Yu dɔn ɛva fil so sɔri, yu wan de, ɛn ɛmti fɔ natin? Yu nɔ ivin want fɔ grap na bed, ɛn yu si se yu de bost ɛn yu nɔ de nia ɔlman? Dis nɔto jɔs fɔ bost ɔ nɔmal sɔri-at. Tide, wi go tɔk bɔt pwɛl hat, ɔr Major Depressive Disorder , we na wan sik we de mek pɔsin fil dɛn kayn we ya bɔt bɔku pipul dɛn na di sosayti nɔ kin ɔndastand am gud gud wan. Na mɔtalman, wi go tɔk bɔt aw dis sik kin afɛkt yu rilayshɔn wit de pipul dɛm wae de arawnd yu.
Wetin rili na pwɛl hat? Wetin mek na "sik we pɔsin nɔ de si"?
Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, pwɛl hat na siriɔs mɛrɛsin wae kin afɛkt aw pɔrsin de fil, aw i de fil, aw i de tink, ɛn aw i de biev. I nɔto wikɛd tin ɔ sɔntin we pɔsin fɔ imajin.
Imajin se sɔmbɔdi in leg brok. Wi kin si am. We dɛn de insay kast ɛn pan krach, ɔlman no se dɛn gɛt prɔblɛm ɛn dɛn nid ɛp. Bɔt pwɛl hat nɔto sɔntin we pɔsin kin si na do. Na dat mek wi kin kɔl am "sik we wi nɔ de si." Sɔntɛm yu nɔ go ebul fɔ si aw yu de fɛt insay. Na dat mek yu de blem yusɛf, de tink se, "O, wetin bad wit mi? A nid fɔ gɛt ɔva dis."
De tin wae impɔtant pas ɔl na fɔ mek yu ɛn di wan dɛm wae yu lɛk fɔs ɔndastand se pwɛl hat na rial sik wae yu kin trit, jɔs lɛk dayabitis ɔr at at sik.
Aw pwɛl hat kin afɛkt rilayshɔnship?
Fɔ liv wit pɔrsin wae gɛt pwɛl hat kin tranga. Dɔn bak, fɔ kɔntinyu fɔ gɛt padi biznɛs wit ɔda pipul dɛn kin fil lɛk se na lod to di pɔsin we gɛt pwɛl hat. Dis na sɔntin we kin afɛkt ɔl tu di say dɛn. Lɛ wi tray fɔ ɔndastand dis klia wan.
| Filin/bihayvya fɔ de pɔrsin wae gɛt pwɛl hat sik | Aw di wan dɛn we dɛn lɛk (wɛf/man/famili) kin fil bɔt am |
|---|---|
| Tray fɔ isolate yusɛf: fɔ avɔyd soshal ivent, famili gɛda. Fɔ de na yu rum. | Tin dɛm lɛk "I dɔn bost wit mi?", "I vɛks bikɔs ɔf sɔntin we a du?", "I nɔ lɛk mi igen?" |
| Fɔ vɛks ɔ vɛks kwik kwik wan: Fɔ vɛks ɔ vɛks pan smɔl smɔl tin dɛn. | Fɔ du yusɛf bad bay we yu de tink se, "Wetin mek i de fɛt wit mi ɔltɛm?", "I nɔ mata wetin i tɔk, i nɔ rayt." |
| Nɔ intres pan ɛnitin: Nɔ intres pan tin dɛn we una bin de du togɛda (go na fim, go trip), nɔ intres pan mami ɛn dadi biznɛs. | Fɔ fil lɛk se di "layf" na di rileshɔnship dɔn lɔs. Fɔ fil lɛk se dɛn de rijek yu. |
| Taya: Fɔ fil taya ɔltɛm . Fɔ fil se yu de slip ɔltɛm. | Misɔndastandin lɛk "i so les", "i nɔ de ɛp wit di os wok". |
| Self-blame: tinkin laik "A bi lod fo evribodi", "A no bi gud pesin". | Fɔ fil se yu nɔ ebul fɔ du natin ɛn yu at pwɛl we pɔsin tray fɔ ɛp bɔt dɛn nɔ gri fɔ ɛp am. |
Yu ɔndastand aw dis kin kɔmpleks? Nɔbɔdi nɔ de fɔ blem dis. Dɛn ɔl tu de fil pen. De pɔrsin wae gɛt pwɛl hat kin sɔfa wit de sik, de ɔda pɔrsin kin sɔfa wit de bihayvya.
Wetin mek "put am na yu maynd" na dis kayn advays we nɔ gɛt yus?
