Ngaba nawe unestres? (Uxinzelelo) Makhe sithethe ngendlela yokujongana neengcinezelo zobomi!

Molo! Unjani? Sonke sineengxaki ezahlukeneyo, amaxhala, kunye noxinzelelo ebomini bethu, akunjalo? Ngamanye amaxesha ezi zinto zinzima ukuzithwala. Khawucinge nje, uvavanyo lusondela, ingxaki ekhaya, ingxaki emsebenzini... Uziva njani xa zonke zidibana? Ngoko ke namhlanje siza kuthetha ngolu 'xinzelelo' okanye uxinzelelo lwengqondo , kunye nendlela esinokujamelana ngayo nalo ngobuchule, oko kukuthi, indlela 'yokujongana'.

Kutheni kubalulekile ukufunda ukumelana noxinzelelo?

Ngamafutshane, ukumelana noxinzelelo yinkqubo yokuziqhelanisa nokunyamezela iziganeko ezinzima okanye ezingathandekiyo okanye utshintsho ebomini ngelixa ugcina uxolo lwengqondo yakho kunye nomfanekiso wakho olungileyo. Oku kumelana noxinzelelo kwenzeka xa sifumana utshintsho ebomini esilubona njengoxinzelelo, okanye uxinzelelo.

Uxinzelelo ludla ngokunxulunyaniswa notshintsho olubi nolungamnandi ebomini. Cinga ngezinto ezifana nokulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi okanye ukulahlekelwa ngumntu omthandayo. Kodwa, eneneni, kufuneka sizivumelanise nalo naluphi na utshintsho ngandlela thile. Nezinto ezilungileyo, njengokutshata okanye ukuba nomntwana omtsha, zinokusibangela uxinezeleko. Ayimangalisi loo nto?

Utshintsho lusizisela uxinezeleko kuba kufuneka sizilungise kwaye sizivumelanise notshintsho ngalunye. Ukuba kufuneka sijongane notshintsho oluninzi ngexesha elifutshane, siqala ukucinga, "Owu, ezi zinto azikho phantsi kolawulo lwam." Xa siziva ngolu hlobo, ukuzithemba kwethu kunokuncipha. Ngamanye amaxesha oku kunokukhokelela kwiimeko zempilo yengqondo ezifana noxinzelelo okanye ukudakumba . Kwiimeko ezigqithisileyo, ukuba uxinzelelo luba lukhulu kakhulu ukuba umntu akwazi ukuluthwala, lunokukhokelela ekuguleni komzimba okanye ukugula okukhoyo kube mandundu.

Ukujamelana nolu 'xinzelelo' kuthetha ukwenza umgudu ongaphezulu, amandla angaphezulu kunesiqhelo, ukuze sizivumelanise nezi mfuno zingaqhelekanga, oko kukuthi, 'izinto ezibangela uxinzelelo' okanye izinto ezibangela uxinzelelo . Ukuba kufuneka senze umgudu ongaphezulu ngolu hlobo ixesha elide, amanqanaba ' eehomoni ezinxulumene noxinzelelo' emizimbeni yethu ayanda, ekugqibeleni asenze sibe buthathaka emzimbeni kwaye sibe sesichengeni sokugula.

Zithini ezi 'zizinto ezibangela uxinezeleko'?

Ezi zinto zixinzelelayo esijongene nazo, okanye 'izixinzeleli', ziza ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo nobukhulu bazo.

• Izinto ezibangela uxinezeleko oluqatha: Ezi zizinto ezifika ngequbuliso. Umzekelo, ukufudukela kwikhaya elitsha okanye ukuqala ubudlelwane bomtshato.
• Izinto Ezibangela Uxinezeleko Olungapheliyo: Ezi zizinto ezihlala ixesha elide. Izinto ezifana neentlungu ezingapheliyo, ukugula ixesha elide, okanye iingxaki zemali eziqhubekayo.

Khawucinge nje, ukuba umntu kufuneka ajongane neengxaki ezininzi emva kwenye ngexesha elifutshane, impembelelo inokuba nzima kakhulu. Umzekelo, umtshato womntu uyaqhekeka, umzali omdala uyafa, kwaye utshintsho lomsebenzi lwenzeka ngaxeshanye... Ukuba zonke ezi zinto zenzeka ngexesha elifutshane, kunokuba nzima kuloo mntu ukugcina impilo yakhe yomzimba nengqondo.

Ngoko ke, zeziphi iindlela eziqhelekileyo zokujongana nolu 'xinezeleko'? (Amaqhinga aQhelekileyo okujamelana nobunzima)

Iindlela esijongana ngazo noxinzelelo zingahluka kuthi ngabanye. Nangona kunjalo, abaphandi bachonge amaqhinga ambalwa esiwasebenzisayo. Jonga ukuba la maqhinga avakala eqhelekile na kuwe:

