Yu dɔn ɛva fil lɛk se yu man ɔ wɛf we yu lɛk nɔto di sem pɔsin we dɛn bin de du trade? Dɛn kin jɔs vɛks, tray fɔ de fa frɔm ɔlman, ɛn dɛn nɔ kin ivin smayl? We dis kin apin, di fɔs kwɛstyɔn we kin kam na yu maynd na, "O, a du sɔntin we nɔ rayt?" Bɔt fɔ tru, nɔto yu fɔlt. Dɛn tin ya kin rili bi sayn fɔ wan sik wae wi ɔl dɔn yɛri bɔt wae dɛn kɔl pwɛl hat. So tide, lɛ wi tɔk bɔt aw fɔ ɛp yu patna wit lɔv insay dis tɛm.
Aw fɔ no di sayn dɛm wae de sho se pɔrsin gɛt pwɛl hat?
Wae pɔrsin gɛt pwɛl hat sik, aw pɔrsin de biev ɛn aw i de biev ɛvride kin chenj wantɛm wantɛm. Dis na di fɔs sayn dɛn we wi kin no. Imajin, we yu man kam bak na os frɔm wok, i bin de smayl ɛn tɔk to yu, ɛn tɛl yu bɔt in de. Bɔt naw, if i go na in rum ɛn de in wan we i kam na os, ɛn if i ansa wit wamat ivin we yu de tɔk to am, dat na chenj we yu fɔ wɔri bɔt.
De tin wae impɔtant pas ɔl na fɔ nɔr frayd wae yu si dɛn chenj ya, bɔt fɔ ɔndastand se dis kin bi sayn dɛm fɔ wan ɔndalayn mɛdikal kɔndishɔn.
Lɛ wi si wetin na di chenj dɛn we dɛn kin mek pas ɔl na di tebul we de dɔŋ ya.
| Sektɔ we de chenj | Di tin dɛn we dɛn de ɛkspɛkt |
|---|---|
| Imɔshɔn ɛn di we aw pɔsin de fil | Ɔltɛm, a kin fil bad ɛn nɔ gɛt op. Fɔ vɛks ɔ kray fɔ smɔl smɔl tin dɛn. |
| Di tin dɛn we dɛn kin du ɛvride | Fɔ lɔs intres pan tin dɛm we yu bin de ɛnjɔy trade (e.g. fɔ wach TV, tɔk to padi dɛm). Fɔ fil lɛk se yu bɔdi nɔ gɛt ɛni ɛnaji. |
| Slip | Slip pas aw yu kin slip ɔ nɔ slip atɔl na nɛt. |
| Fɔ it ɛn drink | Wantɛm wantɛm, yu nɔ go want fɔ it mɔ ɔ yu nɔ go want fɔ it igen. Fɔ yuz rɔm ɛn drɔgs mɔ ɛn mɔ. |
| Sɔshial kɔnekshɔn dɛn | Fɔ de fa frɔm yusɛf, yu pikin dɛn, yu fambul dɛn, ɛn yu padi dɛn. |
| Seks layf | I nɔ go lɛk fɔ du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs kpatakpata. |
| Atɛnshɔn ɛn mɛmba | I nɔ kin izi fɔ pe atɛnshɔn pan sɔntin, i nɔ kin ebul fɔ disayd fɔ du sɔntin, ɛn i kin fɔgɛt ivin smɔl smɔl tin dɛn. |
Nɔ mek dis bi wan bad bad sɛklɔ.
Naw luk, na nɔmal tin fɔ fil bad we yu patna pul insɛf kɔmɔt nia yu, we dɛn de tɔk wit wamat. Da tɛm de, yusɛf kin vɛks. Yu kin tray bak fɔ distans yusɛf frɔm dɛn. Bɔt if dat apin, di pɔsin we in at pwɛl go de fa frɔm ɔda pipul dɛn, i go fil bad mɔ ɛn mɔ, ɛn i go vɛks mɔ ɛn mɔ. Dis na wetin wi kɔl wikɛd sɛklɔ .
Di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl we yu nid fɔ ɔndastand na dat dis nɔto sɔntin we i de du to yu bikɔs i nɔ lɛk yu ɔ i vɛks. Dis na de kayn pwɛl hat sik. I tan lɛk se yu gɛt fiva ɛn fil se yu sik. Na so di sik tan. So nɔ mek yusɛf tink se, "Dis na ɔl mi fɔlt."
So aw yu kin tɔk?
Nɔ rɔsh fɔ tɔk to am bɔt dis wit yu padi ɔ fambul dɛn. Dat kin mek i fil lɛk se dɛn de aks am fɔ du bad. Bifo dat, yu kin tɔk kwayɛt wan ɛn wit lɔv.
- Nɔ aks: Bifo yu tɔk tin dɛn lɛk, "Yu de rili fil bad rayt naw," .
- Se wetin yu don observ: "A de si se yu no gladi laik yu bin de tink bifo. Yu de tink plenti, no bi so?"
- Se wetin yu fil: "A sɔri se wi nɔ de tɔk lɛk aw wi bin de tɔk. A fil se yu de fa frɔm mi."
