Dɛn ne wo attachment styles? Momma yɛnka eyi ho asɛm!

Abusuabɔ a yɛn nyinaa ne nnipa wɔ, sɛ́ ɛyɛ nnamfofa anaa ɔdɔ mu abusuabɔ no ho hia yiye, ɛnte saa? Ɛtɔ da bi a yɛdwene sɛ, "Oh, adɛn nti na me ne onipa yi bataa saa?" Anaasɛ "Oh, mente nka mpo sɛ me ne saa onipa no bɛkasa!" Wunim, ebia nea enti a nneɛma yi ba no mu dɔ sen sɛnea yesusuw, na ebetumi afi ase afi yɛn mmofraase pɛɛ. Ɛno ne nea yɛfrɛ no `(Attachment Styles)` anaa attachment styles.

Enti, dɛn ne saa akwan horow a wɔfa so de wɔn ho bata ho yi?

Sɛ yɛbɛka no tiawa a, eyi kyerɛ sɛnea yɛn a wɔhwɛ yɛn titiriw (mpɛn pii no yɛn awofo, yɛn nananom, anaa yɛn nananom) ne yɛn dii bere a na yɛyɛ mmofra , kyerɛ sɛ, bere a na yɛyɛ mmofra koraa, ne sɛnea saa osuahu ahorow no ka yɛn abusuabɔ sɛ mpanyimfo.

Susuw ho saa kwan yi so. Bere a na woyɛ abofra no, woyɛɛ w'ade dɛn bere a obi a ɔhwɛ wo gyaw wo hɔ kakra, ebia ``nkokoaa hwɛfo'', na wufii hɔ no? So na ehu aka wo? So na wo werɛ ahow? Anaasɛ woyɛɛ w'ade sɛnea ɛsɛ kɛkɛ, a wususuwii sɛ, "Oh, wɔbɛsan aba nnansa yi ara." Bere a wɔsan bae no, wotee nka dɛn? So wo ho tɔɔ wo? Abufuo? Anaasɛ na ɛnyɛ wo asɛm koraa?

Nsɛmmisa yi ho mmuae a wode ma no ka nneɛma pii fa nea wohwɛ kwan, w’ahiade ahorow, ne osuahu ahorow a wunyae bere a woyɛ abofra no ho. Wɔsan nso ma wohu sɛnea wo ne afoforo bedi abusuabɔ ho dwuma bere a woayɛ ɔpanyin no.

Dɛn ne saa akwan horow a wɔfa so bata obi ho yi?

Adwene ne nneyɛe ho animdefo ahu akwan atitiriw anan a wɔfa so bata obi ho:

• Secure attachment kwan a wɔfa so de bata ho
• Dadwen a wɔde bata obi ho kwan
• Kwati attachment kwan a wɔfa so yɛ ade
• Ɔkwan a wɔfa so de wɔn ho bata ho a wɔanhyehyɛ no yiye

Eyinom mu no, nneɛma a wɔde bata obi ho a ɛyɛ dadwen, kwati, ne nea wɔanhyehyɛ no yiye ne nea yɛfrɛ no abatade a enni ahobammɔ . Ɛsɛ sɛ yɛn nyinaa botae yɛ sɛ yɛbɛtwe yɛn ho afi saa nneɛma a wɔde bata ho a ahobammɔ nnim yi ho na yɛakyekye nneɛma a wɔde bata ho a ahobammɔ wom.

Ɔkwan bɛn so na saa nneɛma a wɔde bata obi ho yi ka abusuabɔ?

Adwene ne nneyɛe ho animdefo gyina bɛboro mfe 50 nhwehwɛmu (attachment theory) so gye tom sɛ nkate fam abusuabɔ a edi kan a wo ne wo hwɛfo titiriw no nyae bere a na woyɛ abofra no betumi anya wo daakye ɔdɔ abusuabɔ so nkɛntɛnso tẽẽ.

Susuw ho hwɛ, sɛ onipa a ɔhwɛɛ wo no dwen wo ho bere nyinaa, ɔboaa wo bere a wuhia, na ɔma wote ahobammɔ nka , ɛda adi sɛ wubenya abusuabɔ a ɛyɛ den na ahobammɔ wom bere a worenyin no. Ɔkwan foforo so no, sɛ ɛnyɛ bere nyinaa na onipa a ɔhwɛɛ wo no yɛ aso tie, sɛ wɔamfa wo anni wɔ ɔkwan pɔtee bi so a, ebia wubehyia ɔhaw ahorow bi wɔ w’abusuabɔ mu bere a woayɛ ɔpanyin no.

