Ðe nèhiã seselelãme ƒe kadodo deto hã hafi gbɔdɔdɔ ƒe nu nadzro wò ɖe ame aɖe ŋua? (Demisexuality) Mina míaƒo nu tso eŋu!

Ðe wò hã èsena le ɖokuiwò me alea ɣeaɖewoɣia? Ne xɔ̃wòwo gblɔ nyawo abe, “Oo, she’s pretty, I have a crush on her” ne èdo go ame yeye zi gbãtɔ la, ɖe seselelãme ma mele mewò oa? Alo ne ènya ame aɖe nyuie, xɔlɔ̃wɔwɔ kplikplikpli, alo kadodo deto aɖe ko hafi nèsena le ɖokuiwò me be gbɔdɔdɔ ƒe nu lé dzi na yea? Nɔnɔme ma ƒomevi si ŋu míaƒo nu tsoe egbea. Woyɔa esia be `Demisexuality`.

Nukae nye `Demisexuality`?

Kpuie ko la, `Vidzinu eve ƒe gbɔdɔdɔ` nye gbɔdɔdɔ ƒe dzodzro . Ame siwo dea dzesii be `Demisexual` la, gbɔdɔdɔ ƒe nu léa dzi na ame aɖe ne wonya tu seselelãme ƒe kadodo deto ɖo kple ame ma vɔ ko. Ne wotsɔe sɔ kple amehawo katã la, ƒã ŋutɔ be `Demisexual` ame geɖe kpɔa gbɔdɔdɔ ƒe dzodzro . Ðewohĩ ame aɖewo metsɔa ɖeke le gbɔdɔdɔ me boo o, alo wometsɔa ɖeke le eme kura gɔ̃ hã o.

Bu eŋu kpɔ, ame akpa gãtɔ ate ŋu ase le wo ɖokui me be gbɔdɔdɔ ƒe nu lé dzi na yewo, eɖanye seselelãme ƒe kadodo aɖe le wo kple wo dome alo mele wo dome o. Woate ŋu akpɔ gbɔdɔdɔ ƒe dzodzro ɖe ame aɖe si womenya alo do goe zi gbãtɔ o ŋu. Gake `Demisexual` mesea gbɔdɔdɔ ƒe dzodzro gbãtɔ sia o.

Gake ele vevie be míaɖo ŋku edzi be kakaɖedzi aɖeke meli be susu me kadodo aɖe ana gbɔdɔdɔ ƒe nu lé dzi na ame o. Gake kadodo ma le vevie na gbɔdɔdɔ ƒe nuwɔna gɔ̃ hã ŋu bubu. Ne gbɔdɔdɔ ƒe nu lédziname sia tɔgbe do mo ɖa hã la, zi geɖe la, gbɔdɔdɔ ƒe dzodzroa nu mesẽna o.

Ɣeyiɣi si wòxɔna hafi seselelãme ƒe kadodo sia va doa mo ɖa la toa vovo tso ame ɖeka gbɔ yi bubu gbɔ. Le `Demisexuals` aɖewo gome la, kadodo sia ate ŋu ado mo ɖa kabakaba. Le ame bubuwo gome la, ate ŋu adzɔ le ahiãdzedze ƒe geɖe megbe. Mehiã kokoko be seselelãme ƒe kadodo sia nanye `lɔlɔ̃ ƒe seselelãme` o. Ate ŋu anye xɔlɔ̃wɔwɔ kplikplikpli si me xɔlɔ̃wɔwɔ le hã.

Aleke mawɔ anya ame si menye? Ðe dodokpɔ aɖe li na `vidzinu ɖeka ƒe gbɔdɔdɔ`?

Ao, dodokpɔ aɖeke meli si ate ŋu ana nànya nusi tututu wò gbɔdɔdɔ nye o. Gake àte ŋu abia nya siawo ɖokuiwò:

• Amekawo ƒe gbɔdɔdɔ ƒe nu léa dzi na wò? Aleke wonana nèsena le ɖokuiwò me?
• Ðe gbɔdɔdɔ ƒe nu lé dzi na wòa? Ne nenemae la, zi nenie? Aleke gbegbee seselelãmea nu sẽe?
• Aleke gbegbee gbɔdɔdɔ ƒe dzodzro le vevie ne ètso nya me be yeadze ahiã ame aɖe?
• Ðe nèkpɔnɛ be gbɔdɔdɔ ƒe nu léa dzi na ye le ame yeye siwo nèdo goe, mènya oa?

Ŋuɖoɖo nyui alo gbegblẽ aɖeke meli na biabia siawo o.Gake biabia siawo ŋu bubu ate ŋu anye gɔmedzedze na wò be nàse wò gbɔdɔdɔ ƒe dzesidenu gɔme .

