Ingabe nawe uvame ukuzithola ulahlekile ezweni lamaphupho asemini? Ake sifunde ngalokhu (ukuphupha emini okungafanele)!

Sonke siyaphupha ngezinye izikhathi, akunjalo? Kuvamile ukuzulazula uye kwelinye izwe isikhashana, ucabange ngokuthile. Kodwa ingabe uzithola uphupha amahora amaningi, uphuthelwa imisebenzi yakho yansuku zonke, umsebenzi wesikole, nokuningi? Uma kunjalo, lokhu kungaba yinto ebaluleke kakhulu kuwe. Lokhu sikubiza ngokuthi "ukuphupha okungenamsebenzi".

Kuyini Ukuphupha Emini Okungafaneleki?

Kalula nje, "Ukuphupha Emini Okungafaneleki" kuyinkinga yempilo yengqondo. Kuhilela umuntu ophupha emini ngokweqile, ngezinye izikhathi amahora amaningi ngesikhathi. Igama elithi "Ukuphupha Emini Okungafaneleki" lisho ukuthi ukuphupha emini ngale ndlela kuyindlela engaphilile, engalungile yokubhekana noma yokuzivumelanisa nenkinga .

Laba bantu "balahleka" ngokuphelele emaphusheni abo asemini. Okusho ukuthi, babona amaphupho ngokucacile, ngokucacile, futhi nangayo yonke imininingwane emincane . Ucwaningo lukhombisile ukuthi lolu hlobo lokuphupha emini lungaba ' luphoqelelo' . Okusho ukuthi, kunzima kakhulu, ngezinye izikhathi akunakwenzeka, ukuzibamba ekukwenzeni.

Le nkinga ihlobene kancane nezinye izinkinga zempilo yengqondo kanye nezimo zezinzwa. Kodwa-ke, manje sekunobufakazi bokuthi "Ukuphupha Emini Okungafaneleki" kuyisimo esihlukile kulezi ezinye izimo futhi kufanele kubhekwe njengesifo esihlukile .

Ubani othinteka kakhulu yilesi simo?

Lesi simo, esibizwa ngokuthi "iMaladaptive Daydreaming," sivame ukubonakala kubantu abanezimo ezithile zempilo yengqondo. Noma, kubantu abanezimo ezithinta imisebenzi ethile yobuchopho. Ezinye izimo ezivame ukubonakala nge-"Maladaptive Daydreaming" yilezi:

• Isifo Sokungakwazi Ukugxila (ADHD)
• Izinkinga Zokukhathazeka
• Ezinye izimo zokucindezeleka
• Izinkinga Zokuhlukana - Lokhu kuhilela ukulahlekelwa iqiniso mayelana nokuthi ungubani nokuthi ukuphi.
• Isifo Sokucindezeleka Okungapheli (OCD)

Ubudala bungaba yimbangela. Olunye ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi lesi simo sivame kakhulu kubantu abasebasha, ikakhulukazi abantu abadala abasebasha kanye nentsha . Singavela nasezinganeni ezincane. Kodwa-ke, kudingeka ucwaningo olwengeziwe ukuze kutholakale ukuthi sivame kangakanani ngokweminyaka.

Okokugcina, kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi abantu abaningi ababhekana "nokuphupha emini okungathandeki " baye babhekana nohlobo oluthile lokuhlukunyezwa noma ukuhlukumezeka okukhulu empilweni yabo, ikakhulukazi ngesikhathi sobuntwana . Kodwa-ke, lokhu akuvamile kuwo wonke umuntu. Lokhu kusho ukuthi lesi simo singavela nakubantu abangakaze babe nokuhlangenwe nakho okunjalo.

Sivame kangakanani lesi simo?

Eqinisweni, igama elithi "Maladaptive Daydreaming" lisha kakhulu. Laqanjwa okokuqala ngo-2002 ngu-Eli Somer, PhD, uprofesa wezokwelapha kwengqondo kwa-Israyeli.

