Ingaba nawe uyoyika kakhulu imibane neendudumo? Oku kumalunga ne-Astraphobia!

Kuqhelekile ukuziva usoyika kancinci xa isibhakabhaka sigquma okanye umbane ubetha, akunjalo? Phantse wonke umntu uvakalelwa ngaloo ndlela. Kodwa kwabanye abantu, olu loyiko ludlula imida eqhelekileyo kwaye alunyamezeleki. Xa oko kusenzeka, usuku lwabo lonke, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha nobomi babo bonke, lunokuphazamiseka. Lolo luhlobo loloyiko olugqithisileyo, oko kukuthi , i-Astraphobia, esiza kuthetha ngalo kweli nqaku namhlanje. Ukuba nawe unengxaki efanayo, yiza sifunde ngakumbi ngayo.

Yintoni le yokoyika umbane, okanye i-astraphobia?

Ngamafutshane, i-Astraphobia luloyiko olunamandla nolungalawulekiyo lombane kunye neendudumo. Nangona luqhelekile ebantwaneni, ngamanye amaxesha lunokuqhubeka luze lube ngabantu abadala. Musa ukumangaliswa, olu loyiko ngamanye amaxesha luchaphazela nezilwanyana zethu zasekhaya!

Umntu one-astraphobia unokuziva exinezelekile kakhulu kwaye enoloyiko olungenakunyamezeleka xa esiva ngesivuthuvuthu esiza kumabonwakude, kwirediyo, okanye kwifowuni. Basenokujonga rhoqo uqikelelo lwemozulu ukuze babone ukuba isivuthuvuthu siza kuza na. Abanye abantu banokuba noxinzelelo ngexesha lesivuthuvuthu okanye babe neempawu zomzimba ezifana nobunzima bokuphefumla kunye nokuqina kwesifuba ngenxa yoxinzelelo olukhulu abalufumanayo. Oku kukwabizwa ngokuba yi-brontophobia . Ngoko ke la magama mabini ayafana.

Ngubani onokuba nethuba elikhulu lokufumana le meko?

Abantwana abancinci banamathuba amaninzi okufumana le meko ye-astraphobia. Oku kusenokuba kungenxa yokuba abakafundi kakuhle ngehlabathi nendalo. Ngokukodwa, abanye abantwana banomdla kakhulu kwizinto ezifana nengxolo nokukhanya, nto leyo ethetha ukuba abantwana abaneengxaki zokucubungula iimvakalelo okanye abantwana abane -Autism Spectrum Disorder banamathuba amaninzi okufumana uloyiko lwezivuthuvuthu. Basenokuba nobunzima bokumelana nesandi seendudumo kunye nombane.

Ukongeza, usenokuba sengozini ukuba unezi zinto zilandelayo:

• Ukuba kukho nabani na kusapho lwakho, njengomama wakho, utata, abantakwenu, okanye abazali, onesifo sokudakumba , ixhala , okanye ezinye iingxaki zokoyika , ngamanye amaxesha ezi zinto zinokuba zezofuzo.
• Ukuba kukho umntu kusapho lwakho one-astraphobia, usenokuba umbonile esoyika kwasebuntwaneni waza ngokungazi wakhula esoyika.
• Ukuba ukhe waba namava abuhlungu anxulumene nemozulu kwixesha elidlulileyo. Umzekelo, ukuba ubungumntwana kwaye indlu yakho yonakaliswe sisivuthuvuthu esikhulu, okanye ukuba umthi omkhulu uwile kwaye umntu wenzakele, oku kusenokubhalwa nzulu engqondweni yakho kwaye kubangele olu hlobo loloyiko.

Kuqheleke kangakanani oku?

Enyanisweni, olu hlobo lwe-astraphobia luloyiko oluqhelekileyo kakhulu.Oko kukuthi, uloyiko olugqithisileyo ngento ethile, into, okanye imeko ethile. Uphando lubonisa ukuba, kwixesha elingangonyaka, malunga nabantu abadala abasi-8 kwabayi-100 (8%) banesifo esithile soloyiko. Okumangalisayo kukuba, ezi zifo zoloyiko zikwafunyanwa zixhaphake kabini phakathi kwabasetyhini kunaphakathi kwamadoda. Ngoko ke, ukuba unolu hlobo loloyiko, khumbula ukuba awuwedwa.

Kutheni kukho uloyiko olunjalo?

Inyaniso kukuba, iingcali azikaqiniseki ngokupheleleyo ukuba kutheni kukho i-astraphobia, kodwa zineengcinga ezimbalwa.

