Omanyi okwogera ekyo kyennyini ekikuli mu birowoozo, mu ngeri ey’ekitiibwa? Ka twogere ku Assertiveness!

Leero tugenda kwogera ku kintu ekikulu ennyo mu bulamu bwaffe. Kino kye kintu ekijja okukuyamba ne mikwano gyo, n’ab’omu maka go, gy’okolera, gy’osoma, mu bufunze , buli wamu. Oyo ye Assertiveness . Oboolyawo ekigambo kino wali owulidde. Mu ngeri ennyangu, kino tukiyita ``Assertiveness`` obusobozi okwogera ebiri ku birowoozo byo, ebyetaago byo, n'ebirowoozo byo mu ngeri etegeerekeka obulungi, entuufu, era ey'ekitiibwa , nga tolumya ggwe oba abalala.

Kiki ddala ekya ``Assertiveness''?

Lowooza ku kino, `(Assertiveness)` ngeri ya kwogera nnungi yokka . Kwe kusobola okwogera endowooza zo mu bwesimbu ku ggwe kennyini n’okussa ekitiibwa mu balala. Tuyolekagana n’embeera nnyingi buli lunaku. Ka kibeere okulaga omuntu obwagazi, okubuuza omusomesa ekibuuzo, oba okwogera obulungi mu yintaviyu y’omulimu oba mu yunivasite, `(Assertiveness)` kikulu nnyo.

Naye kino `(Assertiveness)` si kintu ekijja mu butonde eri buli muntu. Waliwo abantu abamu, boogera n'ensonyi nnyo (Too Passive) . Kwe kugamba, tebayogera biba mu birowoozo, era banyenya emitwe nga balaba abalala bye boogera. Waliwo n’endala ezimu, sitayiro yaabwe ya bukambwe nnyo (Too Aggressive) . Kwe kugamba, tebalowooza ku balala, era boogera ku bintu byabwe byokka ne baleekaana. Kale, kino `(Assertiveness)` kye kifo ekituufu eky’omu makkati wakati w’ebisukkiridde ebyo ebibiri.

Bino bye bimu ku bintu ebikuleetera okweyisa ``Assertive``:

• Osobola okwogera ky’olowooza, oba okwogera ky’owulira.
• Osobola okusaba ky’oyagala, ky’olina okwetaaga.
• Mu ngeri ey’ekitiibwa osobola obutakkiriziganya na balala.
• Osobola okuleeta ebirowoozo byo n’ebiteeso byo.
• Osobola okugamba nti "nedda" nga towulira musango.
• Osobola n’okwogera ku lw’omuntu omulala.

Lwaki kino kikulu nnyo gye tuli?

Empuliziganya ey’okwekakasa etuyamba okufuna kye twagala. Naye tekikoma awo. Okubeera abakakafu kitegeeza nti twewa ekitiibwa n’abalala.

Aboogezi abanywevu baweereza obubaka nti beesiga. Tebatya nnyo oba okusika abalala ennyo. Bakimanyi nti enneewulira zaabwe n’endowooza zaabwe bikulu. Balina obwesige .

Abantu abakakafu bafuna emikwano mangu. Bawuliziganya nga bawa ekitiibwa ebyetaago byabwe awamu n’eby’abalala. Era balungi mu kugonjoola obutakkaanya n’obutakkaanya. Abo abawa abalala ekitiibwa baweebwa ekitiibwa mu kuddamu.

Ensonyi esukkiridde? Bakakanyavu nnyo? Oba kituufu kyokka?

Omanya otya w'oyimiridde ku minzaani eno eya ``Assertiveness''? Bino bye bimu ku byokulabirako:

Nimali's (Too Passive): Bw'obuuza Nimali firimu ki gy'ayagala okulaba, osanga ajja kugamba nti, "Simanyi... kiki kye wandyagadde okulaba?" Ebiseera ebisinga aleka abalala okusalawo, naye oluvannyuma n’anyiiga olw’okuba teyafuna kye yali ayagala. Era awulira bubi nti mikwano gye bokka be boogera. Naye Nimali ne bw’agezaako okwegatta ku mboozi, ayogera mpola nnyo, ate abalala nga tebamanyi boogera ku ye.

