Kodi mumamva ngati muli pa tsamba losiyana ndi la ena? Ngakhale anzanu angaone munthu watsopano ndipo nthawi yomweyo amamva ngati akukopeka, kodi mumapeza kuti simukumva zimenezo? Mwina mumayamba kukondana ndi munthu wina mutadziwana bwino ndi munthu wina ndikumanga ubale wakuya komanso wofunika. Izi ndi zomwe timazitcha kuti demisexuality .
Kodi Desexuality ndi chiyani?
Mwachidule, kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndi chilakolako chogonana . Anthu omwe amadziwika kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amangokondana ndi ena akapanga ubale wakuya wamaganizo . Poyerekeza ndi anthu ambiri, anthu ambiri ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha nthawi zambiri amakopeka ndi chilakolako chogonana. Kwa ena, pangakhale chidwi chochepa kwambiri pa zochita zogonana, kapena nthawi zina, palibe chidwi chilichonse.
Taganizirani izi: anthu ambiri amatha kukondana ndi ena mosasamala kanthu kuti ali ndi ubale wamaganizo. Angakopeke ndi anthu osawadziwa kapena anthu omwe angokumana nawo kumene. Komabe, kwa munthu amene sakondana ndi amuna kapena akazi anzawo, nthawi zambiri kukondana kumeneku sikumakhalapo.
Ndikofunikira kukumbukira kuti ubale wolimba wamaganizo sutsimikizira kuti chilakolako chogonana chidzatsatira. Komabe, mgwirizano umenewo ndiye chinthu chofunikira kwambiri kuti munthu aganizire zochita zogonana. Ngakhale chilakolakocho chikakula, chilakolako chogonana nthawi zambiri chimakhala chochepa.
Nthawi yomwe imatenga kuti pakhale mgwirizano wamaganizo umenewu imasiyana malinga ndi munthu ndi munthu. Anthu ena omwe si amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amatha kumanga ubale umenewo mwachangu, pomwe ena angatenge zaka zambiri. Ubwenzi wamaganizo umenewu suyenera kukhala wachikondi; ukhoza kungokhala ubwenzi wapamtima kwambiri, wogwirizana.
Kodi ndingapeze bwanji njira yodziwira kuti ndili ndi pakati pa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha? Kodi pali njira yodziwira ngati ndili ndi pakati pa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha?
Ayi, palibe mayeso ovomerezeka azachipatala kuti adziwe zomwe mumakonda pankhani yogonana. Komabe, zingakhale zothandiza kudzifunsa mafunso awa:
- Kodi mumakopeka ndi ndani pa nkhani yogonana? Kodi amakupangitsani kumva bwanji?
- Kodi mumakopeka ndi chilakolako chogonana? Ngati ndi choncho, kangati, ndipo maganizo amenewo amakhala amphamvu bwanji?
- Kodi kukonda kugonana n’kofunika bwanji kwa inu mukasankha kupita kokacheza?
- Kodi mumakonda kugonana ndi anthu osawadziwa kapena anthu omwe mwangokumana nawo kumene?
Palibe mayankho olondola kapena olakwika a mafunso awa. Kuganizira za iwo kungakhale poyambira kumvetsetsa umunthu wanu wogonana .
Kodi kukhala ndi chilakolako chogonana kapena kukhala ndi chilakolako chogonana kumatanthauza chiyani?
Anthu omwe amadziwika kuti ndi osagonana nawo nthawi zina amakhala ndi chilakolako chochepa chogonana kapena sakonda kuchita zinthu zogonana. Anthu omwe sagonana nawo nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi chilakolako chogonana chifukwa sakondanso kugonana pafupipafupi. Komabe, mosiyana ndi anthu ambiri osagonana nawo, amatha kukhala ndi chilakolako chogonana akangoyamba kugwirizana kwambiri.
Chosiyana ndi asexual ndi allosexual, chomwe chimatanthauza anthu omwe amakumana ndi chilakolako chogonana pafupipafupi, mosasamala kanthu za momwe amaonera kugonana.
Kodi kusiyana pakati pa Demisexual ndi Graysexual ndi kotani?
Kugonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndi kofanana koma kuli ndi kusiyana kwakukulu. Anthu ogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amakumana ndi chilakolako chogonana kawirikawiri kapena mopanda mphamvu. Komabe, mosiyana ndi anthu ogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, safuna kuti akhale ndi chikondi chakuya kuti akhudzidwe ndi chilakolakocho. Ndicho kusiyana kwakukulu.
Kodi Demiromantic ndi chiyani?
Kugonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha n'kofanana ndi kugonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha koma kumakhudzana ndi kukondana. Munthu wokonda kugonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amangokondana kwambiri akangoyamba kugwirizana kwambiri. Izi n'zosiyana ndi kukondana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha; aliyense amene ali ndi chilakolako chilichonse chogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha akhoza kukhala ndi chilakolako chogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
Kodi pali kusiyana kotani pakati pa Demisexual ndi Pansexual?
Anthu omwe ali ndi chilakolako chogonana ndi ena mosasamala kanthu za kugonana kwawo kapena umunthu wawo. Wina akhoza kukhala ndi chilakolako chogonana ndi ena komanso kugonana ndi anthu ena; izi zikutanthauza kuti akhoza kukopeka ndi anthu amtundu uliwonse, koma pokhapokha atakhazikitsa ubale wofunikira kwambiri.
Kodi mungakhale olunjika (osagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha) komanso osakhala amuna kapena akazi okhaokha?
Inde, ndithudi. Tikudziwa kuti pali mayina osiyanasiyana okhudza kugonana monga Heterosexual (wokopeka ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha), Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, ndi Pansexual. Desexuality ndi yosiyana chifukwa imafotokoza mtundu ndi momwe mumakopekera . Anthu ambiri amagwiritsa ntchito mayina onse awiri. Mwachitsanzo, mukhoza kukhala ndi heterodemisexual kapena blonding. Mwachidule, demisexual sikutanthauza kuti mumakonda ndani , koma momwe kukopako kumakulira.
N’chifukwa chiyani kuli kofunikira kukhala ndi dzina la Desexuality?
Mungadabwe kuti n’chifukwa chiyani chizindikiro chili chofunikira. Kwa ambiri omwe amadziwika kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, kukhala ndi dzina chifukwa cha zomwe adakumana nazo kumapereka lingaliro la kukhala m'gulu, kukhala m'gulu, komanso kuzindikira kuti sali okha.
Taganizirani izi: kuyambira muli aang'ono, ngati simunali ndi zilakolako zofanana zogonana kapena zokondana monga anzanu, mwina munasokonezeka, munkada nkhawa, kapena munkadzifunsa kuti, 'Kodi pali vuto ndi ine?' kapena 'Kodi ndine wosiyana ndi ena onse?'
Mawu oti 'demisexual' ndi ofunika chifukwa:
- Zimathandiza anthu kupeza gulu la anthu omwe ali ndi maganizo ofanana.
- Zimathandiza anthu kumva kuti ali otetezeka kwambiri pa umunthu wawo.
- Zimatsimikizira kuti momwe timaonera chilakolako cha kugonana ndi cholondola komanso chosiyanasiyana .
- Limapereka mawu ofotokozera chochitika chomwe mwina sichingatheke kufotokozedwa kale.
Uthenga Wopita Nawo Kunyumba
Tikukhulupirira kuti izi zikupereka chidziwitso chomveka bwino. Kugonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kumatanthauza anthu omwe amangokhalira kugonana pambuyo poti agwirizana kwambiri.
Kugonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha nthawi zambiri kumagawidwa m'magulu a ambulera yosagonana chifukwa cha kuchepa kwa chilakolako chogonana. Komabe, anthu ogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndi gulu losiyana chifukwa amatha ndipo amakumana ndi chilakolako chogonana pazochitika zinazake. Kudzimvetsetsa nokha ndi kulemekeza malingaliro anu ndikofunikira kwambiri.
Nthawi zina zimakhala zovuta kukambirana nkhani zimenezi m'dera lathu, koma kumbukirani: malingaliro anu ndi olondola.
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