Kwabanye abantu, njengoko bekutshiwo ngaphambili, isiganeko esibuhlungu ngexesha lesiphango xa wayesengumntwana sinokuba yimbangela ephambili. Cinga ngophahla oluphephuka endlwini yakho ngumoya onamandla, okanye umthi omkhulu uwela phantsi, okanye umntu omthandayo esengozini. Amava anjalo anokuba nzulu engqondweni yakho, kwaye uloyiko lunokuphinda luvele nanini na xa kufika isaqhwithi kwixesha elizayo.

Kwakhona, ukuba omnye wabazali bakho okanye abantakwenu unale meko, nawe unokuba nayo. Oku kusenokuba ngenxa yempembelelo yemfuza, okanye kusenokuba yindlela ofunde ngayo xa ubukele amalungu osapho esoyika.

Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, abantu baba ne-astraphobia ngaphandle kwesizathu esicacileyo. Yiyo loo nto inzima.

Zithini iimpawu zoku?

Njengamanye ama-phobia, uphawu oluphambili lwe-astraphobia luloyiko olukhulu nolugqithisileyo. Xa olu loyiko lusenzeka, lubangela uxinzelelo olukhulu. Rhoqo, abantu abanolu loyiko bayaqonda ukuba uloyiko abaluvayo lukhulu kunengozi yokwenyani enokubakho sisivuthuvuthu. Oko kukuthi, bayazi ukuba, ngokusengqiqweni, akukho nto banokuyiyoyika, kodwa bakufumanisa kunzima kakhulu ukulawula loo mvakalelo.

Ixhala olivayo xa une-astraphobia linokubangela iimpawu ezahlukeneyo zomzimba, ezifana nokungonwabi. Umzekelo:

• Ukuziva intlungu esifubeni , ngamanye amaxesha ngathi iyancipha.
• Ukuziva unesizungu , mhlawumbi ude uphelelwe ngamandla (syncope) .
• Iimeko ezinje ngokugaywa kokutya kunye norhudo .
• Ukubetha kwentliziyo kukuziva ukubetha kwentliziyo okukhawulezayo nokuhlabayo.
• Kunokubakho isicaphucaphu nokuhlanza.
• Ubunzima bokuphefumla (ukuphelelwa ngamandla) , ukuziva ufuthanisekile.
• Ukubila kakhulu ngamanye amaxesha.
• Ukungcangcazela , ukungcangcazela okungalawulekiyo .

Ezi mpawu zinokuvela ngaphambi kokuba kubekho isivunguvungu, ngexesha lesivunguvungu, mhlawumbi ixesha elithile emva kokuba isivunguvungu siphelile.

Uyibona njani le nto?

Ukuba ucinga ukuba unolu hlobo loloyiko, eyona nto ingcono onokuyenza kukubona ugqirha. Ugqirha wakho uza kukubuza imibuzo embalwa ukuze akuncede ubone ukuba unayo na i-astraphobia. Ngamanye amaxesha ezi mpawu zoxinzelelo zinokunxulunyaniswa nezinye iimeko zempilo yengqondo, ngoko ke kubalulekile ukufumana uxilongo oluchanekileyo.

Ugqirha angakubuza izinto ezifana nezi:

• Ingaba sele kudlule iinyanga ezintandathu okanye ngaphezulu ukusukela oko waqala ukoyika imibane neendudumo ngolu hlobo?
• Ngaba uyaziphepha izigcawu zemibane neendudumo kumabonwakude, kwiimuvi, okanye ubuncinane kwimifanekiso? Ngaba uziva ungakhululekanga xa uzibona?
• Ngaba uziva uloyiko okanye ixhala eligqithisileyo xa ubona umbane okanye usiva indudumo?
• Ngaba uziva uloyiko olukhulu, uxinzelelo, okanye usizi kwangoko xa usiva uqikelelo lwemozulu lokuba kuza isivuthuvuthu?
• Nangona usazi ukuba ukhuselekile endlwini, ngaba olu loyiko luyakuphazamisana nemisebenzi yakho yemihla ngemihla? Umzekelo, ngaba uyakuphepha ukuya emsebenzini ngemini enezivuthuvuthu, okanye uyayishiya imisebenzi ebalulekileyo?

Iimpendulo zakho kule mibuzo ziya kunceda ugqirha wakho ukuba aqonde ukuba une-astraphobia okanye enye imeko.

Ingaba kukho unyango? Luyintoni?

