gɛt strɔng sɔpɔt sistɛm fɔ yu fambul ɔ padi dɛn fɔ ɛp yu.

2. I pɔsibul fɔ mek yu maynd fɔ layf we pas yu wok?

Pan ɔl we di wok dɛn we papa kin du kin bɔku afta di pikin dɔn kam, di prɔblɛm dɛn we mama kin gɛt kin rili big. Dɛn tin ya na di taya we pɔsin kin taya na in bɔdi ɛn we i nɔ kin fil fayn we i gɛt bɛlɛ, ɛn di strɛs we i kin gɛt na in maynd we i disayd if i fɔ go bak na wokples ɔ nɔ fɔ go bak afta i dɔn bɔn pikin. Bɔku mama dɛn kin fil gilti, dɛn kin wɔnda se, "A nɔ go du tin tret to mi pikin if a go bak na wok?"

So, bifo yu gɛt bɛlɛUna tu nid fɔ sidɔm togɛda ɛn tɔk bɔt dis.

• enibodi kin lef in wok afta i geht pikin ?
• Ɔ una ɔl tu kin go wok?
• If na so i bi, udat go tek kia ɔf di pikin? (Dɛn go gɛt ɛp frɔm dɛn mama ɛn papa? Ɔ dɛn go tek pɔsin fɔ wok? Dɛn go put dɛn na daycare?)

Dis na tin dɛn we yu kin disayd fɔ du we rili impɔtant , so if yu plan bifo tɛm, dat kin mek yu nɔ strɛs leta.

3. Yu no bɔt materniti/paternity leave na yu wokples?

Nɔto ɔl ɔganayzeshɔn dɛn na Sri Lanka gɛt di sem materniti/paternity leave polisi. Di lɔ dɛn we de na gɔvmɛnt ɛn prayvet sɛktɔ difrɛn. Difrɛns de bak bitwin ɔganayzeshɔn dɛn we de na di sem prayvet sɛktɔ. So, una ɔl tu fɔ chɛk wit di HR dipatmɛnt na una ɔganayzeshɔn dɛn fɔ no mɔ bɔt dis.

• Aw many dez yu kin gɛt fɔ lɛf fɔ bɔn pikin? (we dɛn pe/we dɛn nɔ pe)
• Aw many dez paternity leave yu patna kin gɛt?
• If dis vaykeshun tɛm nɔ go du fɔ yu, yu kin ad am to yu ɛni ia lɛf?
• Ɔda tin dɛn de we yu kin du fɔ go slip fɔ shɔt tɛm?

I rili impɔtant fɔ no dis bifo tɛm ɛn mek plan, lɛk fɔ kip sɔm mɔni fɔ dil wit am if nid de. Di fɔs mɔnt dɛn afta yu bɔn pikin, dɛn rili valyu. Dɛn kayn plan ya go ɛp yu fɔ spɛn da tɛm de wit yu pikin wit kol at ɛn gladi at.

4. Yu rɛdi fɔ gɛt mɔni?

Nɔ fred fɔ aks dis kwɛstyɔn. "Financial readiness" nɔ min se yu fɔ gɛt tu stori os, tu motoka, ɛn ɔl yu kredit kad dɛn we dɛn dɔn pe. If yu wet te dat apin, yu nɔ go ɛva gɛt fɔ bɔn pikin.

Bɔt yu fɔ ebul fɔ kip bɔku mɔni frɔm di mɔni we yu de gɛt ɛvri mɔnt fɔ pe fɔ di tin dɛn we pikin nid. Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, yu fɔ gɛt rɔf aidia bɔt di tin dɛn we di pikin de spɛn ɛvride (daypa, fɔmula, klos), di mɔni we dɛn go spɛn fɔ mɛn di pikin, ɛn di kɔst fɔ kia fɔ di pikin.

Na nɔmal tin fɔ fil fɔ fred smɔl we yu tink bɔt ɔl dis. Bɔt mɛmba se dis na prɔblɛm we ɔl mama ɛn papa na di wɔl de gɛt. Di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl na fɔ mek una tu tɔk bɔt am togɛda ɛn wok togɛda fɔ kam wit wan plan.