Ukuphila Nomhlaza - Oko Ufanele Ukwazi Ngempilo-ntle (Ukusinda Kumhlaza)

Xa wena okanye umntu omthandayo efunyaniswa ukuba unomhlaza, kusenokuvakala ngathi ihlabathi lakho lonke liwile. Unyango, uloyiko, ukungaqiniseki ngekamva... konke oku yimfazwe enkulu ekufuneka ilwe. Abantu abaninzi bacinga ukuba le mfazwe iphela ngonyango. Kodwa eneneni, olu hambo lubalulekileyo olubizwa ngokuba "kukusinda kumhlaza" luqala ngomhla ofunyaniswa ukuba unesifo. Olu hambo luyaqhubeka kulo lonke unyango lwakho, nangaphaya, ubomi bakho bonke.

Ngamafutshane, luthini olu hambo lokusinda kumhlaza?

Uhambo lwempilo-ntle yomhlaza yinkqubo yokhathalelo lwempilo ekuxhasayo kulo lonke uhambo lwakho lomhlaza. Luqala ngomhla ofunyaniswa ukuba unomhlaza. Luyaqhubeka kulo lonke unyango lwakho, emva konyango, kwaye ubomi bakho bonke. Umhlaza ngamava atshintsha ubomi, ngoko ke olu ncedo lubalulekile.

Injongo ephambili yolu nyango lwempilo-ntle kukugxila kwimpilo yakho yomzimba neyengqondo , ngaloo ndlela kuphuculwe umgangatho wobomi bakho.

Zithini izigaba zolu hambo?

Kukho iindlela ezininzi iingcali ezijonga ngazo olu hambo lokuchacha komhlaza. Ezinye ziludibanisa nesigaba somhlaza. Ezinye ziyahlulahlula ngokuhamba kwexesha. Masiziqonde zombini ezi zinto ngokulula.

Nangona ezi zimvo zahlukene, into enye evumelana ngayo ziingcali kukuba kukho iingxaki eziqhelekileyo zomzimba nezengqondo abantu abachacha kumhlaza abajongene nazo. Makhe sithethe ngazo ngoku.

Iingxaki zomzimba ezinokuvela xa uphila nomhlaza

Kuqhelekile ukuba neziphumo ebezingalindelekanga ngexesha lonyango lomhlaza. Nangona uninzi lwazo luya kuphela xa unyango lugqityiwe, ezinye iziphumo ebezingalindelekanga zinokuhlala iinyanga okanye iminyaka.

• Ukudinwa ngumhlaza: Oku akukokudinwa okuqhelekileyo. Kukudinwa okugqithisileyo okungapheli nokuba uphumle kangakanani na. Le meko idla ngokuphela emva kokuba unyango luphelile. Nangona kunjalo, kwabanye abantu, inokuba lixesha elide. Oku kwenza kube nzima ukwenza imisebenzi yemihla ngemihla.
• Intlungu yomhlaza: Le ntlungu inokubangelwa ngumhlaza ngokwawo okanye ngonyango lomhlaza.
• Ubunzima bokukhumbula nokucinga (iChemotherapy brain fog): Ungaziva ngathi unengxaki yokwenza izigqibo, ulibale izinto ezincinci, kwaye awukwazi ukugxila. Oku kubizwa ngokuba yi "Chemotherapy brain fog."
• Umhlaza wesibini: Le yinto ebaluleke kakhulu. Oku kuthetha ukuba uhlakulela umhlaza omtsha ngokupheleleyo owahluke ngokupheleleyo kumhlaza owawunyangelwe wona ngaphambili. Umngcipheko wokufumana olu hlobo lomhlaza wesibini uphezulu njengoko abantu abaninzi bephila nomhlaza ixesha elide.

Uxinzelelo lwengqondo kunye nemingeni

Umhlaza yinto ebangela uxinzelelo emzimbeni nasengqondweni. Nazi ezinye zeengxaki eziqhelekileyo zempilo yengqondo ezinokuvela ngeli xesha lohambo.

