Sɔntɛnde, wi kin si we sɔm pikin dɛn de biev chenj wantɛm wantɛm. Pikin we bin de laf, rɔn rawnd ɛn ple kin kwayɛt wantɛm wantɛm, i kin de in wan na rum, ɔ i kin tan lɛk se i de fred ɔltɛm. Sɔntɛm yu go si brus ɛn skrach ɔlsay na di pikin in bɔdi. We wi si dɛn tin ya, wi kin fil wan big kwɛstyɔn ɛn fred na wi at, "Sɔmtin nɔ fayn wit dis pikin?" Na dis na wan tɔpik we rili sɛnsitiv ɛn siriɔs we wi ɔl nid fɔ no as sosayti, dat na, fɔ trit pikin dɛn bad.
Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, wetin na fɔ du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs wit pikin?
Fɔ du bad to pikin na jɔs fɔ du bad to pikin ɔ fɔ du bad to am bay wilful. Di tin we kin mek i sɔri na dat, bɔku tɛm, na pɔsin we di pikin sabi ɛn trɔst kin du dis abiuz. Dis pɔsin kin bi in mama ɔ papa, in tayt fambul, pɔsin we de kia fɔ am, ɔ in famili padi.
Frɔm di lɔ na Sri Lanka, ɛn di lɔ na bɔku kɔntri dɛn ɔlsay na di wɔl, dɛn kin tek ɛni kayn we fɔ du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs wit pikin we nɔ rich 18 ia yet bay wilful, ambɔg am, ɔ nɔ pe atɛnshɔn to am as siriɔs kraym .
Wetin na di men kayn we dɛn we dɛn kin du bad to pikin dɛn?
Nɔto wan kayn we nɔmɔ dɛn kin du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs wit pikin dɛn. I kin kam difrɛn we dɛn. I rili impɔtant fɔ no bɔt dis.
| Tayp fɔ abiuz | Dis min se... |
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| Abiuz na di bɔdi | Fɔ hit, push, bit, kik, shek, bɔn pikin, ɛn ɔda tin dɛn Dɔn bak, fɔ nɔ alaw pikin fɔ fulɔp di bɛsis nid dɛn lɛk fɔ it, drink, ɛn fɔ go na tɔylɛt de insay dis kategori. |
| Abiuz pan di we aw pɔsin de fil | Fɔ mek pikin fil bad ɔltɛm wit wɔd dɛn. Fɔ ɛgzampul, fɔ provok di pikin, fɔ blem am ɔltɛm, fɔ kɔl am bad bad wan, fɔ trɛtin am, fɔ ala pan am, ɛn ɔda tin dɛn Dis kin rili pwɛl di pikin in sɛlf-ɛstimɛnt. |
| Abiuz pan mami ɛn dadi biznɛs | Fɔ du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs wit pikin, fɔ tɔch pikin di rayt we, fɔ yuz pikin fɔ wach rud rud pikchɔ ɔ fim dɛn, ɔ fɔ sho dɛn kayn tin dɛn de to pikin. Dis na kraym we rili siriɔs. |
| Medikal Abiuz | Fɔ tray fɔ mek pikin sik bay wilful ɔ fɔ nɔ trit pikin in sik. |
| Pikin we dɛn nɔ de tek kia ɔf | Nɔ fɔ gi pikin di men tin dɛn we i nid: it, klos, sef os, edyukeshɔn, mɛrɛsin, ɛn mɔ fɔ lɛk ɛn kia fɔ am. |
Yu tink se fɔ spank pikin na abiuz?
Dis na tɔpik we pipul dɛn kin tɔk bɔt bɔku tɛm na wi sosayti. Difrɛn opinion dɛn de bɔt fɔ gi pikin layt spank fɔ kɔrɛkt am we i mek mistek. Bɔt wi nid fɔ tink bɔt dis frɔm di we aw dɔktɔ dɛn de si am.
If dɛn pɔnish pikin bay we dɛn nak am di we we go mek i wund, brus, ɔ swel, dɛn go mɔs tek am se na fɔ du bad to am .
