Tinij Kɔmyunikeshɔn wit Yu 13-18 Ia Pikin: Lɛ Wi Go Tɔk bɔt Dis

Yu gɛt big pikin na yu os naw, dat na smɔl pikin we ol bitwin 13 ɛn 18 ia? Kam on, dat ej na rili speshal and bit komplikayt taim. Na wan say, dɛn rili smat, dɛn de lan nyu tin dɛn, ɛn bigin fɔ si di wɔl. Bɔt dɛn na big big briz na dɛn maynd. Dɛn padi dɛn na dɛn wɔl. Dɛn kin spɛn bɔku pan dɛn tɛm wit dɛn na skul, fɔ du tin dɛn we nɔ de na di skul, ɛn sɔntɛm na smɔl wok. So, di tɛm we wi kin spɛn fɔ tɔk to dɛn na os kin smɔl. Bɔt as mama ɛn papa, i rili, rili impɔtant fɔ mek wi tɔk to dɛn smɔl ɛvride, sheb aydia, ɛn lisin to dɛn. If nɔto dat, dɛn kin fil lɛk se dɛn de kɔmɔt nia wi smɔl smɔl, lɛk se dɛn wangren de na wan ɔda wɔl . So, mek wi tok tide abaut wetin wi nid to du fo kip dis rileshonship strong, okay?

Na sɔm advays dɛn ya fɔ tɔk to yu we go mek yu gɛt tayt padi biznɛs wit yu smɔl pikin.

Okay, so aw wi go kip gud, strɔng rilayshɔn wit yɔŋ pikin we nɔ de na os bɔku pan di de ɛn we de tray fɔ bil in yon wɔl? Fɔs, i kin tan lɛk se i nɔ izi, bɔt smɔl smɔl tin dɛn kin rili mek big difrɛns. Na sɔm advays dɛn ya:

• Una sɛt smɔl tɛm ɛvride, sɔntɛm we yu de it ivintɛm it ɔ bifo yu go slip, fɔ lisin to wetin yu pikin dɔn tɔk ɛn du insay di de. Di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl na fɔ mek i fil lɛk se yu rili de lisin . Put di fon fa, ɔf di TV, ɛn luk am na in yay we yu de tɔk to am. Da we de i go ɔndastand se, ‘Ei, wetin a de tɛl Mama/Papa ​​rili impɔtant.’ Mɛmba se yu nɔ want fɔ gi yu pikin lɛkshɔn, lɛk se yu de tɛl am ɔltɛm se, ‘Nɔ du dis, nɔ du dat,’ bɔt bifo dat , yu want fɔ tɔk to am fayn fayn wan . Rɛspɛkt wetin i de tɔk.

• Fɔ aks kwɛstyɔn dɛn we dɛn kin jɔs ansa wit ‘yes’ ɔ ‘nɔ’ nɔ kin ɛp. Na da tɛm de di tɔk kin dɔn. Bifo dat, aks kwɛstyɔn dɛn we go mek dɛn ebul fɔ tink ɛn ɛksplen. Fɔ ɛgzampul, instead fɔ aks se, ‘Skul bin go fayn tide?’, aks se, ‘ Wetin na di spɛshal tin we apin na skul tide, bɔy pikin/grɔn pikin? ’ ɔ ‘Tɛl mi bɔt nyu tin we yu lan tide, misɛf go lɛk fɔ no.’ Da we de, dɛn kin tɔk mɔ bɔt wetin de na dɛn maynd.

• Fɔ travul wit motoka, bɔs, ɔ tri-wil motoka na fayn tɛm fɔ dɛn kayn tɔk dɛn ya. Tink bɔt am, bikɔs una nɔ de luk unasɛf fes to fes, sɔntɛnde dɛn kin izi fɔ tɔk ivin di tin dɛn we kin rili fil bad we de na dɛn maynd. Da tɛm de, jɔs bi pɔsin we de lisin gud gud wan. Nɔ jɔj.

• Tray fɔ atɛnd dɛn spɔt mats, skul ivent, kɔnsɛt, ɛn ɔda tin dɛn Ple gem wit dɛn, wach fim, sɔntɛm ivin fɛn tɛm fɔ tɔk bɔt di tin dɛn we de apin naw ɛn lisin to dɛn opinion. Dis go sho se yu nɔto jɔs ‘ɔs’ na dɛn layf, bɔt yu na pɔsin we de de wit dɛn we dɛn de gladi ɛn sɔri.Dɛn go fil da we de. We dɛn dɔn bil da trɔst de, i go izi fɔ tɔk to yu.

