Yu kin strɛs bak wit di big big sɔri-at we yu go gɛt na layf? (Grief) Mek wi tok abaut dis!

Sɔntɛnde na wi layf wi kin gɛt fɔ fes tin dɛn we wi nɔ bin ɛva tink se wi go gɛt, nɔto so? Sɔntɛm na we pɔsin we wi lɛk lɔs. Ɔ i kin bi sɔntin lɛk fɔ brok drim, fɔ lɔs wok, fɔ brok tayt padi biznɛs. Dat tranga pen, dat ɛmti, da sɔri-at we wi kin fil sɔntɛnde lɛk dis na wetin wi kin jɔs kɔl ‘Grief’ . Na wan rili kɔmpleks ɛn rili pɔsin in ɛkspiriɛns. Bɔt wi ɔl kin gɛt dis ɛkspiriɛns sɔm tɛm, sɔm kayn we. So, mek wi tok likl abaut dis?

Wetin na Sɔri-at?

Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, sɔri-at na di we aw wi de dil wit ɛn bia wit sɔntin we wi lɔs . Bɔku tɛm wi kin tink se sɔri-at na di tɛm we wi kin fil pen afta pɔsin we wi lɛk day. Bɔt dat nɔto tru. Sɔri-at kin kam bikɔs ɔf ɛnitin we de chalenj wi aydentiti ɛn mek i nɔ pɔsibul fɔ wok nɔmal wan na wi layf. Dis inklud fɔ lɔs rilayshɔnship dɛn we de difayn wi.

Imajin, yu go fil bad if yu lɔs tin dɛn lɛk dis:

• Yu padi, fambul, patna, ɔ animal we yu lɛk.
• Mared, padi biznɛs, ɔ ɔda impɔtant padi biznɛs.
• Yu os, di rijyɔn usay yu de, ɔ yu kɔmyuniti.
• Yu wok ɔ yu wok.
• Ikɔnomi stebul.
• Wan drim we yu bin gɛt ɔ wan gol we yu bin want fɔ ajɔst.
• Gud wɛlbɔdi.
• Yu yɔŋ tɛm.
• Fεtiliti (abiliti fכ bכn pikin).

Sɔntɛnde, as pɔsin de rɛdi fɔ day, i kin fil bad bak we i lɔs in yon layf. Fɔ ɛgzampul, pɔsin we gɛt sik we de mek i nɔ ebul fɔ mɛn, kin fil bad bad wan bikɔs i nɔ go gɛt tɛm igen fɔ du di tin dɛn we i bin want fɔ du ɔ du di tin dɛn we i bin want fɔ du.

Stej dɛm fɔ sɔri - Wi ɔndastand dɛn tin ya?

Wan masta sabi bukman we nem Elizabeth Kubler-Ross bin tɔk bɔt dɛn fayv stej ya we pɔsin kin fil bad insay in buk we nem "On Death and Dying." Pan ɔl we dɛn bin pul di buk insay 1969, i stil bi wan pan di tin dɛn we bɔku pipul dɛn no bɔt fɔ ɔndastand aw pɔsin kin kray. I bin intavyu pas 200 pipul dɛn we bin de day fɔ rayt di buk. Tru dɛn tɔk dɛn de, i bin no fayv kɔmɔn stej dɛn we pipul dɛn we de fes day kin gɛt.

Pan ɔl we di stɔdi we Kübler-Ross bin du bin tɔk mɔ bɔt aw pɔsin we de day kin fil bad, bɔku pipul dɛn kin yuz dɛn stej ya bak fɔ ɔndastand aw difrɛn kayn tin dɛn we pɔsin kin lɔs kin fil bad. Bɔt na wan impɔtant pɔynt ya : Dɛn stej ya nɔto wan sɛt ɔf mandatory step dɛm we ɔlman fɔ go tru, ɛn dɛn nɔ nid fɔ apin insay ɛni patikyula ɔda. Sɔm pipul dɛn nɔ kin gɛt sɔm pan dɛn stej ya atɔl.