Nukae wòfia be woanye ``asexual`` alo le `` asexual spectrum`` dzi ?

Ame siwo dea dzesii be ``womekpɔa gbɔdɔdɔ ƒe dzodzro o'' la mekpɔa gbɔdɔdɔ ƒe dzodzro boo aɖeke o alo womekpɔa gbɔdɔdɔ ƒe dzodzro aɖeke kura o. Ate ŋu adzɔ hã be womagatsɔ ɖeke le gbɔdɔdɔnyawo me o.

Woƒoa vidzinu ɖeka tɔgbe tɔwo nu ƒu ɣeaɖewoɣi le nya "asexual" te elabena womesena le wo ɖokui me ɣesiaɣi be gbɔdɔdɔ ƒe nu lé dzi na yewo o. Ke hã, woate ŋu ase le wo ɖokui me be gbɔdɔdɔ ƒe nu lé dzi na yewo eye yewotsɔ ɖe le gbɔdɔdɔnyawo me ne yewoɖo seselelãme ƒe kadodo kple ame aɖe vɔ.

Nusi to vovo na gbɔdɔdɔ manɔsenue nye allosexual. Zi geɖe la, gbɔdɔdɔ ƒe nu léa dzi na ame siwo gblɔna be yewonye gbɔdɔdɔ ƒe dzodzro, eɖanye gbɔdɔdɔ ƒe dzodzro ka kee woɖale o.

Vovototo kae le `Demisexual` kple `Graysexual` dome?

`Demisexuality` kple `Graysexuality` ɖi wo nɔewo vie, gake vovototo sue aɖe le wo dome. Ƒã hafi ame siwo dea dzesii be `Graysexual` la kpɔa gbɔdɔdɔ ƒe dzodzro, alo didi boo aɖeke menɔa wo me be yewoaƒo yewo ɖokui ɖe gbɔdɔdɔ me o. Ke hã, to vovo na `Demisexual` amewo la, `Graysexual` amewo mehiã seselelãme ƒe kadodo kokoko hafi woase gbɔdɔdɔ ƒe dzodzro o. Emae nye vovototo vevitɔ.

Nukae nye `Demiromantic` sia?

`Demiromanticism` sɔ kple `Demisexuality`, gake vovototo sue aɖe le eme. Be `Demiromantic` ame nase lɔlɔ̃ ƒe seselelãmewo na ame aɖe la, ele be susu me kadodo nanɔ wo kple ame ma dome gbã. Menye gbɔdɔdɔ ƒe nudzodzro ŋue míele nu ƒom tsoe o, ke boŋ lɔlɔ̃ ƒe seselelãmewo ŋue míele nu ƒom tsoe le afisia. Ame sia ame si si gbɔdɔdɔ ƒe dzodzro aɖeke le ate ŋu anye `Demiromantic`.

Vovototo kae le `Demisexual` kple `Pansexual` dome?

Ame siwo gblɔna be yewonye ``Pansexual'' la ƒe gbɔdɔdɔ ƒe nu léa dzi na ame sia ame, eɖanye ŋutsu alo nyɔnu alo gbɔdɔdɔ ƒe dzedzeme ka kee woɖale o . Ame ateŋu anye ``Pansexual'' kple ``Demisexual'' le ɣeyiɣi ɖeka me. Esia fia be woate ŋu adzro ame aɖe si ƒe gbɔdɔdɔ ƒe nɔnɔme ɖesiaɖe le, gake hafi nu ma nadzɔ la, ele be seselelãme ƒe kadodo si míeyɔ va yi la nadzɔ gbã.

Ðe ame aɖe ate ŋu anye `Demisexual` nenye be enye `Straight` (heterosexual) gɔ̃ hã?

Ẽ, anya wɔ godoo. Míenya be gbɔdɔdɔ ƒe dzodzro ƒe ŋkɔ geɖewo li, abe `Heterosexual` (si ƒe nu léa dzi na ŋutsu alo nyɔnu si to vovo na ema), `Gay` (ŋutsu kple ŋutsu alo nyɔnu kple nyɔnu ƒe gbɔdɔdɔ), `Lesbian` (ŋutsu kple ŋutsu alo nyɔnu kple nyɔnu ƒe gbɔdɔdɔ), `Bisexual` (si ƒe nu léa dzi na ŋutsu kple nyɔnu siaa) kple `Pansexual` (si ƒe nu léa dzi na gbɔdɔdɔ ƒe dzesidenu ɖesiaɖe).

