I nɔ izi fɔ yu fɔ tɔk to yu pikin we dɔn pas 12 ia? (Adolescent Communication) Lɛ wi tɔk bɔt dis!

Adu! Yu pikin we na bin pikin na yu os dɔn big naw ɛn bi titi, nɔto so? Di tɛm frɔm we dɛn ol tɛn ia to ettin ia na tɛm we big chenj dɛn kin chenj na dɛn layf, ɛn fɔ tru, na wi mama ɛn papa dɛn layf. I nɔ tan lɛk bifo, fɔ tɔk to dɛn, fɔ ɔndastand dɛn kin bi smɔl prɔblɛm sɔntɛnde. Bɔt nɔ wɔri, dis na sɔntin we bɔku mama ɛn papa dɛn kin gɛt. Lɛ wi tɔk mɔ bɔt dis tide, aw fɔ mek wi padi biznɛs wit wi pikin dɛn bɛtɛ insay dis tɛm.

Wetin mek i impɔtant fɔ tɔk to pɔsin we i ol dis ej?

Yu go mɛmba se we dɛn bin smɔl, yu pikin bin de aks yu fɔ ɔltin. Bɔt naw dɛn dɔn ol smɔl. Dɛn kin spɛn bɔku pan dɛn tɛm na do na os – na skul, na ɛkstra kɔrikulu, sɔntɛm dɛn kin du ɔda wok dɛn, ɔ wit dɛn padi dɛn. Dis na di kayn we aw dis ej tan. Dɛn de bigin fɔ si di wɔl fɔ dɛnsɛf smɔl smɔl ɛn fɔm dɛn yon opinion.

Bɔt, dis na di tɛm we dɛn nid yu sɔpɔt ɛn atɛnshɔn mɔ. I rili impɔtant fɔ fɛn tɛm fɔ tɔk to dɛn smɔl smɔl ɔl di de. Na da tɛm de dɛn kin tɛl yu bɔt wetin dɛn de tink, prɔblɛm dɛn, ɛn di tin dɛn we dɛn kin gladi fɔ. Tink bɔt am, prɔblɛm bin de na skul, smɔl nɔ gri wit dɛn padi, ɔ dɛn lan nyu tin ɛn rili intres pan am – dɛn nid pɔsin we dɛn go abop pan fɔ tɔk to ɛn fɔ mek i izi fɔ dɛn lod. Di mɔ da pɔsin de na yu, na di mɔ dɛn go gɛt trɛnk na dɛn layf.

"I tan lɛk se wi pikin dɛn kin gɛt wing we dɛn big. Bɔt te dɛn wing dɛn de strɔng, wi nid fɔ de de fɔ sho dɛn di rayt we fɔ flay."

Aw wi kin ebul fɔ tɔk to wi smɔl pikin dɛn fayn fayn wan?

Dis na di prɔblɛm we bɔku pipul dɛn gɛt. Yu kin tink bak bɔt tin dɛn lɛk, "I nɔ de lisin to mi," "I nɔ de ansa we a aks am sɔntin." Lɛ wi luk sɔm advays dɛn fɔ dis.

1. Sɛt tɛm fɔ tɔk.

Ilɛksɛf yu bizi ɔl di de, put smɔl tɛm fɔ yu pikin. Sɔntɛm we yu de it dina, ɔ tɛn to fayvtin minit bifo yu pikin go slip. Di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl na fɔ mek dɛn fil lɛk se yu rili intres ɛn lisin to wetin dɛn gɛt fɔ tɔk. Put di fon, ɔf di TV, ɛn gi yu pikin ɔl yu atɛnshɔn.

2. Tɔk to di pikin, nɔto fɔ prich to dɛn.

Dis na di say we wi kin go rɔng bɔku tɛm. Wi tink se wi de tich dɛn gud tin dɛn. Bɔt we wi nɔ no, wi kin bigin fɔ prich to dɛn, ɛn gi dɛn advays ɔltɛm. We dat apin, pikin dɛn nɔ kin want fɔ tɔk. Fɔ tɔk to pipul dɛn na tu we. Lisin to dɛn opinion, mek dɛn gɛt wetin dɛn gɛt fɔ tɔk. Bifo yu se, "Lisin to mi," aks se, "Wetin yu tink bɔt dis?"

3. Aks kweshon we go pas "yes" or "no".

If yu aks, "Skul gud?" di ansa kin jɔs bi "yes" ɔ "nɔ." Di tɔk nɔ de go pas dat. Bifo dat, aks kwɛstyɔn dɛn we nɔ gɛt wan bɔt.

• "Tel mi wetin bi di bes/worst tin we hapun fo skul tide?"
• "Wetin yu tink bɔt di nyu padi?"
• "Yu fit tel mi likl abaut yu fiuja op?"