Surekha (Too Aggressive): Surekha talina buzibu kwogera birowoozo bye. Naye bw’akikola, ajja nga wa ddoboozi ddene nnyo era ng’alina endowooza. Surekha y’afuga emboozi, ng’atera okusalako abalala, era tatera kuwuliriza balala bye boogera. Bw’aba takkiriziganya naawe, akutegeeza – naye ebiseera ebisinga kiyita mu kusaaga oba okulumya omuntu. Alina erinnya ly’okubeera bossy ennyo ate nga talowooza ku balala.

Chamalge (Assertive): Bw’obuuza Chamal endowooza ye, ajja kukubuulira mu bwesimbu. Bw’aba takkiriziganya naawe, ajja kukugamba – naye si mu ngeri ekussa wansi oba okukuleetera okuwulira ng’oli mukyamu. Chamal naye ayagala nnyo endowooza yo. Awuliriza by’olina okwogera. Chamal ne bw’aba takkiriziganya naawe, okyawulira ng’assa ekitiibwa mu ndowooza yo.

Kiki ekibaawo nga tukuuma ebirowoozo byaffe ku ffe (too passive)...

Abantu abasukkiridde obutakola bayinza okuwulira nti abalala babikozesa. Bayinza okulumwa, okunyiiga, oba okunyiiga.

Bw’okuuma ebirowoozo byo n’enneewulira zo nga bikubiddwa mu bucupa munda, abalala tebajja kusobola kukumanya mu butuufu n’okukutegeera. Ebirowoozo byo n'ebiteeso byo tebijja kuba na mugaso gwonna eri ttiimu.

Singa otandika okuwulira ng’ebirowoozo byo oba enneewulira zo tezitwalibwa nga za muwendo, kiyinza okukendeeza ku kwekkiririzaamu kwo . Era kiyinza okukendeeza ku mikisa gy’ebirowoozo byo ebirungi okukkirizibwa n’okuddibwamu. Kino oluusi kiyinza n'okuleeta embeera ng'okwennyamira .

Jjukira: eddoboozi lyo nalyo lya muwendo. Tokisirisa!

Kiki ekibaawo singa ogenda ng’oyitiridde okukola obusungu ku buli kimu?

Abantu abalabika ng’abasusse bayinza okukaluubirirwa okukuuma emikwano. Bayinza okusukkiridde abalala mu mboozi, ne boogera endowooza zaabwe mu ngeri ey’amaanyi ennyo era ey’amaanyi. Kino kiyinza okuleetera abalala okuwulira nti tebafaayo era nga tebassibwamu kitiibwa.

Abantu abalina sitayiro ey’obusungu bayinza okusobola okuleetera abalala okukola kye baagala, naye emirundi mingi beesanga nga abalala babagaanibwa oba nga tebabaagala. Si bwe baliEkitiibwa kigenda kiggwaawo.

Lwaki buli muntu teyeyisa ``(Assertive)''?

Lwaki abantu abamu boogera ``Assertively'' ate abalala nga ba passive nnyo oba aggressive? Ensonga emu lwaki kino kivuddeko y'engeri yaabwe . Ensonga endala y’emize gye tukola n’ebyo bye tuyitamu. Naye, tuyiga okubeera ``Assertive'', ``Passive'', oba ``Aggressive'' nga tutunuulira engeri abalala – naddala abo abatukuza – gye beeyisaamu.

Bino bye bimu ku bintu ebiyinza okuleetera omuntu okweyisa mu ngeri ey'obutakola :

• Obutabeera na bwesige mu muntu oba omugaso gw’ebirowoozo bye.
• Okulowooza ennyo ku ky’okwagala okusanyusa abalala n’okwagala abalala bakwagala.
• Okweraliikirira oba abalala banakkiriziganya n’ebirowoozo byo oba bakugaana.
• Okubeera omuwulize ennyo eri okunenya, oba okuba nga emabegako yafuna okugaanibwa ng’ebirowoozo by’omuntu tebitunuuliddwa.
• Okubeera ``Assertive'' kitegeeza obutakulaakulanya bukugu obwetaagisa.