Dɛn stej ya na:

1. Denial: Filin laik, "Dis no fit bi tru," "Dis no fit hapun to mi." I at fɔ gri se di lɔs na rial tin.

2. Fɔ vɛks:"Wetin mek dis apin to mi?" na filin fɔ vɛks. Dis wamat kin de pan di wan dɛn we nɔ bin ebul fɔ sev di pɔsin we dɛn lɛk, pan Gɔd, pan dɛnsɛf, ɔ ivin pan ɛnibɔdi.

3. Bargayning: Tink tins laik, "If a bin du dis, dis no go hapun?", trai to rich wan dil we go sev di loss. Rigrɛt bɔt wetin pɔsin dɔn du, lɛk, "If a nɔ bin dɔn du dat...", kin apin bak.

4. Pwɛl hat: Fɔ fil bad bad wan, nɔr gɛt op, ɛn fɔ fil se na yu wangren de. Fɔ lɔs intres pan ɛnitin ɛn fil se yu nɔ gɛt ɛnitin fɔ du wit ɔltin. Dis kin kam wit bɔrku kɔmpleks filin wae gɛt fɔ du wit pwɛl hat .

5. Aksept: As tɛm de go, pan ɔl we di pen stil de, yu kin kam fɔ aksept se di lɔs na rial tin. Yu kam to wan point we yu se, "Wetin apin hapun, naw a get fo liv wit am somhow."

Mɛmba se dɛn stej ya nɔ kin kam to ɔlman di sem we ɔ di sem ɔda. Sɔm pipul dɛn kin skip sɔm pan dɛn stej ya, ɛn sɔm kin jomp bak ɛn biɛn. Dat na rili nɔmal tin.

Yu tink se difrɛn kayn sɔri-at de?

Yɛs, bɔku we dɛn de fɔ mek pɔsin fil bad. Dɛn difrɛn kayn tin ya de tɔk bɔt aw difrɛn ɛn kɔmpleks pwɛl hat kin bi.

Sɔri-at we yu de tink bɔt

Dis na we yu bigin fɔ kray bifo di rial lɔs apin. Fɔ ɛgzampul, we yu kam fɔ no se yu ɔ pɔsin we yu lɛk gɛt sik we de mek yu nɔ ebul fɔ mɛn, yu kin bigin fɔ fil bad ivin bifo di pɔsin nɔ de igen. If yu prosɛs pwɛl hat dis kayn we, yu kin rɛdi fɔ dil wit di lɔs we i rili apin. Bɔt, nɔ mek dis kayn pwɛl at ambɔg yu fɔ ɛnjɔy di valyu tɛm we yu gɛt.

Sɔri-at we dɛn mek fɔ shɔt tɛm

Sɔntɛnde, yu kin muv tru di krayse prɔses kwik kwik wan. Dɛn kɔl dis sɔri-at fɔ shɔt tɛm. Dis kin apin bak afta di `anticipatory grief` we wi bin dɔn tɔk bɔt. Dat min se, bikɔs yu dɔn de kray ɛn rɛdi fɔ di lɔs frɔm bifo di lɔs, di pwɛl at kin dɔn kwik kwik wan we di lɔs rili apin. Jɔs bikɔs di pwɛl at kin dɔn kwik, dat nɔ min se yu nɔ bin lɛk di pɔsin we yu lɔs. Wi ɔl gɛt difrɛn tɛm we i kam pan sɔri-at.

Sɔri-at we de delay

Bifo yu fil di filin dɛn we gɛt fɔ du wit pɔsin we yu lɔs wantɛm wantɛm, yu kin bigin fɔ fil am afta sɔm dez, sɔm wiks, ɔ ivin sɔm mɔnt. Tink bɔt dis: we pɔsin day pan aksidɛnt, yu kin rili bizi wit di arenjmɛnt fɔ bɛr pɔsin, tin dɛn we gɛt fɔ du wit lɔ, ɛn ɔda tin dɛn.Dɔn, bikɔs ɔf di shɔk ɔ bikɔs ɔf dis bizi, yu bɔdi nɔ kin gɛt tɛm fɔ prosɛs dɛn filin dɛn de. Na afta ɔltin dɔn yu kin bigin fɔ fil di pen.