• Izifo zokuxhalaba:Usenokuziva uxhalabile, uloyiko, okanye uxhalabile ngexesha nasemva konyango lwakho. Abanye abantu baziva besoyika kakhulu kwaye bexhalabile xa beza kuskena. Oku kubizwa ngokuba yiScanxiety. Ngamanye amaxesha, olu lwazi lunokukhokelela kwimeko ebizwa ngokuba yiPost-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).
• Uxinzelelo: Kuqhelekile ukuba uzive ulusizi kwaye usoyika xa ufumanisa ukuba unomhlaza. Kodwa uxinzelelo luyimeko embi kakhulu. Malunga nomntu omnye kwabane abanomhlaza uba noxinzelelo. Lunokuchaphazela ukulala kwakho, ukutya kwakho, kunye nemisebenzi yakho yemihla ngemihla.
• Uxinzelelo lweemvakalelo: Uxinzelelo lwezemali olubangelwa ziindleko zonyango kunye nempembelelo kubudlelwane bosapho lunokubangela uxinzelelo olukhulu lwengqondo.
• Uloyiko lokubuyela umhlaza (FCR): Olu lolona loyiko lukhulu kubantu abaninzi. Uloyiko olukhulu lokubuyela umhlaza lunokuphazamisa ubomi obuqhelekileyo.

Ngoobani iqela elikhoyo ukukunceda?

Awuwedwa kolu hambo. Kukho iqela elihle lokukunceda.

• Oogqirha abaxilonga baze banyange umhlaza: Iingcali zonyango kunye neengcali zotyando ziyinxalenye yale qela.
• Iingcali zokulungisa umhlaza: Abantu abafana neengcali zonyango lomzimba okanye iingcali zonyango lomsebenzi banokukunceda ulungiselele unyango kwaye ulawule iimpawu kunye nemiphumo emibi.
• Ababoneleli ngeenkonzo zokhathalelo lwentlungu: Aba bantu babonelela ngononophelo olukhethekileyo ukukunceda ujongane neempawu kunye nemiphumo emibi yonyango. Bakwabonelela ngenkxaso yeemvakalelo neyokomoya.

Kwenzeka ntoni emva konyango? Isicwangciso sakho sempilo-ntle

Kubalulekile ukuphuhlisa isicwangciso sokhathalelo lokusinda emva konyango. Esi sicwangciso senziwe nguwe kunye neqela lakho lezonyango. Sidla ngokuquka oku kulandelayo:

• Iishedyuli zokuhlolwa: Kuya kufuneka ubone ugqirha wakho malunga neenyanga ezimbini ukuya kwezintathu kwiminyaka emibini ukuya kwemithathu yokuqala emva konyango.
• Isikhokelo sokutshintsha indlela ophila ngayo: Iqela lakho lezonyango liza kukucebisa ngezinto ezifana nokuphepha imikhwa eyonyusa umngcipheko wakho wokuba nomhlaza (njengokutshaya), ukutya ukutya okunempilo, kunye nokuzilolonga.
• Ulwazi malunga namaqela enkxaso: Esi sicwangciso sinokubandakanya ulwazi malunga namaqela enkxaso apho unokunxibelelana nabanye abaphila nomhlaza njengawe.

Kuthekani ukuba umhlaza sele uqhubele phambili?

Ukuba unesifo somhlaza esiqhubekekayo, isicwangciso sakho sonyango sinokwahluka kancinci. Ingqwalasela ixhomekeke kakhulu ekulawuleni iimpawu zakho nokukunceda uhlale ukhululekile kwaye ungenazintlungu kangangoko kunokwenzeka.

Esi sicwangciso sinokukunceda uthethe ngendlela oza kuchitha ngayo imihla yokugqibela yobomi bakho. Umzekelo, ungathetha nogqirha wakho malunga nokhathalelo lwe-hospice, olunokukunceda uphile ubomi bakho ngaphandle kwentlungu kwaye unesidima njengoko ufuna.

Ukuphila nomhlaza kunokuvakala ngathi lugqatso olunzima. Kodwa awuwedwa kolu hambo. Uhambo lwempilo-ntle yomhlaza luthungelwano olunothando olukunceda uphile ubomi obude kangangoko, ukususela ekuxilongweni ukuya kutsho kubomi bakho bonke. Thetha neqela lakho lezonyango kwaye wenze isicwangciso sempilo-ntle esikusebenzelayo.