Kei te raru koe i tō oranga moepuku? Me kōrero tātou mō tētahi kaiwhakaora moepuku!

He mea tino nui te taatai ​​i roto i ō tātou oranga. Engari i ētahi wā, ka puta ake ngā take me ngā raruraru maha i roto i tēnei āhuatanga. Ina tupu tēnā, ka mamae ētahi tāngata, kāore e kōrero ki tētahi atu, nā te whakama me te wehi. Engari i mōhio koe kei reira ngā tohunga hei āwhina i ēnei momo mea? Ko rātou ēnei ka kōrerohia e tātou i tēnei rā, arā, ko ngā 'Kaiwhakaora Ira Tangata'.

Ko wai tēnei Kaiwhakaora Ira Tangata?

He kupu ngāwari noa iho, he tohunga hauora raihana te 'Kaiwhakaora Ira Tangata' e mārama ana ki ngā arai hinengaro me ngā arai kare ā-roto e pā ana ki tō oranga ira tangata, ā, ka āwhina i a koe ki te kimi otinga mō aua arai. Whakaarohia, i ētahi wā kāore e taea e tātou te moe tāne, te ngaro rānei o te hiahia nā te wehi, te manukanuka, te wheako kino rānei o mua. Koinā te mea e āwhina ana ēnei tāngata.

Ka taea e te "Kaiwhakaora Ira Tangata" te noho hei kaimahi hapori, hei tākuta whānui, hei tohunga hinengaro rānei. Engari ko te mea nui, me whai whakangungu motuhake rātou mō te hauora ā-ira tangata me ngā raruraru ā-ira tangata. Kāore e taea e rātou te tuku noa i tēnei tohutohu ki tētahi. Ka mahi tahi rātou me ngā tāngata takitahi, ngā tāne me ngā wāhine rānei hei āwhina i a rātou ki te whakaoti rapanga ā-ira tangata, hei tauira, te wehi ki te moe tāne ( te manukanuka ki te mahi) me ngā raruraru rānei i roto i ngā whanaungatanga piripono (ngā take piripono).

He aha te mahi a te kaiwhakaora ira tangata?

Nā, kia kite tātou he aha tonu te mahi a te 'kaiwhakaora ira tangata'.

Ka āwhina rātou ki te rongoā i ngā momo mate moepuku, ko te nuinga o ēnei he mea nā ngā āhuatanga hinengaro , he mea awe rānei e ngā āhuatanga hinengaro. Ka āwhina anō hoki rātou i ngā raruraru e pā ana ki te oranga moepuku me ngā whanaungatanga. Ka mahia katoatia ēnei i roto i te taiao tautoko, kore whakahē, whakaute, me te haumaru.

Engari, anei tētahi mea tino nui hei maumahara. Kāore ngā kaiwhakaora ira tangata e rongoā i ngā āhuatanga tinana e pā ana ki te moepuku. Hei tauira, kāore e taea e rātou te rongoā i te iti o te testosterone . Nō reira, ki te mea he raruraru āu ki tō mahi moepuku, me toro atu koe ki tō tākuta whānau, ki tētahi tākuta wahine (mēnā he wahine koe) ki tētahi tākuta mimi rānei (mēnā he tāne koe) kia mōhio ai mēnā he take tinana.Mena kāore he take ā-tinana, he pānga hinengaro rānei kei te taha o te take ā-tinana, me rapu āwhina a te "Kaiwhakaora Ira Tangata".

He maha ngā maimoatanga kua whakamātauhia e te pūtaiao e whakamahia ana e ngā kaiwhakaora ira tangata hei whakapai ake i te oranga ira tangata o te tangata. He maha ā rātou whakamahinga i tētahi mea e kiia nei ko te hinengaro whakaora. He kupu ngāwari tēnei, he kōrero whakaora. Kei roto ko te kōrero mō ō kare ā-roto, ō whakaaro, me ō whanonga, te mārama ki aua mea, me te ngana ki te hanga i ngā huringa e tika ana. He maha ngā momo hinengaro whakaora e whakamahia ana i roto i te rongoā ira tangata :

• Te Whakaora Hinengaro Hinengaro (CBT)
• Te rongoā e ahu mai ana i te kare ā-roto
• Ngā wawaotanga e ahu mai ana i te aroāta
• Ngā tikanga whakawhitiwhiti kōrero a ngā tāne me ngā wāhine

Ko tētahi atu mea, he tino tiaki ngā 'Kaiwhakaora Ira Tangata' i tō tūmataitinga me tō noho muna. Inaa, he wāhanga tēnei o ā rātou tikanga matatika ngaio. Ka ngaro pea i ngā kaiwhakaora e takahi ana i te noho muna o ngā tūroro ā rātou raihana ngaio.

He aha ngā take me toro atu koe ki tētahi kaiwhakaora ira tangata?