We dɛn aks dɛn kwɛstyɔn dɛn lɛk dis, dɛn fɔ tink, ɛksplen, ɛn ansa. Dɔn di tɔk go apin ɔtomɛtik wan.

4. Tek advantej of evri moment we una get togeda, wen yu de rayd motoka.

Sɔntɛnde, i kin izi fɔ mek pikin dɛn tɔk we dɛn de du ɔda tin pas fɔ tɔk to dɛnsɛf fes-to-fes. Tɔk na motoka we yu de drayv go skul ɔ kɛr dɛn go na klas. Da we de, dɛn nɔ go fil lɛk se dɛn de mɔna dɛn. Dɔn bak, una kin mek chans fɔ tɔk to dɛnsɛf we una de ple gem togɛda ɔ we una de du homwok.

5. Yu fɔ put yusɛf insay ɛn intres pan dɛn tin dɛn bak.

If yu pikin sabi spɔt, go wach dɛn gem dɛn. Atɛnd wan skul ivent. Tɔk bɔt di siŋ ɛn fim dɛn we dɛn lɛk. Aks dɛm bɔt wetin de apin na di wɔl ɔ wetin dɛn tink bɔt nyus stori na nyuspepa. We una de tɔk bɔt kɔmɔn tin dɛn lɛk dis, di padi biznɛs bitwin una go strɔng mɔ ɛn mɔ.

Aw di langwej yus ɛn kɔmyunikeshɔn tan lɛk pan pikin dɛn we gɛt dis ej?

Na dis ej, bitwin 13 ɛn 18 ia, pikin dɛn langwej skil ɛn kɔmyunikeshɔn stayl de kam nia di wan dɛn we big pipul dɛn gɛt. Dɛn wɔd dɛn, di we aw dɛn de mek di sɛntɛns, ɛn di we aw dɛn ɔndastand dɛn, kin bi mɔ kɔmpleks.

Wɔd dɛn ɛn ɔndastandin

• Ɔndastand mɛtafɔs: Dɛn nɔ kin ɔndastand di dairekt minin fɔ wɔd dɛn nɔmɔ, bɔt dɛn kin ɔndastand bak di minin we dɛn min, di sem tin dɛn, ɛn di mɛtafɔs dɛn.
• Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, wi se to di stori se, "I tan lɛk se yu trowe tɔl insay di wata." I nɔ min se dɛn trowe tɔl na di wata, i min se i bin rili gladi ɛn fri. Semweso, Inglish gɛt idiom dɛn bak . Fɔ ɛgzampul, if yu se "hit di nel na di ed," i min se "yu tɔk di rayt tin." If yu se "on thin ice," i min se "yu de na denja situeshɔn." Dɛn ɔndastand tin dɛn lɛk dat.
• Na di sem tin wit similes . Wi se "strong lɛk rɔk." Dɛn ɔndastand tin dɛn lɛk "taf lɛk nel" ɛn "klin lɛk wisɛl."
• Mɛtafɔs na di sem. We wi se "na nɛt ɔwl," wi min se i de slip na nɛt. Dɛn kin ɔndastand tin dɛn lɛk "she's a night owl," "dat ples bin bi zoo," ɛn ɔda tin dɛn.
• Kɔmpleks sɛntɛns: Dɛn kin ɔndastand ɛn yuz kɔmpleks sɛntaks strɔkchɔ. Dɛn ɔndastand bak se tin dɛn lɛk pɔntueshɔn impɔtant.

Kɔmyunikeshɔn pas wɔd

Fɔ tɔk to pipul dɛn nɔto jɔs fɔ tɔk. I de sho bak aw pikin de tink bɔt insɛf, di padi biznɛs we i gɛt wit in padi dɛn, ɛn aw i de si big pipul dɛn ɛn pipul dɛn we gɛt pawa.

Insay dis tɛm, dɛn de luk fɔ dɛn yon aydentiti. Dɛn de tray fɔ divɛlɔp dɛn yon aidia, dɛn yon wɔl, fa frɔm dɛn famili. Dɛn dɔn bigin fɔ tink gud wan bɔt wetin rayt ɛn wetin rɔŋ, ɛn bɔt tin dɛn we gɛt fɔ du wit gud abit dɛn. Ɔl dis kin afɛkt di we aw dɛn kin tɔk ɛn tɔk to ɔda pipul dɛn.

Ustɛm wi fɔ aks dɔktɔ ɔ spɛshal pɔsin fɔ ɛp wi?

Bɔku tɛm, dɛn kin no di prɔblɛm we pikin gɛt fɔ tɔk to in langwej ɔ fɔ tɔk to am bifo i rich dis ej. Bɔt sɔntɛnde, nyu prɔblɛm kin kam pan dis ej, ɔr prɔblɛm we bin dɔn de bifo kin kam fɔ no.