Ucwaningo lokuthi lesi simo sivame kangakanani lulinganiselwe, ngokwengxenye ngoba asikabi yisimo sezokwelapha esaziwayo ngokusemthethweni . Kodwa-ke, ucwaningo lwakuqala lubonise ukuthi abantu abadala abangu-2.5% kwa-Israyeli banalesi simo, kanye nesilinganiso esiphakeme kancane esingu-4.3% phakathi kwabantu abadala abasebasha, njengabafundi.

Olunye ucwaningo lulinganisele ukuthi cishe abantu abadala abangu-20% abane-ADHD nabo bahlushwa yi-Maladaptive Daydreaming. Lokho kusho ukuthi abantu abadala abangaphezu kwezigidi ezingu-2.2 e-United States kuphela bathintekile yilesi simo. Lokhu kulinganiselwa akubandakanyi abantu abane-Maladaptive Daydreaming abangenayo i-ADHD. Ngakho-ke, inani langempela cishe liphezulu kakhulu.

Lesi simo sithinta kanjani umzimba/ingqondo yakho?

"Ukuphupha Emini Okungafaneleki " kuyinkinga ethinta ingqondo yakho . Ingqondo yakho iyiqoqo lezinkumbulo, okuhlangenwe nakho, imicabango, izinkolelo, kanye nemizwa eyingqayizivele kuwe. Ingqondo yakho nobuchopho bakho akuzona izinto ezimbili ezihlukene . Ubuchopho bakho buyingxenye ebonakalayo edala konke okwakha ingqondo yakho.

Kodwa ochwepheshe basola ukuthi kungase kube nomehluko othile ebuchosheni babantu abanokuphupha okungenamsebenzi kwabanye abangenawo. Isibonelo, abantu abane-"ADHD" banomehluko omncane kodwa obalulekile ngobukhulu bezingxenye ezithile zobuchopho babo. Lezi yizingxenye ezivame ukulawula imisebenzi yokuphatha njengokwenza izinqumo, ukuhlela, kanye nokuzikhuthaza.

Abantu abanokuphupha kwelanga okungavamile (i-Maladaptive Daydreaming) babonakala benobuthakathaka kule misebenzi yokuphatha. Yingakho kunokuxhumana okuqinile phakathi kokuphupha kwelanga okungavamile (i-Maladaptive Daydreaming) kanye nokuphupha ebusuku (i-ADHD). Futhi, bobabili babhekana nezinkinga ezifanayo ekulawuleni imizwa yabo. Lokhu kusho ukuthi abantu abaphupha ebusuku okungavamile (i-Maladaptive Daydreaming) banamathuba amaningi okuba nezinguquko ezifanayo ebuchosheni babo. Kodwa kudingeka ucwaningo olwengeziwe ukuqinisekisa ukuthi lokhu kunjalo ngempela.

Ziyini izimpawu zokuphupha emini okungafanele?

Kulesi simo, zonke izimpawu zigxile ekuphupheni emini. Lezi zimpawu zingahlukaniswa zibe izingxenye ezimbili eziyinhloko: ukuziphatha kokuphupha emini kanye nemizwa umuntu anayo ngakho.

Indlela yokuphupha emini

Izimpawu ezilandelayo zingabonakala emaphusheni asemini ayenzeka nge-"Maladaptive Daydreaming":

• Ukuqina: Lawa maphupho asemini acacile futhi acacile. Ajulile futhi anemininingwane eminingi kunephupho elivamile lasemini. Cabanga nje, uzizwa sengathi empeleni ungaphakathi kwesenzakalo.
• Ubunzima: Lawa maphupho asemini angaba nezindaba eziyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu. Abantu abaningi bacabanga ngabalingiswa abafanayo ngokuphindaphindiwe, njengabalingiswa kudrama yethelevishini. Laba balingiswa bangase babe nezindaba zabo zokuphila kanye nobudlelwano babo.
• Ubude besikhathi: Abantu abaphupha emini ngale ndlela bangaphupha njalo, ngezinye izikhathi amahora amaningi. Ngisho nalapho besebenza, ngokuzumayo bangena ezweni lamaphupho.
• Inhloso: Abantu abaphupha emini ngale ndlela bavame ukuqala ukuphupha emini ngamabomu, benesifiso. Okusho ukuthi, kungaba ngoba kubalethela uhlobo oluthile lwenjabulo noma impumuzo.
• Ukuzihlukanisa: Laba bantu bahileleka kakhulu emaphusheni abo asemini kangangokuthi bahlukana ngokuphelele nendawo ebazungezile. Kuzwakala sengathi awukho kuleli zwe, sengathi usezweni elihlukile. Lokhu kufana nokuzihlukanisa, indlela yokuzivikela esetshenziswa abantu abanokukhathazeka okukhulu, ukucindezeleka, noma ukuhlukumezeka kwangaphambilini.

Ucabangani ngalokhu?

Abantu ababhekana "nokuphupha okungathandeki" bavame ukubhekana nezinkinga nemizwa emibi kanye nemiphumela ehambisana nale nkinga. Lokhu kungabonakala ezintweni ezifana nalezi:

• Ukuphazamiseka kwemisebenzi yokuxhumana nabantu: Laba bantu bavame ukukhetha ukuphupha emini kunokuchitha isikhathi nabanye abantu. Bangase babe nentshisekelo encane yokuphuma nabangani noma ukukhuluma nomndeni.
• Ukuphazamiseka emsebenzini, ezintweni ozithandayo, kanye neminye imisebenzi: Ukuphupha emini okungafaneleki kungabangela izinkinga ngomsebenzi, emsebenzini wesikole, ezintweni ozithandayo, noma eminye imigomo ngoba uchitha isikhathi esiningi uphupha emini.
• Ihlazo nomuzwa wecala: Laba bantu bavame ukuzizwa kabi ngokwenza lokhu, bazizwe benamahloni, futhi bazizwe sengathi benza into engalungile, ikakhulukazi uma kuthinta ezinye izici zokuphila kwabo.
• Ukuphupha emini okuphoqelekile: Lokhu kusho ukuthi laba bantu banesifiso esinamandla sokuphupha emini. Uma bengalitholi ithuba lokwenza kanjalo, bangase bazizwe bedabukile futhi bekhathazekile ngokuphuthelwa. Olunye ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi lesi sidingo sokuphupha emini singafana nokuba umlutha .
• Ukuzama ukuyeka noma ukunciphisa: Abantu abanokuphupha emini okungafaneleki bavame ukuzama ukunciphisa noma ukuyeka ngokuphelele la maphupho emini, kodwa bakuthola kunzima ukwenza kanjalo.

Yiziphi izimbangela zokuphupha emini okungafanele?

Ochwepheshe abazi kahle ukuthi kungani kwenzeka "ukuphupha emini okungafaneleki". Kodwa-ke, basola ukuthi kuyindlela yokubhekana nezinkinga ezifana nokukhathazeka, ukucindezeleka, nezinye izinkinga zempilo yengqondo. Kufana nokuya ezweni lamaphupho ukuze uziphazamise ezinkingeni nasebuhlungwini beqiniso.

Ingabe lokhu kuyathelelana?

Cha. "Ukuphupha Emini Okungafaneleki" kuyinkinga yempilo yengqondo. Ngakho-ke, akuthelelani kusuka komunye umuntu kuya komunye .

Ungakubona kanjani lokhu?

Njengoba kushiwo ngaphambili, "Ukuphupha Emini Okungafaneleki" akuyona inkinga yezokwelapha eqashelwa ngokusemthethweni . Ngakho-ke, umhlinzeki wezempilo akakwazi ukuyixilonga ngokuqondile ngokuthi "yebo, unalesi sifo." Futhi, azikho izivivinyo zelebhu ezingakuqinisekisa.

Kodwa-ke, odokotela bangathola izimpawu zale nkinga ngokusebenzisa imibuzo ekhethekile kanye nezikali zokuxilonga ezisetshenziselwa ukuxilonga izimo ezihlobene njenge-ADHD, i-OCD, ukucindezeleka, ukukhathazeka, kanye nezinkinga zokuhlukana. Bangasebenzisa futhi uhlu lwemibuzo olubizwa ngokuthi i-Maladaptive Daydreaming Scale-16 (MDS-16) ngqo. Lokhu kubonisa ukuthi umuntu unamathuba amaningi okuba nalesi simo.

Ilashwa kanjani? Ingabe ingelapheka?