Ŋkɔ si woyɔna be `Demisexuality` la to vovo. Efia alesi ame bubuwo ƒe nu léa dzi na woe kple alesi wòdoa mo ɖae.Ku ɖe. Ame geɖe ɖea wo ɖokui fiana le mɔ evea siaa nu. Le kpɔɖeŋu me, àte ŋu anye `Heterosexual` gake `Demisexual` hã, alo àte ŋu anye `Pansexual` gake `Demisexual` hã. Kpuie ko la, `Demisexuality` menye amesiwo ƒe nu lé dzi na wò ŋue wòku ɖo o, ke boŋ alesi wòhea nu ma dzɔnae.

Nukatae `Demisexuality` sia hiã na ŋkɔ alo ŋkɔ bubu?

Ðewohĩ wò hã èle esia ŋu bum. Le nyateƒe me la, le ame geɖe siwo dea dzesii be `Demisexual` gome la, dzeside sia ƒe amesinɔnɔ naa wosena le wo ɖokui me be yewole nutoa me eye yewonye yewo tɔ, wosena le wo ɖokui me be menye yewo ɖeɖe yewole o eye be ame bubuwo hã li abe yewo ene .

Bu eŋu kpɔ ko, ɖewohĩ wole nuteɖeamedzi kple tɔtɔ geɖe me tso woƒe ɖevime ke, henɔ wo ɖokui biam be, "Ðe nane gblẽ le ŋunyea?", "Ðe meto vovo tso ame bubuwo gbɔa?", elabena gbɔdɔdɔ ƒe dzodzro alo ɖetsɔleme ɖe gbɔdɔdɔ ŋu abe wo xɔlɔ̃ siwo ƒo xlã wo ene mele wo si o.

Ŋkɔ `Demisexuality` le vevie le susu siawo ta:

• Ekpena ɖe vidzinu ɖeka tɔgbe tɔwo ŋu wokpɔa nuto si me woate ŋu ade dzesi wo ɖokui le.
• Woƒe amenyenye didi kpena ɖe vidzinu ɖeka tɔgbe tɔwo ŋu wosena le wo ɖokui me be yewole dedie wu eye wokpɔnɛ be menye yewo ɖeɖe koe o .
• Azɔ hã, ŋkɔ sia kpena ɖe ame ŋu be míase egɔme be gbɔdɔdɔ ƒe nu lédziname kple seselelãmewo sɔ eye ame ɖesiaɖe ate ŋu ato wo me le mɔ vovovowo nu, le `spektrum` dzi, eye be seselelãme mawo katã nye `siwo sɔ` .
• Dzesideŋkɔ sia naa nya wo be woatsɔ ade dzesi nane si me tom wole si womate ŋu aɖɔ le nyagbewo me tsã o la nyuie.

Mlɔeba la, nusiwo dzi wòle be woaɖo ŋkui (Take-Home Message) .

Eyata, mele mɔ kpɔm be èse nane gɔme tso nusi ŋu míeƒo nu tsoe la me. `Demisexual` fia ame siwo sea gbɔdɔdɔ ƒe nu lédzinamewo ne yewoɖo seselelãme ƒe kadodo deto kple ame aɖe vɔ ko.

Woda vidzinu ɖeka tɔgbe tɔwo ɖe gbɔdɔdɔ manɔsenu ƒe hatsotso me, elabena gbɔdɔdɔ ƒe dzodzrowo hã medea gbɔdɔdɔ ƒe dzodzrowo nu wu mamã dedie nu o. Gake vidzinu ɖeka tɔgbe tɔwo nye ƒuƒoƒo tɔxɛ aɖe le wo ɖokui si, elabena woate ŋu atu gbɔdɔdɔ ƒe dzodzro kple didi be yewoaƒo yewo ɖokui ɖe gbɔdɔdɔ me ne yewoɖo seselelãme ƒe kadodo ma kple ame aɖe vɔ.

Nuƒoƒo tso nusiawo ŋu ate ŋu asesẽ vie le míaƒe hadomegbenɔnɔ me ɣeaɖewoɣi, gake ele vevie ŋutɔ be nàse ɖokuiwò gɔme eye nàde bubu wò seselelãmewo ŋu.

Ne seselelãme siawo le ŋuwò eye nèhiã kpekpeɖeŋu be nàƒo nu tso wo ŋu geɖe wu, alo ase wo gɔme la, mègakpe ŋu o. Kpɔ ɖɔkta alo aɖaŋuɖola bibi aɖe ɖa. Woate ŋu akpe ɖe ŋuwò nàdzro seselelãme siawo me, ana nunɔamesi siwo nèhiã be nàke ɖe ame si nènye ŋu, eye woafia mɔ wò. Menye wò ɖeka koe o!