Ese nawe ufite agahinda utabasha kwihanganira? Reka tuganire kuri (agahinda gakomeye)

Mu gihe runaka mu buzima bwacu, iyo dupfushije umuntu wa hafi, yaba uwo mu muryango, inshuti, cyangwa uwo dukunda, ni ibisanzwe kumva agahinda kenshi n'ububabare. Ibyo ni kamere. Aka gahinda kagenda gashira buhoro buhoro uko igihe kigenda gihita, maze tukongera kumenyera ubuzima busanzwe. Ariko rimwe na rimwe, aka gahinda ntigashira, karakomeza mu mitima yacu, kakarushaho kwiyongera, kandi ntitubashe no gukora imirimo yacu ya buri munsi neza. Ibyo ni byo twita mu buvuzi 'agahinda gakomeye ', ubwoko bw'agahinda karenze agahinda gasanzwe, kamara igihe kirekire, kandi kakaba gakomeye .

None se iki (agahinda gakomeye) ni iki?

Mu magambo make, agahinda gakomeye ni ubwoko bw'agahinda gakomeye kandi karambye kabaho nyuma yo kubura umuntu. Muri ubwo bwoko bw'agahinda, amarangamutima n'ibitekerezo wumva ntibishira uko igihe kigenda. Ahubwo, bishobora kumva bisa n'aho bihora binyura mu bitekerezo byawe, bigutwara umunsi wose, ubuzima bwawe bwose.

Ubusanzwe, iyo dupfushije umuntu, twumva dusa n'aho twafatiwe mu cyondo, twazimiye mu gihu, cyangwa turwana no kuva mu mazi. Hashobora kubaho ububabare, agahinda, ndetse wenda n'uburakari. Ariko nyuma y'igihe runaka, turabyibagirwa tugatangira kubaho ubuzima bwacu. Ariko, muri iyi mimerere yitwa (Intimba ikomeye), ibyo ntibibaho. Iyo mibabaro ntishira ubwayo. Igira ingaruka ku mubiri wawe no ku bwenge bwawe, kandi ikakunaniza cyane.

Niba ufite agahinda gakomeye, ushobora kumva:

• Numva mfite umutwaro udashobora kwihanganira impamvu y'igihombo cyangwa ibyabaye icyo gihe.
• Iki gihombo gituma numva mpangayitse cyane ku bizabaho mu gihe kizaza.
• Bagerageza kwirinda ibintu bibibutsa uwo babuze, cyangwa se bakabyuzuza mu bwenge bwabo ibyo byibutso.

Abaganga bakoresha andi mazina menshi kuri iyi ndwara (Intuntu ikomeye):

• `(Agahinda gakomeye)` (Agahinda gakomeye)
• `(Agahinda gahoraho)` (Agahinda gahoraho)
• `(Indwara yo gupfusha burundu)` (Indwara yo gupfusha burundu)

Ni irihe tandukaniro riri hagati y'agahinda gasanzwe n'agahinda gakomeye?

Twese tugira agahinda mu buryo butandukanye. Hari abantu bashobora kugakira mu minsi mike, abandi bagafata amezi. Ibyo ni ibisanzwe. Ariko itandukaniro rikomeye riri hagati y'agahinda gakomeye n'ubundi bwoko bw'agahinda ni uko gashobora kumara amezi atandatu cyangwa umwaka nyuma yo gupfusha kandi kakagira ingaruka ku buzima bwawe bwa buri munsi kugeza aho udashobora gukora.

Tekereza, nyina w'inshuti yawe magara apfuye. Mu byumweru cyangwa amezi make ya mbere, ni ibisanzwe ko agira agahinda, arira, atakaza ubushake bwo kurya, kandi ntasinzire. Ariko nyuma y'umwaka umwe, niba atararya cyangwa ngo anywe neza, atajya ku kazi, ntavugane n'umuntu uwo ari we wese, kandi ahora arira kandi atekereza kuri nyina wabuze, icyo gihe tugomba kugira impungenge gato. Ibyo bishobora kuba ikibazo cya (Intimba ikomeye).

Ese abantu bose bahangana n'agahinda mu buryo butandukanye?

