Sɔmbɔdi de trit yu bad? Aw yu kin aks fɔ ɛp? (Child Abuse) Lɛ wi tɔk bɔt dis!

Laif kin rili tranga sɔntɛnde, nɔto so? Ɛspɛshali we pɔsin de du yu bad bay wilful, mek yu fred, ɔ trit yu bad. Dis na wetin wi kɔl abiuz . Pan ɔl we dis na tɔpik we at fɔ tɔk bɔt, i impɔtant fɔ no se nɔto yu wangren de ɛn yu kin gɛt ɛp.

Wetin rili na abiuz?

Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, abiuz na we pɔsin du bad bay wilful pan yu bɔdi, maynd, mami ɛn dadi biznɛs, ɔ we i nɔ de tek tɛm wit yu. Dis kin apin difrɛn we dɛn. Lɛ wi luk di men we dɛn.

1. Abiuz pan bɔdi

Dis min se sɔmbɔdi de du yu bɔdi bad. Imajin...

• Dɛn kin bit yu ɛn gi yu bad advays.
• Push tranga wan, trowe am na grɔn.
• Fɔ hit wit sɔntin (bɛlt, stik).
• A gɛt sɔntin we de bɔn insay mi.
• Dɛn de tay yu an ɛn fut dɛn.

Na dɛn tin ya dɛn kin kɔl fɔ trit pɔsin bad. Sɔmtɛm i kin mek ɔ pul injury ɛn skata na di bɔdi. Bɔt if i at, na fɔ trit pɔsin bad.

2. Imɔshɔnal ɔ Saykolojik Abiuz

Dis na sɔntin we kin mek di maynd fil bad bad wan, pan ɔl we i nɔ kin mek di bɔdi wund we pɔsin kin si.

• Dɛn de kɔl yu ɛn ala pan yu ɔltɛm.
• Dɛn kin provok yu di we we de mek yu fil bad ɛn dɛn kin tɔk bad to yu bifo ɔda pipul dɛn.
• Dɛn kin tɔk tin dɛn ɔltɛm lɛk, "Yu nɔ gɛt yus," "Yu nɔ ebul fɔ du ɛnitin."
• Dɛn de fred yu ɛn trɛtin yu.
• Dɛn nɔ de mek yu du di tin dɛn we yu lɛk, dɛn nɔ de mek yu tɔk to yu padi dɛn.
• Dɛn de ignore yu ɛn ignore yu.

Tin dɛn lɛk dis kin mek yu fil bad, fred, ɛn nɔ gɛt kɔnfidɛns pan yusɛf.

3. Abiuz pan mami ɛn dadi biznɛs

Dis na di pat we at fɔ tɔk bɔt, bɔt i rili impɔtant. Seksual abiuz na we pɔsin tɔch yu we yu nɔ gri fɔ du am, fos yu fɔ sho dɛn mami ɛn dadi biznɛs, ɔ fos yu fɔ du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs.

• Dɛn kin tɔch ɛn luk yu prayvet pat dɛn .
• Dɛn kin kis ɛn ɔg yu di we we nɔ fayn.
• Dɛn kin aks yu fɔ wach pikchɔ ɛn fim dɛn we gɛt fɔ du wit mami ɛn dadi biznɛs.
• Dɛn kin fos wi fɔ tɔk bɔt mami ɛn dadi biznɛs.
• Yu de yuz yu bɔdi di we aw yu nɔ ɔndastand ɛn nɔ lɛk.

Dis nɔ ɛva bi yu fɔlt. If pɔsin du yu sɔntin lɛk dis, na da pɔsin de fɔlt ɔl.

4. Nɔ tek tɛm wit yu

Dis min se pɔsin we fɔ kia fɔ yu nɔ de gi yu di tin dɛn we yu nid.

• Dɛn nɔ go mek yu it ɔ drink fayn.
• Dɛn nɔ de gi yu klin klos fɔ wɛr.
• We yu sik, yu nɔ de go to dɔktɔ.
• Dɛn nɔ de sɛn dɛn na skul, dɛn nɔ de ɛp wit dɛn edyukeshɔn.
• Dɛn nɔ de gi yu protɛkshɔn, dɛn de lɛf yu wan na say dɛn we denja.

Tin dɛn lɛk dis kin ambɔg yu bɔdi ɛn yu maynd.

Mɛmba se di pɔsin we de trit yu bad kin bi pɔsin we yu sabi. I kin bi pɔsin we de na yu famili, yu fambul, yu padi, yu ticha, ɔ ivin pɔsin we yu nɔ no atɔl. Ɛnibɔdi we du am, i nɔ rayt.