Sɔri-at we dɛn kin stɔp

Dis na fɔ stɔp di we aw yu de fil. Infakt, bɔku pan wi nɔ ɛva lan fɔ no ɔ kɔntrol di kɔmpleks filin dɛn we kin kam wit sɔri-at. So, bɔrku pipul dɛm wae de stɔp dɛn filin nɔr kin ivin no se dɛn de du am. I sɔri fɔ no se, we yu nɔr alaw yusɛf fɔ fil dɛn filin de, da sɔri-at de kin sho insɛf pan bɔdi sik lɛk wae yu bɛlɛ nɔr de fil fayn, yu nɔr de slip fayn, ɛn yu de wɔri, bɔt sɔmtɛm yu kin ivin panik atak.

Kumulativ sɔri-at

Dis involv fɔ fes bɔku lɔs dɛn di sem tɛm. Fɔ ɛgzampul, imajin se sɔmbɔdi lɔs in pikin, ɛn wit da sɔri-at de, dɛn mared-os sɛf kin skata. Dɔn da pɔsin de de strɛs wit tu sɔri-at wan tɛm. Fɔ kray fɔ bɔku tin dɛn we pɔsin lɔs wan tɛm, kin rili at, ɛn i kin tranga bak we yu nɔ bin de ɛkspɛkt.

Kɔlektif sɔri-at

Pan ɔl we bɔku tɛm wi kin tink bɔt sɔri-at as pɔsin in yon tin, tɛm kin de we wi kin kray as grup, as sosayti. Wɔ, natura disasta (lɛk wata we kin rɔn, land we kin rɔf), bad bad tin dɛn we kin apin na skul dɛn, ɛn sik dɛn we de prɛd kin mek bɔku pipul dɛn lɔs. Dɛn tin ya kin chenj wi "nɔmal" layf. Dɔn, as grup, wi kin kray fɔ dɛn ɛkspiriɛns dɛn we wi kin sheb we wi dɔn lɔs, fɔ di tumara bambay we dɔn chenj. Fɔ ɛgzampul, di tɛm we Covid pandemik bin de, wi ɔl bin gɛt dis kayn kɔlektif sɔri-at.

Wetin na di sayn dɛm wae de sho se pɔrsin fil bad?

Sɔri-at kin afɛkt yu maynd, bɔdi, ɛn sol - ɔl dɛn tin ya.

Di Simptom dɛn we pɔsin kin gɛt we i de fil

Pipul wae de kray kin se "emotions come in waves." E kin fil lɛk aw pɔrsin de fil kin kam insay ɛn nɔr gɛt ɛni wɔnin. Wan mɔnt layf kin fil lɛk se i nɔmal, ɛn di nɛks tɛm yu kin kray. Sɔri-at kin mek pipul dɛn fil difrɛn difrɛn tin dɛn, frɔm sɔri to vɛks, frɔm vɛks to gladi. Sɔntɛnde yu kin fil se yu nɔ gɛt kɔnekshɔn wit yu filin ɛn lɛk se yu jɔs de ɔpreshɔn pan `ɔtopaylɔt.'

Sɔntɛnde, filin dɛn we nɔ gri wit dɛnsɛf kin kam. Fɔ ɛgzampul:

• Pan ɔl we dɛn kin fil bad we dɛn lɔs pɔsin we dɛn lɛk, i kin mek dɛn fil fayn bak fɔ no se dɛn nɔ de sɔfa igen ɛn dɛn gɛt pis.
• Afta yu dɔn dayvɔs, pan ɔl we yu de fil bad fɔ yu man we yu bin dɔn mared to, yu kin gladi smɔl bak fɔ gɛt di chans fɔ bigin nyu layf.
• Fɔ fil gilti fɔ kia fɔ yu fambul we de day de ɛn nɛt, ɛn afta dat yu tink se, "O, dat dɔn inof, a dɔn gɛt sɔm fridɔm naw" we dɛn nɔ de igen.
• We yu lɔs yu padi ɔ fambul we yu nɔ bin gɛt bɛtɛ padi biznɛs wit, sɔntɛm ivin pɔsin we yu bin vɛks pan, filin dɛn we de agens dɛnsɛf (nɔ bisin bɔt, vɛks, sɔri, rigrɛt) kin kam togɛda.

