Engtikah nge mi pakhat nena " chhuah" hun tha ber? Hemi chungchang hi han sawi ila!

Mi pakhat chu a châng chuan i duh em em a, a nih loh leh anmahni biak a, hun hmanpui mai mai i duh em? Sikul-ah emaw, class-ah emaw, hmun dangah emaw mi i hmuh hian i rilru a hah deuh mai thei. Hetiang rilru put hmang hi neih hi thil pangngai tak a ni tak zet a, a bik takin i upat deuh deuh chuan. Chuvangin vawiinah hian ‘Ṭhian siam’ chungchang hi han sawi ila, chu chu mi nena in chhuah hun a ni. Hei hi thupui sensitive tak a nih avangin engkim chiang tak leh i hriatthiam theih tur zawngin sawi ila.

He "bo anga inhriatna" hian eng nge a awmzia? `(Crush)` tih hi eng nge ni?

A awlsam zawngin, `(crush)` chu mi pakhat tana ngaihven bik emaw, attraction bik emaw i neih hian a ni. Hei hi kum naupang takah pawh a thleng thei a, chu chu primary grade atang pawhin a thleng thei a ni. Mahse, i lo upa deuh a, Ordinary Level ang class-a i luh chuan he `(crush)` hian tlem a kal thui thei a, "Shall we be friends?" "Kan `(kan chhuak ang)` em?"

A tlangpuiin he kum, chu chu sikul i kal lai a ni a, mi pakhat nena " chhuah" tih hian in pahnih hian in duh tih in hre tihna a ni . Tichuan, hetiang hian an awm thei ang:

• Phone-a inbiakna.
• Thuchah chu `(text)` a ni ang.
• Ṭhiante pawl nen hun hman dun (entir nan, i ṭhian zawng zawng sikul ban hnua inkhelhna hmuna an kal chuan i duh apiang an awm thei).

Mahse a tam zawkah chuan date-a kal mai mai hi tunlai hian thil awm lo tak a ni. Dik tak chuan, a takah chuan high school emaw college emaw i kal hma chu i tan nghah a, nangmah chauhva date-a kal emaw, i duhzawng nena mahni chauha hun tam zawk hman emaw hi a him ber a, a tha ber bawk . Chumi chhan tlemte a awm a, kan sawi dawn a ni.

Engvangin nge "chhuah" hi kan hlauthawng loh ang?

Hetiang kum a i thil zir te hi i hmalam hun atan a pawimawh hle. I emotional stability, i rilru hriselna, heng zawng zawng hi he hun chhung hian siam a ni. Chuvangin, mi pakhat nena inzawmna i tan hmain ngaihtuah tur tlemte a awm.

• Emotional Control: I rilru put hmang thunun leh hriatthiam i la zir zel a ni. Hetiang kum hian i rilru a sensitive hle. Thil tenauah i hlim thei hle a, thil tenauah pawh i lungngai hle thei bawk. Chuvângin, mi pakhat nêna inlaichînna i ṭan hian, harsatna tê tête pawhin nasa takin a nghawng thei che a ni. Hliam tuar theihna chance a sang hle. Beiseina sang tak nena in inzawmna chu a tawp thut a nih chuan a lungchhiatthlak hle ang tih han ngaihtuah teh.
• Zirna lama nghawng a neih: A châng chuan, hetiang inzawmna hian i zirna hnathawh a tibuai thei a ni. I ngaihtuahna chu a inthlak danglam thei a ni.
• A tul lo taka nawrna:A châng chuan, "ṭhian neih a ngai" tih hriatna hi ṭhiante nawrna aṭanga lo chhuak thei a ni. Midang zawng zawngin an tih vang mai maiin nang pawhin i tih ngei ngei tur a ni tih ngaihtuah suh. A pawimawh ber chu chutiang tur chuan i inpeih tawh tih i inhriat tak tak em tih hi a ni.
• Inhriatthiam tawnna: Inhriatthiam tawnna leh inzah tawnna hi inlaichinna hrisel tak neih nan a pawimawh hle. Chûngte chu dik taka hriatthiam a, chutianga i awm chuan hun kal zelah i puitlin theihna chu i nei thei ang.

Thil pawimawh ber: Engtik lai pawhin, eng inzawmnaah pawh, tu mahin i rilru hahdamna tur emaw, i tih duh loh emaw thil tih emaw, sawi emaw i phal tur a ni lo. I ramri chu eng nge ni tih i hriat a ngai a ni.

Miin "chhuak" turin min ti a nih chuan engtin nge ni ang? A nih loh leh mi zawh duh chuan?

Hei hi mi tam takin harsatna an neih a ni. Okay, hei hi engtin nge kan hmachhawn ang tih i en ang u.

1. Mahni inzawt rawh: "He thil atang hian eng nge ka duh tak tak? Eng nge ka beisei?" I duh zawng zawng chu ṭhian ṭha tak a ni mai thei. Chu aia tlem chuan a tam zawk pawh a ni mai thei. Chu chu nangmah ngeiin i ngaihtuah chhuak tur a ni.

2. In pahnih hian in duh em tih en rawh: Mi i duh chuan an duh leh tur che u a ni. Chutiang a nih loh chuan inzawmna chu i nawr luih thei lo. In pahnih hian in duh chuan ``in chhuak'' thei ang.

3. Take it slow: Thurawn tha ber chu zawi zawia lak hi a ni. Hlauthawng suh. Vawi khatah beisei sang tak nei suh. Zawi zawiin inhriat tawn ula, inbiakna nei rawh u. A chhan chu, a hmaa ka sawi tawh ang khan, he kum ah hian hliam hi a awlsam hle.