We yu tɔk to am lɛk dis, i go ɔndastand se yu nɔ de aks am, bɔt yu de luk insay am.
Sɔntɛm dɛn nɔ go gri wit dis kwɛstyɔn.
Bɔrku tɛm, pɔrsin wae gɛt pwɛl hat nɔr kin want fɔ gri se dɛn gɛt prɔblɛm. Dɛn kin se, “A fayn.” Ɔ, if dɛn dɔn adikshɔn to sɔntin lɛk rɔm, dɛn kin se, "Dis kin mek a nɔ strɛs, a nid dis."
Na tɛm lɛk dis, wetin dɛn nid na fɔ mek yu lisin to dɛn pas fɔ "fiks" dɛn. Alaw dɛn fɔ tɔk wetin de na dɛn maynd, witout ɛni jɔjmɛnt.
Bɔt if wetin i de tɔk de mek yu fil bad tumɔs fɔ bia, nɔ tray fɔ sɔlv am fɔ yusɛf. Na da tɛm de dɛn nid pɔsin fɔ ɛp pɔsin we sabi du in wok.
Yu kin ɛnkɔrej am saful wan fɔ go to dɔktɔ.
"Wi fɔ si dɔktɔ ɛn tɔk to am? Sɔntɛm rizin de fɔ dis taya ɛn maynd prɔblɛm. Lɛ wi fɛn ɔut."
Yu kin go to saykayatrist, sayɛnsman, advaysa, ɔr yu famili dɔktɔ fɔ dis. Di tritmɛnt inklud saykotɛrapi ɛn if nid de, mɛrɛsin . Mɛmba se bɔku tɛm, di bɛst tin kin apin we dɛn yuz ɔl tu di tritmɛnt dɛn togɛda.
Stay positive, bi aktif togeda.
Imajin, ilɛksɛf yu tɔk bɔku tin, i se i nɔ go ebul fɔ go to dɔktɔ. Da tɛm de, yu go fil se yu nɔ go ebul fɔ du natin. Bɔt nɔ lɔs yu at. Stay pɔsitiv tin. Bikɔs pwɛl hat na sik wae kin mɛn wit tritmɛnt pan lɛk 90% pan di kes dɛm .
Tin dɛn we yu kin du apat frɔm tritmɛnt
- Gi pɔsin lɔv: Ilɛksɛf dɛn fil lɛk se dɛn de rijek yu, ɔg dɛn ɛn tɔk wɔd we go sho lɔv.
- Una fɔ du tin togɛda: Wan pan de big tin wae kin kam wit pwɛl hat na fɔ les. So yu kin se, "Yu go lɛk fɔ go waka?" Una du ɛksɛsayz togɛda, du sɔm gadin wok, go na di bich.
- Nɔ blem ɔ aks: Fɔ tɔk tin lɛk "Dis de apin bikɔs ɔf yu" de jɔs mek prɔblɛm wɔs.
- Rid buk togɛda: Dis kin tan lɛk se i strenj smɔl, bɔt dɛn dɔn si se fɔ rid buk to unasɛf kin rili kɔrej una ɛn i kin mek una gɛt tayt padi biznɛs.
Fɔ kia fɔ yusɛf rili impɔtant.
Tru dis joyn, e fayn fɔ tek kia ɔf yusɛf we yu de sɔpɔt yu patna. Dis kin mek yu maynd taya. So tink bak bɔt yu maynd ɛn yu bɔdi wɛlbɔdi.
- Slip fayn fayn wan as yu ebul.
- Yu fɔ ɛksesaiz bak ɔltɛm.
- It tin we balans ɛn we gɛt fayn fayn tin dɛn fɔ it.
- Rid buk ɛn atikul dɛn we dɛn rayt bɔt tin dɛn lɛk dis.
- If yu si se i nɔ izi fɔ bia dis prɛshɔn, nɔ ɛva shem fɔ aks pɔsin we de advays yu fɔ ɛp yu .
Fɔ dɔn, nɔ tink se dis na yu yon fɔlt. Dis na prɔblɛm we una ɔl tu gɛt fɔ gɛt togɛda. If yu gi yu di rayt mɛrɛsin, yu lɛk yu, yu peshɛnt, ɛn sɔpɔt yu, yu go mɔs ebul fɔ win dis prɔblɛm.
Mɛsej we dɛn kin kɛr go na os
- Wae yu patna in bihayvya chenj kwik kwik wan (vεkshכn, isolate, lכs intres) kin bi sayn dεm fכ pwεl hat.
- Dis nɔto in fɔlt, ɛn nɔto yu fɔlt. Dis na wan sik wae kin dɔn ɔlmost wɛl wit tritmɛnt.
- Lisin wit peshɛnt ɛn wit lɔv, ɛn nɔ aks fɔ ɛnitin. Ɛnkɔrej dɛn saful wan fɔ go to dɔktɔ.
- Una fɔ aktif togɛda. Ivin sɔntin we simpul lɛk fɔ waka kin mek big difrɛns pan una padi biznɛs ɛn di we aw una de fil.
- I impɔtant fɔ tek kia ɔf yusɛf ɛn bak fɔ kia fɔ am we yu de travul. Aks pɔsin we sabi du in wok if nid de.
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