Loaʻa iā ʻoe nā moeʻuhane ʻino i ka pō? (Nightmares) - E kamaʻilio kākou e pili ana i kēia?

Ke ala koke nei ʻoe i kekahi manawa i kou hiamoe ʻana i ka pō? Ke kuʻi nei kou puʻuwai, ke hou nei ʻoe, a makaʻu loa ʻoe... Ke noʻonoʻo ʻoe i ia mea i nā manawa e like me ia, manaʻo ʻoe ua loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi moeʻuhane ʻino loa a weliweli, ʻeā? ʻO kēia ka mea a mākou e kapa nei he moeʻuhane ʻino . Pono mākou a pau e kū i kēia ʻano ʻike i kekahi manawa o ko mākou ola, ʻo nā keiki ʻōpio a me nā pākeke. Akā no ka mea he mea hopohopo iki kēia, e kamaʻilio kākou e pili ana i ia mea me nā kikoʻī hou aku i kēia lā.

He aha maoli kēia mau moeʻuhane ʻino?

I ka ʻōlelo maʻalahi, he moeʻuhane ʻoluʻolu ʻole, weliweli, a hoʻopilikia hoʻi ka moeʻuhane ʻino a mākou e loaʻa nei. Ma hope o ka ʻike ʻana i kekahi, hiki iā ʻoe ke manaʻo pinepine i ka makaʻu, ka hopohopo, a me ka ʻoluʻolu ʻole. Akā ʻo ka mea nui loa, ʻaʻole kēia mau moeʻuhane he mau hanana maoli. ʻO ia hoʻi, ʻaʻole lākou e hōʻeha iā ʻoe ma kekahi ʻano. He moeʻuhane wale nō ia.

E noʻonoʻo, moeʻuhane ʻoe e alualu ana kekahi iā ʻoe, a i ʻole e hāʻule ana ʻoe mai kahi kiʻekiʻe. ʻOiai ʻoe e ala ana me ka makaʻu, ʻaʻole ia i hana maoli, ʻeā? Pēlā nō ia.

No ke aha lā mākou e loaʻa ai ia mau moeʻuhane ʻino? He aha nā kumu?

ʻAʻohe mea i maopopo maoli i ke kumu pololei. Akā, manaʻoʻiʻo nā kauka a me nā mea noiʻi he ala nā moeʻuhane - a me nā moeʻuhane ʻino ma ke ʻano kūikawā - no ko kākou lolo e hana a kālailai i ko kākou mau manaʻo a me nā manaʻo. I nā keiki ʻōpio, ma ke ʻano kūikawā, he ala paha ia e puka mai ai nā makaʻu a me nā hopohopo.

Hiki ke hana ʻia kēia mau moeʻuhane e kekahi mau mea a mākou e kū nei i ko mākou ola.

Nā pilikia o ke ola o kēlā me kēia lā a me ke kaumaha

ʻO ke kaumaha i hoʻokumu ʻia e nā pilikia o ka home, ke kaomi mai nā hana kula, nā hoʻokolohua, nā manaʻo kūʻē liʻiliʻi me nā hoaaloha, a i ʻole ka makaʻu i kahi hoʻokūkū haʻuki hiki ke hōʻike ʻia he mau moeʻuhane ʻino.

E noʻonoʻo, e hiki mai ana kahi hoʻokolohua nui ma kāu kula. Noʻonoʻo nui ʻoe e pili ana i ia mea a makaʻu. A laila, i ka pō, moeʻuhane paha ʻoe e pili ana i nā mea e like me ka lohi ʻana no ka hoʻokolohua a i ʻole ka hiki ʻole ke kākau i kekahi mea ma ka pepa nīnau.

I kekahi manawa hiki ke hana ʻia kēia ke loaʻa nā loli nui i ke ola. No ka laʻana, ʻo ka hopohopo i hoʻokumu ʻia e kahi hanana nui o ke ola, e like me ka neʻe ʻana i kahi home hou, ka maʻi ʻana o kahi lālā o ka ʻohana, a i ʻole ka make ʻana o kahi mea aloha, hiki ke lilo i kumu o nā moeʻuhane ʻino.

Ke nānā nei a me ka heluhelu ʻana i nā mea weliweli

ʻO kekahi kumu nui ʻē aʻe, ʻo ia ka nānā ʻana i nā kiʻiʻoniʻoni weliweli a me ka heluhelu ʻana i nā puke weliweli. ʻOi loa aku inā ʻoe e nānā a heluhelu paha i kahi mea e like me kēia ma mua o ka hiamoe ʻana, ʻoi aku ka nui o kou moeʻuhane i ka pō. No ka mea, ua mālama ʻia kēlā mau mea i loko o kou noʻonoʻo ponoʻī a hiki ke ʻike ʻia i loko o kāu mau moeʻuhane.