No rayt ɔ rɔŋ filin nɔ de we i kam pan sɔri-at. Di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl na fɔ no dɛn filin dɛn de ɛn alaw dɛn fɔ fil fɔ mek dɛn wɛl.

Di Simptom dɛn na di bɔdi

Fɔ lɔs na tin we tumɔs.Sɔntin we kin mek pɔsin strɛs pasmak. Dis kin gɛt big impak pan yu bɔdi. If yu fil bad, dat kin mek yu nervɔs sistɛm bigin fɔ wok pasmak, i kin mek yu imyun sistɛm wik, ɛn i kin mek yu sik mɔ ɛn mɔ.

Sɔm kayn sik lɛk dis kin sho:

• Taya
• Ɛd we de at
• Vɔmit
• We pɔsin nɔ de rɛst
• Bɛlɛ we nɔ fayn
• Di at we de blo
• Wik mɔsul ɔ jɔyn pen
• Tayt na yu chɛst ɔ yu trot
• We yu nɔ want fɔ it ɔ yu nɔ want fɔ it mɔ
• Nɔ slip ɔ fɔ slip tumɔs

Di Chenj dɛn we Yu De Biev

Sɔri-at kin mek i nɔ izi fɔ pe atɛnshɔn ɛn du tin. Yu kin notis sɔm sayn dɛm lɛk:

• Kɔnfyus
• Trɔbul fɔ tink ɔ fɔ disayd fɔ du sɔntin
• Fɔ fil lɛk se yu dɔn lɔs op ɔ dayrɛkshɔn
• I nɔ izi fɔ pe atɛnshɔn pan ɛni ɔda tin pas yu lɔs
• I nɔ izi fɔ mɛmba ɔ kip trak fɔ yu wok dɛn

Wetin na di prɔblɛm dɛn we kin mek pɔsin fil bad?

Infakt, ɔl di sɔri-at kin kɔmpleks te to sɔm mak. Bɔt sɔm tɛm, pwɛl hat kin bi mɔr kɔmpleks - wi kin kɔl am kɔmplikɛt pwɛl hat ɔr fɔ pwɛl hat fɔ lɔng tɛm . Dis sik kin gɛt fɔ du wit patikyula tin wae nɔr kin izi fɔ du ɔr kin gɛt siriɔs sik wae kin afɛkt ɛvride layf fɔ lɔng tɛm.

Kɔmplikɛt pwɛl hat kin bigin wit ɛni kayn pwɛl hat. I kin mek i nɔ izi fɔ du tin lɛk:

