Kodi wokondedwa wanu akudwala? Umu ndi momwe mungamuthandizire! (Kuthandiza Wokondedwa wanu)

N'zovuta kufotokoza zomwe timamva tikamva kuti wachibale wathu kapena mnzathu wadwala mwadzidzidzi, makamaka matenda aakulu monga khansa. Kumbali ina, timamva chisoni komanso mantha. Kumbali ina, tikufuna kuthandiza munthu ameneyo, koma nthawi zina timamva kuti sitingathe kuganiza kuti, "Ndichite chiyani tsopano?", "Ndingathandize bwanji?" Izi ndi zachilendo. Ngati inunso mukumva chimodzimodzi, musamve chisoni nazo. Chofunika kwambiri ndikupangitsa munthuyo kumva kuti tili naye panthawi yovutayi.

Zimene muyenera kumvetsetsa musanapereke thandizo

Tikamanena kuti tikuthandiza munthu, tingathe kuchita zimenezi m'njira ziwiri zazikulu. Choyamba ndi kuthandiza anthu . Zimenezi zikutanthauza kuthandiza anthu pa ntchito za tsiku ndi tsiku. Chinanso ndi kuthandiza anthu pa nkhani ya maganizo . Zimenezi zikutanthauza kuthandiza munthuyo, kukhala naye limodzi. Zonsezi n'zofunika kwambiri. Tangoganizirani kuti mnzanu wapezeka ndi khansa ya m'mawere . Kumbali imodzi, ayenera kuthamanga kukawona madokotala ndikupeza chithandizo. Pakadali pano, ayeneranso kugwira ntchito zapakhomo ndi ana. Kumbali ina, akukumana ndi mavuto ambiri mkati mwake, monga mantha, mantha, mkwiyo, ndi chisoni. Choncho tikathandiza, tiyenera kuganizira zonsezi.

Kodi tingatani kuti tithandize? (Zinthu zoti tichite)

Munthu akadwala, sangafikire nthawi yoganizira zopempha zomwe akufuna. Choncho ndikofunikira kuganizira zomuthandiza.

Perekani thandizo lothandiza

M'malo mofunsa mwachidule kuti, "Kodi mukufuna chilichonse?", funsani zinthu zinazake ngati izi.

• "Ndikupita ku sitolo lero. Kodi mukufuna chilichonse choti mubweretse kunyumba? "
• "Uyenera kupita kwa dokotala lero, sichoncho? Ndibwere kudzakutenga? "
• "Lero ukuoneka wotopa. Kodi ndipite kukatenga ana kusukulu? "
• "Kodi mukufunika kugula mankhwala? Kodi ndipite ku pharmacy ndikatenge ena? "
• "Osaphika lero. Ndikubweretserani chakudya chamadzulo. "

Mukafunsa funso linalake ngati ili, n'zosavuta kuti munthuyo ayankhe kuti "inde" kapena "ayi." Zimakhala ngati kuti katundu wolemera wachotsedwa kwa iye.

Aloleni amve momwe akumvera.

Ndizachibadwa kumva mkwiyo, mantha, kudabwa, ndi chisoni munthu akapezeka ndi matenda. Panthawiyo, tiyenera kumulola kuti afotokoze malingaliro amenewo.

• Mvetserani mosamala:Mvetserani mosamala zomwe akunena. Musawadule mawu akamafotokoza chisoni chawo kapena mkwiyo wawo, kapena yesani kuwapatsa mayankho nthawi yomweyo. Awonetseni kuti mukumvetsa momwe akumvera mwa kunena zinthu monga, "Inde, ndi bwino kumva choncho."
• Onetsani chithandizo chanu: Nthawi zina mawu safunika. Kugwirana manja, kuyika mutu wanu paphewa la munthu wina, ndi kumulola kulira kungakhale chitonthozo chachikulu. Tumizani uthenga wakuti, "Ndili nanu."

Musamachite zolakwa izi (zinthu zomwe simuyenera kuchita)

Zina mwa zinthu zomwe timachita ndi zolinga zabwino zingapweteke kwambiri munthu amene akudwala. Choncho samalani kwambiri ndi zinthu zimenezi.

Osanena nkhani zoopsa.

Ichi ndi cholakwika chachikulu chomwe anthu ambiri amachita osazindikira.

• Musanene nkhani monga , "Azakhali a mnansi wathu anali ndi matenda omwewo, ndipo izi ndi zomwe zinamuchitikira pamapeto pake..." . Nkhani zotere zimangowonjezera mantha awo. Wodwala aliyense ndi wosiyana. Njira zochiritsira zapita patsogolo. Choncho musawafooketse kwambiri mwa kuimba mlandu ena chifukwa cha zinthu zoipa zomwe anakumana nazo.
• Komanso, musapereke njira zochiritsira zomwe mudamvapo kwinakwake, monga, "Dokotala uja ndi wabwino, mankhwala amafuta ndi abwino, phala ndi labwino, ndi zina zotero." Achibale ambiri akabwera n’kunena zinthu ngati zimenezo, wodwalayo sangapange chisankho. Wodwalayo angapange chisankho cholakwika posiya chithandizo chomwe chikuchitikira kuchipatala.

Musadzikakamize kuti "mukhale ndi maganizo abwino."

Kunena zinthu monga "khalani ndi chiyembekezo," "khalani ndi chiyembekezo," ndi "pali anthu ambiri omwe akuvutika kuposa inu" kumangobisa malingaliro awo enieni.

• Kulankhula izi kwa munthu wina akakhumudwa kapena kuchita mantha kungamupangitse kudzimva kuti ali ndi mlandu pa zomwe akumva. Amayamba kudziimba mlandu, nati, "N'chifukwa chiyani ndikumva chisoni chonchi?" M'malo mwake, aloleni amve momwe akumvera mwa kunena kuti , "N'zachibadwa kuti mumve mantha komanso chisoni pakali pano. Palibe cholakwika ndi zimenezo."

Musasiye kuyendera ngakhale simulandira mafoni.

Nthawi zina, munthu wodwala sangakhale ndi mphamvu zoyankha foni kapena kulankhula.

• Musawapewe chifukwa mwawaimbira foni kapena kuwatumizira uthenga koma sanayankhe. Mwina sangafune kulankhula nanu, koma ndi njira yabwino yowapangitsa kumva ngati mukuwayang'anira. Ngakhale kutumiza uthenga woti , "Muyenera kuti mukuvutika kulankhula. Ngati mukufuna chilichonse, mundidziwitse." (Osangopita kukawavutitsa.)

Pomaliza, kumbukirani, chomwe wokondedwa wanu akufuna panthawiyi si ngwazi. Amafunika wina woti awagwire dzanja, kuyenda nawo paulendowu, kuwamvetsa. Kukhalapo kwanu, mawu anu amodzi, thandizo lanu laling'ono lingakhale mphamvu yayikulu kwa iwo. Choncho, chitani zimenezo popanda mantha, koma mosamala kwambiri, komanso ndi mtima wanu.