Ka whakaaro ia: "Āe... he ataahua ake ia i ngā wā katoa, nui atu tōku aroha ki a ia!" Ka whakaaro koe: "Ka ruaki ahau, he ngoikore rawa ahau, he rite ahau ki te poihau... ki te pā mai ia ki ahau, ka hamama ahau!" Ae, koinei te tikanga o te hapūtanga. I tēnei wā, he rite te oranga aroha o te nuinga o ngā tāne me ngā wāhine ki te eke i tētahi waka tere. Kāore e taea e tētahi o rāua te matapae i te mea ka tupu, te āhua o ō rāua kare ā-roto, te āhua rānei o te kare ā-roto o te tangata kē. Kua pāngia koe e ngā wheako rite? Kaua e wehi. Me kōrero tāua.
Me pēhea te whakararuraru i tō oranga aroha
He mea tino noa te pāngia o ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e ngā raruraru iti i roto i ō rātou whanaungatanga i te wā e hapu ana. He maha ngā take mō tēnei.
Ko ngā huringa homoni o te tinana ,
ngā huringa ohorere o te kare ā- roto,
te ngenge kore e taea te whakamanawanui, ngā whakaaro mō ō rātou tinana e huri haere ana, ngā mataku mō te heke mai, me ētahi wā ko te kore e taea te moe tāne e ai ki ngā tohutohu a ngā tākuta, ka pā katoa ki tēnei. Ahakoa me tata ake kōrua i tēnei wā, i ētahi wā ka puta te ritenga kē. Tērā pea he nui te tawhiti o ngā kare ā-roto i waenganui i a kōrua. Whakaarohia, me te mea kua mutu ohorere te tata o te whanaungatanga i waenganui i a kōrua mō te wā roa, engari kāore kōrua e mārama he aha.
He kupu whakarāpopoto, he tokomaha te hunga e whakaaro ana ko te whanaungatanga piripono he moepuku anake. Nō reira, ki te kore e taea, ka whakaaro rātou me noho ko rātou anake. Koinei te hapa nui rawa atu.
E ai ki ngā tohunga, ko te moe tāne anake te huarahi hei wheako i te whanaungatanga piripono i waenganui i te tokorua. Ahakoa kāore e taea e koe te mahi, he maha atu anō ngā huarahi hei pupuri i tō hononga kia kaha.
Mā te pā atu, te awhi, te noho tahi me te kōrero, ā, i ētahi wā ko te awhi noa iho me te kore kākahu me te whakapuaki i taua kare ā-roto ka āwhina nui ki te whakapakari i tō hononga.
Ko te kōrero te mea tino nui.
Ko te mea tino kaha ka taea te hanga i ngā kare ā-roto o te aroha i waenganui i te tokorua ko
te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero . Ina kōrero koe mō ō moemoeā, ō tumanako, ō wehi, ō hiahia huna, ka whakapakari i tō hononga. Engari koinei te raruraru. Whakaarohia, e hiahia ana koe ki te awhi me te okioki i tō mahunga ki runga i te pakihiwi o tō tāne. Engari e whakaaro ana ia he tono tēnei ki te moe. Ina ngana ia ki te moe, ka whakakahoretia ia e koe. I te mutunga, ka riri ia, ka pouri koe, ā, ka whakama kōrua. He aha te hē i konei? He māmā noa iho.
Kāore he whakawhitiwhiti kōrero, kāore he māramatanga i waenganui i a kōrua. Ko te mea nui ko te whakamārama i tō hoa. Ina kī koe, "Kāore au e hiahia ki te moe i tēnei wā," ehara i te mea kei te whakakahoretia ia e koe, i tō whanaungatanga rānei. I taua wā, ka aro katoa tō aro ki te pēpi i roto i tō kōpū, me ngā mea e tupu ana i roto i tō tinana.Me whakamārama ki a ia i roto i te aroha ko ēnei kare ā-roto ōu nā
ngā huringa koiora .
I ētahi wā, he uaua tēnei mō te tāne anō hoki.
Ahakoa te āwangawanga o te wahine hapu ki te moe tāne, kāore i te pēnei tonu te āhua. I ētahi wā
, ka rerekē pea ngā kare ā-roto o te tāne mō te moe tāne. Ahakoa e aroha ana ia ki a koe, ka ngana pea ia ki te wehe i a ia i a koe. Ko tētahi take mō tēnei, he 'whaea' anake tana e kite ana i a koe. Ki te whakaaro noa te wahine he 'whaea' ia, ā, ka mahi pērā i te whaea, ā, ki te whakaaro noa tana tāne he 'whaea' ia, he arai nui tēnei ki tētahi whanaungatanga tata. Nō reira, ahakoa he 'whaea' koe, kaua e wareware he wahine aroha koe, he tangata moepuku hoki. Inaa, he maha ngā tāne e kite ana i ā rātou wahine hapu he tino ataahua i ngā wā katoa, ahakoa te rerekētanga o ō rātou tinana. Ina mārama koe ki tēnei, ka taea e kōrua te noho aroha tonu pērā i mua. Ko te mea nui ko te mārama me te whakaute i ngā hiahia o tētahi ki tētahi. Hei tauira, ka taea e te tāne
te mirimiri waewae i tana wahine kia pai ai ia. Ka taea e te wahine te mārama ki ngā hiahia o tana tāne, ā, ka āwhina i a ia kia harikoa, ahakoa kāore he moe tāne.
Ehara tēnei i te tikanga me akiaki koe i a koe anō ki te mahi i tētahi mea kāore koe e hiahia ki te mahi. Engari me whakaaro koe ki ngā hiahia o te tangata e arohaina ana e koe, me te whakarite wāhi mō rātou i ngā wā katoa e taea ana e koe.
7 ngā huarahi whai hua hei pupuri i te aroha i te wā e hapu ana
Anei ētahi tohutohu whai hua hei āwhina i a koe ki te pupuri i te aroha me te whanaungatanga piripono i roto i tō whanaungatanga.
| Tohutohu | Me aha? |
|---|
| 1. Kaua e whakahawea ki te taatai me te taatai. | Whakaarohia tēnei me te wā tuatahi i aroha ai koe. Kāore koe e tumanako tonu ki te moe tāne, engari he hiahia tōu ki tēnā. Nō reira, atawhaitia koe ki te aroha i runga i te huarahi e taea ai e koe te whakatutuki i taua hiahia. |
| 2. Tīmata anō ki te takaro. | Ina pukumahi te ao i muri i te marena, ka wareware koe ki ngā mea i tīmata ai te whanaungatanga. Kia maumahara anō ki aua mea. Whakakatakata tetahi ki tetahi, kōrerotia he kupu aroha, ā, kia takaro noa. |
| 3. Whakaritea he 'pō whakatā' kotahi i te wiki | Whakatakotoria he rā kotahi i te wiki mā kōrua anake. Kaua e kōrero mō te peita i te rūma o te pēpi, te whakaingoa rānei i te pēpi i taua wā. Kōrerohia ko kōrua anake. Kia mau tonu tēnei tikanga ahakoa kua whānau te pēpi. |
| 4. Tāpirihia he ohorere ki te whanaungatanga | Mahia tetahi mea kāore e whakaarohia e te tangata kē. Kaukau me ngā rama, mātakihia he kiriata e pai ana ki a kōrua, hoatu he koha ohorere ki a rāua. Ahakoa he mea iti noa iho, ka taea te hanga i tētahi rerekētanga nui. |
| 5. E ngā Tāne: Kia aroha ki tāu wahine e hapu ana. | Kia rite tō aroha me tō ngākau aroha ki tō kōrua tūtakitanga tuatahi. Ka pai tōna ngākau, ā, ka āwhina i a kōrua kia piri atu. |
| 6. Mō ngā wāhine: Me waiho tāu tāne hei hoa mahi i te wā e hapu ana | Ahakoa he māmā noa te kōrero mō tō hapūtanga ki tō hoa pai, ki tō whaea rānei, he mea nui kia kōrerohia ēnei mea ki tō tāne. Kawea ia ki te tākuta , ka tirotirohia ngātahitia. Mena he take hauora kāore e taea e kōrua te moe tāne, tonoa tō tākuta kia āwhina i a koe ki te whakamārama ki tō tāne. |
| 7. Mō kōrua: Kia kaha ki te pupuri i te whanaungatanga. | Kaua e tukua tō whanaungatanga kia hoki whakamuri. Ki te mea kei te ngoikore haere tō whanaungatanga piripono, me mahi wawe i tetahi mea hei whakatika. Tiakina tō whanaungatanga me tetahi ki tetahi, me te mea he mea utu nui tāu e tiaki ai. |
Hei whakamutunga, ko te mea nui ko te atawhai tetahi ki tetahi me te aroha, te mārama, me te manaaki. Ahakoa he wā uaua tēnei, he wā whakamiharo hoki ina tae mai tētahi hou ki roto i tō ao.
Karere Tangohia ki te Kāinga
- He mea noa te rerekētanga o te whanaungatanga piripono i te wā e hapu ana. Kaua e manukanuka, ehara i te mea ko koe anake.
- Ehara i te mea ko te moe anake te mea nui mō te whanaungatanga piripono. He rite tonu te hiranga o te awhi, te kōrero, me te pupuri ringa.
- Ko te kōrero tuwhera me te aroha ki tō hoa mō ō kare ā-roto, ō wehi, me ō hiahia te otinga pai rawa atu.
- I ētahi wā, ka mataku, ka manukanuka pea kōrua mō tēnei wā. Kaua e whakapae tetahi i tetahi, engari ngana ki te whakaaro mai i te tirohanga a tetahi.
- Mena he āwangawanga hauora, he ruarua rānei āu e pā ana ki te moe tāne, wahine, me kōrero ki tō tākuta .
Te haputanga, ngā whanaungatanga, te taatai, te aroha, te whanaungatanga piripono,
te haputanga , te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero
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