Yu gladi fɔ yusɛf? (Self-Esteem) ɛn lɛ wi tɔk bɔt yu maynd trɛnk!

Aw di bɔdi? Sɔm de dɛn kin rili gladi ɛn proud fɔ wisɛf. Ɛn ɔda de dɛn de we wi kin fil smɔl, lɛk se wi nɔ valyu wisɛf. Tide wi go tɔk bɔt sɔntin we rili impɔtant to wi ɔl. Dat min se, fɔ gɛt gud filin bɔt wisɛf, ɔ as wi kin se na Inglish , ``Self-Esteem'' . I tan lɛk smɔl layt insay yu at. We da layt de layt fayn, di wan ol wɔl kin luk fayn.

Wetin rili na dis we aw pɔsin kin rɛspɛkt insɛf?

Naw yu go de wɔnda if `(Self-Esteem)` min prawd, tink se yusɛf bɛtɛ pas ɔda pipul, ɔ fɔ bost bɔt yu yon tin. Nