Wake waphawula ukuthi umngane wakho omkhulu noma ilungu lomndeni selishintshe kakhulu kunendlela ababeyiyo ngaphambili? Abasamomotheki kangako, abakhulumi kakhulu, bahlala becabanga... Ngezinye izikhathi bangase bazizwe bedabukile kakhulu noma becindezelekile. Kodwa uma lesi simo siqhubeka amasonto noma izinyanga, akusikho ukudabuka nje kuphela. Bangase babe nobunzima ngesimo esibizwa ngokuthi ukucindezeleka. Ngakho-ke, ukuze sisize umuntu onjalo, namuhla sizoxoxa ngendlela okufanele sikhulume ngayo naye ngaphandle kokulimaza imizwa yakhe.
Okokuqala, ake siqonde ukuthi kuyini ukucindezeleka.
Ukucindezeleka kuyisimo esingapheli esidinga ukwelashwa okukhethekile. Akuyona nje umuzwa wokudabuka ophela ezinsukwini ezimbalwa. Ngokuvamile kunzima ukululama kulesi simo ngaphandle kosizo.
Cabanga ukuthi umngane wakho wayejabule kakhulu futhi ejabule. Kodwa manje usethule kakhulu futhi uthanda ukuhlala ekamelweni lakhe abe yedwa. Ungase ube nesizathu salokhu noma ungabi naso. Kungaba ukulahlekelwa othandekayo, ukulahlekelwa umsebenzi, njll. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi ukucindezeleka kungenzeka ngaphandle kwesizathu esicacile.
Nazi ezinye izinto okudingeka sizazi ngokucindezeleka:
- Akusona isifo, akusona ubuvila: Ukucindezeleka akusona ubuvila noma ubuthakathaka bengqondo. Kuyisimo sezokwelapha esenzeka ngokushintsha kwamakhemikhali (ama-neurotransmitter) ebuchosheni bethu. Yingakho bezizwa sengathi abanawo amandla amaningi okwenza into elula njengokuvuka embhedeni bageze ubuso babo.
- Lesi yisimo esivame kakhulu: inani elikhulu labantu lihlushwa yilesi simo eSri Lanka kanye nasemhlabeni jikelele. Ngakho ungacabangi ukuthi umuntu wakho uyedwa.
- Ezinye izimo zezokwelapha nazo zingabangela ukucindezeleka: Ezinye izimo zomzimba zingabangela ukucindezeleka, njenge -hypothyroidism .
- Kungabangelwa futhi yimithi: Ukucindezeleka kungabuye kwenzeke njengomphumela ongemuhle weminye imithi esetshenziswa ezifweni ezifana nomfutho wegazi ophakeme.
- Khuluma ngokuqeda impilo yakho: Lokhu kuyinto okufanele ithathwe ngokungathi sína kakhulu . Uma othile ekutshela ukuthi ukhathele ukuphila futhi uzizwa sengathi uzofa, ungalokothi ukuthathe kalula. Kungaba ukukhala kosizo.
Singamsiza kanjani umuntu ocindezelekile?
Uma uzizwa sengathi udinga ukusiza umngane noma ilungu lomndeni, nansi indlela yokuqala leyo ngxoxo.
Okokuqala, mtshele okusengqondweni yakho.
Esikhathini esiningi, siyesaba ukukhuluma ngalolu hlobo lwento. Kodwa lesi yisikhathi esihle kakhulu sokumbonisa ukunakekela nothando lwakho. Ungakhuluma kanje ngezwi elizolile nelinomusa.
"Bengikhathazekile kancane ngawe kulezi zinsuku. Nginomuzwa wokuthi awusafani nakuqala. Ingabe konke kuhamba kahle?"
Uma ubuza lo mbuzo, uzozizwa sengathi uyamkhathalela. Bese ulalela ngokucophelela lokho akushoyo. Buza ukuthi ungasiza kanjani. Ungabuza nokuthi ungamsiza yini ukuthi abone udokotela .