• Absent grief: Wae yu nɔr sho ɛni sayn na do fɔ pwɛl hat. I kin bi bikɔs yu dɔn stɔp fɔ dinay. Ɔda tɛm, pɔrsin wae nɔr kin tan lɛk se i de kray kin de strɛs wit kɔmpleks filin dɛm dip in at, wae ɔda pipul nɔr kin si am.
• Ambiguous loss: We nɔ klia ɛnd fɔ lɔs. Fɔ ɛgzampul, if dɛn tink se pɔsin we dɛn lɛk dɔn day bɔt dɛn nɔ fɛn in bɔdi, i nɔ kin izi fɔ mek dɛn gɛt bak di pwɛl at. Dis inklud bak fɔ kray fɔ pɔsin we de alayv bɔt dɛn nɔ ebul fɔ rich to am (lɛk pɔsin we de na prizin, pɔsin we dɔn muf kɔmɔt na di kɔntri ɛn we nɔ gɛt ɛni kɔntakt). Dis kin inklud bak fɔ kray fɔ de filin distans frɔm pɔrsin wae yu lɛk bikɔs ɔf tin dɛm lɛk dis maynia sik ɔr Alzaima sik.
• Sɔri-at we dɛn nɔ gɛt rayt fɔ du:We sosayti nɔ de si sɔntin we pɔsin lɔs as sɔntin we fit fɔ mek i kray. If ɔda pipul dɛn mek yu fil se yu pwɛl at nɔ rayt, fɔ kray kin bi sɔntin we yu go fil se yu wangren de. Fɔ ɛgzampul, we pɔsin day, we in patna day, ɔ ivin day we di sosayti tink se nɔ fayn, lɛk fɔ kil insɛf ɔ fɔ tek drɔgs pasmak.
• Traumatic grief: We yu de dil wit wan lɔs ɛn trauma di sem tɛm. Dis kin apin wit lɔs wae kin rili siriɔs ɛn wae dɛn nɔr kin ɛkspɛkt. Tin dɛm lɛk natura disasta, aksidɛnt, ɛn vaylɛnt day kin mek pɔrsin fil bad, ɛn sɔmtɛm kin ivin gɛt wan sik wae dɛn kɔl PTSD (Post-traumatic stress disorder) . Dɔn yu nid fɔ trit dis sik wit di sɔri-at.

If yu stil de fil dɛn tin ya wan ia afta yu dɔn lɔs, yu kin gɛt kɔmplikɛt ɔr kin gɛt pwɛl hat sik fɔ lɔng tɛm:

• If yu fil se wan pat pan yusɛf nɔ de, lɛk se i dɔn day.
• If yu stil nɔ biliv se di day ɔ lɔs apin.
• If yu avɔyd tin dɛn we de mɛmba yu bɔt day ɔ lɔs.
• If yu fil bad bad pen na yu filin wae gɛt fɔ du wit de lɔs wae de ambɔg yu ɛvride layf.
• If yu fil se yu nɔ bisin bɔt yu, yu de yu wan, ɔ yu fil se yu nɔ gɛt wan minin na layf.
• If i nɔ izi fɔ yu fɔ liv nɔmal layf, mek plan wit yu padi dɛn, tek pat pan tin dɛn we yu lɛk, ɛn disayd bɔt tumara bambay.

Aw lɔng dis sɔri-at go las?

Di American Psychological Association (APA) bin tɔk se bɔku tɛm, pɔsin kin fil bad fɔ siks mɔnt to tu ia. Di sayn dɛm kin go dɔŋ smɔl smɔl as tɛm de go.

Bɔt i impɔtant fɔ mɛmba dis: Sɔri-at nɔto sɔntin we pɔsin kin pak fayn fayn wan ɔ fɔ jɔs sɔm patikyula tɛm. Ɔlman in pwɛl hat ɛn di lɔng tɛm we i kin de, difrɛn. Ɛn notin nɔ de we dɛn kɔl "kɔmplit fri" frɔm sɔri-at. Tin dɛm lɛk fɔ lɔs pɔsin we yu lɛk, di mared we brok, di drim we yu giv ɔp, kin bi pat pan yu layf stori. Dɛn na pat pan udat yu bi sote go.

Bɔt if i nɔ izi fɔ yu fɔ dil wit sɔntin we yu lɔs, mɔ if i de afɛkt yu ɛvride layf, nɔ shem fɔ go to pɔsin we de gi advays bɔt aw fɔ fil bad ɔ pɔsin we de mɛn yu .

Aw wi de liv wit dis pwɛl at? (Fɔ bia wit sɔri-at)

Fɔ liv wit pwɛl hat kin tek tɛm ɛn peshɛnt. Bɔt tin dɛn de we yu kin du fɔ mek dis prɔses izi smɔl fɔ yusɛf ɛn ɔda pipul dɛn we go nid yu sɔpɔt.

I rili impɔtant fɔ mek yu tek kia ɔf yusɛf.

