Sɔntɛnde, yu kin fil lɛk se na yu wangren de na dis wɔl? Yu nɔ kin fil fɔ tɔk to ɔda pipul dɛn ɔ laf bikɔs yu de fil bad ɛn di prɛshɔn we yu de fil? Yu fil lɛk se yu padi biznɛs wit yu fambul ɛn padi dɛn de chenj smɔl smɔl bikɔs yu gɛt pwɛl hat? Infakt, pwɛl hat na sɔmtin wae nɔr de afɛkt wi maynd nɔmɔ, bɔt de afɛkt wi rilayshɔn wit pipul dɛm wae de arawnd wi. If na so, dis atikul go rili impɔtant fɔ yu, bikɔs tide wi de tɔk bɔt wan spɛshal tritmɛnt we go ɛp yu fɔ mɛn yu mɔtalman rilayshɔnship.
Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, wetin na Intapɔsɔnal Tɛrapi (IPT)?
Intapɔsɔnal Tɛrapi, ɔr IPT as wi kin kɔl am fɔ shɔt tɛm, na tritmɛnt fɔ sɔm kayn pwɛl hat sik fɔ shɔt tɛm. Fɔ tɔk di kɔrɛkt tin, na saykotɛrapi sɛshɔn we kin apin wan tɛm insay di wik fɔ lɛk tri to 4 mɔnt.
Tink bɔt am dis we. Yu gɛt wund na yu leg. Di tin we mek da wund de kin bi na ston we de na di rod. Bɔt we yu waka, rɔn, ɔ put yu fut na grɔn di rɔŋ we, da wund de kin at mɔ, ɛn i kin ivin mek yu fut. Semweso, de tin wae kin mek pɔrsin gɛt de ‘tawɛl’ wae dɛn kɔl pwɛl hat kin bi ɔda tin. Bɔt, di ‘wok’ we wi mɔtalman rilayshɔnship de du kin mek da wund de bɛtɛ ɔ wɔs. IPT tεrapi de woke bay wae yu de kכrekt da ‘wok’ de, dat na di we aw yu de mεnεj yu mכtalman rilayshכn.
De impɔtant tin na dat IPT nɔr kin ɛva se na yu rilayshɔnship kin kam wit yu pwɛl hat. Bɔt, pwɛl hat kin kam ɛn i kin afɛkt wi padi biznɛs wit ɔda pipul dɛn. So we dɛn tɔk bɔt dɛn rilayshɔnship ya, di sayn dɛm wae de sho se pɔrsin gɛt pwɛl hat kin bɛtɛ pasmak. Sɔm stɔdi dɔn sho se dis tritmɛnt kin woke jɔs lɛk aw dɛn kin gi mɛrɛsin fɔ pwɛl hat sik.
Di 4 men eria dɛm we dɛn fɔ pe atɛnshɔn pan na IPT tritmɛnt
Na dis kayn tritmɛnt, yu nɔr kin tɔk bɔt ɔl de prɔblɛm wae de na yu layf. Bifo dat, yu kin pik wan ɔr tu men tin wae yu kin tink se de afɛkt yu pwɛl hat pasmak ɛn tɔk bɔt dɛn dip wan. I tan lɛk se yu pul tu ɔ tri men knot dɛn na big tangle. We yu dɔn pul dɛn knot dɛn de, di ɔda wan dɛn go fɔdɔm na dɛn ples izi wan.
Dɛn kin sheb dɛn prɔblɛm eria ya to 4 men kayn.