Kukusiza ukuthi uthi 'cha' nokuthi 'yebo'
Sizama ukubakhuthaza ngezinhloso ezinhle, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi izinto esizishoyo zingabalimaza nakakhulu. Ngakho gwema ukusho izinto ezinjengalezi.
| Ungakusho kanje ❌ | Kungcono ukusho ngale ndlela ✔️ |
|---|---|
| "Lezo yizinkinga wonke umuntu anazo. Qinani." | "Uzizwa kanjani namuhla?" |
| "Wonke umuntu unezikhathi ezidabukisayo." | "Ngiyaxolisa kakhulu ukuthi ubhekene nesikhathi esinzima kangaka." |
| "O, into efana naleyo yenzeke nakimi, yilokhu engikwenzile..." | "Ngiyabona ukuthi ubuhlungu obhekene nabo bungakanani." |
| "Konke kuzolunga ezinsukwini ezimbalwa." | "Yini okudingeka ngiyenze ukuze ngikusize?" |
Kalula nje, ungaqhathanisi imizwa yabo neyomunye umuntu. Ukwenza kanjalo kuzobenza bazizwe sengathi ukudabuka kwabo akunangqondo nokuthi kuyinto evamile. Kuzobenza bazizwe benesizungu nakakhulu.
Yiba nesineke futhi wazise ngisho nentuthuko encane.
Abantu abanesifo sokucindezeleka abafani ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ezinye izinsuku zinhle, ezinye izinsuku zimbi kakhulu. Uma bengafuni ukukhuluma, ungakuphoqeleli. Mhlawumbe bafuna nje ukuthi ube lapho ungakhulumi.
"Kulungile uma ungafuni ukukhuluma, ngizohlala nawe lapha."
"Uma ufuna ukukhala, khala, akukho lutho olungalungile ngalokho."
Futhi, uma benza into encane - isibonelo, ukugeza ubuso babo ngemva kwesikhathi eside nokushintsha izingubo zabo - ungakusho ngokubhuqa. Kunalokho, ncoma lowo mzamo omncane.
| Ungakusho lokhu ngokubhuqa ❌ | Yazisa kanje ✔️ |
|---|---|
| "Ah... ugqoke namuhla, akunjalo?" | "Ngiyajabula ukuthi usuvukile. Ngingapheka itiye?" |
| "Kubukeka sengathi indlu isihlanziwe kancane..." | "Indlu iyinhle. Ngiyazi ukuthi kumelwe ukuthi uzikhandle kakhulu kuyo." |
Uma kuvela izwi elibuhlungu kubo...
Ngezinye izikhathi, bangase bakubize ngakho, futhi ungase ubaphazamise. Ungakuthathi mathupha ngaleso sikhathi. Akuyena umngane wakho okhulumayo, ukugula kwakhe. Yiba nesineke. Bakhumbuze ukuthi, "Ngihlala ngikhona uma udinga ukukhuluma."
Izindlela zokulwa nokucindezeleka
Lawa macebiso azobaluleka kokubili kini enihlushwa ukucindezeleka kanye nalabo abasiza umuntu ohlushwa ukucindezeleka.
- Funa iseluleko sezokwelapha ngokushesha: Lesi yisinyathelo esibaluleke kakhulu nesokuqala. Ukuze wenze lokhu, hlangana nodokotela wezifo zengqondo onguchwepheshe noma udokotela womndeni wakho bese nixoxa ngalokhu. Kokubili imithi kanye nokwelulekwa kuvame ukudingeka.
- Uma unemicabango yokuzibulala, ungahlupheki wedwa: tshela umuntu omethembayo ngokushesha. Ngaphandle kwalokho, shayela i-Friends of Sri Lanka noma inombolo ephuthumayo ye-National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) engu-1926 ukuze uthole usizo. Bakulungele ukukulalela.
- Qala usuku lwakho ngokuzivocavoca okuncane: Akudingeki kube yinto enkulu. Ngisho nokuhamba imizuzu eyi-10-15 egcekeni kungenza umehluko omkhulu.
- Gcina isimiso: Lala uvuke ngesikhathi esifanayo ngangokunokwenzeka. Yidla ukudla okunempilo.
- Yenza okuncane kwezinto owawuzijabulela: Ngisho nento encane njengokubuka i-movie noma ukulalela ingoma ayinandaba.
- Gwema utshwala nezidakamizwa ngokuphelele: Nakuba lokhu kungase kubonakale sengathi kusiza okwesikhashana, kungenza ukucindezeleka kube kubi nakakhulu ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Ukucindezeleka akusikho ubuthakathaka bengqondo, kodwa ukugula kwangempela okudinga ukwelashwa.
- Into engcono kakhulu ongayinika umuntu ohlushwa ukucindezeleka ukumlalela ngaphandle kokwahlulela.
- Esikhundleni sokudelela amagama anjengokuthi "Wenzani?", sebenzisa amagama asekelayo anjengokuthi "Nginawe."
- Yazisa ngisho nomzamo omncane kakhulu abawenzayo. Kubanika amandla amakhulu.
- Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukubathumela ocingweni lochwepheshe bezokwelapha. Udokotela wakho ungumhlahlandlela ongcono kakhulu kulokhu.
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