I fanu hi sikulah a thiante’n an tihbuai em? (Relational Aggression) Hemi chungchang hi han sawi ila!

I fanu chu sikul a\angin lungngai takin a lo haw em? A hma ang khan a nui a, a tawng lo em ni? A room-ah chauh a awm em? A nih loh leh sikul a kal theih loh avangin a tap em ni? Heng thilte hi i hmuh hian, "Tunlai hian a mood a chhe mai mai pawh a ni mai thei," tiin i ngaihtuah mai thei. Mahse, hei hi thawnthu thuk zawk bul tanna a ni thei. Chu chu ṭhiante hnen aṭanga tihduhdahna emaw, kan hriat vek angin ' bullying ' emaw a ni.

‘Bullying’ kan tih hian eng nge kan ngaihtuah a, eng nge thleng tak tak

Mi tihduhdahna kan ngaihtuah hian sikula naupang chak lo zawk ei leh in leh pawisa rukbo thin naupang lian tak, misual tak hi kan ngaihtuah fo thin. Chu chu taksa lama tihduhdahna a ni. Mahse tunlai hian a bik takin hmeichhe naupang zingah hian he mi tihduhdahna hi a danglam nasa hle.

Doctor leh psychologist-te chuan hei hi inzawmna hmanga tihduhdahna emaw (Relational Aggression) emaw an ti a ni. A awlsam zawngin, hei hi direct-a beih ai chuan, ṭhian nihna, thuthang, thuthang, leh hnawhchhuahnate chu mi dang tihnat nâna ralthuam anga i hman lai a ni. Ngaihtuah teh, i fanu ṭhian ṭha ber berte chu an inkhawm a, "Kan biak leh tawh ngai lo vang che," "Min en suh," leh "Kan hnaih tawh suh," tih lehkha an pe a ni. Taksa lamah hetiang hi hre lo mah la, engzat nge i hrehawm?

Zirchianna atanga a lan dan chuan sikul kal thei naupang zinga 76% chuan hetiang ang tihduhdahna hi an tawk a ni. Thil thleng nasa tak ṭhenkhatah chuan he rilru hahna hi tuar thei lo naupang chuan mahni intihhlum pawh a tum thei a ni. Tunah chuan he dinhmun hi a pawi zia chu i hrethiam thei tawh ang.

Engvangin nge naupangte hian hetiang thil hi an tih?

Naupang inrintawkna hniam, zirna lama chak lo, khawtlangin a pawm loh te hi midangte tibuaitu an ni tih kan ngaihtuah tlangpui. Mahse thudik erawh chu a danglam khawp mai.

A tam zawkah chuan heng thilte hi sikula lar, mi zawng zawng ngaihven hlawh, hmeltha, leh mahni inrintawkna sang tak nei hmeichhe naupangte tih a ni . An ‘theih’ vangin an ti thin. Midangte thunun nan leh an pawl chhunga an hmun an neih reng theih nan heng thilte hi an ti thin.

Naupang tihduhdah mek hi eng emaw ti takin ‘danglam’ a ni mai thei. Class president a nih vang emaw, game-a a chak vang emaw, midang aiin lehkha a zir thiam zawk vang emaw pawh a ni thei. A nih loh leh naupang dangte hak ang chi thawmhnaw emaw pheikhawk emaw brand lar tak a neih loh vang pawh a ni thei. Hetiang ang chhan tenau te pawh hi mi pakhat tihhran leh tihnat nan hman theih a ni.

I fa chu tihduhdah a ni em? Heng chhinchhiahnate hi fimkhur rawh

Vawi tam tak chu naupangte hian an chunga thil thlengte hi an nu leh pate hnenah an hrilh lo va, chuvangin heng vaukhânna chhinchhiahnate hi i hriat chian a pawimawh hle.

Nu leh pa anga i tih theih thilte

1. I fa thusawi ngaithla rawh: I fain he thu hi a hrilh che a nih chuan ngaihthah suh."Chutiang chu a ni mai" tih ai chuan i fa thusawi chu ngun takin ngaithla la, "Hei hi i sualna a ni lo. Nangmah chauh i ni lo, keimah hi i bulah ka awm," tiin thlamuan rawh.

2. Inbiakna tur hmun tha ber zawng rawh: In lama inbiakna neih i duh loh chuan hmun hahdam zawk, car chhungah emaw, i chhuah lai emaw-ah thu sawi rawh. "Tunge tibuai che?"

3. Sikul hriattir: Hei hi a pawimawh hle. School-ah kal nghal la, hemi chungchang hi class zirtirtu leh school counselor hnenah sawipui rawh. Hemi chungchang zirtirtute hriattirna hian naupang chu classroom-ah himna a siam thei a ni.

4. Nu leh pa dangte nen inbia: Hemi chungchang hi i fa thiante nu leh pate hnenah sawipui rawh. Naupang dangte pawhin chutiang thil chu an tawk ve mai thei.

5. Damdawi lam thurawn zawng rawh: I fain lungkhamna, lungkhamna, lungngaihna lanchhuahna a neih tam chuan chhungkaw doctor hnenah thurawn dil ngei ngei tur a ni. A tul chuan naupang rilru lam doctor hnenah pawh i refer thei bawk.

I fa chu tihduhdah a nih chuan engtin nge ni ang?

Pawm harsa viau mah se, a châng chuan mi tihduhdahtu chu nangmah ngei pawhin i fa a ni thei. Hei pawh hi hriat chian a pawimawh hle.

• I fa hian party a throw a, naupang thenkhat chu tumruh takin a marginalize em?
• Naupang dangte chungchangah thu tha lo, "A boring tak zet" emaw, "A thawmhnaw a mawi lo" tih te i sawi fo thin em?
• I thianpa awm lo chungchang i sawisel em?
• Tûn hmaa ṭhian ṭha tak ni ṭhin tu emaw chu tunah chuan a lo haw a, a be tawh lo che?

Hetiang thil hi i hmu a nih chuan i tih theih tlemte a awm.

Tichuan i fa chu nangmah chauhvin, muangchangin sawi rawh. "School-ah naupang dang nen in insual tih ka hre tawh. Chu chu eng nge ni?" Zawt. I fa chu a thil tih chu a dik lo tih leh a mi dang a tihnatzia hrethiam turin ṭanpui rawh. Hei hi i fate chu thil dik leh dik lo leh lainatna chungchang zirtirna hun tha tak a ni. A châng chuan hetiang thil nei naupangte hian counselling an mamawh thei bawk . Chumi chungchang pawh i doctor nen inbia ang che.