Sɔntɛnde, yu smɔl pikin kin vɛks wantɛm wantɛm na stɔ ɔ na os, ɛn kray lɛk krayzi. Dɛn kin du tin we dɛn nɔ ebul fɔ kɔntrol ɛn nɔ lisin to ɛnitin we yu de tɔk. As mama, yu kin fil se yu nɔ ebul fɔ du natin, yu kin shem, ɛn yu kin ivin vɛks sɔm tɛm dɛn lɛk dis. Infakt, dis na wetin wi de kɔl `Temper Tantrum` pan mɛrɛsin. Pan ɔl we i kin mek yu fil pen fɔ si dis, na nɔmal tin we yɔŋ pikin dɛn kin gɛt.
Wetin rili bi ‘Temper Tantrum’?
Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, `Temper Tantrum` na we fɔ mek yu pikin pul in frustrashɔn, vɛks, ɔ filin we i nɔ ebul fɔ gɛt sɔntin we i want. Yɔŋ pikin dɛn, mɔ di wan dɛn we nɔ rich 4 ia yet, nɔ kin rili ebul fɔ tɔk bɔt aw dɛn de fil wit wɔd dɛn lɛk wi. So na dis we dɛn de sho se dɛn vɛks ɛn nɔ ebul fɔ du natin.
Imajin, pan ɔl we dɛn want fɔ du sɔntin fɔ dɛnsɛf, dɛn nɔ gɛt di skil dɛn we dɛn nid yet. Dis kin mek dɛn at pwɛl bad bad wan. Dis na nɔmal pat pan dɛn divɛlɔpmɛnt. As di pikin de big ɛn lan fɔ sho aw i de fil wit wɔd dɛn, dis tin we go apin to am go go dɔŋ bad bad wan. So di fɔs tin we yu fɔ ɔndastand na dat dis nɔto sɔntin we yu pikin de du bikɔs i bad , na pat pan in divɛlɔpmɛnt.
Aw yu kin difrɛns bitwin ‘nɔmal’ ɛn ‘abnɔmal’ sityueshɔn?
Bɔku mama ɛn papa dɛn kin wɔnda if dis kayn we fɔ biev na nɔmal tin fɔ dɛn pikin, ɔ if dɛn fɔ tɔk to dɔktɔ bɔt am. Bɔku tɛm, pikin kin biev dis we we i taya, angri, ɔ we i de du sɔm tin dɛn we i de du ɛvride, lɛk we i de go slip ɔ we i de it.
Bɔt sɔm sayn dɛn de we de wɔn wi we wi fɔ no bɔt.
| Sayn we de wɔn pɔsin | Wetin mek yu fɔ bisin bɔt dis? |
|---|---|
| Damej to ɔda pipul dɛn ɔ prɔpati | Ivin if yu tray fɔ bit yu mama ɛn papa wan ɔ tu tɛm we yu at pwɛl, if yu nak ɔda pipul dɛn ɔ trowe tin dɛn na grɔn lɛk aw yu go du we yu vɛks, dat kin bi prɔblɛm. |
| fɔ du bad to yusɛf | If di pikin bit insɛf, skrach insɛf, ɔ bang in ed pan di wɔl, dɛn tin ya na siriɔs sayn dɛn. |
| I nɔ izi fɔ mek yu at kol | If yu fɔ tek di pikin go ɔltɛm fɔ mek i kol, ɔ prɔmis fɔ gi am sɔntin, dat bak na prɔblɛm. |
| I kin apin ɔltɛm | I kin bi nɔmal fɔ mek pikin we ol bitwin 1-4 ia gɛt wan tɛm fɔ vɛks insay di de. Bɔt if dis kin apin bɔku tɛm insay di de, na sɔntin we wi fɔ pe atɛnshɔn to. |
| Fɔ de de fɔ lɔng tɛm | If dis bihayvya de te pas 15 minit, ɔda tin kin de we kin mek i biev. |
Wetin go dɔn de mek dis apin?
I kin gɛt ɔl tu di jenɛral ɛn mɛdikal rizin fɔ wan `Temper Tantrum`.
Di tin dɛn we kin mek pɔsin want fɔ du sɔntin
- Angri, taya , ɔ sik.
- Frustration bikɔs yu nɔ ebul fɔ kɔmplit wan wok.
- Nɔ gɛt wɔd fɔ sho aw pɔsin de fil.
- Fɔ mek yu pe atɛnshɔn to yu ɔ fɔ mek yu gɛt sɔntin lɛk tɔys we yu lɛk.
- We yu de muf frɔm wan tin to ɔda tin (e.g., fɔ go na di bafa afta yu dɔn ple).
Rizin dɛn fɔ go to dɔktɔ
Sɔmtɛm, sɔm kayn mɛrɛsin kin de biɛn dis bihayvya.
- Atɛnshɔn dɛfisit haypa aktiviti disɔda (ADHD) .
- Wɔri
- Disabiliti fɔ Lan
- Sɛns Prɔsesin Isyu dɛn
- Ɔtizm
Apat frɔm dat, di prɔblɛm dɛn we kin mek pikin dɛn biev lɛk Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) ɛn Conduct Disorder (CD) kin mek pikin dɛn vɛks, agyu, ɛn du bad to ɔda pipul dɛn. If yu gɛt ɛnitin we de mɔna yu bɔt aw yu pikin de biev, mek shɔ se yu tɔk to yu dɔktɔ.I go rifer yu to saykayatrist ɔ sayɛnsman if nid de.