So abusuabɔ a na wo ne onipa a ɔhwɛɛ wo bere a na woyɛ abofra no nkutoo na enya eyi so nkɛntɛnso?

Ɛwom sɛ nhwehwɛmu pii kyerɛ sɛ abusuabɔ a na wo ne wɔn a wɔhwɛ wo no wɔ bere a na woyɛ abofra, titiriw wɔ asetra mu asram 18 a edi kan no mu no nya wo ho a wode bata wo ho no so nkɛntɛnso kɛse de, nanso nnipa afoforo nso betumi anya eyi so nkɛntɛnso. Wo nnamfo dedaw ne ɔdɔ a woanya dedaw mpo betumi asakra ɔkwan a wofa so yɛ w’ade wɔ nkate mu nsɛnkyerɛnne ho. Ebia na wowɔ ahobammɔ a ahobammɔ wom bere a na woyɛ abofra, nanso ebia wo ho a wode bata ho no abɛyɛ nea ahobammɔ nnim esiane ahotoso a wogyaee anaa osuahu afoforo a emu yɛ den akyiri yi wɔ asetra mu nti.

Afei nso, ebia ɛsono sɛnea wo ne nnipa ahorow bata wo ho . Esiane osuahu ahorow a woanya wɔ bere bi a atwam no mu nti, ebia wobɛte nka sɛ wowɔ ahobammɔ kɛse wɔ nnipa binom nkyɛn.

So metumi asesa me attachment style?

Akyinnye biara nni ho sɛ ebetumi aba! Sɛ wɔbɛsakra no a, ebetumi aba koraa. Ɛde ne ho a obi hu na efi ase . Sɛ wuhu wo nkate mu su ahorow wie – nhwɛso ahorow a woda no adi wɔ mpanyimfo abusuabɔ mu a – wubetumi afi ase asesa saa nsusuwii dedaw no bi. Ɛte sɛ nea worekyerɛw script foforo. Adwene dedaw a wobɛsakra no betumi aboa wo ma woafi abatade kwan a ahobammɔ nnim so akɔ ɔkwan a ahobammɔ wom so. Bere a w’ankasa wubetumi ayɛ eyinom bi no, ɛyɛ papa bere nyinaa sɛ wo ne ɔfotufo anaa ɔyaresafo bi a obetumi aboa wo ma woate wo ase na waboa wo wɔ kwan so no bɛkasa.

Dɛn ne saa Secure Attachment Style yi?

Abatade a ahobammɔ wom ne tumi a obi tumi nya abusuabɔ pa, abotɔyam, na ɛtra hɔ kyɛ.

Nneɛma a wɔde bata ho a ahobammɔ wom wɔ mmofra nkumaa mu

Mmofra nkumaa a wɔwɔ ɔkwan a wɔfa so de wɔn ho bata ho a ahobammɔ wom te nka sɛ wɔwɔ ahobammɔ, wɔsom bo, wɔte wɔn ase, na wɔn hwɛfo titiriw no kyekye wɔn werɛ . Sɛ́ nkokoaa no, bere a nea ɔhwɛ wɔn no kɔ kakra no, wosu, nanso sɛ saa onipa no san ba a, wɔkyekye wɔn werɛ. Sɛ wɔte ehu nka a, wotu mmirika kɔ nea ɔhwɛ wɔn no nkyɛn kɔhwehwɛ awerɛkyekye.

Secure attachment nhyehyɛe wɔ mpanyimfo mu

Sɛ wowɔ ɔkwan a wɔfa so bata wo ho a ahobammɔ wom a, ɛkyerɛ sɛ wote ahobammɔ ne ahotoso nka wɔ wo mpanyimfo abusuabɔ mu. Woka wo nkate ho asɛm pefee kyerɛ wo hokafo ne wo nnamfo paa, wohwehwɛ mmoa wɔ asetram bere a wuhia mmoa, na wunya obu pa wɔ wo ho .

