Ina nui haere ngā wero o te ao, ā, ka taumaha rawa ō kare ā-roto, kāore e taea te kimi huarahi hei whakatau i tēnei raruraru. Kua pēnei kē koe i mua? I aua wā taumaha, ka huri ētahi tāngata ki te whara i a rātou anō hei whakamarie i te mamae hohonu o ō rātou kare ā-roto. Ahakoa he mea noa ake tēnei i tō whakaaro, he onge te kōrero whānui. Koia te take ka kōrero pono, aroha hoki tātou mō tēnei mea i tēnei rā.
He aha te whara i a koe anō, ā, he aha i puta ai?
Ki te whakarapopoto, ko te whara i a koe anō ko te whakararuraru i tō tinana, te whara rānei i a koe anō. I roto i te ao hauora, e mōhiotia ana tēnei ko te Nonsuicidal Self-Injury Disorder (NSSI). Ko te mea nui kia mārama, ki te mahi koe i tēnei, ehara i te mea ko te whakamutu i tō oranga tō whāinga. Engari, kei te whakamahi koe i te mamae tinana hei whakatau i tētahi atu mea.
He aha te take e hiahia ai te tangata ki te whara i a ia anō? He maha ngā take matua:
- Hei huarahi āwhina: Ki ētahi, ka tukuna he wā poto e te mamae tinana, he mawhiti poto rānei i te pēhanga kare ā-roto nui. Tērā pea he huarahi tēnei hei whakamatau i a koe anō i te nui o te mamae ka taea e koe te whakahaere, he ngana nui rānei ki te whakakore i ngā kare kino nui pērā i te pouri nui, te riri, te pōuri rānei.
- Te aronga o ngā kare ā-roto ki roto: Ka whakamahia pea e koe te whara i a koe anō hei whiu i a koe anō, hei aronga rānei o tō riri ki roto—ina koa mēnā kāore he huarahi kē atu hei tuku i te pikaunga kare ā-roto taumaha e pikau ana i a koe.
- He karanga āwhina: I ētahi wā, he huarahi puku, he huarahi ā-korekore ki te whakapuaki i tō mamae hinengaro hohonu ki ētahi atu, hei tohu "Me āwhina ahau."
He pēhea te putanga mai o te whara i a koe anō?
He maha ngā āhua o te whara i a koe anō. Ahakoa he whānui ake ētahi tikanga i ētahi atu, he mea nui kia mārama he nui ngā mōrearea kei roto i ia tikanga. Ko ētahi o ngā huarahi e whara ai te tangata i a rātou anō ko:
- Te Tapahi: Te whakamahi i ngā mea koi pēnei i te maripi heu, te maripi, te karāhe pakaru rānei hei tapahi, hei rakuraku hōhonu rānei i te kiri.
- Te Wera: Te wera i te kiri ki ngā mea rino wera, ki ngā hikareti e mura ana, ki ngā mati rānei. I ētahi wā, ka whakamahia e te tangata ngā matū kino o te whare pērā i ngā hua horoi hei whakaputa i ngā wera matū.
- Ngā whara pānga (te patu, te kuru rānei): Te patu ā-tau i tō tinana ki ngā mata mārō, pērā i te kuru i te pakitara, ka taea ai e tēnei te whara kino me ngā whara pānga .
- Rakuraku nui: Te rakuraku, te kokiri rānei i te kiri ki ngā maikuku kia toto ra ano, kia waiho ra ano ranei he patunga hohonu.
He aha ngā tohu whakatūpato mō te whara i a koe anō?
Mena kei te raru koe i te whara i a koe anō, tera pea ka whakapau kaha koe ki te huna i taua mea. Ahakoa te wera o te rangi, ka mau pea koe i ngā ringaringa roa, i ngā tarau rānei hei hipoki i ō patunga, ka tito kōrero rānei mō ngā "aituā" hei whakamārama i ō whara. Heoi anō, tera pea ka kite ngā whanaunga i ētahi tohu whakatūpato, pēnei i:
- He kōpura, he patunga hou rānei e huihui ana i roto i tētahi tauira, i tētahi wāhi rānei kua whakaritea.
- He maha ngā tohu wera he rite te rahi, te āhua rānei.
- Ngā karawarawa, ngā tohu ngau, ngā marō, te pupuhi rānei e kiia ana he "aituā" e te nuinga o te wā, kāore e taea te whakamārama.
- Ngā raruraru ki te whakahaere i ō kare ā-roto me te whakahaere i ō hiahia hihiri.Hei tauira, ka puta he hiahia kore e taea te whakahaere ki te mirimiri, ki te rakuraku rānei i te wāhi kotahi o tō kiri.
