Aw yu kin dil wit di we aw yu de fil? (Emotional Reactions) Lɛ wi tɔk bɔt dis!

Imajin dis: Na Frayde, we na di las tɛm fɔ skul. yu de na wikend trip wit yu padi, en yu geht onli 4 awa foh stat. Yu dɔn de wok tranga wan ɔl di wik, dɔn yu homwok, ɛn yu rɛdi fɔ rilaks. Dɔn di ticha tɛl yu se yu gɛt tɛst Mɔnde! Aw dat kin fil?

Yu kin fil bad bad wan, ɔ yu kin vɛks bad bad wan. Yu kin ivin fil bad. Yu kin fil bak bɔku prɛshɔn ɛn lod, lɛk, "O, aw a go stɔdi dis naw?"

Bɔt, aw yu kin ansa dis? Wetin yu de du, wetin yu de se?

Yu kin fil wantɛm wantɛm fɔ tinap ɛn ala pan di ticha se, "Dat nɔ fayn! Sɔm pan wi gɛt plan fɔ di wikɛnd." Bɔt yu no se yu fɔ kip yu mɔt te di klas dɔn – ɛn afta dat yu kin tɔk to yu padi bɔt dis.

Bɔt wetin yu go du if yu nɔto di kayn pɔsin we go ebul fɔ mek yu at kol ɛn nɔ gɛt wanwɔd? Nɔ wɔri. Ɛnibɔdi kin lan fɔ ansa fayn we i gɛt strɔng filin. Sɔm pipul dɛn jɔs nid fɔ praktis smɔl mɔ, na dat nɔmɔ.

Wi go lan fɔ ansa fayn?

Fɔ dil wit di filin dɛn fayn fayn wan, fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, na fɔ pik aw ɛn ustɛm fɔ sho aw wi de fil.

Pipul wae sabi aw fɔ manej dɛn filin no se fɔ sho aw dɛn de fil na wɛl bɔdi – bɔt aw ɛn ustɛm fɔ du am impɔtant bak. Dis kin mek dɛn ebul fɔ du sɔntin fayn fayn wan pan ɛnitin we apin:

• Dɛn no se dɛn kin disayd aw dɛn go ansa, pas fɔ lɛ di we aw dɛn de fil kɔntrol dɛn ɛn tɔk ɔ du tin dɛn we dɛn go rigrɛt leta.
• Dɛn kin ɔndastand gud gud wan ustɛm fɔ tɔk ɛn ustɛm fɔ wet smɔl bifo dɛn du wetin dɛn fil.
• Dɛn no se dɛn ansa go afɛkt wetin go apin nɛks – inklud aw ɔda pipul dɛn de trit dɛn ɛn wetin dɛn de tink bɔt dɛnsɛf.

Sɔntɛm yu dɔn si sɔmbɔdi kin fil bad pasmak, i kin du tin dɛn we kin mek yu vɛks ɔ mek yu shem fɔ am. Yu go mɔs dɔn mɛmba tɛm dɛn bak we yu yon filin dɛn bin so strɔng dat yu bin gɛt fɔ yuz ɔl yu pawa fɔ mek yu nɔ go dɔŋ da rod de.

Sɔntɛm yu mɛmba wan tɛm we yu nɔ bin ebul fɔ kɔntrol di we aw yu bin de biev. Sɔntɛm fɔ fred, fɔ vɛks, ɔ fɔ fil bad bin tek di ples. I difrɛn fɔ ɔlman. We dat apin, fɔgiv yusɛf ɛn tink bɔt aw yu bin fɔ dɔn du bɛtɛ nɛks tɛm. Tink bɔt wetin yu go du nɛks tɛm.

Sɔm bɛsis tin dɛn bɔt aw pɔsin kin fil (Emotions 101) .

Dɛn skil ya we wi kin yuz fɔ manej ɛn ansa fayn to wi filin na pat pan wan big sɛt fɔ wi filin. Wi kin kɔl dis imɔshɔnal intɛlijɛns (EQ) . Ɛni skil we mek dis EQ de tek tɛm ɛn prɛktis fɔ divɛlɔp.

Pipul dɛm we de ansa fayn dɔn ɔlrɛdi sabi sɔm bɛsik EQ skil dɛm. Bɔt dɛn tin ya na tin dɛn we ɛnibɔdi kin praktis:

Aw fɔ no bɔt aw pɔsin kin fil

Dis skil na, fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, fɔ ebul fɔ no us filin wi de fil ɛni tɛm. Dis na di mɔs besik pan di `(EQ)` skil dɛm. Sɔntɛnde, jɔs fɔ gi nem to di filin dɛn we wi de fil kin ɛp wi fɔ kɔntrol di we aw wi de fil. Imajin, yu kin fil vɛks wantɛm wantɛm, bɔt we yu no na yu maynd se, "O, a vɛks rayt naw," da vɛks de kin fil izi smɔl fɔ kɔntrol.

