Wake wacabanga ukuthi kungakanani ukucindezeleka okufihliwe ngemuva kwemisho efana nokuthi 'amadoda awakhali' noma 'amadoda kudingeka abe namandla'? Eqinisweni, ukucindezeleka kuyisimo sempilo yengqondo esithinta amadoda njengoba nje kuthinta abesifazane. Kodwa-ke, ngenxa yokuthi amadoda avame ukubhekana nakho futhi akuveze ngendlela ehlukile, kungaba nzima kakhulu ukukubona. Amadoda amaningi nawo ayanqikaza ukucela usizo. Namuhla, ake sibe nengxoxo evulekile nethembekile ngale nkinga ebhubhise izimpilo buthule.
Kungani kunzima kangaka ukubona ukucindezeleka kwabesilisa?
Kunezizathu eziningana zalokhu. Kusukela esemncane, umphakathi uvame ukusifundisa ukuthi ' abafana akufanele babonise imizwa' futhi kumele bahlale beqinile. Ngenxa yalokho, uma uzizwa udabuke kakhulu, ukucindezeleka, noma imithwalo esindayo yemizwa, kungaba nzima kakhulu ukuyiveza. Ungase ukhathazeke ngokubhekwa njengobuthakathaka noma wesabe ukuthi kungathinta umsebenzi wakho noma ubudlelwano bakho nabantu.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, lapho amadoda evakashela udokotela, avame ukugxila ezimpawini zomzimba kunokukhuluma ngemizwa yawo yokudabuka noma yokukhathazeka. Isibonelo, ungase uthi, "Dokotela, ngizizwa ngikhathele ngaso sonke isikhathi," "Ngiphethwe yikhanda ," noma "Nginezinkinga zesisu." Ngenxa yokuthi lezi zimpawu zomzimba zivamile kwezinye izifo eziningi, wena nodokotela wakho ningacabanga ngephutha ukuthi imbangela ingokomzimba hhayi ukucindezeleka.
Ziyini izimpawu zokucindezeleka kwabesilisa?
Uma sicabanga ngokucindezeleka, sivame ukucabanga ngokudabuka nokukhala. Kodwa-ke, ukucindezeleka kwabesilisa kungabonakala ngezindlela ezihluke kakhulu. Sicela ubheke ithebula elingezansi ukuze uqonde lokhu kwahlukana.
| Izimpawu Ezivamile Zokucindezeleka | Umehluko Ovamile Obonakala Kwabesilisa |
|---|---|
| Ukuzizwa udabukile noma ungenathemba njalo. | Ukucasuka okungachazeki, intukuthelo, noma ulaka. |
| Ukulahlekelwa isithakazelo emisebenzini owawuyijabulela. | Ukuziphatha okunobudlova noma ukugxeka abanye. |
| Ukungaphumuli noma umuzwa wokungakhululeki. | Ukuzihlukanisa nomndeni nabangane ukuze uzihlukanise. |
| Ukuzizwa ungelutho noma unecala. | Ukucabanga okungalungile okuqhubekayo. |
| Ubunzima bokugxilisa ingqondo. | Ukuzikhandla emsebenzini noma ukuxakeka kakhulu ngemisebenzi. |
| Imicabango evamile yokufa noma ukuzibulala. | Ukusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa noma utshwala. |
| Amandla aphansi kanye nokukhathala okungapheli. | Ukuzibandakanya ekuziphatheni okuyingozi kakhulu (isib. ukushayela budedengu). |
Izimpawu Zomzimba
Ukucindezeleka akukhona nje engqondweni yakho; kuyawuthinta umzimba wakho. Izinguquko ekufiseni ukudla (ukulahlekelwa noma ukukhuluphala) kanye nezindlela zokulala ( ukungalali noma ukulala ngokweqile) zivame kakhulu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, amadoda angase abhekane nalokhu:
- Ubuhlungu bekhanda obuvamile
- Izinkinga zokugaya ukudla ezifana nokushisa kwenhliziyo noma ukuqunjelwa
- Ubuhlungu obungapheli obungachazeki
Ukucindezeleka kuyithinta kanjani impilo yocansi?
Lesi yisihloko abaningi abasithola singakhululekile, kodwa kubalulekile ukusixoxa ngaso. Ukucindezeleka kungathinta ngqo isifiso sobulili kanye nokusebenza kahle.
- Ukwehla okukhulu kwesifiso sobulili.
- Izinkinga zokufinyelela noma ukugcina ukuma ( Ukungasebenzi kahle kwe-Erectile ).
- Ubunzima bokufinyelela ekufikeni kokuvuthwa.