Kei hea te nuinga o te wā e pā ai te whara i a koe anō?
Ahakoa ka pā te whara i a koe anō ki ngā wāhi katoa o te tinana, ko te nuinga o te wā ka pā ki:
- Ngā ringaringa (ina koa ko ngā ringaringa )
- Ngā ringaringa
- Te mua o ngā huha
- Te puku
Ahakoa ka taea te aro ki ētahi atu wāhanga o te tinana, koinei ngā wāhi e tino kitea ana te whara.
He aha te take e whara ai te tangata i a rātou anō? Te mārama ki ngā take matua
Kāore he take kotahi, ngāwari hoki e tahuri ai te tangata ki te whara i a ia anō. Heoi anō, kua honoa kahatia tēnei whanonga e ngā rangahau hauora ki ētahi āhuatanga hauora hinengaro, tae atu ki:
- Manukanuka
- Autism
- Mate pūrua – te āhua o tō wairua, tō kaha, me tō ngohe e rerekē ana i waenga i ngā tino pai me ngā tino iti.
- Mate tuakiri rohe (BPD) – e pā ana ki te kore pumau o ngā kare ā-roto me ngā whanaungatanga.
- Te pouri – e puta ai te pouri tonu, te koretake, me te ngaro o te hiahia ki te ao.
- Ngā mate whakararuraru, te whakahaere hihiri, me ngā mate whanonga – pērā i te mate whanonga me te mate pahū ā-wā (ka tino uaua ai te whakahaere i te riri ohorere).
- Ngā mate wehewehe – te wāhi e noho motumotu ai koe i te ao tūturu, i tō tuakiri, i tō taiao rānei, tae atu ki te mate wehewehe tuakiri me te mate wareware wehewehe.
- Ngā mate kai - inā koa ko te anorexia nervosa.
- Te mate āwangawanga-ārai ( OCD ) – e akiaki ana i ngā whanonga me ngā whakaaro auau.
- Mate ahotea muri-whara (PTSD) – he mamae kare ā-roto nui i muri i tētahi aituā mamae.
- Ngā mate moe
- Ngā āhuatanga me ngā mate whakamahi matū – pērā i te mate whakamahi waipiro me te mate whakamahi tarukino.
Ko wai te mea tino mōrearea?
He maha ngā āhuatanga mōrearea ka piki ake te tūponotanga o te whanaketanga o te whanonga Kore-Whakamomori-Whara (NSSI):
- Te tukino, te whara rānei: Ko te hunga i pāngia e te tukino i tō rātou tamarikitanga, te whakarerenga, me ētahi atu āhuatanga tino mamae, he nui ake te mōrearea ki te huri ki te whara i a rātou anō.
- Tau: Ko te nuinga o te wā ka tīmata tēnei whanonga i te wā o te taiohitanga, i waenga i te 12 me te 14 tau, ahakoa ka taea te tīmata wawe. Kia tīmata, ka mau tonu mō ngā tau. He tino kitea hoki i waenga i ngā pakeke taitamariki , inā koa ko te hunga e haere ana ki te whare wānanga .
- Te hōhonutanga ā-ira tangata: E whakaatu ana ngā rangahau he nui ake ngā reiti whara i a rātou anō i waenga i ngā rōpū tokoiti ā-ira tangata . E whakapono ana ngā tohunga ko te nuinga o tēnei nā te pēhanga nui o te hapori, te whakahāwea, me te mokemoke e pā ana ki ēnei tāngata.
- Motuhake pāpori: Ka nui ake te mōrearea mēnā ka noho motumotu, ka whakakahoretia rānei e ō rātou hoa. Ko ngā tamariki kura e pāngia ana e te tukino , e te mokemoke pāpori rānei, he tino whakaraerae.
Me pēhea te tātaritanga a ngā tākuta i tēnei mate?
He uaua pea te tautuhi i te Mate Whara-ā-Whaiaro Kore-Whakamomori nā te mea he maha ngā tāngata e huna ana i ō rātou patunga, ā, e mangere ana ki te kōrero mō aua patunga.
Kāore ngā tākuta e whakamahi i tētahi whakamātautau kotahi, motuhake hei tātaritanga i tēnei mate. Engari, ka ata tirotirohia e rātou ngā patunga katoa, me te rapu i ngā tauira, i ngā koha rānei mai i ngā whara o mua. Ka pātai aroha rātou mō tō hītori hauora.me te papamuri pāpori. Ka kōrero anō rātou ki a koe mō ngā mea e tupu ana i roto i tō ao i tēnei wā, hei āwhina i a koe ki te tautuhi i ngā pūtake nui o te ahotea — pērā i ngā uauatanga pūtea, te matenga o tētahi e arohaina ana, te pēhanga mātauranga, te pēhanga mahi rānei, te tukino, ngā raruraru whanaungatanga rānei.