Dis na de advays wae pɔrsin wae gɛt pwɛl hat sik go yɛri pas ɔl, ɛn wae de ambɔg pɔrsin. Nɔn pan wi nɔ go tɛl pɔsin we gɛt dayabitis fɔ "kɔntrol yu shuga lawd wan." Bikɔs wi no se na prɔblɛm wit di bɔdi in insulin wok.
Semweso, pwɛl hat na rial sik wae gɛt fɔ du wit wae di kεmεkal (nyurotransmitta) dεm na di bren nɔr de balans. "Cheerfulness" nɔmɔ nɔ go du fɔ am. I nid fɔ gɛt di rayt tritmɛnt. Fɔ fos yu pɔsin we yu lɛk fɔ "mek dɛn maynd" ɛn "tink fayn" go jɔs mek dɛn blem dɛnsɛf mɔ ɛn fil mɔ se dɛn de wan.
So wetin wi de du? Lɛ wi bil brij fɔ kip dɛn rilayshɔnship ya.
De gud nyus na dat pwɛl hat na sik wae dɛn kin mɛn fayn fayn wan wit tritmɛnt , ɛn dɛn kin gɛt padi biznɛs we dɔn brok bak tru ɔndastandin ɛn tɔk fayn fayn wan.
If yu de sɔfa wit pwɛl hat:
1. Aksept:Fɔs, gri se yu gɛt wan sik we yu de mɛn. Nɔto yu fɔlt. I nɔto wikɛd tin.
2. Tɔk: Tɛl di wan dɛn we yu lɛk wetin yu de fil. I at fɔ du. Bɔt ivin fɔ se sɔntin simpul lɛk "A fil lɛk se a de kray tide" ɔ "A rili sɔri tide" kin bi big tin. Dat worth mo dan yu silence.
3. Gɛt pɔsin we sabi du in wok: Dis na di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl. Si yu dɔktɔ . If nid de, rifer to saykayatrist ɔ sayɛnsman/kɔnsul. Mεdikeshכn εn tכk tεrapi kin εp yu fכ kכmכt pan dis sik.
4. Bi peshɛnt: Yu nɔ go si rizɔlt wantɛm wantɛm we yu bigin tritmɛnt. I go tek sɔm tɛm. Peshɛnt wit yusɛf.
If yu na pɔrsin wae de sɔfa wit pwɛl hat sik wae yu lɛk:
1. Bi aware: Rid bɔt pwɛl hat, bi aware. Ɔndastand se na sik. Dɔn yu go stɔp fɔ tek yu patna in bihayvya fɔ yusɛf.
2. Lisin: No giv advais, no go luk fo solushon. Fɔs, lisin to wetin i gɛt fɔ tɔk ɛn nɔ jɔj ɛnibɔdi. Di onli big tin na fo giv di filin se "A de wit yu."
3. Help out fo smol smol we: Insted of to tok somtin jenerol laik "let mi no if yu nid enitin," aks fo spesifik helep laik "A de go stoa, a fit get yu somtin?" "Yu go laik fo drink som ti togeda?"
4. Ɛnkɔrej am fɔ go to dɔktɔ: Insted fɔ tɔk tin lɛk "Yu kray," ɛnkɔrej am fɔ du am wit lɔv, lɛk "Wi fɔ tɔk to dɔktɔ bɔt dis? A go kam wit yu."
5. Tink bɔt yusɛf: Fɔ sɔpɔt pɔsin we gɛt pwɛl hat kin mek yu taya na yu maynd. Tek kia ɔf yu yon mental wɛlbɔdi bak. Yusɛf nid pɔsin fɔ tɔk to ɛn fɔ blo.
Strɔng rilayshɔnship kin bi big shild fɔ mek yu nɔ gɛt pwɛl hat. Yu nɔ nid fɔ go tru dis waka yu wan. Wit ɔndastandin, peshɛnt, lɔv, ɛn di rayt mɛrɛsin, una ɔl tu kin win dis "fayt we wi nɔ de si."
Mɛsej we dɛn kin kɛr go na os
- Major Depressive Disorder nɔto wikɛd tin, na rial sik wae nid tritmɛnt wae gɛt fɔ du wit bren kemistri.
- Dis "sik we yu nɔ de si" kin rili pwɛl yu rilayshɔn wit yu patna, fambul, ɛn padi dɛm.
- Nɔ gi advays lɛk, "Tink bɔt am ɛn fɔgɛt am." Bifo dat, lisin we yu nɔ jɔj.
- Fɔ tɔk to dɛnsɛf opin wan ɛn fɔ ɔndastand dɛnsɛf impɔtant fɔ mek wi gɛt padi biznɛs bak.
- If yu ɔr pɔrsin wae yu lɛk de sɔfa wit sɔm kayn pwɛl hat sik, e fayn fɔ go to dɔktɔ frɔm dɔktɔ ɛn nɔr de te.
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