• Yehlisa ulindelo lwakho kancinci: Ngamanye amaxesha kuyaxhalabisa ukucinga ukuba yonke into kufuneka igqibelele.
• Cela uncedo kwabanye: Ungoyiki ukubuza, "Ndinengxaki yokwenza oku ndedwa, ungandinceda?"
• Zithathele uxanduva lwemeko: Cinga, "Kulungile, le yingxaki. Ndiza kuyisombulula ngandlela thile le nto."
• Zama ukusombulula iingxaki (UkuSombulula Iingxaki): Endaweni yokubaleka ingxaki, cinga ngeendlela zokuyisombulula.
• Gcina ubudlelwane obukuxhasayo ngokwengqondo: Ukuthetha nabahlobo bakho kunye nosapho kunye nokwabelana ngezinto ezikuvuyisayo kunye neentlungu zakho kubaluleke kakhulu.
• Lawula iimvakalelo zakho okanye ukhuphe intlungu nentlungu yakho: Abanye abantu bayakwazi ukuzibamba iimvakalelo zabo. Abanye kufuneka bakhulule iimvakalelo zabo, nokuba ngokulila okanye ngokuthetha nomntu.
• Zigxeke iinkolelo ezindala ezingasakufanelanga: Endaweni yokucinga, "Ndisoloko ndinje," zama ukucinga ngendlela entsha.
• Zama ukutshintsha ngqo unobangela woxinzelelo: Ukuba kunokwenzeka, tshintsha okubangela uxinzelelo.
• Phuma kwingcinezelo: Ngamanye amaxesha kulungile ukukhe uphumle kwaye uphume kwingxaki okwethutyana.
• Jonga ingxaki ngokwembono yonqulo: Ukuzama ukubumba ingqondo yomntu ngokwenkolo yakhe kuyabanceda abanye abantu.

Iingcali zithi ukumelana noxinzelelo akuyonto eyenzeka kube kanye, kodwa yinkqubo. Kusenokufuneka usebenzise iindlela ezininzi kwezi zingasentla ukuze ujongane nengxaki efanayo.

Sonke sineendlela ezahlukeneyo zokujongana noxinzelelo. Abanye abantu bakhetha iindlela ezithile. Olu mahluko ludla ngokunxulunyaniswa nomahluko kubuntu bethu. Endaweni yokubambeka kwindlela enye, ukuguquguquka kwindlela esijongana ngayo kudla ngokuba luncedo. Oko kukuthi, ukukwazi ukukhetha eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokujongana nemeko nganye.

Nangona kunjalo, kukho iimeko ezithile ezixinzelelekileyo abantu abaninzi abanokuthi baphendule kuzo ngendlela efanayo. Umzekelo, xa sijongene neengxaki ezinxulumene nomsebenzi, sidla ngokusebenzisa amaqhinga okusombulula iingxaki. Ngokufanayo, xa sicinga ukuba "oku kunokutshintshwa," sidla ngokufuna izisombululo. Nangona kunjalo, xa sicinga ukuba "oku akunakutshintshwa," sidla ngokufuna inkxaso yoluntu okanye sisebenzise amaqhinga agxile kwiimvakalelo.

Singenza ntoni ukuze sizikhusele kuxinezeleko size simelane nalo ngempumelelo?

Mhlawumbi eyona ndlela ibalulekileyo yokwenza oku kukugcina ubudlelwane obuxhasayo ngokweemvakalelo nabanye. Uphando oluninzi lubonise ukuba olu ncedo ngokweemvakalelo lusebenza njengekhaka elisikhuselayo kwimiphumo emibi yoxinzelelo.

Xa uziva uxinezelekile, kubalulekile ukuba ucinge ngendlela ophila ngayo. Ukuzibandakanya kwimisebenzi yokunciphisa uxinzelelo kunokukunceda ujongane noxinezeleko ngokubanzi. Zama ezi zinto:

• Lala kakuhle kwaye ulale ngokwaneleyo: Zama ukulala ubuncinane iiyure ezisi-7-8 ngosuku.
• Yitya ukutya okunesondlo: Yitya imifuno, iziqhamo, kunye nokutya okunesondlo.
• Zilolonge rhoqo: Kulungile ukuhamba, ukubaleka, okanye ukudlala umdlalo owuthandayo ubuncinane imizuzu engama-30 ngosuku.
• Thatha ikhefu elifutshane emini: Thatha ikhefu elifutshane ngelixa usebenza kwaye ukhulule ingqondo yakho.
• Thatha ikhefu ungabikho ekhaya uye emsebenzini: Ukutshintsha indawo ohlala kuyo kunokunceda ekunciphiseni uxinzelelo.
• Yenza into ekuzisela uvuyo nolonwabo yonke imihla: into efana nokufunda incwadi, ukumamela ingoma, ukwenza umsebenzi omncinci egadini.
• Ziqhelise imithambo yokuphumla: Izinto ezifana neyoga , ukucamngca , ukuphumla kwemisipha okuqhubekayo , okanye amasiko nemithandazo yonqulo zinokunceda koku.
• Nciphisa okanye uyeke ukusebenzisa i-caffeine kunye notywala: Ezi zinto zinokunyusa uxinzelelo.

Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya

Uxinzelelo luyinto eqhelekileyo ebomini bethu. Nangona singenakuluphelisa ngokupheleleyo, singalulawula ngempumelelo.

Khumbula, awuwedwa! Xa uziva uxinezelekile, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthetha nomntu omthembayo ngaloo nto uze ucele uncedo.

Njengempilo yakho yomzimba, impilo yakho yengqondo nayo ibaluleke kakhulu. Ngoko ke, ukuba uziva uxinezelekile, ungayityesheli. Zama ezinye zeendlela ezikhankanyiweyo apha ngasentla. Ukuba kuyimfuneko, ungathandabuzi ukubonana nogqirha okanye nomcebisi wempilo yengqondo ukuze akunike iingcebiso. Ngamana ungafumana amandla okuphila ubomi bakho ngolonwabo nangoxolo!

Uxinzelelo , uxinzelelo, ukumelana nobunzima, ukumelana nobunzima, imingeni yobomi, impilo yengqondo, amaqhinga, ulawulo loxinzelelo