I kekahi manawa hiki ke hana me ke kumu ʻole.

Eia nō naʻe, i kekahi manawa loaʻa paha iā ʻoe kahi moeʻuhane maikaʻi ʻole me ke kumu ʻole . He mea maʻamau kēlā. Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e loaʻa i nā moeʻuhane maikaʻi ʻole i kēlā me kēia lā, ʻaʻohe mea e hopohopo ai inā loaʻa iā ʻoe i kēlā me kēia manawa.

He aha kā mākou e hana ai e hōʻemi i kēia mau moeʻuhane ʻino?

ʻOiai he hiki ʻole ke pale loa i nā moeʻuhane ʻino, aia kekahi mau mea e hiki iā mākou ke hoʻāʻo e kaohi a hoʻēmi iā lākou.

• E hoʻomaʻamaʻa i ka hiamoe maikaʻi i ka pō: E moe i ka manawa like i kēlā me kēia lā a e ala i ka manawa like. E kōkua kēia i ka mālama ʻana i ke kaʻina hiamoe o kou kino. E hōʻemi i ka hiamoe ʻana i ke ao (ke ʻole ʻoe maʻi a ʻaʻole paha i hiamoe maikaʻi i ka pō ma mua). Eia kekahi, e pale i ka ʻai nui ʻana a i ʻole ka hoʻoikaika kino kokoke i ka wā moe. E like me ka mea i ʻōlelo ʻia ma mua, e pale i ka heluhelu ʻana i nā puke weliweli a i ʻole ka nānā ʻana i nā kiʻiʻoniʻoni weliweli ma mua o ka moe ʻana.

• E mālama i nā mea e hōʻoluʻolu ai iā ʻoe: E mālama i kahi mea pāʻani i hoʻopihapiha ʻia āu i aloha ai i kou wā kamaliʻi, a i ʻole kahi kapa moe kūikawā āu i kamaʻāina ai, kokoke iā ʻoe i kou wā e hiamoe ai. Manaʻo kekahi poʻe he palekana a hōʻoluʻolu kēia mau mea.

• E mālama i kahi kukui pō: ʻAʻole paha ʻoe e hoʻohana hou i ke kukui pō āu i hoʻohana ai i kou wā kamaliʻi. Akā inā ʻoe e moeʻuhane ana, he manaʻo maikaʻi e hoʻomaka hou e hoʻohana. No ka mea, ke ala ʻoe mai kahi moeʻuhane a pūʻiwa, ʻo ka ʻike ʻana i nā mea maʻa mau a puni ʻoe i kēia kukui liʻiliʻi e hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻomanaʻo i kou wahi a hoʻemi i kou makaʻu.

• E wehe i ka puka, e manaʻo ʻaʻole ʻoe hoʻokahi: ​​E waiho i ka puka o kou lumi moe e wehe iki ma kahi o ka pani loa ʻana. E kōkua kēia iā ʻoe e manaʻo ua kokoke kou ʻohana iā ʻoe. Inā makaʻu koke ʻoe, e ala aʻe, e hele e ʻimi i kou makuahine a makuakāne paha, a i ʻole kekahi āu e hilinaʻi ai, a kamaʻilio me lākou. E hoʻomanaʻo, ʻaʻole ʻoe i ʻelemakule loa no ka ʻapo ʻana! Hiki ke hōʻoluʻolu loa.

He aha kāu e hana ai inā loaʻa pinepine iā ʻoe nā moeʻuhane maikaʻi ʻole?

ʻOiai he mea maʻamau ka moeʻuhane ʻino i kēlā me kēia manawa, no kekahi poʻe hiki i kēia ke lilo i mea hou . ʻO ia hoʻi, inā loaʻa iā ʻoe nā moeʻuhane ʻino i nā manawa he nui i ka pule, he mea ia e hopohopo ai.

E hoʻomanaʻo, inā hoʻopilikia nā moeʻuhane pinepine i kou ola o kēlā me kēia lā, hiamoe, a i ʻole ke olakino noʻonoʻo, he mea nui e kamaʻilio me kahi pākeke e pili ana i ia mea a e ʻimi i ke aʻo lapaʻau inā pono.

Eia kekahi mau mea hiki iā ʻoe ke hana i kēlā mau manawa:

• E kamaʻilio me kahi hoaaloha: Inā loaʻa pinepine iā ʻoe nā moeʻuhane ʻino, e kamaʻilio me kahi pākeke āu e hilinaʻi nei (he makua, kumu, hoaaloha maikaʻi loa) e pili ana iā lākou. ʻO ka wehewehe wale ʻana i kāu mea i ʻike ai i loko o kāu moeʻuhane hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe e hōʻoluʻolu iki. Eia kekahi, inā he mea e hoʻopilikia nei iā ʻoe i ke ao, ʻo ke kamaʻilio ʻana e pili ana i kēlā mau manaʻo hiki ke kōkua i ka hōʻemi ʻana i kēia mau moeʻuhane ʻino.

