Yu mɛmba di midul ej pɔsin we de na dɛn fim ɛn drama dɛn de we kin lɛf in wok wantɛm wantɛm, bay nyu spɔt motoka, bigin fɔ gɛt prɔblɛm wit in famili, ɛn tɔn in layf ɔpsayd? Yes, na dat bɔku pan wi kin tink bɔt we wi yɛri di wɔd "midlife crisis." Bɔt yu tink se dis rili na sɔntin we wi fɔ jok bɔt? Dis na wetin wi de tɔk bɔt tide. Infakt, as dɔktɔ, wi kin lɛk fɔ kɔl am naw "midlife transition" pas fɔ kɔl am "kraysis." Bikɔs dis tɛm nɔ de afɛkt ɔlman bad we. Fɔ sɔm pipul dɛn, dis kin ivin bi di bɛst tɛm fɔ gɛt bɔku tin dɛn na layf. De tin wae impɔtant pas ɔl na fɔ mek dis transishɔn tɛm nɔr tɔn to siriɔs pwɛl hat ɛn aks fɔ ɛp if nid de.
Wetin na dis midlayf kraysis?
Pan ɔl we di wɔd "midlife crisis" dɔn de frɔm di 1980 dɛm, i nɔr ɛva bi wan ɔfishal rɛkɔgnayz mɛntɛl sik . Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, na jɛnɛral wɔd fɔ sɔm chenj dɛn we kin apin na di maynd ɛn di we aw pɔsin de biev we kin apin na di midul layf.
So wen dis "middle age" bi? I kin difrɛn frɔm wan pɔsin to ɔda pɔsin. I kin apin bitwin di ej dɛm wae de bitwin 37 ɛn 50. Dis sik nɔr kin apin wantɛm wantɛm. Bɔku tɛm, i kin apin wit big big tin dɛn we kin apin na layf. Tink bɔt tin dɛn lɛk dis, .
- Di las pikin na di os na fɔ go yunivasiti ɔ fɔ mared.
- Fɔ sɛlibret big batde lɛk 40 ɔ 50.
- Di day we dɛn mama ɛn papa day.
- Big chenj na wok ɔ we yu de kam nia fɔ ritaia.
Wit tin dɛm lɛk dis, pipul dɛn kin tɛmpt fɔ luk bak pan dɛn layf ɛn aks kwɛstyɔn lɛk, "Wetin a dɔn du so fa?" ɛn "A gladi wit mi layf?"
Yu tink se dis na di sem tin fɔ man ɛn uman?
Nɔ, pan ɔl we man ɛn uman kin gɛt dis midlayf chenj, di we aw i kin sho insɛf rili difrɛn.
We i kam pan man dɛn:
Di "buy a red sports car" tori we wi bin don tok abaut na exampul of wan stereotype we rilet to man. Pan ɔl we nɔto ɔlman tan lɛk dat, man dɛn de tink bɔku bɔt dɛn sakrifays, mɔ di sakrifays we dɛn gɛt na wokples. Dɛn kin tink bɔt tin dɛn lɛk, "A nɔ bin rich usay a bin want fɔ de?" ɔ "Usay a tinap we yu kɔmpia am wit ɔda pipul dɛn?" ɛn dɛn kin tray tranga wan fɔ pruv dɛnsɛf ɛn sho di wɔl se dɛn dɔn gɛt sakrifays.
We i kam pan uman dɛn:
Bɔku tɛm, uman dɛn, ilɛksɛf dɛn de wok, kin mɛzhɔ dɛn valyu tru famili rilayshɔnship. Dat min se, "A bi gud uman?", "A bi gud mama?" We dɛn pikin dɛn big ɛn kɔmɔt na os, dɛn kin fil se dɛn men wok dɔn dɔn, ɛn dɛn kin fil lɛk, “Udat mi na naw?” "A don los mai aidentiti?"
Yu tink se dis na rili nɔmal stej na layf?
Yɛs. Bɔrku sayɛnsman dɛm naw de si dis as nɔmal divɛlɔpmɛnt stej na layf. Jɔs lɛk aw pikin ɛn yɔŋ tɛm, midul ej na jɔs ɔda stej we wi ɔl kin pas. Na tɛm we wi kin bigin fɔ tink bak bɔt di tin dɛn we wi fɔ put fɔs ɛn di tin dɛn we wi want fɔ du na layf.
If yu kin si dis nɔto as kraysis, bɔt as di bɛst chans fɔ stat di sɛkɔn innings na yu layf, na di rayt tin fɔ du.
Bɔku gud tin kin apin insay dis tɛm. Jɔs tink bɔt am, .
- Afta di wok fɔ mɛn pikin dɛn dɔn, uman dɛn kin gɛt maynd fɔ du digri ɔ fɔ bigin nyu biznɛs we dɛn bin de drim bɔt frɔm we dɛn smɔl bɔt dɛn nɔ bin ebul fɔ du.
