Kodi mufunikanso kugwirizana kwambiri kuti mukopeke ndi munthu wina? (Demisexuality) Tiyeni tikambirane za izi!

Kodi nthawi zina mumamvanso chonchi? Anzanu akamanena zinthu monga, “O, ndi wokongola, ndimamukonda” mukakumana koyamba ndi munthu watsopano, kodi simukumva choncho? Kapena mumangomva ngati mukukopeka ndi munthu wina mutamudziwa bwino, kukhala ndi ubwenzi wapamtima, kapena ubale wapamtima? Umenewo ndi mkhalidwe womwe tikambirane lero. Izi zimatchedwa ‘Demisexuality’.

Kodi 'Demisexuality' iyi ndi chiyani?

Mwachidule, 'Demisexuality' ndi chilakolako chogonana . Anthu omwe amadziwika kuti 'Demisexuality' amakopeka ndi munthu wina pokhapokha atapanga ubale wapamtima ndi munthuyo. Poyerekeza ndi anthu ambiri, anthu ambiri 'Demisexuality' nthawi zambiri samakopeka ndi chilakolako chogonana . Ena sangakhale ndi chidwi chochita zogonana, kapena alibe chidwi n'komwe.

Taganizirani izi, anthu ambiri amatha kukonda munthu wina, kaya ali ndi ubale wamaganizo naye kapena ayi. Akhoza kukonda munthu amene samudziwa kapena kukumana naye koyamba. Koma munthu wokonda kugonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha sakonda munthu ameneyu poyamba.

Koma ndikofunikira kukumbukira kuti palibe chitsimikizo chakuti kulumikizana kwamaganizo kudzatsogolera ku chikoka cha kugonana. Komabe, kulumikizana kumeneko ndikofunikira ngakhale poganizira za kuchita zogonana. Ngakhale chikoka choterechi chikachitika, chilakolako chochita zogonana nthawi zambiri chimakhala chochepa.

Nthawi yomwe imatenga kuti kulumikizana kwamaganizo kumeneku kukule imasiyana malinga ndi munthu. Kwa ena 'okonda kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha', kulumikizana kumeneku kumatha kukula mwachangu. Kwa ena, kumatha kuchitika patatha zaka zambiri mukuchita chibwenzi. Kulumikizana kwamalingaliro kumeneku sikuyenera kukhala 'kumverera kwachikondi'. Kungakhalenso ubwenzi wapamtima komanso wochezeka.

Kodi ndingadziwe bwanji kuti ndine ndani? Kodi pali njira yoyesera 'demisexuality'?

Ayi, palibe mayeso omwe angakuuzeni zenizeni zokhudza kugonana kwanu. Koma mutha kudzifunsa mafunso awa:

• Kodi mumakonda ndani pogonana naye? Kodi amakupangitsani kumva bwanji?
• Kodi mumamva chilakolako chogonana? Ngati ndi choncho, kangati? Kodi chilakolakocho chimakhala champhamvu bwanji?
• Kodi kukopana ndi munthu n’kofunika bwanji mukasankha chibwenzi ndi munthu wina?
• Kodi mumakopeka ndi anthu atsopano omwe mumakumana nawo, simukuwadziwa?

Palibe mayankho olondola kapena olakwika pa mafunso awa.Koma kuganizira mafunso awa kungakhale poyambira kumvetsetsa umunthu wanu wogonana .

Kodi kukhala "osagonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha" kumatanthauza chiyani?

Anthu omwe amadziwika kuti ndi "osagonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha" sakonda kugonana kwenikweni kapena sakonda kugonana konse. Angasiyenso chidwi ndi nkhani zogonana.

Anthu okonda kugonana nthawi zina amatchulidwa kuti "asexual" chifukwa nthawi zina sakonda kugonana. Komabe, amatha kumva chilakolako chogonana komanso chidwi ndi zinthu zogonana atakhala pachibwenzi ndi munthu wina.

Mosiyana ndi kugonana kosagonana ndi kugonana kosagonana. Anthu omwe amadziwika kuti ndi ogonana okhaokha nthawi zambiri amakopeka ndi kugonana, mosasamala kanthu za momwe amaonera kugonana.

Kodi kusiyana pakati pa `Demisexual` ndi `Graysexual` ndi kotani?

`Demisexuality` ndi `Graysexuality` ndizofanana pang'ono, koma pali kusiyana pang'ono. Anthu omwe amadziwika kuti ndi `Graysexuality` sakonda kukopana ndi kugonana, kapena safuna kwenikweni kuchita zogonana. Komabe, mosiyana ndi anthu `Demisexuality`, anthu `Graysexuality` safunikira kulumikizana ndi malingaliro kuti amve kukopana ndi kugonana. Ndi kusiyana kwakukulu kumeneku.

Kodi 'Demiromantic' iyi ndi chiyani?