Su ahorow a ɛwɔ ade a wɔde bata ho a ahobammɔ wom ho

Sɛ wowɔ attachment style a ahobammɔ wom a, mpɛn pii no wubetumi ayɛ saa nneɛma yi:

• Afoforo mu ahotoso a wobɛhyɛ no ntɛm.
• Di nkitaho yiye.
• Yɛ wo nkate ho nhyehyɛe .
• Mente nka sɛ ɛnyɛ me dɛ sɛ me nkutoo begye bere.
• Ɔne afoforo di nkitaho ntɛmntɛm.
• Sɛ ntawntawdi bi sɔre a, wosiesie no wɔ ɔkwan a ɛfata so.
• Wubetumi abɛn nnipa a wɔwɔ w’asetra mu no wɔ nkate fam.

Dɛn ne Anxious Attachment Style?

Eyi yɛ ɔkwan bi a wɔfa so de wɔn ho bata ho a ahobammɔ nnim. Nnipa a wɔwɔ saa abatade yi taa suro sɛ wɔbɛpow wɔn na wɔagyaw wɔn . Ebia wɔbɛhwɛ obi a ɔnyɛ wɔn ho sɛ obegye atom.

Edin foforo a wɔde frɛ eyi ne:

• `(Preoccupied attachment kwan so)`
• `(Adwennwene-adwennwen a wɔde bata ho kwan)`
• `(Adwennwene-ambivalent abatade kwan)`

Nneɛma a wɔde bata obi ho a ɛyɛ dadwen wɔ mmofra nkumaa mu

Mmofra a wɔwɔ saa ɔkwan a wɔfa so de wɔn ho bata ho yi bo fuw kɛse bere a wɔatew wɔn ho afi wɔn awofo ho no. Nanso, sɛ wɔn awofo san ba a, wɔnkyekye wɔn werɛ koraa. Ebia mmofra yi nni ahɔho mu ahotoso kɛse sen mmofra a wɔwɔ akwan foforo a wɔfa so de wɔn ho bata ho.

Nneɛma a wɔde bata obi ho a ɛyɛ dadwen wɔ mpanyimfo mu

Ebia mpanyimfo a wɔwɔ saa abatade yi bɛhaw wɔn ho sɛ wɔn ahokafo anaa wɔn nnamfonom nnɔ wɔn. Ne saa nti, ebia wosuro paa sɛ wɔbɛpo wɔn anaasɛ wobegyaw wɔn hɔ. Ebia wɔn nyinaa nni obu a ɛba fam wɔ wɔn ho na wohia afoforo anim dom na ama wɔagye wɔn ho atom. Ebia wɔwɔ codependent tendencies , na ebia wobedi awerɛhow kɛse bere a abusuabɔ ahorow ba awiei no.

Nsɛnkyerɛnne a ɛkyerɛ sɛ obi wɔ abusuabɔ a ɛyɛ dadwen

Sɛ wowɔ abusuabɔ a ɛte sɛɛ a, ebia wubehyia saa nneɛma yi:

• Nkate a ɛne sɛ mfaso nni so.
• Nkate a ɛboro so wɔ ɔkasatia ho.
• Ɛyɛ den sɛ wo nkutoo benya bere.
• Obu a obi wɔ ma ne ho a ɛba fam.
• Ɛyɛ den sɛ wubenya afoforo mu ahotoso.
• Nkate te sɛ ahoɔyaw .
• Suro a wosuro sɛ wɔbɛpow obi anaasɛ wobegyaw no.

Dɛn ne Kwati Attachment Style?

Eyi nso yɛ ɔkwan bi a wɔfa so de wɔn ho bata ho a ahobammɔ nnim. Ebia ɛbɛyɛ den ama nnipa a wɔkwati ɔkwan a wɔfa so de wɔn ho bata ho no sɛ wobenya abusuabɔ a ntease wom esiane suro a wosuro sɛ wɔbɛn wɔn ho wɔn ho nti .

Edin afoforo a wɔde frɛ eyi:

• `(Dismissive attachment kwan a wɔfa so de bata ho)`
• `(Adwennwene-kwati attachment style)`

Kwati a wɔde wɔn ho bata mmofra nkumaa ho

Nkokoaa ne mmofra nkumaa a wɔwɔ saa abatade yi mfa nsiyɛ nhwehwɛ awerɛkyekye mfi nea ɔhwɛ wɔn no hɔ. Ebia sɛ wɔde awerɛkyekye ma a, wɔrempow, nanso mpɛn pii no wɔbɔ mmɔden sɛ wɔbɛkwati nkitahodi. Mpɛn pii no, mmofra yi nkyerɛ nsonsonoe biara wɔ nea ɔhwɛ wɔn titiriw ne obi a wonnim no koraa ntam.

