Kua rongo koe i a koe anō e whakaaro ana, 'Ka taea e au tēnei?', e hiahia ana rānei kia nui ake tō māia ki a koe anō? Ko te pono, ka pāngia tātou katoa e ēnei kare ā-roto me ēnei whakaaro i ngā wā rerekē o ō tātou oranga. He mea noa iho tēnei. I tēnei rā, ka kōrero tātou mō te māia. He wāhanga nui tēnei o tō harikoa, tō tipu whaiaro, me tō angitu whānui i te ao.
He aha rawa te whakapono ki te pono? He māmā noa iho…
Ko te māia ko te whakapono pumau, ā-roto kei a koe mōu ake me ōu ake pūkenga. Ehara i te mea mō te whakapehapeha, mō te whakaaro rānei he pai ake koe i te katoa. He mea pumau ake, he mea pono, he mea pumau hoki. Ki te kī noa, ko te mōhiotanga ā-roto, ko te 'Ka taea e au tēnei'.
He aha ngā mahi a te hunga māia? Anei ngā mea ka kitea pea e koe:
- Kāore rātou e pāngia e ngā kare ā-roto koretake o te haumaru; e rongo ana rātou i te haumaru i roto i a rātou anō.
- E mōhio ana rātou ka taea e rātou te tū atu ki ngā āhuatanga katoa o te ao mā te whakawhirinaki ki ō rātou pūkenga me ō rātou kaha o roto .
- Kei te rite rātou ki te aro atu ki ngā wero o ia rā, pērā i ngā whakamātautau, ngā whakataetae, ngā kōrero ā-iwi rānei.
- Engari ko te whakaaro "Kāore e taea e au", ka whakaaro tonu rātou "Ka taea e au".
Whakaarohia kua tukuna he wā ki a koe hei manaaki i tētahi huihuinga kura. E hiahia ana koe ki te mahi, engari kei te whakaaro koe, "Me pēhea mēnā ka hē taku kōrero? Me pēhea mēnā ka pōturi taku kōrero i mua i te katoa?" He tohu tēnā kei te heke tō maia. Heoi, kei te whakaaro te tangata maia, "Ae, kāore anō ahau kia mahi i tēnei i mua, engari ka ngana ahau. Ka taea e au tēnei." Koinei te rerekētanga.
He aha te mea nui ai te whakapono ki a tātou?
He rite te maia ki tētahi hoa pai e āwhina ana i a koe ki te whakatere i te haerenga o te ao. He maha ngā huarahi e āwhina ai i a tātou:
- Ka whakarite i a tātou ki te aro atu ki ngā wheako o te ao: Ina māia koe, kāore koe e wehi ki te tūtaki ki ngā mea hou, ki te tūtaki rānei ki ngā tāngata hou. Ka haere tonu koe ki mua, kaua ki te whakaroa.
- E akiaki ana i a tātou ki te tūhura i ngā whai wāhitanga hou, me te hono atu ki ētahi atu: Whakaarohia tētahi wā i whai whakaaro pai koe engari i tino mataku koe ki te whakapuaki. Ki te mea he māia koe, ka whai mana koe ki te whakaatu i ō whakaaro. Whakaarohia te maha o ngā tatau ka tuwhera māu!
- Ka āwhina i a tātou ki te hoki whakamuri i muri i te hinganga: Ka hē tātou katoa, ā, ka pāngia tātou e te hinganga i ētahi wā. Engari ko te tangata māia, kāore ia e noho ki raro. Ka ara ake anō ia, ka ngana anō.
Ko te taha kē, ko te mea ka puta ina iti te maia. Ko te hunga iti te maia ka whakaroa ki te whakamātau i ngā mea hou, ki te whakahoahoa rānei ki ngā tāngata hou. Ki te kore rātou e angitu i te wā tuatahi, he iti ake te tūponotanga ka whakamātau anō rātou. Ko te kore o te maia ka ārai i a tātou ki te whakatutuki i tō tātou pūmanawa katoa. He rite ki te manu he nui ōna parirau e wehi ana ki te rere.
Te tikanga o te whakapono ki a koe anō
Kua kōrerotia atu rānei e tētahi ki a koe he pūkenga koe, he katakata, he atawhai, he toi, he ākonga pai, he kaituhi, he kaitākaro pūkenga rānei?