Bino bye bintu ebiyinza okuleetera omuntu okweyisa mu ngeri ey'obukambwe ennyo :

• Okubeera nga weesiga nnyo .
• Okulowooza ennyo ku kutuukiriza ebyetaago by’omuntu n’okwogera endowooza yo yokka.
• Obutayiga kuwa kitiibwa n’okulowooza ku ndowooza oba ebyetaago by’abalala.
• Tebayize kuwuliriza balala n’okubabuuza endowooza zaabwe.

Bino bye bintu ebireetera omuntu okweyisa mu ngeri entuufu (`Assertive`) :

• Okubeera n’obwesige obulungi .
• Okukkiriza nti endowooza z’omuntu zikulu, enneewulira z’alina za muwendo, era alina eddembe okuziyogera.
• Okubeera omugumiikiriza (kwe kugamba, okusobola okukola ku kunenya, okugaanibwa, n‟okuddirira).
• Okussa ekitiibwa mu bye baagala n’ebyetaago by’abalala.
• Okubeera n'ekyokulabirako ekirungi eri `(Assertiveness)`.
• Okumanya nti endowooza zo zakkirizibwa era nti okukakasa kwo kwasiimibwa emabegako.

Tuyinza tutya okubeera aba ``Assertive'' katono?

Okubeera omukakafu kizingiramu okwegezaamu mu ngeri ezimu ez’empuliziganya n’okuba n’endowooza entuufu. Abantu abamu bazaalibwa n’obusobozi bw’okubeera abakakafu. Abalala beetaaga okwegezaamu katono . Naye, buli muntu asobola okukulaakulanya kino.

Laba engeri:

Okusooka, lowooza ku ngeri ki ku zino essatu ez’empuliziganya (`(Assertive)`, `(Passive)`, oba `(Aggressive)`) z’osinga okumanyiira. Oluvannyuma salawo oba olina obutaba na nsonyi nnyo, tolina busungu oba mukakafu okusinga bw’oli mu butonde.

Okukendeeza ku passiveness n’okwongera assertiveness, kola bino wammanga:

• Weegendereze by’olowooza, by’owulira, by’oyagala, by’oyagala. Ebintu bino olina okubimanya nga tonnabibuulira balala.
• Omuntu bw'akubuuza ky'oyagala, weetegereze bw'ogamba nti, "Simanyi," "Sifaayo," oba "Ekyo tekirina buzibu." Mulekere awo okwogera ebyo. Funa omuze gw’okwogera ky’oyagala naddala ku bintu ebitonotono. Okugeza, singa omuntu abuuza nti, "Oyagala eya kiragala oba eya kiragala?" oyinza okugamba nti, "Njagala nnyo eya kiragala – webale."
• Weegezeemu okusaba ebintu. Okugeza: "Nsobola okuba n'ekijiiko, nkwegayiridde?" "Nneetaaga ekkalaamu - waliwo alina ekkalaamu ey'enjawulo?" "Nsobola okufuna ekifo?" Kino kijja kuzimba obukugu n’obwesige by’olina okusaba ebintu ebikulu ennyo nga weetaaga.
• Tubuulire endowooza yo . Tubuulire oba firimu gye walabye oyagala oba tewayagala, era lwaki.
• Weegezeemu okukozesa ebigambo " Nze" nga "Njagala..." "Njagala..." oba "Mpulira..." .
• Funa ekyokulabirako ekirungi nga yeekakasa – kwe kugamba, atalina nsonyi nnyo, atalina busungu nnyo. Laba obanga osobola okukoppa engeri z’omuntu oyo ezisinga obulungi.
• Wejjukize nti ebirowoozo byo n’endowooza zo bikulu nnyo ng’ebya buli muntu. Okumanya kino kijja kukuyamba okufuuka ``Assertive.`` Okwekakasa kutandikira ku ndowooza ey'omunda etwala abalala ng'abakulu n'okutwala ggwe kennyini ng'abakulu.