Risach dɔn sho se fɔ pɔnish pikin dɛn wit bɔdi (spank) kin mek dɛn nɔ ebul fɔ divɛlɔp dɛn soshal layf. Na mɔ, dɛn pikin ya kin gɛt bɔku prɔblɛm fɔ mek dɛn nɔ gɛt bɛtɛ rɛspɛkt fɔ dɛnsɛf, dɛn nɔ kin ebul fɔ lan buk fayn, ɛn dɛn kin gɛt prɔblɛm wit dɛn famili.
Bifo yu pɔnish pikin, aks yusɛf dɛn kwɛstyɔn ya:
- A de du dis fɔ tich di pikin sɔntin ɔ fɔ mek di pikin fred?
- Mi pikin no se a lɛk am?
- Us kayn lɛsin a de tich di pikin wit dis pɔnishmɛnt?
- A go ebul fɔ gladi fɔ dis disayd leta?
Bɔku gud we dɛn de we go ɛp pikin dɛn fɔ kɔrɛkt dɛn. I fayn fɔ tɔk to yu pikin in dɔktɔ bɔt dis ɛn gɛt advays.
Aw di we aw pikin de biev kin chenj we dɛn de trit am bad?
Big chenj de pan di we aw pikin we dɛn de du bad to de biev ɛn di we aw i de tink. Sɔm pan dɛn kin izi fɔ wi fɔ si, bɔt ɔda wan dɛn kin at fɔ no smɔl.
| Simptom dɛm wae kin apin bikɔs ɔf di ifɛkt dɛm wae de abiuz | |
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| Di kwaliti dɛn we pɔsin kin gɛt na do ɛn di we aw i de biev | |
| Fɔ tray fɔ du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs di rayt we. | Bɔrku tɛm wae pɔrsin kin kɔmplen bɔt bɔdi sik lɛk bɛlɛ wae de at ɛn ed wae de at. |
| di we aw pikin de biev bak (e.g., fכ sok finga, wet na bed ). | Tray fɔ rɔnawe kɔmɔt na os. |
| Fɔ du bad to yusɛf (e.g. fɔ kɔt yu an ɛn fut dɛn). | Wantɛm wantɛm, bad bad chenj dɛn na di we aw pɔsin de biev. |
| Saikɔlɔjik kwaliti dɛn we ayd | |
| Fɔ de wɔri ɛn pwɛl at ɔltɛm. | I nɔ izi fɔ lan ɛn fɔ pe atɛnshɔn pan sɔntin. |
| Sho di simptom dɛm fɔ siriɔs trauma (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder - PTSD). | Lak fɔ divɛlɔp di filin. |
| Fɔ gɛt wan rili lɔw sɛlf-ɛstimɛnt. | Drim bad drim ɔltɛm ɛn tink bɔt fɔ kil yusɛf. |
If wi tink se dɛn de trit wi bad, wetin wi fɔ du?
Dis na di pat we impɔtant pas ɔl na dis atikul. If yu ivin tink se dɛn de trit pikin bad, nɔ ɛva ignore am. Wan smɔl tin we yu du kin sev pikin in wan ol layf.
1. Tɔk to di pikin
If yu notis se yu pikin de biev chenj, tɔk to am fayn fayn wan ɛn lɛk am. Mek i fil se i kin abop pan yu. Ɛnkɔrej yu pikin nɔ fɔ fred fɔ tɛl yu di tru, ilɛksɛf sɔmbɔdi dɔn tɛl am se i nɔ fɔ tɛl ɛnibɔdi.
2. Aks fɔ ɛp wantɛm wantɛm
Nɔ ayd sɔntin lɛk dis bikɔs yu de fred ɔ shem. Nɔ fred se yu nem go kɔmɔt na do we yu aks fɔ ɛp. Di ɔfisa dɛn kin kip da infɔmeshɔn de kɔnfidɛns.
Ples dɛn we yu kin kɔntakt:
- If di pikin de pan denja wantɛm wantɛm: Kɔl di polis imejensi nɔmba 119 wantɛm wantɛm.