Ungase uzizwe unamahloni okuxoxa ngalokhu nodokotela wakho, kodwa kubalulekile ukwenza kanjalo. Ngezinye izikhathi, imithi ethile esetshenziselwa ukwelapha ukucindezeleka nayo ingabangela le miphumela. Udokotela wakho angalungisa imithi yakho noma akushintshele ekwelashweni okunemiphumela emibi embalwa. Ungalokothi uyeke ukuthatha imithi oyinikezwe udokotela ngaphandle kokubonisana nomhlinzeki wakho wezempilo kuqala.
Kwenzekani uma ingelashwa?
Uma kungelashwa, ukucindezeleka akuvamile ukuba ngcono; kuvame ukuba kubi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Lokhu kungaholela ekuwohlokeni kokuphila komndeni wakho, umsebenzi wakho, kanye nobudlelwano bakho bomuntu siqu.
Ukucindezeleka okubucayi kakhulu, okungalashwanga kungacindezela umuntu afinyelele eqophelweni eliyingozi lapho ecabanga ukuzibulala. Ngokwezibalo, amadoda asengozini enkulu kakhulu yokuzibulala uma kuqhathaniswa nabesifazane, ngokuvamile ngoba angakhetha izindlela ezibulalayo kakhulu. Uma ucabanga ngokuzilimaza, sicela ungabi wedwa. Funa usizo ngokushesha ngokushayela izinsizakalo eziphuthumayo zasendaweni (911) noma uye emnyangweni wezimo eziphuthumayo esibhedlela esiseduze. Kukhona ukwesekwa okutholakalayo kuwe.
Amadoda Asebekhulile Nokucindezeleka
Ukucindezeleka akuyona into evamile yokuguga. Kodwa-ke, izinguquko empilweni ezivame ukuhambisana nokuguga zingandisa ingozi yakho.
- Izinkinga zempilo: Izimo ezifana nesifo sikashukela, umdlavuza, isifo sohlangothi, noma ubuhlungu obungapheli ziba zivamile. Lezi zimo kanye nokwelashwa kwazo kungabangela ukucindezeleka.
- Ukushintsha kwempilo: Ukuthatha umhlalaphansi, ukulahlekelwa ubuwena bomsebenzi, ukushona kwabathandekayo, noma ukuthatha izindima zokunakekela kungadala ingcindezi enkulu.
- Isizungu: Njengoba ukhula, ungase uqhelelane nabangani noma omakhelwane. Lokhu kuzihlukanisa kuyisici esikhulu esibangela ukucindezeleka.
Kulashwa kanjani ukucindezeleka?
Lena yingxenye ebaluleke kakhulu: Amadoda angu-8 kwangu-10 ahlushwa ukucindezeleka angelashwa ngempumelelo. Izindlela eziyinhloko zokwelapha zifaka:
- Imithi yokunciphisa ukucindezeleka: Inikezwe udokotela wakho.
- Ukwelapha Ngengqondo: Ukuxoxa ngezinselele zakho nomeluleki noma uchwepheshe wezokwelapha ofanelekayo.
- Inhlanganisela yakho kokubili.
- Ezimweni ezimbi kakhulu, ukwelashwa okukhethekile okufana ne-`(Electroconvulsive Therapy – ECT)` noma `(Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation – TMS)` kungacatshangelwa.
Khumbula, ukucindezeleka kuyisimo esingelapheka. Ukucela usizo akulona uphawu lobuthakathaka; kuyisibonakaliso sokuzinakekela kanye namandla angaphakathi angempela.
Indawo engcono kakhulu ongaqala kuyo ukubonana noDokotela Womndeni wakho (GP) . Ngaphandle kwalokho, ungavakashela umtholampilo wezempilo yengqondo wendawo noma isikhungo sezifo zengqondo.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Ukucindezeleka kwabesilisa kuvame ukubonakala njengolaka , ulaka, kanye nokuziphatha okubeka engcupheni kunokuba kube ukudabuka nje.
- Ungesabi ukukhuluma ngemizwa yakho. Ukufuna usizo kuwuphawu lwamandla.
- Uma ubona ushintsho olucacile esimweni sakho sengqondo, ebuthongweni, noma esifisweni sokudla amasonto amaningana, sicela uxhumane nodokotela wakho.
- Ukucindezeleka kuyisimo esingelapheka kakhulu. Ungalulama ngokusekelwa okufanele okuvela ku-Nirogi Lanka kanye nochwepheshe bakho bezokwelapha.
- Uma wena noma othile omaziyo enenkinga yokucabanga ngokuzibulala, sicela ushayele izinsizakalo eziphuthumayo zasendaweni (911) noma ucingo olukhethekile lwe-hotline yezinkinga zempilo yengqondo ngokushesha.
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