Okukendeeza ku Aggressiveness n’okwongera ku Assertiveness, kola bino wammanga:

• Abalala basooke bogere.
• Weegendereze abantu abakusalako ng’oyogera. Ekyo bwe kibaawo, kikwate ogambe nti, "Oh, bambi - ggwe okigamba!" era omuntu omulala amale.
• Saba omuntu omulala ekirowoozo era owulirize eky’okuddamu kye.
• Bwe muba temukkiriziganya, gezaako okwogera endowooza yo nga tonyooma munno. Okugeza, mu kifo ky'okugamba nti, "Ekyo kirowoozo kya busirusiru," gezaako okugamba nti, "Ekirowoozo ekyo sikyagala nnyo." Oba, mu kifo ky'okugamba nti, "Muntu wa ntiisa," gezaako okugamba nti, "Silowooza nti afaayo ku bantu balala."
• Funa ekyokulabirako ekirungi nga yeekakasa – kwe kugamba, atalina nsonyi nnyo, atalina busungu nnyo. Laba obanga osobola okukoppa engeri z’omuntu oyo ezisinga obulungi.

Abantu mu butonde abakakafu basobola okwongera okukulaakulanya obusobozi bwabwe:

• Okubeera ``Assertive`` – kwe kugamba, obutaba na nsonyi nnyo, si mujoozi nnyo – .Funa abantu abalungi ab’okukoppa. Laba oba osobola okukoppa engeri zaabwe ezisinga obulungi. (Oyinza okusanga nga gano ge magezi ge gamu ge tuwa okuyamba sitayiro ez’ensonyi oba ez’obusungu. Ekyo kiri bwe kityo kubanga tetulekera awo kuyiga!)
• Lowooza ku ddi lw'osinga okubeera omukakafu . Abantu beeyisa mu ngeri ya njawulo mu mbeera ez’enjawulo. Ku bantu bangi, kyangu okubeera omukakafu mu mbeera ezimu (nga n’emikwano), naye kusoomoozebwa mu ndala (nga n’abasomesa oba abantu abapya). Mu mbeera enzibu, gezaako okwebuuza nti, "Nnandigambye ki singa nnali ne mikwano gyange egy'oku lusegere?"

Bw’oyogera mu ngeri ey’okukakasa, kiraga nti wekkiririzaamu. Okukulaakulanya okwekakasa ddaala limu erigenda mu maaso n’okufuuka omuntu gw’oyagala okubeera, enkyusa esinga obulungi ku ggwe kennyini!

Ekintu ekisinga obukulu ky’osaanidde okutwala awaka (Take-Home Message)

Okay, kale kati olina ekirowoozo ekirungi ku bye tubadde twogera, ``(Assertiveness)''. Jjukira nti kino si kintu ky’osobola okukyusa mu kiro kimu. Naye bw’ogenda okwegezaamu, mazima ddala ojja kulaba enjawulo.

• Enneewulira zo, endowooza zo, n’ebyetaago byo bya mugaso nnyo. Tobikweka.
• Tobeera passive, tobeera aggressive. Twogedde ku ins and outs za byombi.
• Okwekakasa kitegeeza okwogera ebirowoozo byo mu bwesimbu, okuwa abalala ekitiibwa n’okwewa ekitiibwa.
• Tandika n’ebintu ebitonotono. Weegezeemu okwogera ekintu eky'enjawulo nga, "Njagala nnyo langi eyo okusinga langi eno."
• Wuliriza n’obwegendereza abalala bye boogera. Okwekakasa si kwogera byokka.
• Ne bw’oba ​​okoze ensobi oba ng’olina okugamba nti nedda, towulira musango ku nsonga eyo.

Gezaako okuyingiza obubaka buno obutonotono mu bulamu bwo obwa bulijjo. Ojja kulaba engeri omukwano gwammwe gye gunaafuuka omulungi n’okuwulira nga guweweevu. Ggwe owangudde!

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