Aw di we aw dɛn kin tɔk kin chenj we dɛn yɔŋ? Wi ɔndastand dat?

Na dis yɔŋ ej, bɔku tɛm arawnd di tɛm we dɛn de na sɛkɔndari skul, di we aw pikin dɛn kin tɔk ɛn aw dɛn kin yuz wɔd dɛn kin go bifo pas big pipul dɛn. As dɛn de machɔ na dɛn maynd , di we aw dɛn de yuz langwej kin kɔmpleks mɔ ɛn mɔ. Dɛn kin tɔk bɔt ɛn ɔndastand abstrakt tin dɛm, dat na kɔnsɛpt dɛm we dɛn nɔ go ebul fɔ tɔch wit an ɛn na dɛn maynd nɔmɔ dɛn kin ɔndastand (e.g., lɔv, jɔstis, fridɔm). Dis kin bi bak wit fichural langwej. Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, dɛn nɔ kin ɔndastand di rayt minin fɔ wɔd dɛn nɔmɔ, bɔt dɛn kin ɔndastand bak di dip minin ɛn di minin dɛn we dɛn kin gi.

Jɔs tink, wi de yuz dɛn tin ya we wi de tɔk ɛvride. Yɔŋ pikin dɛn kin ɔndastand dɛn tin ya ɛn bigin fɔ yuz dɛn bak:

• Idioms laik "hit the nail on the head": We yu se "hit di nail on the head," yu no rili min fo hit nel wit hama. Yu min "said/dud exactly di rait tin." We yu se "pan tin ays," yu min "fɔ de na denja sityueshɔn." Dɛn kin ɔndastand wɔd dɛn lɛk dis.
• Similes: We yu kɔmpia wan tin to ɔda tin, lɛk ‘pure as milk’, ‘strong as an ox’, ‘cunning as a fox’, dɛn kin grap di aidia.
• Metafors: ‘She’s a night owl’ min pɔsin we de slip na nɛt. ‘Dat ples na bin zoo’ min ples we gɛt bɔku nɔys, we gɛt chaotic. ‘Taym na mɔni’ min se tɛm rili valyu. Dɛn kin ɔndastand tin dɛn lɛk dis, we dɛn nɔ kin se ‘lɛk’ dairekt wan, bɔt dɛn kin kɔl wan di ɔda wan.

So, ivin we dɛn de ɛksplen sɔntin, dɛn kin yuz mɛtafɔs, smɔl we na indaykt we, pas fɔ tɔk am dairekt wan. Dis na sayn fɔ se dɛn gɛt sɛns . Dɛn fɔ ebul fɔ ɔndastand di dip minin fɔ wɔd dɛn, di difrɛn kɔntɛks dɛn we dɛn yuz dɛn, ivin aw fɔ yuz pɔntueshɔn, ɛn ebul fɔ ɔndastand ɛn yuz kɔmpleks sɛntaks strɔkchɔ dɛn , dat na aw dɛn put wɔd dɛn togɛda fɔ mek lɔng sɛntɛns dɛn we gɛt minin. Dis na di sayn dɛm fɔ dɛn langwej divɛlɔpmɛnt.

Bɔt fɔ tɔk to pipul dɛn nɔto jɔs fɔ yuz wɔd dɛn ɛn ɔndastand dɛn, nɔto so? Bɔku ɔda tin dɛn kin afɛkt am. Ɛspɛshali di we aw yɔŋ pikin dɛn de tink bɔt dɛnsɛf, dɛn padi dɛn, ɛn di we aw dɛn de si pipul dɛn we gɛt pawa lɛk ticha ɛn mama ɛn papa.

Mɛmba se, insay dis tɛm dɛn de tray tranga wan fɔ bi indipɛndɛnt frɔm dɛn famili, fɔ bi dɛn yon pɔsin. Dɛn yon aydentiti.Dɛn de tray fɔ bil. Kwɛstyɔn dɛn lɛk ‘Udat mi? Wetin a want?’ de na dɛn maynd. Dɔn bak, as dɛn bigin fɔ tink abstrakt, dɛn kin bigin fɔ intres pan gud abit dɛn na di wɔl – fɔ ɛgzampul, tin dɛn lɛk sɔshal injɔstis, rayt ɛn rɔŋ, po – ɛn bigin fɔ gɛt dɛn yon opinion. Ɔl dis kin afɛkt di we aw dɛn de tink, di we aw dɛn de tɔk to wi, ɛn di we aw dɛn de tink. So, i impɔtant fɔ ɔndastand ɛn alaw dis difrɛns pan dɛn.

