Wake wazibuza ukuthi kungakanani ukucindezeleka okufihliwe ngemuva kwezisho ezinjengokuthi 'amadoda awakhali' nokuthi 'amadoda kudingeka abe namandla'? Eqinisweni, ukucindezeleka kungathinta kokubili amadoda nabesifazane. Kodwa-ke, indlela amadoda abhekana ngayo nakho nendlela akubonisa ngayo kungaba okuhlukile kakhulu, okwenza kube nzima ukukubona. Ngokuvamile, amadoda ayanqikaza ukucela usizo. Ngakho-ke, namuhla, ake sixoxe ngokukhululekile ngale nkinga ebhubhisa izimpilo buthule.
Kungani kunzima kangaka ukuqaphela ukucindezeleka kwabesilisa?
Kunezizathu eziningana zalokhu. Cabanga nje, kusukela esemncane, umphakathi wethu usifundise ukuthi ' abafana abalungile ekuboniseni imizwa yabo' nokuthi 'kufanele babe namandla'. Ngakho-ke, lapho bezizwa bedabukile, becindezelekile, noma bethwele umthwalo, kunzima ngabesilisa abaningi ukukuveza lokho. Besaba ukuthi abanye bazocabanga ukuthi babuthakathaka, nokuthi lokhu kuzothinta umsebenzi wabo kanye nobudlelwano babo nabantu.
Futhi, lapho indoda iya kudokotela, ikhuluma kakhulu ngezimpawu zayo zomzimba kunempilo yayo yengqondo. Isibonelo, ithi izinto ezinjengokuthi, "Dokotela, ngizizwa ngikhathele kakhulu," " Ngiphethwe yikhanda," "Nginenkinga yesisu." Ngakho-ke, ngenxa yokuthi lezi zimpawu zomzimba zivamile kwezinye izifo eziningi, wena, njengodokotela, ungase ucabange ukuthi imbangela akuyona ukucindezeleka, kodwa okunye ukugula ngokomzimba.
Ziyini izimpawu zokucindezeleka kwabesilisa?
Uma sicabanga ngokucindezeleka, sivame ukucabanga ngokudabuka, ukuzisola nokukhala. Kodwa ukucindezeleka kwabesilisa kungazibonakalisa ngendlela ehluke kakhulu. Ukuze uqonde lo mehluko, bheka ithebula elingezansi.
| Izimpawu ezivamile zokucindezeleka | Izici ezivame ukubonakala kubantu besilisa |
|---|---|
| Ukuzizwa udabukile noma ungenathemba njalo. | Intukuthelo enkulu kanye nolaka ngaphandle kwesizathu. |
| Ukungatholi injabulo ezintweni ezazijabulisa ngaphambili. | Ukuziphatha okunobudlova noma okuhlukumeza abanye. |
| Ukungahlaliseki nokungakhululeki njalo. | Ukuzama ukuhlala wedwa, kude nomndeni nabangane. |
| Ukuzizwa ungelutho. | Ukucabanga kabi ngakho konke. |
| Ubunzima bokugxilisa ingqondo. | Ukuzikhandla emsebenzini noma ukuhileleka kakhulu komunye umsebenzi. |
| Imicabango evamile yokufa noma ukuzibulala. | Ukusebenzisa utshwala noma izidakamizwa ngokweqile. |
| Amandla aphansi kanye nokukhathala okuqhubekayo. | Ukuziphatha okuyingozi okungazilimaza (njengokushesha). |
Izimpawu zomzimba
Ukucindezeleka akugcini nje ngokuthinta ingqondo, kuthinta nomzimba. Izinguquko ekufiseni ukudla (ukulahlekelwa noma ukwanda) kanye nezinguquko emaphethini okulala ( ukungalali noma ukulala ngokweqile) yizimpawu ezivamile. Ngaphezu kwalokho, amadoda angase abhekane nalokhu okulandelayo:
- Ubuhlungu bekhanda obuvamile
- Izinkinga zesistimu yokugaya ukudla ezifana nokushisa kwenhliziyo nokuqunjelwa
- Umzimba ubuhlungu ngaphandle kwesizathu esicacile
Ukucindezeleka kuyithinta kanjani impilo yocansi?
Lesi yisihloko abantu abaningi abangathandi ukukhuluma ngaso, kodwa sibaluleke kakhulu. Ukucindezeleka kungathinta ngqo isifiso sobulili kanye nokusebenza kwabesilisa.