Yego rwose. Nubwo twese tubabara iyo dupfushije umuntu, uburyo twitwaramo n'uburyo twitwara muri iyo ntuntu bushobora gutandukana bitewe n'umuntu ku wundi. Hari ibintu byinshi bishobora kugira ingaruka kuri ibi:

• Amavuko yawe: uko warezwe, ibyo wanyuzemo.
• Imyizerere yawe: Imyizerere y'idini, uko ubona ubuzima.
• Isano n'uwo watakaje: Uburyo uwo muntu yari agukunze cyane n'akamaro yari afite ku buzima bwawe.

Twese dufite imico itandukanye. Kandi ibidukikije dutuyemo nabyo bigira ingaruka kuri twe. Ibi byose bigira ingaruka ku buryo twihanganira agahinda.

Ni mu rugero rungana iki iyo ndwara yitwa (Intimba ikomeye)?

Hashingiwe ku bushakashatsi bwakozwe kugeza ubu, bivugwa ko abantu bakuru bagera kuri 7% bagira agahinda bashobora kugira agahinda gakomeye. Iyi ni indwara nshya yongewe ku gitabo cy’ubushakashatsi n’imibare ku ndwara zo mu mutwe (DSM-5), kikaba ari igitabo gishyira mu byiciro indwara zo mu mutwe. Kubwibyo, hari ubushakashatsi bukomeje gukorwa kuri ibi.

Ni ibihe bimenyetso by'agahinda gakomeye (Complicated Grief)?

Niba ufite agahinda gakomeye, ushobora kugira kimwe cyangwa byinshi muri ibi bimenyetso:

• Ibitekerezo biremereye kandi bibangamira abantu ku bijyanye n'igihombo, kandi biremereye cyane ku buryo umuntu atabyihanganira.
• Kumva ufite inyota ikomeye, ububabare bwo mu mutwe budashobora kwihanganira (kumva ko umuntu wabuze azagaruka).
• Kwanga, kwirinda, cyangwa kwirengagiza ibyo watakaje. Cyangwa, ahubwo, kugerageza kwikikiza ibyo watakaje (urugero: imyenda, amafoto).
• Kumva nta ntego ubuzima bugira nyuma yo gupfusha.
• Biragoye kwemera ko habayeho igihombo.

Byongeye kandi, agahinda gakomeye gashobora no gutera indwara zikurikira:

• Ibitekerezo byo kwiyahura .
• Gusinzira .
• Guhangayika cyane.
• Ibiryo nta buryohe bwabyo.
• Kugorwa no gusabana n'abandi, kugerageza kuba wenyine.
• Kugabanuka k'ubuzima bw'umubiri.
• Kugorwa no gukomeza umubano n'abandi no gusohoza inshingano zabo bwite.

Icy'ingenzi: Niba wowe cyangwa umuntu uzi afite ibitekerezo byo kwiyahura, nyamuneka shaka ubufasha bwa muganga, umujyanama mu by'ubuzima bwo mu mutwe , cyangwa undi muntu wizeye. Ntukagire icyo ukora wenyine.

Ni izihe mpamvu zitera (agahinda gakomeye)?

Impamvu nyamukuru y'iyi ndwara ni igihombo . Bishobora kuba urupfu rw'uwo wakundaga, gutandukana, ndetse no gutakaza akazi cyangwa kwimuka. Igihombo kigira ingaruka ku bantu mu buryo butandukanye. Kuri bamwe, gishobora kugira ingaruka z'igihe kirekire.

Ni nde uri mu kaga gakomeye ko kugira agahinda gakomeye?

Niba ufite kimwe muri ibi bikurikira, ushobora kuba ufite ibyago byinshi byo kugira agahinda gakomeye:

• Guhura n'igihombo gitunguranye kandi kitunguranye:Urugero, urupfu mu mpanuka cyangwa kwiyahura.
• Kubura umuntu wa hafi cyane mu muryango wawe: nk'umubyeyi, umuvandimwe, umwana, cyangwa uwo mwashakanye.
• Kugirana umubano wa hafi cyane n'uwo watakaje.
• Guhura n'ihungabana rikomeye mu gihe cyo gupfusha.
• Kuba ufite ikibazo cyo mu mutwe (urugero: `(Ihungabana)` cyangwa `(Imihangayiko)`).