• E hāʻawi i ka moeʻuhane i kahi hopena hou a hauʻoli! (Kākau hou): He mea ʻē paha kēia, akā no kekahi poʻe he mea kūpono loa kēia ʻano hana. E noʻonoʻo hou i ka moeʻuhane ʻino āu i loaʻa ai, a e pani i ka hopena weliweli meE noʻonoʻo i kahi hopena hauʻoli o kāu koho. A i ʻole, e kaha kiʻi i kahi kiʻi o kēlā moeʻuhane a haehae iā ia! Hiki i nā mea e like me kēia ke kōkua i ka hoʻēmi ʻana i kou makaʻu.

• E mālama i kahi puke moʻolelo moeʻuhane: E kākau i lalo i nā moeʻuhane a pau āu e hoʻomanaʻo nei (maikaʻi a maikaʻi ʻole). Eia kekahi, e hoʻomaopopo i kou manaʻo ma mua o kou hiamoe ʻana (hauʻoli, kaumaha, makaʻu). Ma ka mālama ʻana i kahi puke moʻolelo o kāu mau moeʻuhane, hiki iā ʻoe ke loaʻa kahi ʻike i ke ʻano o ka hana ʻana o kou noʻonoʻo i ka pō a me nā ʻano e hoʻohuli ai i kāu mau moeʻuhane ʻino.

• E noʻonoʻo e ʻimi i ke kōkua loea: Inā loaʻa pinepine iā ʻoe nā moeʻuhane e hoʻopilikia nei i kou hiamoe a me kāu mau hana o kēlā me kēia lā, e noʻonoʻo e kamaʻilio me kou mau mākua a ʻike i kahi kākāʻōlelo a i ʻole psychologist . Hiki iā lākou ke kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻoponopono i kāu mau pilikia, kamaʻilio me ʻoe e pili ana i ke kumu o kāu mau moeʻuhane, a kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻoponopono iā lākou.

I ka liʻiliʻi loa, pono paha ʻoe e ʻike i ke kauka e ʻike inā he maʻi kino ma hope o kāu mau moeʻuhane pinepine. Akā, he mea kakaikahi loa ia e hana.

He aha hou kāu e pono ai e ʻike e pili ana i nā moeʻuhane? (ʻO ka mea nui loa)

ʻO ka mea nui loa, ʻo ia ka hoʻomanaʻo ʻana ʻaʻole maoli nā moeʻuhane a ʻaʻole hiki ke hōʻeha iā ʻoe . ʻOiai ʻoe e moeʻuhane ana i kahi mea weliweli, ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo e hiki mai ana ia ma ke ola maoli, a i ʻole makemake ʻoe i nā mea ʻino a weliweli. Loaʻa iā kākou āpau nā moeʻuhane i kēlā me kēia manawa. He mea maʻamau ia.

Inā makaʻu ʻoe ma hope o ka moeʻuhane ʻino a makemake ʻoe e hele i kou mau mākua no kahi ʻapo iki, a i ʻole i kahi kaikaina, ʻaʻohe hewa o ia mea. I kekahi manawa, ʻo ke kamaʻilio ʻana me kou mau mākua e pili ana i ia mea, ʻoiai ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi ʻapo iki, hiki ke lilo i mea hōʻoluʻolu nui.

He mau mea weliweli nā moeʻuhane no kekahi manawa. Akā i kēia manawa ua ʻike ʻoe i ka mea e hana ai ke hiki mai lākou, ʻeā? No laila, mai makaʻu, a hiamoe maikaʻi!

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• He mau moeʻuhane ʻoluʻolu ʻole a weliweli hoʻi nā moeʻuhane. Akā, ʻaʻole lākou he ʻoiaʻiʻo a ʻaʻole hiki ke hana i kahi pōʻino.
• ʻO ke kaumaha, ka nānā ʻana/ka heluhelu ʻana i nā mea weliweli, a me nā mea ʻē aʻe, hiki ke hoʻoulu i nā moeʻuhane ʻino. I kekahi manawa hiki ke ʻike ʻia lākou me ke kumu ʻole.
• ʻO nā ʻano hiamoe maikaʻi, ka mālama ʻana i nā mea hōʻoluʻolu kokoke, kahi kukui palupalu i loko o ka lumi, a me ka puka hāmama e kōkua i ka kaohi ʻana i nā moeʻuhane ʻino.
• Inā loaʻa pinepine iā ʻoe nā moeʻuhane ʻino, e kamaʻilio me kahi mea āu e hilinaʻi ai. Inā pono, e ʻimi i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo loea (kākāʻōlelo, psychologist).
• Mai kānalua e ʻimi i ka hōʻoluʻolu mai ka poʻe aloha ke makaʻu ʻoe.

I ka pō maikaʻi!

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