He wheako uaua te moe tāne (ehara i te moe tāne anake, engari ko te mahi ā-waha me te mahi mā te moe tāne) e uru ana ki ngā āhuatanga e toru: te kare ā-roto, te hinengaro, me te tinana. Mena he hiahia tōu ki te moe tāne, he mea nui te mahi hauora o te moe tāne ki te kounga o tō oranga. E hono ana ki te oranga tinana me te hinengaro, tae atu ki te makona o te whanaungatanga.

E whā ngā wāhanga matua e wehea ana e ngā kaimahi hauora me ngā kaiwhakaako ira tangata te moepuku. Ka kiia tēnei ko te huringa urupare moepuku:

• Hiahia/Ribido: Ko te tikanga tēnei ko te hiahia ki te moe tāne, te hiahia ki te moe tāne.
• Whakaoho/Whakahihiri: Te rite o te tinana mō te mahi moepuku.
• Te orgasm: Te tihi o te makona i te moepuku.
• Whakataunga: Ko te tukanga e mutu ai te oho, ā, ka hoki anō te tinana ki te āhua noa.

Ka puta pea ngā raruraru moepuku i ngā wāhanga katoa o tēnei huringa. Mā te mōhio ki tāu urupare hinengaro me te tinana i ia wāhanga, ehara i te mea ka pai ake tō wheako moepuku, engari ka āwhina hoki i a koe ki te tautuhi i ngā pūtake o te koretake o te moepuku.

Ka taea e te "Kaiwhakaora Ira Tangata" te āwhina i ngā āhuatanga hinengaro me ngā āhuatanga kare ā-roto e pā ana ki ngā momo mahi pōrearea ira tangata. Anei ētahi tauira:

• Te kore o te hiahia moepuku.
• Te kore o te whakaohooho moepuku.
• Te uaua ki te whakatutuki i te orgasm (anorgasmia).
• Te mamae i te wā o te moe tāne (dyspareunia). Hei tauira, te mamae i puta mai i te piri o te tara (vaginismus).
• Te uaua ki te whakatū, ki te pupuri rānei i te ure (te ngoikore o te ure).
• Te whakaputanga wawe o te ira, te whakaputanga roa o te ira, ētahi atu raruraru rānei o te whakaputanga o te ira.

Haunga tēnei, ka taea e te 'Kaiwhakaora Ira Tangata' te āwhina i a koe me ngā wero maha atu:

• Te whakarato i te mātauranga tika mō te taatai , me te whakakore i ngā whakaaro hē.
• Te pāngia e te whakaeke ā-ira tangata, e te whara ā-ira tangata rānei.
• Ngā kare ā-roto o te manukanuka, te wehi, te whakama rānei e pā ana ki te taatai.
• Ngā raruraru i puta mai i ngā tirohanga ahurea, whakapono me te pāpori mō te moepuku.
• Whakapai ake i te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero i waenganui i a koe me tō hoa mō te taatai ​​me te whanaungatanga piripono .
• Te kore ōrite o te hiahia moepuku i waenga i ngā hoa.
• Ngā raruraru whanaungatanga nā te uauatanga o te moepuku.
• Te āhua kino o te tinana me tōna pānga ki te moepuku.
• Te noho angitu me ngā Mate Pukupuku Tuku Iho (STI).
• Te mate taikaha, te waranga moepuku rānei.
• Te waranga ki te pikitia pono.

He aha ngā mea ka tupu i te wā o te wā whakaora ira tangata?

Āe, kia titiro tātou ki te aha ka puta i te wā o te wāhanga 'Whakaora Ira Tangata', arā, ina haere koe ki te kite i te kaiwhakaora hinengaro.

I roto i ēnei wānanga, ka mahi tahi kōrua ko tō kaiwhakaora ira tangata ki te tautuhi me te whakarerekē i ngā whakaaro me ngā whanonga e whakararuraru ana i tō oranga ira tangata. Ka taea e kōrua te tūtaki ki tō kaiwhakaora ira tangata ko kōrua anake, ka taea rānei e kōrua te haere tahi me tō hoa tāne/wahine, tāne/wahine, hoa moe tāne rānei.

Tērā pea ka pātai atu tō kaiwhakaora hinengaro ki a koe i ētahi pātai pēnei i:

• Mō tō hauora me tō papamuri ira tangata .
• Mō te mātauranga moepuku i whakawhiwhia ki a koe.
• Ō whakapono me ō waiaro mō te taatai .
• He aha ngā raruraru ā-ira tangata kei a koe?

He pono he mea whakamā, he mea whakama hoki te kōrero mō te taatai ​​i ētahi wā. E mōhio pai ana ngā kaiwhakaora taatai ​​ki tēnei. Koia rātou e whakapau kaha ana ki te waihanga i tētahi āhuarangi e taea ai e koe te kōrero noa, me te kore wehi.

Kia maumahara, nā te mea ko te kaupapa o te hinengaro whakaora he kōrero, me whai wāhi kaha koe ki te tukanga. Ko te whakawhirinaki me te whanaungatanga i waenganui i a koe me tō kaiwhakaora hinengaro he mea nui ki te angitu o tēnei whakaora.

