Yu de fil bad ɔ yu at pwɛl? (Grief vs Depression) Mek wi no di ekzak difrεns bitwin dεn tu.

I rili nɔmal fɔ fil pen ɛn fil bad we wi lɔs pɔsin we wi lɛk, ɔ sɔntɛm sɔntin we valyu to wi. Na in rili bi nature. Wi ɔl kin gɛt dɛn kayn ɛkspiriɛns dɛn ya sɔm tɛm na wi layf. Bɔt... if dis sɔri-at bigin fɔ kɔntrol yu layf, ɛn yu fil lɛk se yu dɔn bost wit ɔltin, se yu nɔ ebul fɔ du ɛnitin, ɛn yu nɔ gɛt ɛni valyu pan yusɛf, den i kin bi sɔntin we smɔl pas nɔmal sɔri-at. Na da tɛm de wi nid fɔ tɔk bɔt de difrɛns bitwin dis nɔrmal sɔri-at (Grief) ɛn pwɛl hat (Depression).

So wetin na dis sɔri-at?

Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, sɔri-at na sɔntin we pɔsin kin du we i day ɔ we i lɔs. Di krayse prɔses na tɛm fɔ wi fɔ kray, prosɛs, ɛn wɛl. If yu gri fɔ mek yu fil bad, aks ɔda pipul dɛn fɔ sɔpɔt yu, ɛn gi yusɛf tɛm fɔ kray, i kin izi fɔ mek yu wɛl.

Nɔto jɔs we pɔsin we de nia wi famili lɔs, dat kin mek wi fil bad ɛn fil bad. Bɔku ɔda rizin dɛn kin de. Jɔs tink bɔt dat, ivin tin dɛn lɛk dis kin fil lɛk se wi dɔn lɔs bɔku tin:

• Fɔ separet frɔm pɔsin we yu rili lɛk.
• We pɔsin lɔs di wok we i bin dɔn du trade, di pozishɔn we i bin gɛt, ɔ di say we i bin de gɛt mɔni.
• Di day ɔ lɔs fɔ animal we dɛn adopt.
• Pikin dεm we de gro εn kכmכt na os (Empty Nest Syndrome).
• Wan big chenj na layf, lɛk fɔ dayvɔs, fɔ muf go na nyu siti, ɔ fɔ ritaia frɔm wok.

Pan ɔl we wi ɔl kin fil dis kayn sɔri-at, di we aw wi de dil wit am, dat na di we aw wi kin bia wit am kin difrɛn frɔm wan pɔsin to ɔda pɔsin. Sɔm pipul dɛn kin gɛt di maynd fɔ bia wit am fayn fayn wan. Dɛn kin lan fɔ liv wit dis sɔri-at we dɛn nɔ kin mis di tin dɛn we dɛn kin du ɛvride. Bɔt sɔm pipul dɛn nɔ kin gɛt di maynd ɔ sɔpɔt we dɛn nid fɔ dis. Na da tɛm de i kin at fɔ lɛf dis sɔri-at.

Aw wi kin du sɔntin we wi at pwɛl?

Akɔdin to sayɛns, we pɔrsin gɛt sɔri-at ɔr pwɛl hat, i kin go tru sɔm impɔtant stej dɛm fɔ win am. Dis nɔ kin apin di sem ɔda fɔ ɔlman, ɛn sɔntɛnde i kin apin in rivays. Bɔt fɔ fil dɛn filin ya ɛn fɔ gri wit dɛn na impɔtant pat pan di wɛl bɔdi prɔses.

Wetin go de mek yu nɔ ebul fɔ win dis pwɛl at?

Sɔm tin kin slo ɔr stɔp dis wɛl bɔdi prɔses kpatakpata. Dɛn tin ya na:

• Fɔ kip yu filin (sɔri, vɛks) bɔtul insay we yu nɔ de sho am.
• Fɔ minimiz ɛn evaluate pɔsin in yon sɔfa bay we yu de tink se, "Wetin na dis?"
• Tray fɔ avɔyd fɔ fil bad bay we yu de lɔs na wokples.
• Adikshɔn to drɔgs ɛn rɔm fɔ rɔnawe pan sɔri-at.
• Tray fɔ de yu wan, fɔ de fa frɔm ɔda pipul dɛn kpatakpata.

Us tin dɛn go ɛp wi fɔ lɛf fɔ fil bad?

If yu de fil sɔri lɛk dis, sɔm simpul tin dɛn de we go ɛp yu fɔ bia wit dis.

• Aksept ɔl di filin dɛn, gud ɛn bad. Mek yusɛf fil di sɔri-at, di vɛks, di gladi gladi mɛmori dɛn.
• Tɔk to pɔsin we yu trɔst bɔt dis. I kin bi yu padi ɔ yu fambul. Yu go fil bɔku fridɔm we yu pul yu filin dɛn de.
• Rayt aw yu de fil. Fɔ rayt aw yu de fil na dayari na fayn we bak fɔ du dis.
• Mɛmba se we yu kray na fayn we fɔ mek yu nɔ strɛs. We pɔsin kray nɔto sayn fɔ se pɔsin wik.
• Join sɔpɔt grup wit pipul dɛm wae dɔn gɛt di sem kayn ɛkspiriɛns. If yu tɔk to pipul dɛm wae de go tru di sem pen lɛk yu, dat go ɛp yu nɔr go fil lɛk yu wan.
• If yu nɔ ebul fɔ kɔntrol di we aw yu de fil, go to pɔsin we sabi du in wok. Nɔ shem fɔ dis atɔl. Fɔ tɔk to yu dɔktɔ na di bɛst tin fɔ du.

Wetin yu go du if dis sɔri-at kɔntinyu?

Sɔntɛnde, dis pwɛl hat kin de fɔ sɔm mɔnt ɛn i kin so bad dat i kin mek yu nɔ ebul fɔ waka na yu wan ol layf. If yu nɔ ebul fɔ slip, yu nɔ want fɔ it atɔl, yu nɔ de it bɔku bɔku it dɛn, ɛn yu kin ivin tink bɔt fɔ kil yusɛf, dat kin bi sɔntin we pas aw yu kin fil bad. We wi de tɔk bɔt mɛrɛsin, dɛn kin kɔl dis kɔmplikɛt tɛm we pɔsin day .

Si dis tebul fɔ ɔndastand klia wan di difrɛns bitwin dɛn tu.

If yu ɔ pɔsin we yu sabi gɛt dɛn sik ya, duya go to yu dɔktɔ kwik kwik wan. Pwɛl hat na wan sik wae kin wɛl ɔltogɛda wit tritmɛnt.