Ina kitea e ētahi ō tātou kaha me ō tātou pūkenga, ka taea e tēnei te whakanui ake i tō tātou whakapono ki a rātou anō. Heoi anō, kotahi te tikanga: me whakapono anō hoki tātou ki aua mea pai. Kua ruarua koe i tētahi kupu whakamihi i tukuna mai e tētahi ki a koe, me te whakaaro, "He pai noa iho rātou, kāore au i te tino pai?" Koinā te ritenga kē o te whakapono ki a rātou anō.
Hei whakapono pono ki a koe anō, me tino whakapono koe he kaha koe, he pūkenga hoki. Ko te huarahi pai ki te hanga i taua whakapono ko te whakamahi i ō pūkenga me ō āheinga—arā, ko te ako, te mahi, me te mahi.
Mā te whakapono ka kitea e tātou ō tātou kaha, ka whakakoi hoki i aua kaha. I a tātou e mōhio ana ki ngā mea e pai ana ki a tātou, ā, e whakahīhī ana ki ā tātou whakatutukitanga, ka kaha ake tō tātou whakapono.
Me pēhea e taea ai e koe te whakanui ake i tō whakapono ki a koe anō?
Koinei te wāhanga tino nui. Ko te rongo pai, ka taea e tātou katoa te hanga i tō tātou whakapono ki a tātou anō, i ia taahiraa, i ia taahiraa. Anei ētahi tohutohu ka taea e koe te whakamātau:
1. Hangaia he hinengaro māia
Koinei te taahiraa tuatahi, te taahiraa nui rawa atu hoki. Ina uru mai ngā whakaaro kino pēnei i te 'Kāore e taea e au,' 'He uaua rawa tēnei,' 'Ka hinga ahau' rānei, kaua e hoatu he wāhi ki a rātou. Engari, akohia te mōhio ki taua reo o roto, ka whakarerekē. Whakakapia te 'Kāore e taea e au' ki te 'Ka taea e au!' Mea atu ki a koe anō, 'Ae, he mea hou tēnei, engari ki te ngana ahau ki te arotahi, ka tino taea e au te ako, te whakaoti rānei.' Tērā pea he uaua i te tīmatanga, engari ka noho hei tikanga mā te mahi.
2. Whakatauritea koe me te atawhai
E whakarite ana tātou katoa i a tātou ki ētahi atu, tika? He mea tino maori tēnei. Ka taea e ia te āwhina i a tātou ki te mārama ki a tātou anō, me te akiaki i a tātou ki te whakawhanake i ngā āhuatanga e whakamoemititia ana e tātou i roto i ētahi atu. Heoi, ki te mea ka waiho koe e te whakataurite tonu hei pouri, hei ngakaukore, hei whakaiti rānei i a koe, he raruraru tēnā. He tohu mārama tēnā me mahi koe ki te whakapai ake i tō whakaaro ki a koe anō. Kia maioha ki te pai o ētahi atu, me te noho harikoa ki tō ake haerenga.
3. Whakarerea te whakaroa i a koe anō
Ina ruarua tātou i ō tātou pūkenga, ka whakaititia tātou, ka whakaititia, ka whakaititia rānei, ka kore rānei i rite. He maha ngā wā ka ārahi tēnei i a tātou ki te karo i ngā tāngata me ngā whai wāhitanga hei āwhina i a tātou kia tipu. I ngā wā katoa ka whakaaro koe, "Kāore e taea e au," werohia taua whakaaro. Kia maumahara ki tētahi mea kua angitu i a koe i mua.
4. Tangohia he mōrearea haumaru
Ehara tēnei i te tikanga o te tango i ngā tūponotanga mōrearea. Ko tōna tikanga he hikoi paku atu i waho i tō rohe whakamarie , me te whakamātau i tētahi mea e wehi ana koe i te nuinga o te wā engari e mōhio ana koe he pai.
- Hono atu ki tētahi karapu kura.
- Tūao mō tētahi kaupapa, huihuinga hapori rānei.
- Whakamātauria kia uru atu ki tētahi tīma, ki tētahi whakaaturanga pūkenga rānei.
- Totoro tō ringa i roto i te akomanga ki te pātai, ki te whakautu rānei i ngā pātai.
- Ataata, ka tīmata kōrero ki tētahi e whakama ai koe i a koe anō.
5. Whakamātauria koe anō
Kōwhiria tētahi mea e pai ana koe ki te mahi me i nui ake tō māia. Whakamātauria kia kaha ake, ā, haere tonu. Kia tutuki i a koe, whiriwhiria tētahi atu mea—kia mau tonu te tere. Mā ia hikoinga ka anga whakamua koe ka whakanui ake i tō māia, pērā i te whakapakari uaua e te whakakori tinana.