Ni izihe ngorane zishobora guterwa n'agahinda gakomeye?

Agahinda katoroshye gashobora kugira ingaruka ku bwonko bwawe ndetse no ku mubiri wawe. Zimwe mu ngorane z'ubuzima z'igihe kirekire zishobora guterwa na ko harimo:

• Ihungabana .
• Guhangayika .
• Imirire mibi cyangwa kubura amazi mu mubiri (biterwa no kutarya cyangwa kutanywa neza).
• Indwara yo guhangayika nyuma y'ihungabana (PTSD) .
• Indwara z'umutima .
• Umuvuduko w'amaraso ukabije.
• Indwara yo gukoresha ibiyobyabwenge cyangwa inzoga. Kubera ko abantu badashobora kwihanganira ububabare, bamwe bashobora kwifashisha inzoga cyangwa ibiyobyabwenge, ibyo bigatuma ibintu birushaho kuba bibi.

Ni gute wamenya (agahinda gakomeye)?

Umuganga ni we ushobora kumenya neza niba ufite agahinda gakomeye cyangwa udafite. Bazasuzuma ibi bikurikira:

• Niba ibimenyetso by'agahinda byaragize ingaruka ku buzima bwawe bw'umubiri, ubwo mu mutwe no mu mibereho yawe.
• Niba ibi bimenyetso bikomeza kubaho nyuma y’igihe cy’umwaka umwe cyangwa ku muntu mukuru , cyangwa ku mwana muto.
• Niba umaze nibura ukwezi uhura n'ibi bimenyetso buri munsi mbere yo kubimenya.

Byongeye kandi, kugira ngo yemeze ko indwara isanzwe ihari, muganga azareba nibura ibimenyetso bitatu muri ibi bikurikira:

• Bisa nkaho igice cyawe cyapfuye bitewe n'icyo cyabuze.
• Kudashaka kwemera ko igihombo cyabaye.
• Kwirinda ibintu bikwibutsa igihombo.
• Kumva ububabare bukomeye bwo mu mutwe.
• Kudashobora gukora ibikorwa byo gusabana n'umuryango n'inshuti.
• Gutakaza amarangamutima, cyangwa kumva ufite ikibazo cy'amarangamutima.
• Kumva ubuzima nta cyo buvuze nyuma yo gupfusha.
• Irungu, kumva uri kure y'abandi.

Ni ubuhe buryo bwo kuvura intimba ikomeye?

Hari uburyo bwo kuvura agahinda gakomeye. Abantu benshi basanga uburyo bwo kuvura bwitwa Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) ari ingirakamaro cyane. Muri make, CBT:

• Kugufasha kwemera ukuri kw'igihombo.
• Bigufasha kumenyera ubuzima hamwe n'iki gihombo.
• Kugufasha kongera kwiyunga n'ibyo wakoraga mbere yuko ubitakaza, abantu wari kumwe nabo.
• Kugufasha kugera ku ntego zawe bwite binyuze mu gukira haba mu mutwe no ku mubiri.

Nanone, kujya mu matsinda yo gufasha abapfushije bishobora gufasha cyane. Aya ni amatsinda aho abantu bahuye n'ibihombo bisa nawe bashobora guhuriza hamwe bagasobanukirwa ububabare bwawe. Aho niho ushobora gusangira ibyakubayeho, gutega amatwi abandi, no kumva ko utari wenyine.

Niba ufite izindi ngorane ziterwa n'agahinda gakomeye, nko kwiheba, muganga wawe ashobora kukwandikira imiti nka imiti igabanya ubukana bw'indwara .

Nzumva meze neza vuba gute nyuma yo kuvurwa?

Nta gihe nyacyo giteganyijwe kuri ibi. Uburyo abantu bose bakira n'uko bakira biratandukanye. Bishobora gufata amezi, cyangwa bigafata imyaka kugira ngo urusheho kumva umeze neza. Umuganga wawe azakorana nawe gutegura uburyo bwo kuvura hashingiwe ku ntego zawe bwite. Ni ngombwa kwihangana no kwiyemeza kuvura.

