Uma odokotela bekuthola ukuthi wena noma umuntu omaziyo unomdlavuza webele , kuyinto evamile ukuzizwa ukhungathekile futhi unemibuzo eminingi. "Ngenzenjani manje?", "Ngizobhekana kanjani nalesi simo?", "Kuzoba nzima kangakanani ukwelashwa?", njalo njalo, kungase kungene engqondweni yakho izikhathi eziyinkulungwane. Ngesikhathi esinjengalesi, ukufunda incwadi enhle equkethe okuhlangenwe nakho kwabanye abaye badlula ohambweni olufanayo kanye neseluleko sodokotela kungakunika amandla amakhulu, ulwazi, nokuthula kwengqondo. Namuhla, sikhuluma ngezincwadi eziwusizo kakhulu kulabo abalwa nalolu hlobo lomdlavuza kanye nemindeni yabo.
Izincwadi ezikusiza ukuthi uqonde ulwazi lwakho
Uma ngifunda izincwadi ezikhuluma ngesimo sangempela sokuphila nomdlavuza, usizi, injabulo, nokwesaba okuhambisana nawo, ngizizwa ngikhululekile kakhulu ngokuthi angingedwa ozizwa lezi zinto.
"I-Pink Ribbon Blues" nguGayle Sulik
Le ncwadi imayelana noNancy Stodahl, owatholakala enomdlavuza webele wesigaba se-IIB ngo-2010. Uthi le ncwadi yamvula amehlo. Le ncwadi igxila kakhulu emasikweni angemuva "kweribhoni elipinki" esilibona yonke indawo, nokuthi ngezinye izikhathi lifihla kanjani izinkinga zangempela zempilo ezibhekene nabesifazane.
"Umdlavuza Akusona Isipho Futhi Awuzange Ungenze Umuntu Ongcono" nguNancy Stordahl
Lena futhi incwadi ebhalwe nguNancy Stodahl. Unina naye wayenomdlavuza webele osabalele . Ngakho-ke, ubhale ngokwethembeka kakhulu ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe njengomnakekeli kamama wakhe kanye nesiguli somdlavuza uqobo. Usho ngokusobala ukuthi umdlavuza awuyona indaba yobuqhawe, uyinto enzima kakhulu futhi engokoqobo. Iqukethe nezinto okudingeka uzazi ngaphambi kokwelashwa ngamakhemikhali , nokuthi ungakunqoba kanjani ukwesaba kwakho.
"Indawo Ephakathi" nguKelly Corrigan
Lapho uKelly etholakala enomdlavuza webele, uyise naye unomdlavuza futhi kufanele amnakekele. Ubhala kule ncwadi ngozwela olukhulu futhi ngezinye izikhathi ehlekisa ngalokho "phakathi" kokunakekela uyise eseyingane nokulwa nokugula kwakhe njengomama.
Khumbula, imizwa yakho iyasebenza phakathi nohambo lwakho lomdlavuza. Ukwesaba, ukudabuka, intukuthelo, nethemba konke kuyingxenye yalolu hambo.
Yiba namandla emndenini wakho nakubangani bakho.
Uma utshelwa ukuthi unomdlavuza, kuyashaqisa kakhulu abathandekayo abakuzungezile. Bafuna ukukusiza , kodwa bangase bangazi ukuthi bangakwenza kanjani. Lezi zincwadi zizoba usizo olukhulu kubo.
"Umzali Wami UneCancer Futhi Imbi Ngempela" nguMaya noMarc Silver
UBarbara Jacoby, owasinda kabili kumdlavuza webele, utusa le ncwadi. Uthi, "Ngesikhathi kwelashwa, ukunakekela imisebenzi yasekhaya, nokufunda incwadi kungaba yinto ekhungathekisa isiguli. Kodwa futhi sidinga ukucabanga ngemindeni yethu." Le ncwadi yabhalwa nguMaya noyise. UMaya wayeneminyaka eyi-15 lapho unina etholakala enomdlavuza webele. Ngakho-ke, inikeza iseluleko esiwusizo sokuthi ungabheka kanjani lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho ngokombono wengane encane, nokuthi ungasiza kanjani izingane ngezikhathi ezinjalo.
"Ukugwema Ama-Dandelion" nguRon Richards
Lena incwadi ekhethekile kakhulu. Ngoba ibhalwe yindoda yomfazi owalahlekelwa yiyo ngenxa yomdlavuza. Iwukulandisa okubucayi ngombono womyeni ngohambo lomkakhe lomdlavuza, ubuhlungu, ithemba, nokulahlekelwa abhekana nakho. Le ncwadi izoba usizo olukhulu kumlingani wakho ekukuqondeni.