| Prɔblɛm Ɛria | Wetin jɔs min? |
|---|---|
| Disput dɛn we de bitwin pipul dɛn | Kɔnflikt wit yu man ɔ yu wɛf, yu mama ɛn papa, yu pikin dɛn, yu kɔmpin dɛn we yu de wok wit, ɔ yu padi dɛn. Kɔnflikt lɛk dis kin apin we tu pipul dɛn gɛt difrɛn tin dɛn we dɛn de op fɔ. |
| Rol Transishɔn dɛn | Big chenj dɛn na layf. Fɔ ɛgzampul, fɔ mared, fɔ bigin ɔ lɔs wok, fɔ muf go na nyu siti, fɔ bi mama ɔ papa. Dɛn chenj ya kin briŋ kam wit dɛn filin fɔ se na dɛn wangren de ɛn dɛn kin lɔs. |
| Pwɛl at | Sɔri-at we pɔsin we rili nia yu day. Dis pwɛl hat kin bi prɔblɛm if i de te pas aw i kin bi ɔr i kam leta. |
| Intapɔsɔnal Dɛfisit dɛn | I nɔ izi fɔ mek nyu padi dɛn ɔ fɔ kɔntinyu fɔ gɛt padi biznɛs we dɔn de. Lak fɔ soshiabiliti ɔ po kwaliti fɔ rilayshɔnship. |
Aw dis tritmɛnt kin rili wok?
De tritmɛnt pɔrsin go woke wit yu fɔ ɛp yu fɔ sɔlv prɔblɛm wae gɛt fɔ du wit dɛn tin ya.
Aw fɔ sɔlv prɔblɛm dɛn we de bitwin pipul dɛn
Imajin, we uman bigin fɔ du nyu wok ɛn bigin fɔ du sɔntin fɔ insɛf smɔl, in man kin bigin fɔ fil se i nɔ gɛt wan kɔnfidɛns. Bikɔs ɔf dis, dɛn tu kin fɛt bɔku tɛm. Na ya, di dɔktɔ kin tɔk to di man ɛn ɛp am fɔ ɔndastand di rizin fɔ dis kɔnflikt ɛn us misɔndastandin i gɛt na in maynd. Afta dat, i kin tich am fɔ tren fɔ tɔk to pipul dɛn ɛn aw fɔ sɔlv prɔblɛm dɛn.
Aw fɔ bia wit layf we de chenj
Imajin se yu kɔmɔt na yu vilej na Kɔlɔmbɔ fɔ wok. Yu ol layf, yu padi dɛn, ɛn di say we yu de na os nɔ de igen, ɛn yu fɔ ajɔst to nyu ples fɔ yusɛf. Dis kin fil lɛk se na big big lɔs. Na ya, de thɛrapist de ɛp yu fɔ ɔndastand di difrɛns bitwin yu ol wok (di pɔrsin na di vilej) ɛn yu nyu wok (di pɔrsin wae de du di wok in wan na Kɔlɔmbɔ) . Dɛn kin ɛp yu bak fɔ no di rayt tin we at fɔ yu pan dis nyu wok ɛn ɛp yu fɔ fɛn sɔlv fɔ dɛn tin ya.
Aw fɔ kɔntrol di pwɛl at
Di pwɛl at we yu kin fil we yu lɔs pɔsin we yu lɛk, wi nɔ go ebul fɔ sho am wit wɔd dɛn. Sɔntɛnde, dɛn kin put da sɔri-at de insay bɔtul. Insay IPT, di dɔktɔ kin ɛp yu fɔ fri da sɔri-at de. I kin yuz tu men we dɛn fɔ du dat.
- Fɔ lisin wit sɔri-at: I de mek say we sef fɔ mek yu tɔk bɔt aw yu de fil ɛn wetin de mɔna yu. Lisin to yu witout jɔjmɛnt.
- Klarifyeshɔn: I de ɛp yu fɔ ɔndastand ɛn pul ɛni mistek ɔ tin we nɔ nid fɔ tink bɔt di day ɔ di pɔsin.
Aw fɔ win di wikɛd tin dɛn we de apin na rilayshɔnship
yu geht tinkin lek "a no kin mek padi" o "Nobodi wan tok to mi"? Insay dis tɛm, de tritmɛnt pɔrsin go tɔk bɔt yu rilayshɔnship wae yu bin gɛt trade, ɔr de rilayshɔn wae yu de bil wit de tritmɛnt. Tru dis, dɛn go luk fɔ patɛns we de ambɔg yu rilayshɔnship. Fɔ ɛgzampul, dɛn go no di patɛns lɛk fɔ dipen pan ɔda pipul dɛn we nɔ nid fɔ de ɔ fɔ de vɛks/ɔstɛl wit ɔda pipul dɛn ɔltɛm . Dɔn, dɛn go ɛp yu fɔ chenj dɛn patɛns de ɛn ɛnkɔrej yu fɔ bil nyu padi biznɛs.