Dis nɔ ɛva bi yu fɔlt!

Dis na wetin yu nid fɔ mɛmba. Fɔ mek dɛn trit yu bad nɔto ɛva, ɛva yu fɔlt. Sɔntɛnde, di pɔsin we de trit yu bad kin se, "Dis na yu fɔlt." Ɔ, "If yu nɔ bin du dis, a nɔ bin fɔ dɔn du dis." Dɛn tin ya na lay.

• Ilɛk wetin yu wɛr, .
• Ilɛk wetin yu tɔk, .
• Ɛnisay we yu go, .
• Ilɛk wetin yu du, .

Nɔbɔdi nɔ gɛt rayt fɔ du yu bad. Yu gɛt ɔl di rayt fɔ de sef ɛn gladi. Na nɔmal tin fɔ fil bad, fred, ɛn kɔnfyus we bad tin apin to yu. Bɔt nɔto yu fɔlt.

Udat yu go tɛl bɔt dis? (Wan big pɔsin we dɛn kin abop pan)

If yu de go tru sɔntin lɛk dis, di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl na fɔ tɔk bɔt am. Tɛl big pɔsin we yu trɔst. Da pɔsin de go ɛp yu. Tink bɔt am, udat yu trɔst?

• Mama, Papa, ɔ ɔda pɔsin we de na yu famili: Sɔmbɔdi lɛk yu mama ɛn papa, big brɔda, sista, grani, ɔ granpa.
• Fambul: Na anti ɔ ɔnkul we de nia yu.
• Padi in mama ɔ papa: Na mama ɔ papa fɔ padi we yu trɔst.
• Ticha ɔ skul advaysa: Ticha na yu skul, di prinsipal, sa/madam, ɔ di skul advaysa.
• Dɔktɔ ɔ Nɔs: We yu go si dɔktɔ, yu kin tɛl da pɔsin de.
• Rilijɔn lida: Sɔmbɔdi lɛk prist na tɛmpul, papa/sista na chɔch.

Aw yu kin tɔk to dɛn? Yu kin fil smɔl fɔ fred fɔ tɔk dis. Bɔt gɛda yu maynd ɛn bigin lɛk dis:

• "A gɛt sɔntin fɔ tɛl yu."
• "A nid fɔ tɔk to yu fɔ smɔl tɛm."
• "A nid ɛp."

We dɛn de lisin, tɛl dɛn wetin apin to yu. Tɛl dɛn se yu nid dɛn ɛp. If i nɔ izi fɔ yu fɔ tɛl dɛn ɔltin wan tɛm, tɛl dɛn smɔl smɔl. Di men tin na fɔ bigin.

Wetin fɔ du if no big pɔsin nɔ de nia de we pɔsin kin abop pan? Ɔ yu de fred fɔ tɛl dɛn?

Sɔntɛnde, yu nɔ kin gɛt big pɔsin we yu go abop pan nia yu. Ɔ if sɔmbɔdi na yu famili de trit yu bad, yu kin fred fɔ tɛl ɔda pipul dɛn. Bɔt nɔto yu wangren de. Ɔda we dɛn de fɔ gɛt ɛp.

Imejɛnsi Kɔl ɛn Ɛp Layn dɛn

Insay Sri Lanka, spɛshal ɔganayzeshɔn dɛn ɛn fon nɔmba dɛn de we go ɛp yu insay tɛm lɛk dis. Yu kin kɔl dɛn wan ya prayvet wan ɛn aks fɔ ɛp.

• Nashɔnal Child Protɛkshɔn Ɔtoriti (NCPA): Tɛlifon nɔmba 1929.Dis na di men gɔvmɛnt ɛjɛnsy we de dil wit pikin dɛn we de trit pipul dɛn bad. Yu kin kɔl dis nɔmba ɛni tɛm insay di de. Dɛn go lisin to yu ɛn gi yu di ɛp we yu nid.
• Polis imejensi nɔmba: 119. If yu gɛt aksidɛnt ɔ yu nid ɛp kwik kwik wan, kɔl dis nɔmba.
• Women In Need (WIN): Phone number 0112671411. Dis ɔganayzeshɔn de ɛp uman ɛn pikin dɛn we gɛt prɔblɛm.
• Friends : Phone numbers 0112692909, 0112696666. If yu de fil bad, yu de fil bad, ɛn yu nɔ gɛt pɔsin fɔ tɔk to, yu kin kɔl dɛn pipul ya. Dɛn go lisin to yu ɛn gi yu di gayd we yu nid.