`Demiromanticism` ndi yofanana ndi `Demisexuality`, koma pali kusiyana pang'ono. Kuti munthu wa `Demiromantic` amve chikondi pa munthu wina, choyamba ayenera kukhala ndi ubale wamaganizo ndi munthuyo. Sitikulankhula za chilakolako chogonana, tikulankhula za chikondi pano. Aliyense amene ali ndi chilakolako chilichonse chogonana akhoza kukhala `Demiromantic`.

Kodi kusiyana pakati pa `Demisexual` ndi `Pansexual` ndi kotani?

Anthu omwe amadziwika kuti ndi "Pansexual" amakopeka ndi aliyense, mosasamala kanthu za jenda lawo kapena umunthu wawo wogonana . Munthu akhoza kukhala "Pansexual" ndi "Demisexual" nthawi imodzi. Izi zikutanthauza kuti akhoza kukopeka ndi munthu wodziwika ndi umunthu uliwonse wogonana, koma kuti kukopekako kuchitike, kulumikizana kwamalingaliro komwe kwatchulidwa pamwambapa kuyenera kuchitika kaye.

Kodi munthu angakhale `Demisexual` ngakhale atakhala `Straight` (heterosexual)?

Inde, n'zotheka ndithu. Tikudziwa kuti pali mayina angapo okhudza kugonana, monga 'Heterosexual' (kukopa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha), 'Gay' (kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha), 'Lesbian' (kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha), 'Bisexual' (kukopa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha) ndi 'Pansexual' (kukopa akazi onse).

Dzina lakuti `Demisexuality` ndi losiyana. Limatanthauza mtundu wa chikoka chomwe ena amamva komanso momwe chimayambira.Za. Anthu ambiri amadzizindikiritsa m'njira zonse ziwiri. Mwachitsanzo, mutha kukhala 'Heterosexual' komanso 'Demisexual', kapena mutha kukhala 'Pansexual' komanso 'Demisexual'. Mwachidule, 'Demisexuality' sikutanthauza kuti mumakonda ndani, koma momwe kukopako kumachitikira.

N’chifukwa chiyani 'Demisexuality' iyi ikufunika dzina kapena chizindikiro china?

Mwinanso mukudzifunsa izi. Ndipotu, kwa anthu ambiri omwe amadziwika kuti ndi 'Demisexual', kukhala ndi dzina limeneli kumawapatsa lingaliro loti ali m'gulu limodzi komanso kuti ali m'gulu la anthu ena, kumverera kuti sali okha ndipo pali ena ofanana nawo .

Tangoganizani, mwina akhala akuvutika maganizo komanso kusokonezeka kuyambira ali mwana, akumadzifunsa kuti, "Kodi pali vuto lililonse ndi ine?", "Kodi ndine wosiyana ndi ena?", chifukwa alibe chilakolako chogonana kapena chidwi ndi zinthu zogonana monga anzawo omwe ali pafupi nawo.

Dzina lakuti `Demisexuality` ndilofunika pazifukwa izi:

• Zimathandiza anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kupeza malo omwe angadzizindikiritse okha.
• Kupeza umunthu wawo kumathandiza anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kumva kuti ndi otetezeka komanso kuzindikira kuti sali okha .
• Komanso, dzinali limathandiza kumvetsetsa kuti chilakolako cha kugonana ndi malingaliro ndi zachibadwa ndipo munthu aliyense amatha kuziona mosiyana, pa 'spectrum', ndipo malingaliro onsewo ndi 'oyenera' .
• Chizindikiro ichi chimawapatsa mawu oti adziwitse momveka bwino zomwe akukumana nazo zomwe sakanatha kuzifotokoza kale m'mawu.

Pomaliza, zinthu zoti muzikumbukira (Uthenga Wopita Nawo Kunyumba)

Kotero, ndikukhulupirira kuti mwamvetsa kena kake kuchokera pa zomwe takambirana. 'Demisexual' ikutanthauza anthu omwe amangomva chilakolako chogonana atakhala paubwenzi wolimba ndi munthu wina.

Kugonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kumagawidwa m'gulu la kugonana kosagonana, chifukwa anthu ogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amakhala ndi chilakolako chogonana chochepa kuposa cha anthu wamba. Komabe, anthu ogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndi gulu lapadera, chifukwa amatha kukhala ndi chilakolako chogonana komanso chilakolako chofuna kugonana atakhala pachibwenzi ndi munthu wina.

Kulankhula za zinthu izi nthawi zina kumakhala kovuta pang'ono m'dera lathu, koma ndikofunikira kwambiri kudzimvetsa nokha ndikulemekeza malingaliro anu.

Ngati muli ndi malingaliro amenewa ndipo mukufuna thandizo polankhula za iwo mozama, kapena kuwamvetsetsa, musachite manyazi. Pitani kwa dokotala kapena mlangizi woyenerera. Angakuthandizeni kufufuza malingaliro amenewa, kukupatsani zinthu zomwe mukufunikira kuti mudziwe umunthu wanu, ndikukutsogolerani. Simuli nokha!