• Praktis fɔ kia fɔ yusɛf:E fayn fɔ tek kia ɔf yu maynd ɛn bɔdi wae yu de kray. Tray fɔ slip sɛvin to et awa ɛvri nɛt. Tek wan nap insay di de if yu de fil taya. Ɛksesaiz, it tin dɛn we gɛt fayn fayn tin dɛn fɔ it di rayt tɛm. Meditate, du yoga. Tek wan bɔbul bat. We yu de kray, mek yu fɔs fɔ kia fɔ yusɛf, ɛn nɔ fil gilti fɔ dat.
• Stick to a routine: If yu fil bad, dat kin ambɔg yu nɔmal layf ɛn i kin mek i nɔ izi fɔ kɔntrol di we aw yu de fil. Fɔ stik to wan rutin na fayn we fɔ tek kɔntrol pan yu situeshɔn ɛn rigul yu filin. Go na bed ɛn wek di sem tɛm. Tray fɔ it di sem tɛm ɛvride. Wash yu bɔdi. Tink bɔt ɛni smɔl wok we yu dɔn du as win.
• Atɛnd to yu filin: Nɔ tɛmpt fɔ rɔnawe pan tranga filin bay we yu de kech pan wok ɔ tin dɛn we yu lɛk fɔ du. Sɔri-at na fɔ dil wit di filin dɛn we de mek pɔsin fil pen. Nɔ shem fɔ kray. Alaw yusɛf fɔ mɛmba di fayn fayn tin dɛn we yu bin mɛmba wit di pɔsin we yu lɛk we nɔ de na yu layf igen. Tɔk aw yu de fil di kayn we we go wok fɔ yu. Fɔ ɛgzampul, yu kin prosɛs di filin dɛn we nɔ izi fɔ yu bay we yu rayt na jɔnal, tɛl stori bɔt pɔsin we yu lɛk, ɔ siŋ siŋ we go mek yu mɛmba dɛn.
• Rich ɔut to ɔda pipul dɛm: Wan pan de bɛst we fɔ dil wit lɔs na fɔ mɛmba di kɔnekshɔn dɛm wae yu stil gɛt. Na nɔmal tin fɔ want fɔ de yu wan we yu de kray, bɔt nɔ fɔ de fa frɔm ɔda pipul dɛn. Ivin if i fil lɛk se ɔltin dɔn chenj, mɛmba yusɛf se i nɔ chenj. Pipul dɛn de na yu layf we lɛk yu ɛn want fɔ ɛp yu.
• Tɔk to dɔktɔ ɔr pɔsin we de gi advays bɔt pwɛl hat: Sɔntɛnde, fɔ dil wit pwɛl hat kin nid pɔsin fɔ ɛp yu. If pwɛl hat de ambɔg yu layf, ɔr if de sik nɔr dɔn bɛtɛ afta siks mɔnt, e kin bi tɛm fɔ go to pɔrsin wae sabi du yu wok.

Aw wi kin ɛp pɔsin we in at pwɛl? (Sɔpɔt pɔsin we yu lɛk we de kray)