Aw fɔ mek pɔsin nɔ vɛks?
Pan ɔl we wi nɔ go ebul fɔ stɔp ɛnibɔdi we de mek wi vɛks, wi kin tray fɔ ridyus dɛn.
Bifo yu fɛn fɔlt pan yu pikin, gri ɛn prez di gud tin dɛn we i de du. Pɛsitiv rilayshɔnship na di bɛst mɛrɛsin.
- Plan bifo tɛm: Nɔ mek am wok, lɛk fɔ go na stɔ, fɔ we yu pikin angri ɔ taya. Tek smɔl snek ɔ tɔys wit yu ɛnisay we yu go.
- Mek yu kɔntinyu fɔ du tin ɔltɛm: Sɛt tɛm fɔ tin dɛn lɛk fɔ it, slip, ɛn was. Pikin dɛn kin fil kol mɔ we dɛn no wetin de kam nɛks.
- Gi tin dɛn we yu go disayd fɔ du: Mek yu pikin disayd fɔ du smɔl smɔl tin dɛn ɛnitɛm we i pɔsibul. We dɛn aks yu pikin sɔntin lɛk, "Yu want fɔ wɛr di rɛd shirt ɔ di blu shirt?", i kin fil lɛk se na dɛn de kɔntrol.
- Prez gud bihayvya: Kech di tɛm we yu pikin de biev fayn ɛn prez am. Se, "Yu bin rili pe atɛnshɔn pan lanch tide." Bifo yu gi dɛn tin dɛn as gift, du tin dɛn lɛk fɔ lɛ dɛn spɛn mɔ tɛm wit yu ɔ mek dɛn wach fim we dɛn lɛk.
Aw yu kin kɔntrol pɔsin we de vɛks?
We yu pikin bigin fɔ vɛks, yu nid yu ɛp fɔ kɔntrol am.
- Stay calm: If yu ala ɔ vɛks, di tin go jɔs wɔs. Tek dip briz ɛn kol yu at.
- Distract: Gi am difrɛn tɔys wantɛm wantɛm. Ɔ sho am wan bɔd we yu kin si na di winda.
- Ɔg yu pikin wit lɔv: If yu pikin de strɛs, de strɛs, ɔ we i want fɔ du bad to insɛf ɔ ɔda pipul dɛn, ol am tayt wit lɔv te i kol.
- Nɔ pe atɛnshɔn to di we aw dɛn de biev: If di pikin de na say we sef ɛn dɛn nɔ de du am bad, sɔntɛnde yu kin ignore di we aw dɛn de biev. Dis go ɛp di pikin fɔ no se dis kayn we aw i de biev nɔ de ɛp am. Bɔt i impɔtant fɔ mek di pikin kɔntinyu fɔ si .
- Ɛksplen di lɔ dɛn leta: I nɔ go ɛp fɔ gi yu pikin lɛkshɔn we i vɛks. We i dɔn mek in at kol, tɔk to am wit lɔv bɔt wetin rayt.
Ustɛm yu fɔ go to dɔktɔ?
If yu tink se yu pikin in bihayvya pas di nɔmal divɛlɔpmɛnt maylston dɛm, nɔ shek fɔ go to dɔktɔ. If yu gɛt ɛni wan pan dɛn sayn ya, mek shɔ se yu go to yu dɔktɔ .
- If di pikin wund insɛf (skrach, brus, bayt).
- If dɛn de atak yu ɔ ɔda big pipul dɛn.
- If dɛn sɛn yu pikin na os frɔm skul ɔ priskul bikɔs ɔf di we aw dɛn de biev.
- If yu fil se yu de fred fɔ di sef fɔ ɔda pipul dɛn we de arawnd di pikin.
- If yu fil se yu nɔ ebul fɔ du natin bikɔs ɔf dɛn kayn tin ya, yu kin fil lɛk se yu nɔ ebul fɔ kɔntrol yu pikin.
Mɛmba se as mama ɔ papa, yu nɔ go ebul fɔ du ɔltin yu wan. Fɔ aks fɔ ɛp nɔto wikɛd tin. Na pat pan fɔ lɛk yu pikin.
Mɛsej we dɛn kin kɛr go na os
- Bɔku tɛm, we pikin dɛn we nɔ rich 4 ia yet vɛks na nɔmal, wɛlbɔdi pat pan dɛn divɛlɔpmɛnt.
- Yu fɔ wɔri if yu pikin de du bad to insɛf, i de vɛks pan ɔda pipul dɛn, ɔ i de vɛks we de te fɔ lɔng tɛm.
- Fɔ du tin ɔltɛm, fɔ gi smɔl smɔl tin dɛn fɔ pik, ɛn fɔ prez gud abit kin ɛp fɔ mek dis nɔ apin.
- We di pikin de vɛks, di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl na fɔ de kol at ɛn mek shɔ se di pikin sef.
- If yu rili wɔri ɔ yu fil se yu nɔ ebul fɔ du natin bɔt aw yu pikin de biev, tɔk to yu dɔktɔ ɛn nɔ shem.
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