Iindaba ezimnandi zezi, ewe! Kukho unyango olusebenzayo lwe-astraphobia. Olu nyango ludla ngokufana nolo lusetyenziswa kwezinye ii-phobias. Ugqirha wakho okanye umcebisi wezempilo yengqondo angazama olunye okanye ngaphezulu kwezi ndlela zonyango:

• Unyango lokuvezwa: Olu lolona nyango lubalulekileyo nolusebenzayo lwe-phobias. Lubandakanya kancinci kancinci, ngendlela ecwangcisiweyo, kwaye kwindawo ekhuselekileyo uzibeka kwindawo oyoyikayo. Umzekelo, phantsi kwesikhokelo sikagqirha, usenokuba semngciphekweni wokurekhodwa kwesiphango semvula ixesha elifutshane. Emva koko ungaba semngciphekweni wemifanekiso okanye iividiyo zeziphango. Kancinci kancinci, uya kufundiswa ukuhlala uzolile kwaye ulawule uloyiko lwakho ngexesha lesiphango sokwenyani. Abantu abaninzi abagqiba olu nyango ngempumelelo baneziphumo ezilungileyo kakhulu, zexesha elide.
• Unyango Lokuziphatha Olusebenzisa Ingqondo (CBT): Oku kukwabizwa ngokuba "lunyango lokuthetha" ngabanye. Kungenziwa wedwa nogqirha wengqondo okanye umcebisi, okanye kwiqela lenkxaso nabanye abajongene neengxaki ezifanayo. Injongo ephambili ye -CBT kukukunceda uchonge iingcinga ezingafunekiyo, ezingenangqondo, neziyingozi ezinxulumene nombane wakho kunye nendudumo (umz., "Ndiza kufa ukuba ndibethwa ngumbane," "Indlu iza kudilika") kwaye uzithathele indawo ngeengcinga eziluncedo nezingokoqobo.
• Unyango Lokuziphatha Oludibanisa Ulwimi (DBT): Le ndlela idibanisa unyango lokuthetha nokucamngca., ukongeza iindlela zokunciphisa uxinzelelo, ezifana nokuzilolonga ingqondo. Oku kunokukunceda ukunciphisa ixhala, ukuqonda ngcono iimvakalelo zakho (ingakumbi uloyiko), kunye nokuphuhlisa izakhono ozidingayo ukuze ukwazi ukumelana nazo.
• Amayeza: Kwabanye abantu, ingakumbi abo banexhala elikhulu, ugqirha wakho unokukunika amayeza okuthintela ukuxhalaba exesha elifutshane ukunceda ukulawula iimpawu kunye nokuthintela ukuhlaselwa luloyiko xa usazi ukuba kuza isivuthuvuthu. Nangona kunjalo, la mayeza adla ngokunikezelwa kunye nonyango.
• Iindlela zokulawula uxinzelelo: Ungafunda iindlela ezilula zokunceda ukunciphisa iimpawu zakho zokuxhalaba. Umzekelo, xa uqala ukuziva uxhalabile okanye usoyika, ungenza umthambo wokuphefumla nzulu. Okanye, ungenza umthambo we-aerobics njenge- jumping jacks . Ezi zinokukunceda uphazamise kwaye unciphise uxinzelelo emzimbeni wakho. Emva kokuba isivuthuvuthu siphelile, kunokukunceda ukuphuma ngaphandle ujonge, okanye uhambe kancinci, ukuze uziqinisekise ukuba yonke into ilungile kwaye okusingqongileyo kuzolile.

Ukuba umntwana wakho omncinci naye unengxaki yokoyika, ungamnceda njani?

Uloyiko kunye nokuxhalaba okunxulumene nemozulu kuxhaphake kakhulu kubantwana abancinci. Ngenxa yokuba besafunda ngehlabathi, ingxolo enkulu kunye nezibane ezikhanyayo zinokuba yingozi kubo. Ukuba umntwana wakho uyoyika izivuthuvuthu, nazi ezinye iindlela onokubanceda ngazo:

• Bachazele ngokulula, ngendlela abanokuyiqonda, ukuba ingxolo ayizukubaphazamisa, ukuba yinto eyenzekayo mgama.
• Funda iincwadi, ubukele iividiyo, kwaye ufunde okungakumbi ngeemvula, imvula, kunye nemibane kunye. Ngamanye amaxesha, uloyiko luyaphela njengoko ufumana ulwazi.
• Thetha ngezinto ezintle ezibangelwa zizivuthuvuthu ezihlala zisenzeka ebomini, njengemvula ezizisayo, enceda imithi neentyatyambo zikhule kakuhle, kwaye isinika amanzi okusela.
• Ingakumbi ukuba banezidingo ezikhethekileyo zeemvakalelo, oko kuthetha ukuba baziva ngcono izandi okanye ukukhanya, badale indawo ekhuselekileyo nekhululekileyo yokuba babe ngaphakathi ngexesha lesiphango. Cinga ngokubanika ingubo abayithandayo yokuzigquma, ukugcina into yokudlala abayithandayo kufutshane, okanye ukudlala ingoma ethomalalisayo abayithandayo.

Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuhlala uzolile. Ukuba uyoyika kwaye uxhalabile ngesivuthuvuthu, umntwana wakho usenokuba noloyiko olungakumbi. Xa uhlala uzolile kwaye uqhelekile, umntwana wakho uya kuziva ekhuthazekile.

Nangona kunjalo, ukuba umntwana wakho uxinezelekile kakhulu kwaye uxhalabile ngenxa yezivuthuvuthu, ukwenza ezi zinto ekhaya wedwa kusenokunganciphisi uxinzelelo lwakhe kunye noxhala. Kwimeko ezinjalo, ukuba uloyiko alupheli, ngokuqinisekileyo ungathandabuzi ukufuna uncedo kumcebisi wezempilo yengqondo yomntwana okanye kumcebisi ofanelekileyo.

Kuza kwenzeka ntoni ukuba ayinyangwa? Ngaba kukho naziphi na iziphumo ezihlala ixesha elide?

Ngonyango, uninzi lwabantu lunokulawula iimpawu zabo ze-astraphobia kakuhle kwaye baphile ubomi obuqhelekileyo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba alunyangwa, olu loyiko alunakuphela nje kuphela, kodwa lunokuchaphazela iinkalo ezininzi zobomi bakho. Lunokuchaphazela impilo yakho yengqondo, ubudlelwane bakho nosapho, unxibelelwano lwakho nabantu, kunye nemisebenzi yakho yemihla ngemihla.

I-astraphobia enganyangwanga inokunyusa umngcipheko wezifo ezifana nezi:

• Umngcipheko okhulayo wokufumana ezinye izifo ezinxulumene nokuxhalaba , ukudakumba , okanye ezinye iingxaki zeemvakalelo .
• Ukuzihlukanisa nabantu. Ukoyika izivuthuvuthu kunokukwenza uphephe ukuhamba okanye ukudibana nabahlobo.
• Iingxaki zokusebenzisa iziyobisi, ezinje ngokuxhomekeka kutywala okanye kwiziyobisi. Abanye abantu banokusebenzisa utywala okanye iziyobisi ukuze balwe nolu loyiko kunye nokuxhalaba.

Ngoko ke, oku akuyonto ifanele ithathwe lula. Ukuba ufuna uncedo, bubulumko ukulufumana.

Yintoni enye ofuna ukuyibuza ugqirha?

Xa usiya kugqirha, kungcono ukubuza imibuzo efana nale ukuze uchaze ngakumbi i-astraphobia yakho:

• Ngaba kukho isizathu esithile ebomini bam esenza ukuba ndibe nethuba elingakumbi lokufumana le meko ye-astraphobia?
• Ngaba ndinesinye isifo sengqondo esingabonakaliyo (umz., isifo sokuxhalaba ngokubanzi) esifuna unyango?
• Ziziphi iindlela zonyango lwe-astraphobia ezingcono kum?
• Ngawaphi amathuba okuba ndikwazi ukuyisusa ngokupheleleyo le meko ye-astraphobia, okanye ubuncinane ndiyilawule kakuhle, ngolu nyango?

Iimpendulo zale mibuzo ziya kuba luncedo kakhulu ekusingatheni le meko.

Ekugqibeleni, ekugqibeleni, khumbula oku !

Kulungile, ngoku uyazi ukuba i-Astraphobia, esithethe ngayo namhlanje, luloyiko olukhulu lombane kunye neendudumo. Ixhaphake kakhulu ebantwaneni abancinci, kodwa inokuchaphazela nabani na wanoma yimuphi ubudala. Nangona uninzi lwabantu lukhula kolu loyiko njengoko bekhula, abanye abantu bayaqhubeka nokuba nale ngxaki.

Into ebalulekileyo kukuba, le asiyonto yokuba neentloni okanye yokuyifihla, yimeko yengqondo enokunyangeka kwaye inyangeke okanye ilawulwe kakuhle.

Ukuba wena okanye umntu omaziyo unalo olu hlobo lokuxhalaba, eyona nto ingcono onokuyenza kukufuna ingcebiso kagqirha. Unyango lokubonisa imeko , unyango lokuthetha, kwaye, ukuba kuyimfuneko, amayeza anokunceda. Kwakhona, ukufunda iindlela zokunciphisa uxinzelelo kunokukunceda kakhulu ekulawuleni iimpawu zakho zokuxhalaba. Ungakhathazeki, awuwedwa kule ngxaki, kwaye uncedo luyafumaneka!

"Ukoyika umbane, ukoyika iindudumo, i-astraphobia, i-brontophobia, i-phobia, ixhala, unyango