- Ukulahlekelwa cishe ngokuphelele kwesifiso sobulili
- Ukungasebenzi kahle kwe-Erectile
- Ubunzima bokufinyelela i-orgasm
Ungase uzizwe ungakhululekile ukukhuluma nodokotela wakho ngento efana nale. Kodwa lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu. Ngoba ngezinye izikhathi eminye imithi yokucindezeleka nayo ingabangela lokhu. Uma kunjalo, udokotela wakho angakushintshela komunye umuthi ofaneleka kakhulu kuwe futhi onemiphumela emibi embalwa. Ungalokothi uyeke ukuthatha umuthi wakho ngaphandle kokubuza udokotela wakho.
Kwenzekani uma ingelashwa?
Uma ukucindezeleka kungelashwa, kuzoqhubeka nokuba kubi kakhulu, hhayi kangcono. Kungabhubhisa ngokuphelele impilo yomndeni wakho, umsebenzi wakho, kanye nobudlelwano bakho nabantu.
Into embi kakhulu ukuthi ukucindezeleka okungalashwanga kungacindezela umuntu aze afike ezingeni lokuzibulala. Ngokwezibalo, amadoda anamathuba aphindwe kane okuzibulala kunabesifazane. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi amadoda avame ukusebenzisa izindlela ezinobudlova kakhulu lapho ezama ukuzibulala.
Uma unemicabango yokuzilimaza, sicela ungabi wedwa. Funa usizo ngokushesha. Shayela i-National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) inombolo yosizo yaseSri Lanka engu-1926 amahora angu-24 ngosuku, izinsuku eziyi-7 ngesonto. Kukhona othile ongakwelinye icala ukuzokusiza.
Amadoda amadala kanye nokucindezeleka
Ukucindezeleka akuyona into evamile yokuguga, kodwa ezinye izinguquko ezenzeka ngokuguga zingandisa ingozi yokucindezeleka.
- Izinkinga zempilo: Njengoba ukhula, kungenzeka kakhulu ukuthi ube nezimo ezifana nesifo sikashukela, umdlavuza, isifo sohlangothi, kanye nobuhlungu obungapheli. Lezi zimo kanye nemithi oyiphuzayo zingabangela ukucindezeleka.
- Izinguquko empilweni: Izinto ezifana nomhlalaphansi, ukulahlekelwa ubuwena emsebenzini, ukufa kwabathandekayo, kanye nokunakekela umlingani wakho kungabangela ukucindezeleka okukhulu.
- Isizungu: Njengoba sikhula, singase sibe kude nabangane nomakhelwane. Lesi sizungu kanye nokuzihlukanisa kuyisici esikhulu esibangela ukucindezeleka.
Kulashwa kanjani ukucindezeleka?
Lena yinto ebaluleke kakhulu. Abantu abangu-8 kwabayi-10 abanokucindezeleka bangelashwa ngempumelelo. Izindlela eziyinhloko zokwelapha yilezi:
- Imithi yokunciphisa ukucindezeleka: Imithi enqunywe udokotela.
- Ukwelapha Ngengqondo: Ukufuna ukwelashwa ngokukhuluma nomeluleki ofanelekayo.
- Inhlanganisela yazo zombili izindlela ezingenhla.
- Kwezinye izimo ezinzima kakhulu, kukhona ngisho nokwelashwa okuvuselela ubuchopho, njenge-Electroconvulsive Therapy (ECT) noma i-Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS).
Khumbula, ukucindezeleka yisimo esingelashwa ngempumelelo ngokwelashwa. Ukucela usizo akulona uphawu lobuthakathaka, kuyisibonakaliso sendlela oziphatha ngayo wena namandla akho.
Indawo engcono kakhulu yokuthola usizo udokotela womndeni wakho. Noma ungaya eKlinikhi Yezifo Zengqondo esibhedlela sikahulumeni.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Ukucindezeleka kwabesilisa ngokuvamile akuzivezi njengokudabuka, kodwa kungabonakala ngezimpawu ezahlukene ezifana nentukuthelo, ulaka, kanye nokuziphatha okuyingozi .
- Ungesabi ukukhuluma ngemizwa yakho. Ukucela usizo akulona uphawu lobuthakathaka, kuwuphawu lwamandla.
- Uma kukhona ushintsho olucacile ekuziphatheni kwakho, emizweni yakho, ekulaleni kwakho, noma endleleni odla ngayo emasontweni ambalwa, qiniseka ukuthi ubonana nodokotela.
- Ukucindezeleka kuyisimo esingelapheka. Ngokwelashwa okufanele, ungalulama ngokuphelele.
- Uma wena noma othile omaziyo ehlushwa imicabango yokuzibulala, sicela ushayele ucingo losizo 1926 (NIMH) ngokushesha.
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