Ngenxa yokuthi i-Maladaptive Daydreaming ayisona isifo esaziwayo ngokusemthethweni, ayikho indlela ejwayelekile yokwelapha lesi sifo . Kodwa-ke, lokho akusho ukuthi asinakwelashwa. Okwamanje, ochwepheshe bezempilo yengqondo bangayiphatha ngendlela efanayo naleyo abaphatha ngayo ezinye izimo ezifanayo.

Ukwelashwa okuyinhloko kwe-"Maladaptive Daydreaming" yi -psychotherapy .

Ukwelashwa Kokuziphatha Kokuqonda (i-CBT) kuyindlela yokwelapha evame kakhulu esetshenziselwa ukwelapha izimo ezifana ne-OCD, ukukhathazeka, ukucindezeleka, kanye ne-schizophrenia. Indlela ye-CBT ingasiza nabantu abane-Maladaptive Daydreaming ukuba baqonde ukuthi kungani benza lokhu nokuthi yini abangayenza ukuze bakulawule. Ezinye izindlela zokweluleka ngempilo yengqondo nazo zingaba usizo.

Ngenxa yokuthi abantu abaningi abanesifo sokuphupha emini esibizwa ngokuthi "i-Maladaptive Daydreaming" nabo banezinye izimo, njenge-"ADHD," ukuphupha emini kungancishiswa uma lezo zimo zelashwa . Uhlobo lomuthi owuthathayo luzoncika kakhulu kwesinye isimo obhekene naso.

Udokotela wakho ungumuntu ongcono kakhulu ukukutshela ukuthi yini ezokusiza kakhulu. Angakuchazela kabanzi ngezindlela ezahlukene zokwelulekwa ngempilo yengqondo kanye nezinketho zemithi. Akuwona wonke umuntu ofanayo. Okusebenza komunye umuntu kungase kungasebenzeli omunye. Udokotela wakho uzokwenza izincomo ngokusekelwe emlandweni wakho wezempilo, izimo zezokwelapha, kanye nezimo zomuntu ngamunye.

Ingabe kukhona izinkinga noma imiphumela emibi yokwelashwa?

Akukho miphumela emibi noma izinkinga ezinkulu ezivela ekwelulekweni ngempilo yengqondo. Kodwa-ke, ngezinye izikhathi ungase ubhekane nezinkumbulo ezinzima nezibuhlungu noma imicabango efika engqondweni . Uchwepheshe wakho wezempilo yengqondo angakusiza ukuthi ubhekane nalokhu, usebenzele ukudlula ezimeni ezibuhlungu kanye nobunzima obudlule, futhi uqhubekele phambili. Bangakhuluma nawe ngezinkinga ezingaba khona ezivela emithini abayinikezayo.

Ngingazinakekela kanjani futhi ngiphathe izimpawu zami?

Ngoba "ukuphupha emini okungalawuleki" kuyinkinga yempilo yengqondo,Lokhu kungaba nzima ukukuphatha wedwa . Into engcono kakhulu ongayenza ukukhuluma nomeluleki wezempilo yengqondo . Bangakuqondisa ukuthi unganciphisa kanjani isidingo sakho sokuphupha emini bese ekugcineni unganciki kakhulu kukho. Bangakusiza futhi ukuthola imithi engelapha ezinye izimo ezihlobene. Lokhu kuzokwenza kube lula ngawe ukunciphisa ukuthembela kwakho emaphusheni emini.

Lesi simo sizongithinta kanjani? (Yini engingayilindela?)

Ukuphupha emini okungafaneleki kuyinkinga engaphazamisa kakhulu impilo yakho. Ikakhulukazi uma ukuphupha kwakho emini kuphazamisa umsebenzi, ubudlelwano, imisebenzi yasekhaya, noma izinto ozithandayo. Uma umuntu ephupha isikhathi eside futhi enciphisa ukuxhumana kwakhe nabanye, amakhono akhe okuxhumana nabantu aba buthaka, okwenza kube nzima ukuqala ubudlelwano obusha nokugcina obukhona .