Sɔntɛnde, dɛn kin nid ɛp: us kayn tɛm?

Wi ɔl want mek wi pikin dɛn wɛl. Bɔt sɔntɛnde, dɛn kin gɛt prɔblɛm wit di we aw dɛn de tɔk to dɛnsɛf ɔ we dɛn de lan. We dɛn kayn tin ya apin, i impɔtant fɔ mek yu du di rayt tin ɛn yu nɔ fɔ fred.

I impɔtant fɔ tɔk to yu pikin in ticha dɛn ɔltɛm bɔt aw dɛn sabi langwej ɛn aw dɛn de go bifo na skul. Ticha dɛn kin spɛn bɔku pan dɛn tɛm wit yu pikin. Dɛn kin notis ivin di smɔl smɔl chenj dɛn we yu pikin kin chenj. Sɔntɛnde, ticha dɛn kin tink se yu pikin gɛt langwej-based lanin disabiliti , we na prɔblɛm fɔ lan we kin kam bikɔs i nɔ kin izi fɔ ɔndastand ɔ yuz langwej. If dɛn kayn saspek ya kam, dɛn go nid fɔ du sɔm kɔmprɛhnsiv tɛst fɔ no ustɛm na di prɔblɛm ɛn gi di pikin di ɛp we dɛn nid.

Dɛn tɛst ya kin gɛt fɔ du wit:

• Tɛst fɔ yɛri – bikɔs sɔmtɛm langwej prɔblɛm kin apin bak bikɔs ɔf prɔblɛm wit yɛri.
• Saykoedyukeshɔnal asɛsmɛnt: Dis na smɔl kɔmplikɛt nem, bɔt insay simpul wɔd dɛn, i involv fɔ asɛs di pikin in yon lanin stayl ɛn aw dɛn kɔgnitiv prɔses de wok tru standad tɛst. Dis kin ɛp fɔ no di tin dɛn we di pikin ebul fɔ du ɛn di tin dɛn we i nɔ ebul fɔ du.
• Speech-language evaluation: Dis de tɛst di we aw di pikin de tɔk, kɔl wɔd, mek sɛntɛns, ɛn ɔndastand langwej.

Fɔ ɛgzampul, if yu pikin gɛt wan patikyula prɔblɛm wit in kɔmyunikeshɔn lɛk fɔ tɔk smɔl smɔl , usay dɛn kin miks wɔd dɛn ɔ dɛn kin rid di sem lɛta/wɔd bɔku tɛm, yu fɔ rifer am to Speech-Language Pathologist na skul (sɔm skul dɛn gɛt wan, ɔ yu kin fɛn wan na do). Na spɛshal pɔsin we de chɛk di prɔblɛm dɛn we pɔsin kin gɛt we i de tɔk ɛn tɔk ɛn gi am di tritmɛnt we i nid, ɛksesaiz, ɛn ɔda tin dɛn. Di kwik we dɛn no dɛn tin ya, na di mɔ i izi fɔ trit.

Dɔn bak, we yu vɔys chenj, fɔ ɛgzampul , we yu de tɔk lawd lawd wan , we yu de blo , ɔ yu vɔys we at fɔ tɔk (raspiness).If yu gɛt vokal kwaliti ishu, nɔ jɔs dismis am as ‘sɔntin we kin apin we yu ol’. I fayn fɔ mek yu go du dɔktɔ we de mɛn yu ɔt ɔ ENT spɛshal ɛgzam . Sɔntɛm rizin de fɔ dat. Bɔt bɔku tɛm, dɛn kin no bɔt langwej ɛn tɔk prɔblɛm we dɛn yɔŋ, bifo dɛn rich da kayn ej de, ɛn dɛn kin bigin di tritmɛnt we dɛn nid. Bɔt sɔm tin dɛn kin apin leta bak, so i fayn fɔ de wach.