Kwati attachment style wɔ mpanyimfo mu

Sɛ́ ɔpanyin no, ebia wowɔ ɔkwan a wɔfa so kwati sɛ wobɛbata wo ho, a ɛkyerɛ sɛ wokwati abusuabɔ a emu yɛ den, na womfa nkate kakraa bi pɛ nhyɛ wo ne wo hokafo ne wo nnamfo ntam abusuabɔ mu.Ebetumi ayɛ saa. Nnipa a wɔwɔ saa abatade kwan yi betumi anya ahofadi ho adwene a emu yɛ den na sɛ obi bɔ mmɔden sɛ ɔbɛbɛn wɔn a, wobetumi ate nka sɛ wɔrehunahuna wɔn. Eyi betumi ama ayɛ den sɛ wobɛka wo nkate ne wo nkate a emu dɔ akyerɛ nnipa a wɔwɔ w’asetra mu.

Nsɛnkyerɛnne a ɛkyerɛ sɛ obi akwati sɛ ɔde ne ho bɛbata obi ho

Sɛ wowɔ attachment pattern a ɛkwati a, ebia wowɔ:

• Ahofadi ho adwene kɛse a obi nya wɔ ne ho.
• Ɛnyɛ mmerɛw sɛ wobebu wɔn ani agu afoforo so.
• Ɛyɛ den sɛ wubenya afoforo mu ahotoso.
• Sɛ obi bɔ mmɔden sɛ ɔbɛbɛn no a, ɛyɛ fɛre.
• Kwati nkitahodi a ɛbɛn (nkate anaa honam fam).
• Wɔmpɛ sɛ wɔde wɔn ho bɛhyɛ abusuabɔ mu.

Dɛn ne Disorganized Attachment Style?

Eyi ne ɔkwan a ɛto so abiɛsa a wɔfa so de wɔn ho bata ho a ahobammɔ nnim. Ebia nnipa a wɔwɔ saa abatade yi bɛda suban a ɛne ne ho nhyia adi anaasɛ ɛbɛyɛ den ama wɔn sɛ wobenya afoforo mu ahotoso.

Edin foforo a wɔde frɛ eyi ne:

• `(Ehu-kwati attachment style)`

Nneɛma a wɔde bata wɔn ho a wɔanhyehyɛ no yiye wɔ mmofra nkumaa mu

Mpɛn pii no ɛte sɛ nea mmofra a wɔwɔ saa abatade yi adwene tu fra . Ebia wɔsuro sɛ biribi bɔne bi bɛto wɔn. Mpɛn pii no, eyi fi nkate fam a ɛne ne ho nhyia wɔ nea ɔhwɛ wɔn titiriw no mu. Sɛ nhwɛso no, ɛtɔ mmere bi a nea ɔhwɛ abofra no betumi akyekye abofra no werɛ, nanso mmere foforo nso de ehu bɛba. Ebia abofra no rentumi mfa ne ho nto nea ɔhwɛ no so koraa, efisɛ ɛtɔ mmere bi a onipa koro no ara a opira no no nso kyekye ne werɛ . Ebia wɔyɛɛ mmofra a wɔwɔ saa abatade yi ayayade, wɔhaw wɔn, anaasɛ wobuu wɔn ani guu wɔn so.

Nneɛma a wɔde bata wɔn ho a wɔanhyehyɛ no yiye wɔ mpanyimfo mu

Mpanyimfo a wɔwɔ abusuabɔ a ɛte sɛɛ mu taa da nneyɛe a ɛyɛ basaa anaasɛ wontumi nhu adi . Wɔhwɛ ɔdɔ ne wɔn dea kwan – nanso wosuro saa nneɛma no ara nso. Ne saa nti, ebia wobenya ɔkwan bi a wɔfa so hwehwɛ ɔdɔ na afei wɔpo no mpɛn pii. Ebia wɔbɛbata wɔn hokafo ho na afei wɔapia wɔn akɔ. Sɛ nhwɛso no, ebia wɔbɛka nkate kɛse da bi na da a edi hɔ no wɔnyɛ anibiannaso koraa.