Dɛn tren di pipul dɛn we de na dɛn ɛp layn dɛn ya. Dɛn kin tek tɛm lisin to wetin yu gɛt fɔ tɔk, dɛn nɔ de jɔj yu, ɛn dɛn de ɛp yu.

Wetin yu go du if yu de pan denja wantɛm wantɛm?

If yu fil se yu de pan siriɔs denja usay yu de, yu nid fɔ du sɔntin wantɛm wantɛm. 1. If i pɔsibul, muf go na say we sef. Dat min se, kɔmɔt nia di pɔsin we de trit yu bad. 2. Kɔl wan imejensi nɔmba. Na Sri Lanka, dis na 119 (polis). 3. Wen yu kol , giv yu nem (yu fes nem don inaf) and yu ekzak ples. Dis go mek dɛn kam to yu kwik kwik wan ɛn ɛp yu.

• Fɔ ɛgzampul: "Alo, mi na [yu nem]. A de na [yu adrɛs ɔ sayn]. A gɛt aksidɛnt. Duya ɛp!"

Impɔtant: If yu ebul, du dɛn tin ya di we we di pɔsin we de mɔna yu nɔ go si. Yu sef de kam fɔs.

Tek tɛm na di intanɛt bak (Online Safety) .

Naw, wi de spɛn bɔku tɛm na di Intanɛt ɛn soshal midia, nɔto so? Jɔs lɛk insay ɛvride layf, dɛn kin buli wi bak na di Intanɛt. Wi kin kɔl dis bak ``Sayba buli.''

• If pɔsin sɛn bad mɛsej to yu, .
• If dɛn post yu pikchɔ dɛn we yu nɔ gri fɔ du dat, .
• If yu de du tin dɛn na di Intanɛt we de mek yu fred, .
• If dɛn aks yu fɔ pikchɔ dɛn we nɔ fayn, .

Dat na buli. If sɔntin lɛk dat apin, rili tɛl big pɔsin we yu abop pan. Dɔn bak, nɔ dilit dɛn mɛsej ɛn pikchɔ dɛn de, bɔt kip dɛn as pruf.

Mɛmba se ɛp de ɔltɛm!

Wi no se i nɔ izi fɔ tɔk bɔt sɔntin lɛk dis. Yu kin fil fred, shem, ɔ fil bad. Bɔt yu nɔ nid fɔ go tru dɛn tin ya yu wan.

• Pipul dɛn de we want fɔ lisin to yu, biliv yu, ɛn ɛp yu.
• Yu gɛt ɔl di rayt fɔ liv na say we sef ɛn fri frɔm fɛt-fɛt.
• Fɔ tɔk na di fɔs tin we yu fɔ du. Dat na big step.

Sɔntɛnde we yu tɛl big pɔsin, dɛn nɔ ɔndastand yu ɔ dɛn nɔ de ɛp yu, nɔ giv ɔp.Tɛl ɔda pɔsin. Kɔntinyu fɔ tray te yu gɛt ɛp.

Fɔ dɔn, mɛmba dis (Take-Home Message) .

Okay, so lɛ wi rivyu sɔm pan di tin dɛn we yu nid fɔ mɛmba frɔm wetin wi tɔk bɔt tide:

• Abiuz na bad tin. I nɔ fayn ilɛk udat du am ɔ aw dɛn du am.
• I nɔ ɛva bi yu fɔlt. Yu nɔ nid fɔ bi pɔsin we gɛt fɔ ansa fɔ ɛnitin.
• Nɔto yu wan de. Pipul dɛn de we go ebul fɔ ɛp yu, ɛn we want fɔ ɛp yu.
• Tɔk to big pɔsin we yu kin abop pan. I kin bi yu mama ɛn papa, yu fambul, yu ticha, ɔ yu dɔktɔ.
• If da kayn pɔsin nɔ de, ɔ if yu de fred fɔ tɔk, kɔl ɛp layn lɛk 1929 (National Child Protection Authority).
• If yu de pan denja wantɛm wantɛm, kɔl 119.
• Fɔ tɔk na di fɔs ɛn impɔtant tin we yu go du fɔ fri. Wi de pre mek yu fɛn di trɛnk fɔ du dat.

If yu gɛt prɔblɛm rayt naw, we yu rid dis atikul na big tin we yu dɔn du. Nɔ fred fɔ aks fɔ ɛp. Yu valyu, yu fit fɔ mek dɛn protɛkt yu.

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