Te Whakarei: Ngā Kōrero Pakiwaitara, Ngā Painga, me Ngā Mea Me Mōhio Koe

He kaupapa uaua pea tēnei ki te kōrero ki te tangata, ā, he whakama hoki. Nā te mea kāore tātou e kōrero whānui ana mō tēnei mea i roto i tō tātou hapori, he maha ngā tāngata e whakaaro kino ana mō te moepuku. Engari he wāhanga noa iho tēnei o tō hauora moepuku, he wāhanga hauora hoki. Nō reira, i tēnei rā, me whakakore atu ētahi o ngā whakaaro hē, me te kōrero mō te pono pūtaiao i roto i te huarahi māmā, hoahoa hoki.

He aha rawa te mahi whakaipoipo?

He whakarāpopototanga noa iho, ko te mahi whakaipoipo he whakaoho i ō ake ira tangata, i ētahi atu wāhi tairongo rānei o tō tinana hei whakatutuki i te ngākau harikoa, i te hiahia rānei ki te moepuku. He mea tino noa tēnei e mahia ana e te tini tāngata, ahakoa te pakeke, te ira tangata rānei.

He mea nui te mahi a te whakaipoipo i roto i te whanaketanga hauora o te moepuku. He huarahi maori tēnei ki te ako mō tō tinana, ki te wheako i te ahuareka, me te whakatutuki i te tukunga o te moepuku, arā, he orgasm .

Ka taea e koe te whakamahi i ō ringaringa, i ō maihao, i ō taonga takaro ira tangata, i ētahi atu mea haumaru rānei mō tēnei. Kei roto i tēnei ko te pā, te mirimiri, me te mirimiri i ngā ira tangata. He pai ki ētahi tāngata te whakauru i ō rātou maihao, i tētahi taputapu rānei ki roto i tō rātou tara, i tō rātou nono rānei. Ko ētahi e whakamahi ana i tētahi mea pēnei i te urunga hei whakaoho i tō rātou ure, i tō rātou tara rānei.

Haunga ngā ira tangata, kei reira anō ētahi atu wāhi whakaihiihi i te tinana. Hei tauira, ka taea hoki e koe te wheako i te ahuareka o te moepuku mā te pā atu ki ngā uma, ki ngā poro rānei. I ētahi wā, mā te whakamahi i te hinu whakahinuhinu ka taea te whakaiti i te waku, ā, ka māmā ake te mahi.

He tokomaha te hunga e whakaaro ana ko te hunga takakau anake ka mirimiri. Engari he whakaaro hē tēnā. Pērā i te hunga takakau, ka mirimiri anō hoki te hunga e moe tāne ana me te hoa. He mea noa iho.

He tino painga anō kei te puremu?

Āe, tino pai! He tino pai te mirimiri mō tō hauora tinana me tō hauora hinengaro. Kua kitea e ngā rangahau he maha ngā painga o te mirimiri.

Ki te kī ngāwari, ina tae koe ki te orgasm, ka tukuna e tō tinana ngā homoni e kiia nei ko te dopamine me te oxytocin . E mōhiotia ana hoki te Dopamine ko te "hormone pai." E mōhiotia ana te Oxytocin ko te "rongoa aroha." Ka whakanui ake ēnei homoni e rua i ngā kare ā-roto pai pērā i te harikoa me te whakangā i roto i tō tinana. Ka āwhina hoki rāua ki te whakaiti i ngā taumata o te "hormone ahotea" e kiia nei ko te cortisol i roto i tō tātou tinana.

Kia mārama tātou he aha ēnei painga i te ripanga i raro nei.

Ko tētahi atu mea nui, kāore rawa he mōrearea o te haputanga mai i te puremu. Waihoki, kāore rawa he mōrearea o ngā mate tuku iho (STI) mēnā ka mahia me ngā ringaringa ma, ka whakamahia rānei he taputapu kua horoia.

He painga motuhake anō kei ngā ira e rua?

Āe, haunga ngā painga whānui, kua kitea hoki e ngā rangahau ngā painga motuhake e whiwhi motuhake ana ngā tāne me ngā wāhine.

Ngā painga mō ngā tāne

Kua whakaatuhia e ētahi rangahau he iti ake te tūponotanga o te mate pukupuku repeure ki ngā tāne e whakaputa pinepine ana i te ure. Ko te ariā kei muri i tēnei ko te whakaputa pinepine ka ārai i te kohikohinga o ngā matū e puta ai te mate pukupuku i roto i te repe repeure.