• Bi de: Bi de fɔ di pɔsin we yu lɛk, as dɛn nid yu. Nɔbɔdi nɔr de – inklud yu padi ɔr fambul wae de kray – nɔr de ɛkspɛkt yu fɔ bi ɛkspɛkt pan sɔri-at kɔyl, ɔr fɔ tɔk ɛksaktɔli wetin rayt. Jɔs de de fɔ dɛn. Aks dɛn wetin dɛn nid. Yu tink se dɛn nid fɔ tɔk? Yu tink se dɛn nid ɛp fɔ du sɔntin we go ambɔg dɛn? Dɛn nid ɛp fɔ arenj fɔ bɛr pɔsin? Sɔpɔt dɛn ɛni we we dɛn nid.
• Tɛl yu fɔ ɛp: Nɔto ɔlman kin want fɔ aks fɔ ɛp, ilɛksɛf dɛn nid am. Tink bɔt aw yu go ɛp, ɛn tɛl yu se yu go ɛp yu. Yu kin tek di pikin dɛn go skul? Dɛn kin was dɛn klos? Kuk it, ɔ gi dɛn sɔm mɔni fɔ bay it?
• Sayn se yu opin fɔ tɔk:Pe atɛnshɔn to di tin dɛn we di pɔsin we yu lɛk de sho if dɛn want fɔ tɔk bɔt wetin dɛn dɔn lɔs. Fɔ ɛgzampul, yu nɔ kin fil fayn ɔ yu nɔ kin fil fɔ tɔk bɔt di pɔsin in nem we dɛn lɔs. Bɔt bɔku tɛm, di pɔsin we de kray kin wet fɔ chans fɔ tɛl ɔda pipul dɛn bɔt aw i de fil, ɛn fɔ prosɛs aw i de fil. If dɛn bigin fɔ tɔk, lisin pas yu.
• Nɔ mek pɔsin nɔ lɔs smɔl: Nɔ mek i tan lɛk se pɔsin in lɔs na big tin ɛn i fɔ jɔs ebul fɔ win am. Dɔn bak, nɔ tray fɔ put fayn spin pan sɔntin we yu lɔs. Fɔ tɔk tin lɛk "Ɔltin fayn" ɔ "I de na bɛtɛ ples naw" kin fil lɛk se yu nɔ gri wit pɔsin we de kray, ivin if yu gɛt gud maynd. Bifo dat, alaw di pɔsin we yu lɛk fɔ tɔk ɔnɛs aw i de fil. Na natura ɛn nid pat pan di krayse prɔses.

Lɛ wi ɔndastand sɔm ɔda wɔd dɛn we gɛt fɔ du wit sɔri-at?

• Di difrɛns bitwin Sɔri-at ɛn Griv: Sɔri-at na di prɔses fɔ woke tru ɛn dil wit pwɛl hat. Prɔfɛshɔnal dɛm wae de ɛp pipul dɛm wae gɛt pwɛl hat kin yuse wɔd dɛm lɛk "wok" ɔr "muv" fɔ sho di tin dɛm wae pwɛl hat kin put pan wi.
• Di difrɛns bitwin Sɔri-at ɛn Wae pɔrsin in at pwɛl: Fɔ kray na di tɛm wae pɔrsin fil bad afta pɔrsin day. Bɔrku tɛm na tɛm wae pɔrsin kin lɔs pɔrsin, bɔrku tɛm kin kam wit ɔda pipul dɛm wae de fil bad.
• Di difrɛns bitwin Sɔri-at ɛn Kwɛstyɔn: Fɔ kray na di we aw wi de sho aw wi at pwɛl. Yu kin sho aw yu at pwɛl bay we yu de sheb stori bɔt pɔsin we yu lɛk, plant dɛn fav flawa na yu gadin, ɔ bɛr dɛn ashis na dɛn fav vaykashun ples. Fɛnal ɛn mɛmorial savis na we bak fɔ di wan dɛn we de kray fɔ kam togɛda ɛn sho dɛn pwɛl at.

Fɔ dɔn, sɔm tin dɛn fɔ mɛmba (Take-Home Message) .

Ɔlman in sɔri-at joyn na in yon ɛn na in yon. Bɔt we yu no di we aw pɔsin de fil, di we aw i de tink, ɛn di we aw i de biev insay dis tɛm, dat go mek yu biliv se nɔto yu wangren de. Yu – laik plenti oda pipul – go get tru dis. Na kɔmɔn (bɔt tru) fɔ se "di wangren we fɔ kɔmɔt pan sɔri-at na tru am." Fɔ woke tru di tranga filin dɛm, fɔ ol di pipul dɛm we yu lɛk we yu dɔn lɔs ɛn di ɛkspiriɛns dɛm na yu layf, kin gi yu di trɛnk we yu nid fɔ go bifo wit yu layf.

Nɔto yu wan de. If yu nid ɛp, nɔ ɛva shem fɔ aks fɔ am. Yu maynd wɛlbɔdi rili valyu.

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