6. Kia mōhio ki ō pūkenga, ā, āwhina kia tiaho
He maha ngā wā ka akona tātou kia arotahi ki te whakatika i ō tātou ngoikoretanga. Ahakoa he mea nui tēnā, pērā i te whakapai ake i tētahi māka i te kura, kaua e tukua te mahi ki ō ngoikoretanga kia kore ai koe e eke ki te taumata teitei i roto i ō pūkenga. Mā te mahi i ngā mea e pūkenga ana koe ka hari ai, ā, ka whakanui ake i tō whakapono ki a koe anō.
7. Kia mau tonu ki tāu mahi
Mena he ākonga koe, kia mau tonu ki ō mahi, ki ō akoranga, me ō kaupapa. Whakaritea mō te akomanga, ngā pātaitai, me ngā whakamātautau. He aha ai? Nā te mea ka nui ake tō whakapono ki a koe anō. Ko te rite tonu te parepare pai rawa atu i te manukanuka whakamātautau me te ahotea o te kura. Ko te whakarite te kī ki te whakapono ki a koe anō.
8. Kia maia ki te noho ko koe tonu
Tukua ētahi atu kia kite i a koe i tō āhua tūturu—tae atu ki ō hapa me ō ngoikoretanga. Ina mutu tā tātou huna i ō tātou āhua tūturu, ka māmā ake te pana atu i ō tātou āwangawanga. Awhitia ō āhuatanga ahurei, me te whakanui i tō tuakiri. Kati te ngana ki te noho hei tangata kē, ki te mahi rānei i roto i te āhua rūpahu. E hiahiatia ana te maia me te māia ki te noho hei koe i tō āhua tūturu, engari ki te nui haere tō mahi, ka nui haere tō māia ki te noho. Kia mahara, ko tēnei māia te mea e hanga ana i tō whakaaro ki a koe anō.
Kia mau tonu! Kaua e mutu!
Kāore te maia i te taumata kotahi i ngā wā katoa. I ētahi rā ka tino kore e taea te aukati, i ētahi rā ka pōuri pea koe. He mea noa tēnei mō te katoa—tae atu ki te hunga e āhua ana kei a rātou ngā mea katoa.
Whakaarohia he rite ki te tākaro kirikiti. I tētahi rā, tērā pea ka whiwhi koe i te rautau; i te rā e whai ake nei, tērā pea ka whiwhi koe i te parera. Pērā tonu te mahi a te maia.
Ki te mea kei te whakakorikori i tō whakapono ki a koe anō, kia atawhai ki a koe anō. Kaua e whakahe i a koe anō.Kaua e whakahua i ngā tapanga kino pēnei i te "Kāore au i te whai hua." Engari, akohia ngā mea i tupu, pātai atu ki a koe anō he aha tāu e taea ai te mahi rerekē i te wā e whai ake nei, ā, kia maumahara ki tēnā. Kōrero ki tētahi e whakawhirinaki ana koe ki a ia, e tautoko ana i a koe. Kātahi, whakamaharatia koe ki ō kaha me ō angitu o mua. Hoki atu ki te kēmu! Whakatika ake i te wāhi i hinga ai koe!
Te karere kawe ki te kāinga
Ehara te whakapono i te mea ka hangaia i roto i te pō kotahi. He rite ki te whakato i tētahi māra. Me whakamakuku, me atawhai, me tuku kia whiti te rā. Koinei te āhua o tōna tipu, o tōna puāwaitanga, o tōna hua.
- Tīmata te whakapono ki a koe anō. Kia mōhio ki tō pūmanawa.
- Whakaekea ngā wero iti. Whakanuia ngā angitu kua tutuki i a koe.
- Ina puta mai ngā whakaaro kino , kaua e hoatu he wāhi ki a rātou—kia mau tonu te whakaaro pai.
- Kaua e whakaiti i a koe anō mā te whakataurite i tō ara ki ētahi atu.
- Ki te kore koe e angitu, akohia he akoranga, ka ngana anō.
- Kaua e wehi ki te noho ko koe tonu.
Ka taea e koe! He kaha ake koe i tō whakaaro. Ki te taea e koe te whakapono ki a koe anō, kāore he mea o tēnei ao e kore e taea e koe te whakatutuki!
Te Whakapono ki a Ia Anō, Te Hauora Hinengaro, Te Āwhina i a Ia Anō, Te Tipu Whaiaro, Te Whakaaro Pai, Te Whakaute i a Ia Anō
