Ngamanye amaxesha akulula ukuthetha nomntu ngento esicinga ngayo, akunjalo? Ingakumbi ukuba yimeko yengqondo efana nokudakumba, siyoyika ukucalulwa luluntu nokungaqondwa kakuhle. Abantu abaninzi bacinga ukuba oku kukudakumba okanye ubuthathaka nje. Kodwa ukudakumba akunjalo. Yimeko yezonyango efuna unyango, njengesifo seswekile okanye uxinzelelo lwegazi oluphezulu, kwaye inempembelelo enkulu ebomini bethu.
Yintoni kanye kanye ingcinezelo?
Ngamafutshane, iMajor Depression Disorder (MDD) ingaphezulu nje kokuziva uphantsi usuku olunye okanye ezimbini. Inokuba nemiphumo yexesha elide kwindlela ocinga ngayo, iimvakalelo zakho, indlela oziphatha ngayo, kunye nempilo yakho yomzimba. Abanye abantu bajonga le meko “njengokukhubazeka.” Elo gama lisenokuvakala ngathi yinto enkulu kuwe. Kodwa lithetha ukuba esi sifo sinokuphazamisana nemisebenzi yakho yemihla ngemihla, umsebenzi, kunye nobomi bosapho kude kube kwinqanaba apho ungakwazi ukusebenza ngendlela eqhelekileyo.
Njengokuba umlenze owaphukileyo unokwenza kube nzima kuthi ukuhamba, kumntu oxinezelekileyo, nokuvuka ebhedini kusasa aze aqalise usuku lwakhe kunokuba ngumceli mngeni omkhulu. Ngoko ke oku akuyonto yokuba neentloni okanye uyifihle. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuthetha ngayo ngokukhululekileyo kwaye ufumane inkxaso oyifunayo.
Khumbula, ukugula ngengqondo kufana nesifo somzimba. Kukwafuna unyango nokuqonda.
Umsebenzi kunye nokudakumba: Singayilawula njani le nto?
Sichitha ubomi bethu obuninzi emsebenzini. Ngoko ke ukuba unesifo sokudakumba, sinokuchaphazela umsebenzi wakho. Abantu abaninzi bayoyika ukuthetha ngaso. Kodwa kwindawo exhasayo, ukuthetha ngaso kunokuba luncedo kakhulu.
Makhe sijonge umzekelo. Khawucinge ngomntu ogama linguSamantha, ophantsi koxinzelelo olukhulu emsebenzini. Uhlala exhalabile ngeengxaki zabanye abasebenzi bakhe. Ngamanye amaxesha ngequbuliso ufumana ukuqina kwesifuba kunye nobunzima bokuphefumla, kwanokuhlaselwa luloyiko . Olu xinzelelo lwenza ukudandatheka kwakhe kube mandundu.
USamantha ucela umphathi wakhe ukuba amvumele asebenze ekhaya iintsuku ezimbini ngeveki. Ucinga ukuba oku kuya kumnika inkululeko yengqondo yokwenza umsebenzi wakhe. Kodwa umphathi wakhe akamthathi nzulu. "Yindlela kanye le," utshilo, elahla isicelo sakhe. Ucela ukuba eze neleta evela kugqirha, kodwa akaniki nkxaso ifunekayo. Emva kwexesha elithile, uSamantha uyagxothwa emsebenzini wakhe ngenxa yezizathu ezithile. Ngaba le ayisiyongxaki kangako?
Kodwa, ayikuko yonke indawo okunje. Khawuthelekelele uSamantha efumana umsebenzi kumphathi oxhasayo noqondayo. Ngenye imini, umphathi wakhe omtsha umbuza ukuba angasebenza na iishifti ezimbalwa zasebusuku. USamantha uyazi ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani ukulala ngokwaneleyo ngenxa yokudakumba kwakhe. Ukuba akalali ebusuku, uziva ediniwe kakhulu ngosuku olulandelayo ukuba angenza nantoni na.
USamantha uthi ngenkalipho nangokunyaniseka: "Mnumzana, ndingasebenza ebusuku. Kodwa ngenxa yokudakumba kwam nokudinwa okungapheliyo, ndinengxaki yokuza emsebenzini ngosuku olulandelayo. Ngoko ke kufuneka ndiphumle ngaloo mini."
Ucinga ukuba kwenzeke ntoni? Umphathi wakhe waqonda waza wathi, "Kulungile, akukho ngxaki, Samantha. Siza kuyenza ngaloo ndlela."
Ngaba uwubonile umahluko? Kwindawo apho kukho unxibelelwano oluhle nokuqondana , ungasebenza ngaphandle kweengxaki ngempilo yakho.
| Indlela abanye abakubona ngayo (imbono engalunganga) | Yintoni kanye kanye? (Uphawu lokudakumba) |
|---|---|
| "Uvila kakhulu, akanakuvuka kusasa." | Ukudinwa okungapheliyo kunye notshintsho kwindlela yokulala. |
| "Umsebenzi uyaphazamisa, akukho ngqalelo." | Ubunzima bokugxila kunye nokungabikho kwamandla zezona mpawu ziphambili zoxinzelelo. |
| "Uhlala elusizi, ecaphuka zizinto ezincinci." | Usizi olude, ixhala, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ukuhlaselwa luloyiko. Ezi zinto aziyonjongo. |
| "Le yimiba nje yengqondo." | Ezi ziimeko zonyango zokwenyani ezifuna unyango kwaye zibangelwa kukungalingani kweekhemikhali zobuchopho (ii-neurotransmitters). |
Kutheni kubalulekile ukubona ugqirha?
Ukuba unale mpawu, musa ukucinga nje ukuba, "Oku kuza kuba ngcono ngokwako." Eyona nto ilungileyo nebaluleke kakhulu onokuyenza kukubona ugqirha wosapho lwakho okanye ugqirha wengqondo.
1. Uxilongo Oluchanekileyo: Ngugqirha kuphela onokuxilonga ngokuchanekileyo ukuba ngaba unesifo sokudakumba okanye esinye isifo.
2. Isicwangciso sonyango: Angakuthumela kwiindlela ezifanelekileyo zonyango, ezinje ngamayeza, iingcebiso, kunye nonyango lokuziphatha ukuba kuyimfuneko.
3. Isiqinisekiso sezonyango: Ukuba ufuna indawo ethile yokuhlala kwiindawo ezifana nendawo yokusebenza, ugqirha wakho angakunika iingxelo kunye neengcebiso zonyango ezifunekayo. Eli lilungelo lakho.
Musa ukubandezeleka wedwa. Ukucela uncedo luphawu lwamandla, hayi ubuthathaka. Impilo yakho yengqondo ibaluleke njengempilo yakho yomzimba.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Ingxaki Yokudakumba Enkulu ayibobuthathaka ekufuneka ube neentloni ngabo, yimeko yokwenyani yezonyango enokunyangeka.
- Musa ukoyika ukuthetha nomntu omthembayo (ilungu losapho, umhlobo, ugqirha) malunga neemvakalelo zakho neemfuno zakho.
- Izinto ezinje ngobunzima bokuvuka kusasa kunye nokudinwa kakhulu azikobuvila, zinokuba ziimpawu zomzimba zokudakumba.
- Unelungelo lokufuna inkxaso noncedo emsebenzini. Kubalulekile ukufuna iingcebiso zonyango ngale nto.
- Ukuba unale mpawu, nceda udibane nogqirha ofanelekileyo ngokukhawuleza.
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