Ni iki nkwiye kwitega mu gihe mfite (agahinda gakomeye)?

Kubaho n'agahinda ntabwo byoroshye. Ubwenge bwawe bwuzuyemo amarangamutima, kandi bishobora no kugira ingaruka ku buzima bwawe bw'umubiri. Niba ibyo bitekerezo n'amarangamutima biri kukwigarurira, shakisha inama kwa muganga. Niba bigoye guhangana n'ikibazo cyawe wenyine, saba ubufasha ku muntu wo mu muryango wawe wizeye cyangwa inshuti yawe, urugero nko kujya kwa muganga wa mbere.

Wibuke ko agahinda gakomeye gashobora kuvurwa. Ushobora koroherwa binyuze mu buvuzi n'amatsinda y'abaterankunga. Niba utazi aho wahera, vugana n'umuganga wawe w'ibanze. Ashobora kuguha ubuyobozi ukeneye. Kandi niba agahinda kawe kagira ingaruka ku buzima bwawe bw'umubiri, na we ashobora kugufasha muri ibyo.

Ese agahinda gakomeye gashobora kwirindwa?

Nta buryo bwo kwirinda burundu agahinda gakomeye. Ariko hari ibintu ushobora gukora kugira ngo ugabanye ibyago byo kurwara:

• Kuvugana n'umujyanama mu by'ubuzima bwo mu mutwe nyuma yo gupfusha.
• Kubaka uburyo bukomeye bwo gushyigikira abantu bagukunda kandi bakumva.
• Kwinjira mu itsinda rishinzwe gufasha abababaye nyuma yo gutsindwa.

Ni ryari ngomba kujya kwa muganga?

Niba ugifite agahinda gakomeye nubwo waba umaze umwaka upfushije, kandi agahinda kakubuza gukora imirimo yawe ya buri munsi no kubaho ubuzima busanzwe, nta kabuza ugomba kujya kwa muganga.Muganga ashobora kugufasha gukira.

By’umwihariko, niba wumva ufite agahinda ku buzima kandi ukaba ufite ibitekerezo byo kwiyahura, ntugatinde gato ahubwo ushake inama z’abaganga ako kanya cyangwa ngo ubwire umuntu wizeye.

Ni ibihe bibazo ngomba kubaza muganga wanjye?

Iyo ugiye kwa muganga, byaba byiza ubajije ibibazo nk'ibi:

• Ni izihe nyandiko zimfasha kwihanganira agahinda? Ese nshobora kuzikoresha?
• Ese nkwiye kuvugana n'inzobere mu by'ubuzima bwo mu mutwe ?
• Ese nkeneye gufata imiti? Niba ari uko bimeze, ni izihe ngaruka mbi?
• Ese iyi ndwara (y’agahinda gakomeye) izagira ingaruka ku buzima bwanjye bw’igihe kirekire?
• Nasubira nte ku buzima bwanjye busanzwe?
• Mfite ibitekerezo byo kwiyahura. Ese mwamfasha kubona uburyo bwo kubivura?

Amaherezo, ibuka... (Ubutumwa bwo kujyana mu rugo)

Agahinda gakomeye gashobora kumera nk'umutwaro munini mu gituza cyawe, akaba ari ububabare budashira bw'amarangamutima. Bishobora kugorana gutsinda uyu mutwaro wenyine utavuwe. Nubwo ibimenyetso byawe bishobora kwiyongera uko igihe kigenda gihita hamwe n'ubuvuzi nka Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), ibyiyumvo bifitanye isano n'agahinda bishobora kongera kugaruka mu buzima bwawe bwose. Iminsi mikuru n'isabukuru bishobora kugorana cyane.

Ariko icy'ingenzi ni ukumenya ko utari wenyine muri uru rugendo. Hari abantu bashobora kugufasha, kubana nawe, no kugutega amatwi muri ibi bihe bigoye cyane kandi bigoye. Ntugatinye rero gusaba ubufasha, kuganira, no gushaka ubuvuzi. Ushobora gukira.

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