Bɔku tɛm, mama ɛn papa dɛn kin tink se dis yɔŋ ej na tɛm we tin nɔ kin izi fɔ dɛn pikin dɛn ɛn dɛn kin gɛt cham-mɔt. Sɔm pipul dɛn kin ivin tink se i ‘nɔmal’ fɔ lɛ dɛn chalenj wetin dɛn mama ɛn papa de tink, nɔ gri wit di lɔ dɛn we dɛn de fala na di famili, ɛn insist pan dɛn yon opinion insay dis tɛm. Na pat pan dɛn joyn fɔ fɛn indipɛndɛns. Bɔt mɛmba se if di we aw yu pikin de biev de mek di famili nɔ gɛt bɛtɛ pis ɛn di tin dɛn we dɛn de du ɛvride , ɔ if dɛn de put ɔlman na di os ɔnda prɛshɔn ɔltɛm, i nɔ go jɔs bi nɔmal tin we dɛn de tɔn agens di we aw dɛn de du tin ɔ ‘pikin in fɔlt’. If yu rili fil se de rilayshɔn bitwin yu ɛn yu pikin de tray tranga wan, ɛn yu fil lɛk se yu nɔ go ebul fɔ handle dis fɔ yusɛf, tɔk to yu famili dɔktɔ ɔr pikin saikɔlɔjis/saykayatrist bɔt am. Shem nɔ de ɛva de fɔ aks fɔ ɛp, na sayn fɔ sho aw yu bisin bɔt di pikin.

So, wetin na di impɔtant mɛsej we wi fɔ kɛr go na os frɔm ɔl dɛn tin ya? (Mɛsej we dɛn kin tek go na os)

So, a bin tink se dis go ɛp yu, mi, ɛn wi ɔl fɔ ɔndastand di wɔl fɔ dɛn yɔŋ pikin ya bɛtɛ smɔl. Di tɔk ɛn tɔk to yu pikin we ol 13 to 18 ia na os nɔto jɔs fɔ chenj wɔd dɛn bak ɛn kam bak. I fɔ tan lɛk tu-way strit . Yu fɔ tɔk ɛn mek dɛn tɔk. Yu fɔ lisin ɛn dɛn fɔ lisin to yu. Dat balans impɔtant.

We yu mɛmba dɛn tin ya, yusɛf go mek yu tayt padi biznɛs wit yu smɔl pikin:

• Lisin wit peshɛnt ɛn wit opin maynd: Dɛn kin gɛt bɔku tin fɔ tɔk ɛn sheb. Sɔm pan am kin bi nyu tin to wi, ɛn i kin difrɛn frɔm wi yon aidia. Bɔt if wi peshɛnt fɔ lisin to wi ɛn nɔ jɔj wi, dɛn go opin dɛn at ɛn tɔk. Gi dɛn di filin se ‘mi mama/papa ɔndastand mi.’
• Aks kwɛstyɔn dɛn we gɛt opin ɛnd fɔ mek pipul dɛn tɔk to dɛnsɛf: Go pas ‘yes/no’ ansa ɛn tray fɔ ɔndastand wetin dɛn de tink, aw dɛn de fil, wetin dɛn op, ɛn wetin dɛn de fred. Aks kwɛstyɔn dɛn lɛk ‘Wetin yu tink bɔt dat?’ ɛn ‘Aw yu bin fil da tɛm de?’
• Fɔ spɛn tɛm togɛda, i fayn fɔ gɛt gold:I nɔ mata aw yu bizi, fɛn smɔl tɛm ɛvride, ivin wan tɛm insay di wik, fɔ spɛn tɛm wit dɛn fɔ du sɔntin we dɛn lɛk ɛn tɔk to dɛn. I kin bi sɔntin we simpul lɛk fɔ wach fim, fɔ go shɔt trip, ɔ fɔ ple bɔd gem. Da tɛm de togɛda na in de mek dɛn gɛt tayt padi biznɛs .
• Understand that change is a sign of growth: As they get older, their way of thinking, speaking, and tastes change. Dat na tin we nɔmal. Alaw da chenj de ɛn tray fɔ ɔndastand am. Nɔ tink se dɛn go de di sem we aw dɛn bin de we dɛn bin yɔŋ.
• If yu nid ɛp, i go fayn fɔ mek yu gɛt am: If yu ɔnɛs wan fil se yu pikin gɛt siriɔs prɔblɛm wit aw i de tɔk to am, aw i de lan, ɔ aw i de biev, nɔ wɔri bɔt am ɛn sɔfa in wan, bɔt nɔ ɛva shem fɔ aks ticha, dɔktɔ, ɔ spɛshal pipul dɛn we gɛt fɔ du wit am fɔ ɛp. Da we de, yu pikin go gɛt di rayt ɛp kwik kwik wan .

Fɔ dɔn, yu lɔv, yu ɔndastandin, ɛn yu sɔpɔt we nɔ de shek na di big trɛnk ɛn blɛsin we yu pikin gɛt fɔ sakrifays ɛn gladi fɔ naviget dis chalenj yet fayn, formativ tɛm we i yɔŋ! Nɔ ɛva fɔgɛt fɔ gi am.

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