Su ahorow a ɛwɔ obi a ɔde ne ho bata obi ho a wɔanhyehyɛ no yiye ho

Sɛ wowɔ abusuabɔ a entumi nyɛ adwuma yiye a, ebia wowɔ:

• Ɛyɛ den sɛ wubenya afoforo mu ahotoso.
• Ɛyɛ den sɛ wubedi wo nkate so.
• Wɔda akwan horow a wɔfa so bata obi ho a ɛyɛ dadwen ne nea wɔkwati nyinaa adi.
• Suro a wosuro sɛ wɔbɛpow.
• Suban a ɛyɛ basaa anaasɛ ɛbɔ abira.

Dɛn na ɛbɛto me ba wɔ eyinom nyinaa mu?

Nkate fam abusuabɔ a wo ne wo ba nya no ho hia paa.. Bere a sɛnea obi bata obi ho no betumi asesa wɔ n’asetra nyinaa mu no, abusuabɔ a edi kan a wo ne wo ba nya no de wɔn si ɔkwan bi so. Te sɛ asase mfonini ne kɔmpase a wode bɛma abofra ansa na watu kwan no, biribi a wɔde bɛbata ho a ahobammɔ wom a wɔde besi hɔ no yɛ ade titiriw.

Ɛnyɛ den sɛ wobɛkyerɛ abofra nkate fam akwahosan kwan wɔ wɔn nkɔso mmere mu. Fa no sɛ ɛte sɛ semɛnte. Yebetumi ayɛ semɛnte a wɔde ato hɔ foforo no na yɛayɛ no sɛnea yɛpɛ biara. Nanso sɛ saa semɛnte no wow pɛ a, egye adwuma pii na wɔasesa. Abusuabɔ a ahobammɔ wom a wo ne wo ba benya no bue kwan ma wɔn daakye nkonimdi mprempren.

Mɛyɛ dɛn ne me ba no anya abusuabɔ a ahobammɔ wom?

Bere a eyinom nyinaa wɔ w’adwenem no, ebia woresusuw ho sɛ ebia wubetumi ama wo ba no anya abusuabɔ a ahobammɔ wom ma wakɔ n’anim wɔ asetra mu anaa. Nea edi kan no, home denneennen . Nhumu yɛ ade titiriw bere a ɛba sɛ wobɛkyekye obi a ɔde ne ho bɛbata obi ho a ɔwɔ apɔwmuden na ahobammɔ wom no. Nokwarem no, ebia wofi awosu mu rema wo ba no nea ohia na ama wanya nkɔso wɔ nkate fam dedaw. Ɛno da nkyɛn a, sɛ woannwen wo ba no yiyedi ho a, anka worenkenkan asɛm yi, ɛnte saa?

Nneɛma bi a wubetumi ayɛ na ama wo ne wo ba anya abusuabɔ a ahobammɔ wom ni:

• Ma wonhu sɛ wowɔ hɔ ma wɔn ne wɔn ahiade. Ɛnyɛ nea mfaso wɔ so sɛ wode w’adwene nyinaa bɛma wo ba nnɔnhwerew 24 da biara, nnafua 7 dapɛn biara. Nanso, bɔ mmɔden sɛ wobɛyɛ saa mpɛn pii sɛnea wubetumi, titiriw bere a abofra no nhwɛ kwan koraa no. Eyi ma abofra no hu sɛ wopɛ sɛ wo ne wɔn nya bere, ɛnyɛ sɛ wɔyɛɛ biribi nti, na mmom esiane sɛ wɔyɛ onipa ko a wɔyɛ nti.
• Ma wo ba no nkate nyɛ nokware. Hu nea ebia wo ba no te nka, na boa wɔn ma wɔmfa saa nkate horow no din nhyɛ mu. Kae wɔn sɛ ɛyɛ ade a ɛfata sɛ wobenya nkate, sɛ nkate nyinaa wɔ atirimpɔw, na ɛnyɛ hwee sɛ wɔbɛte nka sɛnea ɛte no. Sɛ woboa wɔn ma wonya akwan pa a wɔbɛfa so adi nkate a emu yɛ den te sɛ abufuw ho dwuma a, ɛbɛhyɛ wo ne wo ba no ntam abusuabɔ mu den.
• Fa wo ho hyɛ wo ba no anigyede mu. Sua wo ba no anigyede ne nneɛma a n’ani gye ho ho ade. Hwehwɛ akwan a wobɛfa so ne wɔn adi nkitaho wɔ nneɛma a wɔdɔ ho.
• Nya anigye ara kwa sɛ mobɛbom. Sɛ́ ɔwofo anaa ɔhwɛfo no, w’adwuma no fã kɛse ne sɛ wode akwankyerɛ ne afotu bɛma wo ba. Bere a eyi ho hia ma abofra nyin no, bere a obi benya ne wɔn kɛkɛ nso so wɔ mfaso kɛse. Sɛ wo ne wo ba di nkitaho wɔ ɔkwan a ɛyɛ hyew na ɛto nsa frɛ no so a, ɛma ohu sɛ w’ani gye ne ho na w’ani gye ne ho. Ma wonhu sɛ wodɔ wɔn sɛnea wɔte no ara pɛ.