Ɔndastand ɛn Aksept di Imɔshɔn dɛn

Fɔ ɔndastand aw wi de fil min fɔ ɔndastand wetin mek wi de fil di we aw wi de fil. Fɔ ɛgzampul, wi kin se to wisɛf se, "A kin rili fil se a de mi wan ɛn a nɔ kin fil sef smɔl bikɔs a nɔ gɛt chans fɔ go na di kɔmpas yet, ɛn mi ɔl tu padi dɛn dɔn gɛt am." Yu dɔn ɛva fil dis kayn we?

Sɔntɛnde lɛk dis, i kin rili ɛp wi fɔ luk di we aw wi de fil di kayn we we mek sɛns. Wi kin tink se: "I nɔ wɔnda a kin fil lɛk se a de mi wan – i nɔmal fɔ fil da we de pan tin lɛk dis." Dis tan lɛk we wi de du gud to wisɛf smɔl, ɔndastand smɔl, bɔt aw wi de fil. Dis kin ɛp wi fɔ gri wit di we aw wi de fil. Wi no se dɛn rayt, ɛn natin nɔ bad wit aw wi de fil.

Fɔ gri wit di filin dɛn min fɔ no ɛn ɔndastand di filin dɛn we wi de fil, ɛn wi nɔ fɔ blem ɔda pipul dɛn ɔ wisɛf fɔ dɛn.

I nɔ gɛt yus fɔ blem ɔda pipul dɛn, se, "Na dis mek a de fil dis kayn we." I nɔ fayn bak fɔ jɔj wi yon filin ɛn se, "A nɔ ebul fɔ fil dis we" ɔ "I so bad dat a fil dis we!" Di men tin na fɔ gri wit di we aw yu de fil, nɔto fɔ lɛ i kɔmɔt na yu an. Dɔn gɛt am?

We yu dɔn sabi dɛn men tin ya, i go izi fɔ yu fɔ no wetin yu rili de du we yu fil strɔng filin. If yu praktis dɛn men tin ya, dat go ɛp yu fɔ wɛl kwik kwik wan frɔm di prɔblɛm dɛn we yu bin gɛt.

Wetin yu de du? Tink bɔt am...

Imajin dis: Dɛn dɔn tek yu padi dɛn fɔ go na kɔleji, fɔ du gud wok, ɔ fɔ go na spɔt tim. Bɔt nɔ pan dɛn tin ya nɔ apin to yu yet. We yu dɔn no, ɔndastand, ɛn gri wit wetin yu de fil, aw yu go ansa?

• Yu luk sad wen yu padi dem de roun, tink se dem go aks yu, "Wetin bad?"
• Dɛn kin gɔsip bɔt pipul dɛn we dɔn ɔlrɛdi gɛt chans, dɛn kin tɔk tin dɛn lɛk, "A nɔ ivin want fɔ go na da ɛlhol de."
• Fɔ se wetin de na yu maynd wit yu padi we yu trɔst, "A sɔri se a nɔ gɛt chans yet. Bɔt a kin de wit mi padi dɛm."
• Yu de mɛmba yusɛf se dis nɔto di ɛnd fɔ di wɔl. Yu disayd fɔ gi am smɔl tɛm, yu op se i nɔ go pwɛl yu de.

Tink bɔt ɛni wan pan dɛn tin ya we yu kin disayd fɔ du, ɛn wetin go apin to ɛni wan pan dɛn. Uswan pan dɛn ansa ya go mek di bɛst tin apin? Tink fɔ smɔl tɛm.

Wi kin disayd ɔltɛm bɔt aw wi go biev we sɔntin apin. We wi ɔndastand dat, i kin izi fɔ mek wi disayd fɔ du sɔntin we go mek wi gɛt gud rizulyt.

Faynal Mɛsej fɔ Tek-Hom

Fɔ lan fɔ ansa fayn, i nid fɔ praktis, na tru. Bɔt wi ɔl kin ebul fɔ sho aw wi de fil fayn fayn wan, ɛn wi nɔ go mek wi fil bad. Dat na sɔntin we wi fɔ rili gladi fɔ, nɔto so?

So, if yu gɛt tɛm we yu kin fil lɛk se i nɔ kin izi fɔ yu fɔ dil wit dɛn filin ya, nɔ wɔri. Praktis dɛn tin ya smɔl smɔl. Fɔs, no di rayt tin we yu de fil. Dɔn, aks yusɛf se, "Wetin mek a de fil dis kayn we?" Alaw yusɛf fɔ fil da filin de, aksept se na nɔmal tin. Dɔn, tink bɔt aw yu go ansa ɛn disayd fɔ du sɔntin.

I tan lɛk se yu de lan fɔ drayv motoka. Fɔs, i kin at, bɔt i kin izi fɔ yu as yu de yus to am. Yu kin du dis!

Imɔshɔn mɛnejɛmɛnt, imɔshɔnal riakshɔn, mental wɛlbɔdi, imɔshɔnal intɛlijɛns, EQ, strɛs mɛnejɛmɛnt, fɔ mek di maynd kol