- Fɔ ripɔt di abiuz we dɛn de du to pikin: Kɔl di Nashɔnal Child Protection Authority (NCPA) 24 awa hotlayn na 1929. Dis na di men ɛjɛnsy na Sri Lanka we de du dis.
- Fɔ advays di dɔktɔ: Tek di pikin go na di ɔspitul we de nia yu ɔ yu famili dɔktɔ .
3. Di tin dɛn we yu fɔ du ɛn wetin yu nɔ fɔ du
- Kip di pikin fa frɔm di pɔsin we de du am te dɛn tɛl di ɔfisa dɛn.
- Nɔ ɛva trɛtin di pɔsin we dɛn tink se dɔn du bad ɔ tray fɔ tek di lɔ na yu yon an. Dis kin jɔs mek di tin wɔs.
Aw di tumara bambay go tan lɛk fɔ pikin we dɛn de trit bad?
If dɛn nɔ trit am, di bad we aw dɛn de trit pikin kin afɛkt di pikin in layf fɔ lɔng tɛm. Apat frɔm di bad bad tin dɛn we kin apin to pɔsin na in bɔdi, i kin mek i nɔ ebul fɔ lan fayn, i kin gɛt prɔblɛm wit in maynd, ɛn i nɔ kin izi fɔ mek i gɛt padi biznɛs wit ɔda pipul dɛn. Ivin we pɔsin dɔn big, i kin gɛt prɔblɛm dɛn lɛk pwɛl hat, fɔ tek drɔgs, ɛn i nɔ kin izi fɔ abop pan ɔda pipul dɛn.
Bɔt dis nɔ min se di fiuja fɔ ɛni pikin we dɛn de du bad bad tin nɔ go fayn. If dɛn gi dɛn pikin ya di rayt mɛrɛsin ɛn advays dɛn, dɛn kin liv dɛn layf we gɛt wɛlbɔdi ɛn gladi at bak. Wi ɔl fɔ gɛt da fet de.
If dɛn dɔn du bad to yu pikin, tɔk to yu dɔktɔ ɛn aks dɛn kwɛstyɔn ya:
- Us fizik tritmɛnt mi pikin nid naw?
- Us kayn tritmɛnt go ɛp mi pikin pas ɔlman?
- Yu tink se i fayn fɔ lɛ wi as famili go fɛn advays?
- Aw a go ɛp mi pikin fɔ wɛl kwik kwik wan?
- Wetin na sɔm tin dɛn we wi nɔ fɔ tɔk ɔ du bifo wi pikin dɛn?
We dɛn de trit pikin dɛn bad na tin we rili sɔri. Bɔt if wi no bɔt am, no di sayn dɛn, ɛn du di rayt tin, wi go ebul fɔ protɛkt pikin dɛn. If yu saspek se dɛn de trit yu bad, duya nɔ sɛt mɔt. Protɛkt yu pikin frɔm di pɔsin we de du am bad ɛn aks fɔ ɛp frɔm pɔsin we sabi du in wok.
Mɛsej we dɛn kin kɛr go na os
- Nɔto jɔs fɔ du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs wit pikin dɛn. Di bad we aw dɛn de trit am na in maynd, we dɛn de du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs wit pikin, ɛn we dɛn nɔ de kia fɔ pikin dɛn, na siriɔs abiuz bak.
- Bɔku tɛm, di pɔsin we de du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs wit di pikin na pɔsin we di pikin sabi gud gud wan ɛn we i kin abop pan.
- If yu notis se pikin in bihayvya ɔ in abit chenj wantɛm wantɛm, we yu nɔ ebul fɔ ɛksplen, dat kin bi sayn fɔ se dɛn de trit am bad.
- If yu tink se dɛn de du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs wit pikin, nɔ sɛt mɔt . Ripɔt am wantɛm wantɛm to di Nashɔnal Child Protection Authority pan 1929 ɔ di polis pan 119 .
- Di rayt tritmɛnt ɛn saykolojik tritmɛnt kin ɛp pikin we dɛn dɔn du bad to fɔ wɛl ɛn liv fayn layf.
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