Tērā pea ka hoatu e tō "Kaiwhakaora Ira Tangata" he "mahi kāinga" ki a koe.Ka taea hoki e koe te hoatu. Arā, ngā mahi me ngā whakakori tinana ka taea e koe te mahi i te kāinga, i roto i te huarahi e tiaki ana i tō tūmataitinga. Ka taea ēnei te waiho hei mea pēnei i te "whakamātautau", hei tauira, te "whakaari mahi". Ka taea rānei ēnei te waiho hei whakakori tinana ka mahia e koe ko koe anake, me tō hoa rānei hei hanga whakawhirinaki me te whanaungatanga piripono.

Kotahi te mea me tino mōhio koe i konei, i roto i ngā wā 'Whakaora Ira Tangata', kāore he pā tinana, he mahi moepuku rānei i waenganui i a koe me te kaiwhakaora hinengaro. Kāore e taea tēnā. Ki te kore koe e pai ki tētahi āhuatanga o te whakaora, me whakamōhio atu ki tō kaiwhakaora hinengaro. Ki te kore, kei a koe te tika ki te mutu te kite i a ia, me te tuku amuamu mōna.

He aha te rerekētanga i waenga i te Kaiwhakaora Ira Tangata me te Kaitohutohu Ira Tangata?

Kua rongo pea koe i ngā kupu e rua, arā, ko te 'Sex Therapist' me te 'Sex Counselor'. He hunga kua whiwhi whakangungu whānui mō te moepuku ēnei tokorua. I ngā whenua pēnei i te United States, me whai tiwhikete ēnei tāngata e te whakahaere e kīia nei ko te 'American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists' (AASECT). I Sri Lanka, me whai tohu mātauranga whai mana anō hoki rātou mō tēnei.

Ko te rerekētanga kei te huarahi e whakatata atu ai ēnei tokorua ki ngā take moepuku.

• Kaiwhakaora Ira Tangata: Ka whakamahia e rātou te hinengaro hinengaro, te kōrero rānei hei āwhina i ngā raruraru ira tangata. He māmā, he uaua rānei ēnei raruraru. Ka rapua e rātou te pūtake o te raruraru, ā, ka rapua ngā take hinengaro me ngā take kare ā-roto.
• Kaitohutohu Ira Tangata: He huarahi mahi tā rātou e whai ana. Ka whakarato mātauranga rātou mō ngā raruraru wā poto, ka whakaako i ngā tikanga maha, ā, he maha ngā wā ka arotahi ki te tuku mātauranga me te tuku tohutohu whai hua.

Me pēhea te noho hei kaiwhakaora ira tangata?

Ehara i te mea ngāwari te noho hei 'Kaiwhakaora Ira Tangata'. Me nui te mātauranga me te whakangungu. Ko te ara whānui he rite ki tēnei (tērā pea he rerekē te āhua i ia whenua, i ia whenua):

• Tohu Paetahi: He tohu taketake mai i te whare wānanga.
• Tohu Paerua, Tohu Tākuta rānei: He tohu paerua, tohu tākuta rānei i roto i tētahi mara e pā ana, pērā i te hinengaro, te mahi pāpori rānei. Hei tāpiri, me whai wheako haumanu koe.
• Whakangungu motuhake: He mea whakahau te whakangungu hinengaro. Me whakaoti hoki e koe ētahi hāora o ngā akoranga e pā ana ki te mātauranga moepuku (hei tauira, tata ki te 90 hāora).
• Raihana: Me whiwhi raihana tika koe hei mahi i te rongoā moepuku i roto i te whenua, i te kawanatanga rānei e tika ana.

Ka kitea i konei ehara tēnei i te tohutohu noa iho, engari he taumata hohonu ake, he taumata ngaio ake. E iwa tau pea te roa hei whiwhi tohu hei 'Kaiwhakaora Ira Tangata'. Kei roto i tēnei ko ngā mea katoa mai i te tohu taketake, te tohu paerua, me te whakangungu haumanu. Nō reira, e whakaatu ana tēnei i te nui o te whakapau kaha o ēnei tāngata ki tēnei mara.

He aha te karere e hiahia ana tātou ki te kawe ki te kāinga mai i tēnei pūrākau?

He uaua, he whakama, he whakamataku rānei te kōrero mō te taatai ​​me ngā raruraru taatai ​​i ētahi wā. He mea noa tēnā. Engari kia mahara, ehara i te mea ko koe anake.

He tangata ka taea e te 'kaiwhakaora ira tangata' te āwhina i a koe ki te mārama ki ēnei momo arai moepuku, ki te wikitoria i aua arai, ā, ki te ora i te oranga hauora, kī tonu.

He tohunga rātou ki tēnei mara. He mōhiotanga pai tō rātou ki ngā rangahau hou me ngā rautaki maimoatanga pai rawa atu hei āwhina i a koe.

Nō reira, ki te mea he raruraru āu e pā ana ki tō oranga ira tangata, kaua e huna noa iho, kaua hoki e mamae, engari kaua e wehi ki te rapu āwhina i tētahi 'Kaiwhakaora Ira Tangata' whai tohu. He āwhina nui tēnei ka taea e koe te mahi māu ake.

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