- Man dɛn, instead fɔ de na wokples, dɛn dɔn bigin fɔ ɛp fɔ du wok na os, bigin fɔ wok na gadin, de gi dɛn layf to art, ɛn spɛn mɔ tɛm wit dɛn pikin dɛn.
- Uman dɛn kin bigin fɔ du tin fɔ dɛn yon gladi at, dɛn kin tink se, "A dɔn ɔlwayz du mi duty to ɔlman, naw a nid fɔ tink bɔt misɛf bak." Fɔ ɛgzampul, dɛn kin nɔ gri fɔ kia fɔ dɛn granpikin dɛn ɔltɛm ɛn bifo dat, dɛn kin travul wit dɛn padi dɛn.
Aw yu go no if dis de tɔn to pwɛl hat?
Dis na di impɔtant tin we wi ɔl nid fɔ no bɔt. Pan ɔl we di midlayf transishɔn na nɔmal tin, sɔmtɛm i kin divɛlɔp to siriɔs pwɛl hat (Major Depression) . Si if yu ɔr pɔrsin wae de nia yu gɛt dɛn sik ya.
| Di kwaliti we pɔsin gɛt | Tɔk bɔt |
|---|---|
| Di chenj dɛn we de apin na di it we dɛn de it | I nɔ kin want fɔ it wantɛm wantɛm ɔ i kin it pasmak. |
| Slip kin chenj | Nɔ slip ɔr de slip pasmak, fil taya ɔltɛm. |
| Filin fɔ fil bad ɛn nɔ gɛt op | Fɔ fil se yu nɔ gɛt op fɔ layf, fɔ tink bɔt tin dɛn we nɔ gɛt op. |
| Nɔ rɛst ɛn vɛks | Nɔ rɛst fɔ no rizin, vɛks ɔltɛm. |
| Fɔ fil se yu nɔ gɛt wan yus ɛn fɔ fil gilti | Fɔ tink se pɔsin nɔ gɛt wan valyu ɛn i nɔ ebul fɔ du natin. |
| Nɔ gladi fɔ tin dɛn we pipul dɛn bin de ɛnjɔy trade | Nɔ gladi fɔ ɛnitin, ivin di tin dɛn we i bin de ɛnjɔy fɔ du ɛn mami ɛn dadi biznɛs. |
| Pen na di bɔdi | Di sayn dɛm na yu bɔdi lɛk ed we de at ɛn bɛlɛ we nɔ de stɔp pan ɔl we yu de tek mɛrɛsin. |
| Tink bɔt fɔ dɔn yu layf | Dis na tin we rili denja ɛn we kin apin kwik kwik wan. Fɔ tink bɔt ɔ tray fɔ dɔn yu layf. |
If yu ɔr pɔrsin wae yu sabi gɛt wan ɔr mɔr pan dɛn sik ya, duya nɔr ignore am. Fɔ tru, yu go si dɔktɔ.
Wetin fɔ du if yu fɔdɔm pan pwɛl hat?
Di gud nyus na dat, pwɛl hat sik na sik wae dɛn kin trit ɛn kin wɛl ɔl . Tu men tritmɛnt dɛn de fɔ am.
1. Tɔk Tɛrapi / Saykotɛrapi: Fɔ lan fɔ manej yu filin ɛn tink bay we yu tɔk to kwalifay kɔstɔma ɔ saykayatrist na wan we we rili fayn.
2. Antidipreshan Mεdikeshכn: Na mεdikeshכn dεm we de bεlεns di aktiviti fכ di nyurotransmit dεm na di bren. Dɛn fɔ tek dɛn tin ya nɔmɔ if dɔktɔ tɛl dɛn fɔ du am .
Bɔrku stɔdi dɔn sho se pɔrsin wae gɛt siriɔs pwɛl hat kin wɛl kwik ɛn kɔmplit wan if i yuz dɛn tu tritmɛnt ya togɛda. Bɔt dat na to di dɔktɔ we de chɛk yu sik.
So, if yu gɛt smɔl dawt bɔt dis, nɔ shem ɔ fred.Tɔk to yu famili dɔktɔ ɔr dɔktɔ we de mɛn yu maynd. Dat na di big ɛp we yu go gi yusɛf.
Mɛsej we dɛn kin kɛr go na os
- Midlayf transishɔn na nɔmal pat pan layf. I nɔ nid fɔ bi kraysis.
- Di we aw dis tɛm kin afɛkt uman ɛn man kin difrɛn.
- Nɔ si dis as sɔntin we de mek yu at pwɛl, bɔt na gud chans fɔ bigin nyu chapta na yu layf ɛn lan nyu tin dɛn.
- De tin wae impɔtant pas ɔl na fɔ tek tɛm if dis kin kam to pwɛl hat.
- If yu de gɛt sɔm kayn pwɛl hat sik, lɛk wae yu de fil bad pasmak, yu nɔr de slip fayn, ɛn yu de bost wit layf, nɔr west yu tɛm ɛn go to dɔktɔ kwik kwik wan.
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