Ngā painga mō ngā wāhine

He maha atu anō ngā painga kua whakamātauhia mō ngā wāhine.

• Ko ngā wāhine e mirimiri ana i a rātou anō ka nui ake te tūponotanga ka pāngia rātou e te orgasm i te wā e moe tahi ana me ā rātou hoa.
• He huarahi pai tēnei hei whakaora i ngā mamae o te paheketanga.
• Ka āwhina hoki te mirimiri i te whakaiti i te maroke me te mamae o te tara i te wā moe tāne i roto i ngā wāhine kaumātua.
• Tērā pea ka piki ake te hiahia moepuku o ētahi wāhine i te wā e hapū ana. He huarahi haumaru tēnei hei tuku i te āwangawanga moepuku i roto i ēnei āhuatanga. Ka taea hoki e ia te āwhina ki te whakamamae i ngā tohu pēnei i te mamae o te tuara i te wā e hapū ana.

E ai ki tētahi rangahau, i kōrero ngā wāhine kua moe tāne mō ngā painga e whai ake nei o te puremu:

• He maha atu ngā wā ka noho hei talisman
• He nui te whakaaro nui ki a koe anō
• Te pikinga o te hiahia taikaha
• Kia nui ake te makona ki tō marena me tō oranga moepuku

Ngā pūrākau me ngā pono e kōrerohia ana e te katoa

Ko tēnei kaupapa tētahi o ngā pūrākau e tino kitea ana i roto i tō tātou hapori. Ka horapa ēnei whakaaro hē i waenga i ngā hoa, ā, i ētahi wā i waenga i ngā pakeke. Me titiro tātou ki aua pūrākau me te pono pūtaiao kei muri i aua pūrākau.

Nō reira, kāore he pānga kino o te mahi whakaipoipo?

Ahakoa kāore he pānga kino nui kua whakahuatia i runga ake nei, tera pea ētahi tāngata ka pāngia e ētahi raruraru iti.

1. Te hara

Tērā pea ka whakama koe, ka whakama rānei mō te puremu nā ō whakapono, ahurea, whakapono whaiaro rānei. E ai ki te pūtaiao, ehara te puremu i te mea hē, i te mea hē rānei. Engari ki te mea kei te pēhia koe e tēnei kare ā-roto, mā te kōrero ki tētahi kaitohutohu hauora ā-ira tangata, ki tētahi kaitohutohu hauora hinengaro rānei, ka āwhina i a koe kia marino ake.

2. Te whanonga moepuku ātete

He tino onge te whanaketanga o ētahi tāngata i tētahi whanonga kore e taea te whakahaere, arā, te whakaipoipo i te tinana. I ētahi wā ka kiia tēnei he waranga moepuku , he moepuku nui rānei.

• Mena kei te ngaro koe i te mahi, i ngā mahi kura rānei,
• Ki te whakakore koe i ngā mahere me ō hoa,
• Ki te hiahia koe ki te mahi i tēnei, ka wareware koe ki ō kawenga,
• Mena ka pā tēnei ki ō whanaungatanga whaiaro,

Tērā pea he nui rawa te wā e pau ana i a koe ki tēnei. Mena koinā, he otinga pai te kōrero ki tētahi kaiwhakatakoto whakaaro, ki tētahi kaiwhakaora hinengaro rānei (whakaora kōrero). Ka āwhina anō hoki te whai wāhi atu ki tētahi atu mahi ina hiahia koe ki te mirimiri. Hei tauira, ka taea e koe te pānui pukapuka, te hikoi, te whakakorikori tinana rānei.

3. Ngā kino iti o te tinana

Kia maumahara, ki te kaha rawa, ki te kaha rānei tō mirimiri, ka pāngia pea koe e te mamae, te kōroiroi rānei. Waihoki, ki te maha rawa āu mahi i roto i te wā poto, ka pupuhi paku pea tō ure. Engari kāore he take e manukanuka ai ki ēnei, ā, ka ora noa iho ēnei mate i roto i te rā kotahi, e rua rānei.

4. Te whakaiti i te aro ki te moepuku

I ētahi wā, mā te mirimiri i te ara kotahi i ngā wā katoa, inā koa he tino kaha, ka heke te aro o te moepuku. Ko te tikanga o tēnei ka iti ake te aro o tō tinana ki te whakaohooho noa. Mena koinei te āhua, me whakamātau koe ki te whakarerekē i te huarahi e whakaohooho ai koe i a koe anō.