So ``Attachment Theory`` ne ``Attachment Parenting`` yɛ ade koro?

Awofo a wɔde wɔn ho bata ho ne nsusuwii a ɛkyerɛ sɛ awofo boa mmofra ma wonya abatade a ahobammɔ wom denam wɔn mma a wɔbɛn wɔn honam fam na wɔadi wɔn ahiade ho dwuma kɛse no so. Nhwehwɛmu a wɔayɛ wɔ attachment theory mu na ɛkanyan awofo a wɔde wɔn ho bata obi ho, nanso abien no nyɛ pɛ.

Mpɛn pii no, wɔn a wɔkamfo awofo a wɔde wɔn ho bata ho kyerɛ sɛ wunni nea wote nka sɛ ɛfata wo akyi na wugyaw nea aka no. Nanso, sɛ ɛba mmofra ntetee so a, ɔkwan biako biara nni hɔ a ɛfata obiara ankasa.

Abusuabɔ a wo ne wo ba nya wɔ n’asetra mu asram 18 a edi kan no betumi anya sɛnea odi abusuabɔ ho dwuma akyiri yi no so nkɛntɛnso kɛse. Sɛ wo ne wo ba no redi nkitaho a, yɛ nea ɛkɔ so daa, yɛ nea atirimpɔw wom, na ma ɔnte nka sɛ ɔwɔ ahobammɔ ne ahobammɔ. Ma wɔnte nka sɛ woyɛ obi a wobetumi akyɛ nkate biara, kɛse anaa ketewa. Abusuabɔ a ahobammɔ wom a wo ne wo ba benya no yɛ ɔkwan biako pɛ a wobɛfa so de asi hɔ ama daakye nkonimdi. Wo ne wo ba no mmofra oduruyɛfo nkasa na ama woasua akwan a ɛfata wo no ho ade pii.

Nneɛma a ɛho hia sen biara a ɛsɛ sɛ wode sie w’adwenem (Take-Home Message) .

Enti, efi nea yɛaka ho asɛm no mu no, ebia wubetumi ate sɛnea yɛn mmofraberem osuahu ahorow ka yɛn mpanyin afe so no ase. Yɛn attachment patterns yɛ biribi a ɛte saa.

• Mfiase abusuabɔ ho hia yiye: Abusuabɔ a na wo ne wɔn a wɔhwɛɛ wo bere a na woyɛ abofra no na ɛyɛ fapem ma wo daakye abusuabɔ.
• Wobetumi asesa: Sɛ mpo wo mprempren attachment pattern no nni ahobammɔ a, ɛnyɛ nea entumi nyɛ yiye sɛ wobɛsesa. Egye ankasa ho nimdeɛ ne mmɔdenbɔ ara kwa .
• Nkrasɛm a wɔde kɔma awofo: Sɛ wo ne wo ba benya abusuabɔ a ahobammɔ wom na emu yɛ den ne akyɛde a ɛsom bo sen biara a wubetumi de ama no. Ɛbɛyɛ ahoɔden kɛse ama wɔn wɔ wɔn nkwa nna nyinaa mu.
• Nsuro sɛ wubenya mmoa: Sɛ wopɛ sɛ wuhu eyi ho nsɛm pii, anaasɛ wote nka sɛ ɔhaw bi wɔ wo attachment style no mu a, ɛbɛyɛ papa sɛ wobɛhwehwɛ mmoa afi ɔfotufo hɔ.

Kae sɛ yɛn nyinaa wɔ saa akwantu yi mu. Nea ɛho hia ne sɛ wobɛte wo ho ase na woabɔ mmɔden sɛ wobɛkyekye abusuabɔ pa.

` Abatade nhyehyɛe, adwenemyare , mmofra nkɔso , awofo, abusuabɔ, nkate , ahobammɔ a ɛbata ho