4. Puitling rintlak hnenah hrilh rawh: I kawppui thil sawi emaw tih emaw avanga nuam lo, hlauhna leh lungngaihna i neih chuan puitling i rintlak hnenah hrilh ngei ang che. I nu, i pa, i zirtirtu emaw, i chhungkaw member dang emaw pawh a ni thei. An pui thei che a ni. Hei hi nangmah chauhin paltlang suh.

Heng "ramri" te hi engte nge ni?

Hei hi a pawimawh hle. Ramri chu i duhzawng, i duh loh zawng, i rilru hahdamna leh i lungawi lohnate chiang taka sawi a, chu chu midangte hnena hrilh darh hi a ni. Entir nan:

• I duh loh chuan i mimal chanchin (e.g. i phone password) chu tumah pe suh.
• Miin i rilru ti na thei khawpa fiamthu a siam chuan, "Chu chu ka tan chuan a nuam lo a, khawngaihin chutiang chu sawi suh," tih hi hlau suh.
• Miin i duh loh zawnga a khawih che chuan phal suh la, titawp la, puitling hnenah hrilh rawh.

Heng ramri te hi vawn reng hi mahni inzahna leh i himna atan a pawimawh hle.

Ka duhzawng chuan ṭhian ang chauha min duh chuan engtin nge ni ang? A nih loh leh mi pakhatin min "ni" a, chutah chuan tihtawp a tum a nih chuan engtin nge ni ang?

Ah, hei hi a harsa ber a ni. Lungngaihna, thinrim, leh khawvel hi hetiang hun lai hian a tawp tawh ang maia inhriat hi thil pangngai tak a ni.Nangmah chauh i ni lo, mi tam takin hetiang thil tawn hi an lo tawng tawh a ni.

• Pawm tum rawh: Mi pakhat "ṭhian ni rawh" i tih a, "ni lo" an tih chuan a harsa hle. Mahse pawm tum ang che. Tin, chu mi chungah chuan ngilnei taka awm tum bawk ang che. Thinrim leh thinrim taka awm reng hian nangmah emaw, midang tan emaw engmah a ti tha lovang.
• He rilru put hmang hi kumkhuain a daih lo: I lungngaihna leh beidawnna i hriat kha chatuanin a daih dawn lo. Chu rilru put hmang chu hun kal zelah a danglam ang. Ṭhian thar i hmu ang a, thil thar i ngaihtuah ang.
• I rintlak mi biak rawh: Hei hi tih tur tha ber a ni. Hemi chungchang hi i nu leh pa emaw, i rintlak puitling dang emaw hnenah sawipui rawh. I kum rualpuiah pawh hetiang thil hi an tawk tawh pawh a ni thei. Thurawn ṭha tak tak an pe thei che a, i rilru siam tûrin an ṭanpui thei bawk che a ni.

"Khawvel hi i duh angin, mi pakhat nen, vawi khat a kal loh vang mai maiin a tawp lo. Mi tha lo i ni tihna a ni lo va, tumahin an duh ngai lo vang che tihna a ni lo.

Hetiang hunah hian engtin nge i hmachhawn? `(Hrisel taka hmachhawn)`

Miin a duh loh che emaw, a tihnat loh che emaw chuan, chu chu hneh theih dan hrisel tak tak a awm a:

• I rilru put hmang pawm rawh: I lungngaih chuan pawm rawh. Thup suh. Mahse, chutah pawh chuan wallow suh.
• Thil tha lo lam ngaihtuah suh: "Ka sualna a ni," "Tuman min duh lo" tih ang chi i ngaihtuah tan hian i rilru a ti na zual mai. Chu ai chuan, "Awle, tun ṭumah hian hetiang hian a thleng a, a dawt lehah chuan a ṭha zawk ang," tih ngaihtuah tum zawk ang che.
• I duhzawng thilte ti rawh: I ngaihtuahna tibuaitu. Thlalak siam la, hla ngaihthlak la, lehkhabu chhiar la, game khel la, thiante nen inbiakna nei rawh.
• Mahni inenkawl rawh: Ei leh in tha la, exercise la la, mut tlem la. Taksa hrisel i nih chuan rilru hriselna tha neih a awl zawk.

A tawp berah chuan thil hriat reng tur (Take-Home Message) .

Chuvangin, he "going out" thawnthu hi a buaithlak deuhin lang mahse, i hriatthiam dik chuan chutiang chuan a chhe lo.

• I rilru put hmang chu a pangngai: Mi pakhat chunga crush neih hi thil pangngai a ni. Chumi chungchangah chuan inthiam lohna nei suh.
• Hlau suh: Inzawmna bul tan hi hlau suh. I inpeih tak tak ang tih i hriat hma chu nghak rawh.
• Hriselna leh ramri: I himna tur ngaihtuah rawh. I ramri chu eng nge ni tih hria la, zah rawh. Miin chutiang ramri a pelh chuan phal suh.
• Puitling rintlak: I harsatna emaw, harsatna emaw i neih apiang i sawipui theih tur puitling rintlak neih a pawimawh. An tanpuina zawng hlau suh.
• I hlu a ni: Miin a duh che emaw duh lo emaw, i hlu a ni. I hlimna, i hmalam hun tur chu mi dang duhdanin a hril lo.

Hei hi i inhriat tawnna hun tha ber a ni tih hre reng ang che, i thiamna tihhmasawn nan leh inṭhianṭhatna ṭha tak siam hun ṭha ber a ni. Chuvangin chu thilte chu dah pawimawh ber rawh. Hmangaihna leh inlaichinna pawh a hun a lo thlen hunah phalsak a ni ang. Chutih lai chuan, nangmah leh nangmah in enkawl tha rawh!

` Hmangaihna, Inzawmna, Thalai, Rilru hriselna, Emotion, Counselling, Pawn chhuah