He aha ngā Kōwhiringa Maimoatanga?
Ki te toro atu koe ki tētahi tākuta mō te whara i a koe anō, ko tā rātou kaupapa matua ko te rongoā i ō patunga tinana. Mō te whakaora roa, ka āwhina rātou i a koe ki te whakatika i ngā āhuatanga hauora hinengaro me ngā taumahatanga o te ao. He maha ngā wā ka uru atu ki tēnei he huinga motuhake o te whakaora ngaio (pēnei i te tohutohu) me/ngā rongoā rānei.
Kia maumahara, ko te tono awhina he tohu o te kaha nui, ehara i te ngoikore.
He aha ngā tūponotanga o te waiho i te whara i a koe anō kia kore e rongoatia?
He mea tino nui te rapu rongoā mō te whara i a koe anō, nā te mea ki te kore e rongoatia, ka pā mai pea he pānga kino mō te wā poto me te wā roa.
Ngā Mōrearea Poto
Ahakoa kāore koe e hiahia ana ki te whara nui, ka tere tonu te whara i a koe anō ki ngā raruraru ohorere me ngā raruraru morearea:
- Ngā raruraru hauora: Ka taea e ēnei whanonga te whakararu i ngā mate kino, te kino tūturu o ngā io , me te whara tūturu, kino rānei . I ētahi wā pōuri, ka taea e te paheke tūpono te arahi ki ngā whara morearea, ki te mate rānei.
- Ngā raruraru pāpori: Ahakoa he mea āta whakaarohia, he kore rānei, ka taea e te whara i a koe anō te whakararu i ō whanaungatanga ki te whānau, ki ngā hoa, me te hunga e arohaina ana e koe. Ka taea hoki e ia te pā nui ki tō whakapono ki a koe anō me tō āhua mahi i te mahi, i te kura, i ngā wāhi pāpori rānei.
Ngā Mōrearea Wā Roa
I roto i te wā, ka taea e te whara i a koe anō kāore i rongoatia te arahi ki ngā pakanga hohonu ake:
- Te kino haere o te hauora hinengaro : He maha ngā wā ka puta he huringa mamae o te whakama, te hara, me te pouri i te whara i a koe anō. Tērā pea ka kitea koe e whakapau kaha ana ki te huna i ō kōhatu, i ō patunga rānei, me te mataku tonu kei kitea e ētahi atu.
- Ngā whara kino rawa atu: I roto i te wā, ka piki haere ngā whanonga whara i a koe anō. Tērā pea ka kitea e koe kei te whara pinepine koe i a koe anō, kei te hiahia rānei koe ki te whara kino atu kia whiwhi ai koe i te whakamarie kare ā-roto mō te wā poto.
- Mōrearea whakamomori: Ahakoa ko te āhuatanga matua o te Whara-ā-Iho Kore-Whakamomori ko te kore o te hiahia whakamomori, he nui ake te mōrearea o te hunga e mahi ana i te whara i a rātou anō ki te whakamātau whakamomori me te mate mā te whakamomori. He mōrearea nui tēnei me aro atu ki te tiaki ngaio.
Ka taea te ārai i te whara i a koe anō?
Ahakoa kāore pea e taea e koe te ārai i te hiahia tuatahi ki te whara i a koe anō, mā te mahi tahi me tētahi kaiwhakarato hauora hinengaro whai tohu ka tino whakaiti i te tūponotanga o te whara tonu i a koe anō. Mena kei te raru koe, kei tētahi rānei e arohaina ana e koe, ko te rapu tohutohu ngaio i te wā e taea ai te mahi i te taahiraa tino whai hua ka taea e koe te mahi.
Āhea koe me toro atu ki tētahi tākuta?
Ki te kite koe kei te whara koe (tētahi atu rānei e arohaina ana e koe) i a koe anō, tēnā whakapā atu ki tētahi tohunga hauora tonu. Tērā pea me tiaki tika ō patunga tinana, ā, mā te mōhio kāore koe e hiahia ki te pikau i tēnei taumahatanga, ka tino whakaora. Kei reira tō tākuta hei whakarongo, hei tuku tautoko aroha, hei ārahi i a koe ki te mahere maimoatanga tika.