"Mngane Othandekayo: Izincwadi Zokukhuthaza, Amahlaya, Nothando Kwabesifazane Abanomdlavuza Webele" nguGina Mulligan
Le ncwadi iyamangalisa. Iqoqo lezincwadi ezibhalwe ngabesifazane abake baba nomdlavuza webele , kanye nabanye besifazane abasanda kutholakala ukuthi banawo. Kukhona uthando, isibindi, ngisho namahlaya ezincwadini. Kuyanika amandla ukuzwa, "Awuwedwa, nathi sike sadlula kulokhu."
Ukuze uthole iseluleko esiwusizo kanye nogqozi
Ngezinye izikhathi asidingi nje ulwazi kuphela, kodwa neseluleko esiwusizo ukuze lolu hambo lube lula.
"Ikhishi Elilwa Nomdlavuza" nguRebecca Katz
U-Anna Krolman, owatholakala enomdlavuza eneminyaka engu-27, ungumbhali wale ncwadi. Kuvamile ukuzwa imiphumela emibi njengokulahlekelwa yisifiso sokudla, isicanucanu, ukukhathala, nokwehla kwesisindo ngesikhathi sokwelashwa. Le ncwadi iqukethe izindlela zokupheka ezimnandi ezingaphezu kwe-100 ezilula ukuzenza futhi ezizosiza ekunciphiseni le miphumela emibi, kwandise isifiso sakho sokudla, futhi kukusize uzizwe usuthi isikhathi eside.
"Phakathi Kwezinsuku: Isikhumbuzo Ngokuphila Nomdlavuza" nguTeva Harrison
Le ncwadi ihlukile kwezinye ngoba isesimweni senoveli enezithombe. Kulula kakhulu ukuyifunda. UTewa, owatholakala enomdlavuza webele osakazeke kakhulu eneminyaka engamashumi amathathu, uchaza okuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe ngemidwebo namanothi amafushane. Kuyinkulumo ethinta imizwa kakhulu futhi enamandla.
| Isihloko Sencwadi | Umbhali | Okungcono Kakhulu Kukabani? |
|---|---|---|
| I-Pink Ribbon Blues | UGayle Sulik | Kulabo abafuna ukwazi iqiniso lamasiko omdlavuza. |
| Umzali Wami UneCancer Futhi Kuyacasula Ngempela | UMaya noMarc Silver | Kubantwana abancane nabazali emindenini yeziguli ezinomdlavuza. |
| Ikhishi Elilwa Nomdlavuza | URebecca Katz | Kuziguli kanye nabanakekeli bazo abafuna ukufunda ngokudla okunempilo ngesikhathi sokwelashwa. |
| Umdlavuza Wawungesona Isipho... | UNancy Stordahl | Kulabo abafuna ukuqonda ngobuqotho iqiniso elibuhlungu lomdlavuza. |
Lezi zincwadi zizokwenza uzizwe sengathi ubambe isandla somunye umuntu njengoba uhamba kulolu hambo olunzima. Kodwa khumbula, ngemva kokufunda lezi zincwadi, umuntu ongcono kakhulu ongakhuluma naye nganoma iyiphi inkinga yezokwelapha onayo, noma yikuphi ukukhathazeka onakho mayelana nokwelashwa, noma yikuphi ukwesaba onakho, udokotela wakho . Ungesabi ukukhuluma naye ngakho konke obala.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Uma kutholakala ukuthi unomdlavuza webele, yazi ukuthi awuwedwa. Kunezinkulungwane zabanye besifazane emhlabeni wonke abaye badlula kulolu hambo futhi basaqhubeka nalo.
- Ukufunda okuhlangenwe nakho kwabanye abantu kanye nezincwadi ezikhumbuza ngempilo yabo kungakunika amandla amakhulu engqondo nolwazi olusebenzayo.
- Lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho kunzima emndenini wakho, ezinganeni, nakumlingani wakho. Ungakhohlwa ukuthi kunezincwadi ezingabasiza baqonde lesi simo futhi.
- Ukunaka izinto eziwusizo njengokudla okunempilo ngesikhathi sokwelashwa kubaluleke kakhulu ekulawuleni imiphumela emibi.
- Nakuba ukufunda lezi zincwadi kungaba impumuzo enkulu, hlala uthintana nodokotela wakho ngaphambi kokwenza izinqumo ngezinkinga zakho zezokwelapha kanye nokwelashwa.
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