Njengoba kushiwo ngaphambili, "Ukuphupha Emini Okungafaneleki" kuvame ukuba yinto ephoqelelayo. Lokhu kusho ukuthi umuntu uzizwa enesidingo sokukwenza. Isidingo sokuphupha emini sifana nomlutha, ngakho-ke uma uphupha njalo, kuba umkhuba onamandla okunzima kakhulu ukuwuyeka . Yingakho kubalulekile ukufuna usizo kumeluleki wezempilo yengqondo ngokushesha okukhulu.

Kuncane ucwaningo olwenziwe mayelana nokuthi lesi simo sihlala isikhathi esingakanani, njengoba singakaqashelwa ngokusemthethweni isikhathi eside. Njengamanje, kubonakala sengathi singaba impilo yonke, kodwa kuyinto enganqotshwa . Kodwa-ke, kunzima ukuyinqoba ngaphandle kokwelulekwa ngempilo yengqondo, imithi, noma kokubili.

Ngokwayo, "Ukuphupha Emini Okungafaneleki" akulona ingozi empilweni yakho yomzimba. Kodwa-ke, kungaba nomthelela omkhulu empilweni yakho yengqondo . Futhi, ezinye izifo (isib. ukucindezeleka) ezenzeka ngalesi simo zingandisa ingozi yokuzilimaza noma ukuzibulala . Ngakho-ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuqaphela lokhu.

Uma unemicabango yokuzilimaza, ucabanga ukuzibulala, noma ucabanga ukulimaza abanye, sicela ushayele izinsizakalo eziphuthumayo ngokushesha, noma uye esibhedlela esiseduze. ESri Lanka, ungashayela ucingo lwe-hotline lwe-Sumithrayo lwango-1926.

Yimiphi imibuzo okufanele uyibuze udokotela?

Inkinga evamile kubantu abane-"Maladaptive Daydreaming" ukuntuleka kokuqashelwa ngokusemthethweni kwalesi simo. Abahlinzeki bezempilo abaningi abasiqapheli kahle. Ngenxa yalokho, abanye bangase bangazinaki izinkathazo zakho. Uma lokho kwenzeka, ungazindeli ukufuna ukunakekelwa kwempilo yengqondo . Ukuthi nje uchwepheshe oyedwa akazi ngakho akusho ukuthi wonke umuntu uyazi, noma ukuthi asikho isisombululo senkinga yakho.

Uma ufuna umeluleki wezempilo yengqondo , ungababuza lezi zinto:

• Uyazi ukuthi `(i-Maladaptive Daydreaming)`?
• Ungakwazi yini ukuhlola izimo ezihlobene njenge-ADHD, i-OCD, ukukhathazeka, kanye nokucindezeleka?
• Ingabe unolwazi lokwelapha izimo ezifanele ezibalwe ngenhla?

Izinto Okufanele Uzikhumbule (Umyalezo Ofanele Uwuthathe Ekhaya)

Ukuphupha Emini Okungafaneleki kuyisimo sempilo yengqondo esibangela umuntu ukuba abhajwe ezweni lamaphupho asemini ayinkimbinkimbi. Lawa maphupho asemini avame ukusetshenziswa njengendlela yokubhekana nezinye izimo zempilo yengqondo noma ubunzima bempilo. Abantu abanalesi simo kungenzeka ukuthi bake baba nokuhlangenwe nakho okubuhlungu ebuntwaneni, kodwa akubona bonke abantu ababa nakho.

Ngenxa yokuthi lesi simo asikaqashelwa ngokusemthethweni, akubona bonke ochwepheshe bezempilo yengqondo abasaziyo. Abanye bangase bangakunaki. Lokhu kungakwenza uzizwe unamahloni kakhulu, ucindezelekile, futhi uhlehlise ukufuna ukwelashwa. Kodwa ungapheli amandla. Kubalulekile ukuthola umuntu ongakusiza ukubhekana nalesi simo futhi usinqobe. Ungafunda ukuphatha la maphupho asemini - ikakhulukazi ngosizo lochwepheshe bezempilo yengqondo. Ngemuva kwalokho ungagxila empilweni yakho, ugxile ekuphileni, futhi wakhe ubudlelwano nabantu abakuzungezile. Awuwedwa, futhi ungesabi ukucela usizo.

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