Āhea me rapu awhina hauora ohorere
Ki te mea kei roto koe i te mōrearea tata tonu kei whara koe i a koe anō, i ētahi atu rānei, tēnā haere ki te Tari Ohotata o te hōhipera tata rawa atu, waea atu rānei ki ngā ratonga hauora ohorere (pēnei i te 911).Ka taea hoki e koe te whakapā atu ki ngā rauemi tautoko hauora hinengaro ā-motu, pērā i te 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.
Hei tāpiri, rapua tonutia te awhina hauora mēnā he whara kei a koe e whakaatu ana i tētahi o ngā tohu e whai ake nei:
- Te uaua ki te manawa.
- Te toto e kore e mutu.
- He āhua rerekē o te tinana.
- Te ngaronga o te nekehanga i roto i tō ringa, i tō waewae rānei.
He aha te pānga o te mamae ki te roro ina whara koe i a koe anō?
Ko tētahi o ngā tino take e taea ai e te whara i a ia anō te noho hei tikanga whakawara mō te aro atu ki te mamae tinana, ko te āhua o te urupare a tō tātou koiora ki te mamae tinana.
Ina whara tō tinana, ka tukuna e ngā pito io o taua wāhi ngā tohu mamae tere ki tō roro. Hei whakautu, ka tukuna e tō roro ngā matū whakaora mamae tūturu e kiia nei ko te Beta-endorphins . Ka taea e ēnei matū te "whakapai ake" i a koe mō te wā poto, ka hoatu he manawa whakangāwari, he marino, he ngoikore rānei. Heoi, he poto noa iho te pānga o tēnei āhuatanga tinana. Koia te take e mau tonu ai te hunga e whara ana i a rātou anō i roto i tētahi huringa auau - e whara ana i a rātou anō kia hanga anō i taua wā poto o te whakaoranga.
Ki te hunga o waho, he tino uaua ki te mārama ki tēnei whanonga. Engari ki te tangata e mamae ana i roto, ka rite ki te huarahi anake hei whakahaere i tōna oranga, hei whakamarie rānei i te pōuri o roto. Ahakoa kāore koe e whakaaro ki te whara tuturu, he tino tūturu ngā mōrearea tinana me ngā mōrearea kare ā-roto o te whara i a koe anō. Ehara i te huarahi pumau, hauora rānei hei whakatau i tēnei, ā, i te mutunga ka pā kino ki tō oranga tinana me tō oranga hinengaro.
Ki te hiahia koe ki te whara i a koe anō, ki te mea rānei kei te mahi koe i tēnā, kāore he whakama ki te tono āwhina. Kāore he rerekētanga o te rapu rongoā mō te whara i a koe anō ki te whiwhi tiaki hauora mō tētahi mate tinana. Ahakoa te āhua kāore e taea i tēnei wā, ka taea e koe te whakaora me te ako kia pai anō te āhua tinana me te hinengaro. Kāore koe i te mokemoke.
Ngā Kaupapa Matua hei Maumahara
He wero uaua te whara i a koe anō, engari mā te tautoko tika, ka tino taea te ora.
- Kāore koe i te mokemoke: He tokomaha kua hikoi i tēnei ara, ā, kua ora ake. Kaua e tukua te whakama, te hara rānei kia puritia koe i roto i te pōuri.
- Whakapā atu ki a koe, kōrero mai: Kōrerohia ō kare ā-roto ki tētahi e whakawhirinaki ana koe—he hoa, he mema o te whānau, he kaiako, he kaiwhakatakoto whakaaro ngaio rānei.
- Rapua he tautoko ngaio: Ka taea e tētahi tohunga hauora hinengaro, pērā i te kaiwhakaora hinengaro, te tohunga hinengaro rānei, te āwhina i a koe ki te whakahaere i tēnei. Ka mahi tahi rātou me koe ki te hanga i tētahi mahere whakaora whaiaro.
- Akohia ngā rautaki hauora hei whakatau i te raruraru: Ina kaha rawa ngā hiahia, he huarahi haumaru hei whakahaere i aua kare ā-roto me te kore e whara i a koe anō. Ko ētahi atu huarahi pai ko te whakakori tinana auau, te whakarongo ki ngā waiata marino, te tuhi i roto i te puka rātaka, te tuhi, te mahi rānei i te aroātahi me te manawa hōhonu.
- Kia manawanui ki tō whakaoranga: He haerenga roa te whakaoranga. Ka pā mai ngā rā pai, ngā rā wero hoki. Ko te mea nui ko te haere tonu ki mua, kaua hoki e whakarērea koe anō.
Mena kei te raru koe, kei te raru rānei tētahi atu e mōhiotia ana e koe, tēnā whakapā atu ki te āwhina. Kei reira tonu te tumanako, ā, kei te wātea tonu te tautoko.