Aw dɛn kin ɔganayz di tritmɛnt sɛshɔn dɛn?
Dis tritmɛnt prɔses na rili sistɛm. Dɛn kin sheb am to tri men stej dɛn.
1. Fɔs Faz (Wik 1-3): Dɛn fɔs sɔm sɛshɔn ya na fɔ asɛs yu lɛvɛl fɔ pwɛl hat, fɔ mek yu ɔndastand mɔ bɔt IPT tritmɛnt, ɛn fɔ no wan ɔ tu tin wae de afɛkt yu mɔr frɔm di 4 eria dɛm wae wi bin dɔn tɔk bɔt.
2. Midul stej (lɛk di nɛks 8 sɛshɔn): Dis na di at fɔ di tritmɛnt. Na dis say dɛn kin bigin fɔ sɔlv di prɔblɛm dɛn we dɛn dɔn no. Di tritmɛnt pɔsin kin yuz difrɛn we dɛn, lɛk fɔ ple rol, fɔ analays di kɔmyunikeshɔn, ɛn fɔ ɛnkɔrej pɔsin fɔ afɛkt.
3. Di las pat (lɛk di las 4 wik): Wan pan di spɛshal tin bɔt IPT na dat dɛn kin tek di ɛnd fɔ di tritmɛnt as pat pan di tritmɛnt sɛf . Frɔm di biginin, yu no se dis na sɔntin we dɛn kin du fɔ shɔt tɛm. As tɛm de go, di ɛnd fɔ dis tritmɛnt kin fil lɛk ‘lɔs’ to yu. Wi kin tɔk bɔt aw fɔ bia wit da filin de ɛn aw fɔ yuz wetin yu dɔn lan te naw. Dis na fɔ mek yu gɛt trɛnk fɔ bia wit ɛni prɔblɛm we go kam yu wan tumara bambay.
Wetin kin apin afta di tritmɛnt dɔn?
Pwɛl hat sik na wan sik wae kin kam bak sɔmtɛm. So, afta 12-16 wiks we dɛn dɔn trit am, dɛn kin nid fɔ tek mentenɛns tɛrapi.Yu kin rifer to dis. Dis kin min fɔ mit wit dɔktɔ we de mɛn pipul dɛn lɛk wan tɛm insay di mɔnt fɔ mek yu no mɔ bɔt wetin yu dɔn lan. Dis kin rili ɛp fɔ mek pwɛl hat nɔr kam bak bikɔs ɔf de strɛs wae de kam wit nyu soshal rilayshɔnship.
Mɛsej we dɛn kin kɛr go na os
- Intapɔsɔnal Tɛrapi (IPT) na shɔt tɛm, sayɛns pruv saykotɛrapi wae dɛn kin yuse fɔ pwɛl hat.
- Dis nɔr de blem mɔtalman rilayshɔnship fɔ yu pwɛl hat. Bifo dat, i de yuz dɛn rilayshɔnship dɛn de as we fɔ wɛl.
- Dis tritmɛnt kin pe atɛnshɔn pan wan ɔr tu patikyula eria, lɛk wae pɔrsin kin gɛt prɔblɛm wit ɔda pipul dɛm, wae de chenj in layf, wae pɔrsin de fil bad, ɔr wae i nɔr kin izi fɔ mek pɔrsin gɛt padi biznɛs wit ɔda pipul dɛm.
- De big gol na fɔ gi yu pawa fɔ manej yu rilayshɔnship ɛn, tru dɛm, yu simptom dɛm fɔ pwɛl hat fɔ yusɛf.
- If yu fil se yu sɔri-at de afɛkt yu rilayshɔnship, aks yu dɔktɔ ɔr tritmɛnt if IPT na fayn tin fɔ yu. Mental wɛlbɔdi na sɔntin we yu fɔ gɛt.
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