• Kɔntakt wit skul ticha dɛn ɔltɛm: Tɔk to ticha dɛn bɔt aw yu pikin sabi langwej ɛn aw i de lan. If ticha dɛn tink se dɛn gɛt disabiliti fɔ lan langwej , dɛn kin nid fɔ du fɔmal tɛst fɔ chɛk.
• Dɛn tɛst ya kin gɛt fɔ du wit tɛst fɔ yɛri , fɔ chɛk aw i de lan bɔt pɔsin in maynd (spɛshal tɛst we de luk aw di pikin de lan ɛn aw dɛn de du tin wit in maynd), ɛn fɔ ebul fɔ no aw i de tɔk ɛn aw i de tɔk .
• Spɛshal prɔblɛm dɛn we kin apin we pɔsin de tɔk to pipul dɛn:
• If yu pikin de tɔk smɔl smɔl we i de tɔk, yu fɔ sɛn am to dɔktɔ we de mɛn pipul dɛn we de tɔk ɛn langwej na skul (we na spɛshal pɔsin we sabi bɔt di prɔblɛm dɛn we de mek i nɔ ebul fɔ tɔk ɛn langwej).
• If yu gɛt prɔblɛm wit yu vɔys, lɛk fɔ de ala lawd lawd wan, yu de blo , ɔ yu de krak krak, i go fayn fɔ go to dɔktɔ we de mɛn yu yay .

"Na so i bi fo dis ej? O na somtin mo?" - Aw yu de no am?

As mama ɛn papa, wi kin fil lɛk se i rili at fɔ tɔk to wi pikin dɛn ɛn kɔntrol dɛn dɛn tɛm ya. Infakt, i nɔmal fɔ mek pikin dɛn we gɛt dis ej chalenj dɛn mama ɛn papa smɔl, tray fɔ gɛt dɛn yon opinion, ɛn agens pipul dɛn we gɛt pawa. Na pat pan "teen rebellion," dat na, di ribel nature of youth.

Bɔt if di we aw di pikin de biev de mek bad bad tin dɛn de ambɔg di nɔmal tin dɛn we dɛn kin du na di os , ɔ if dɛn kin fɛt ɛn fɛt-fɛt bɔku tɛm, i kin pas jɔs di nɔmal tin dɛn we dɛn kin du we dɛn de titi.

If yu fil se yu padi biznɛs wit yu pikin nɔ go ebul fɔ bia ɛn ilɛk aw yu tray tranga wan, tin nɔ de bɛtɛ, mek shɔ se yu tɔk to yu famili dɔktɔ ɔ pɔsin we sabi advays yu bɔt dis. Nɔ ɛva shem fɔ aks fɔ ɛp.

Di tin dɛn we impɔtant pas ɔl fɔ mɛmba (Take-Home Message) .

A op se yu dɔn gɛt sɔm sɛns frɔm wetin wi dɔn tɔk bɔt. Fɔ dɔn, a gɛt dis fɔ se:

• Peshɛnt na di men tin: Dis tɛm ya nɔ kin izi. Bɔt peshɛnt.
• Lisin: Lisin to wetin yu pikin de tɔk ɛn wetin i nɔ de tɔk. Tray fɔ ɔndastand dɛn.
• Kip di layn dɛn fɔ tɔk to pipul dɛn opin:Ilɛk wetin na di prɔblɛm, yu fɔ tɔk to dɛn ɛn mek yu biliv se dɛn go ebul fɔ tɔk to yu.
• Dis tɛm nɔ go las sote go: Dis tɛm we nɔ izi go pas insay sɔm dez. Bɔt di strɔng padi biznɛs we yu go bil insay dis tɛm go las fɔ yu layf.
• Nɔto yu wan de: Nɔto yu wan gɛt dɛn kayn prɔblɛm ya. If nid de, go to dɔktɔ, pɔsin we de gi advays, ɔ pɔsin we yu kin abop pan fɔ ɛp yu.
• Lɔv ɛn ɔndastandin: Di tin we pas ɔl na fɔ gi yu pikin di lɔv, sɔpɔt, ɛn ɔndastandin ɔltɛm. Dat na di big big trɛnk we dɛn gɛt fɔ pas dis kɔmplikɛt tɛm.

A op se dis atikul dɔn ɛp yu fɔ mek yu gɛt tayt padi biznɛs wit yu smɔl pikin!

` Yɔŋ pikin dɛm, kɔmyunikeshɔn, mama ɛn papa, langwej divɛlɔpmɛnt, tɔk, yɔŋ pipul dɛm, maynd wɛlbɔdi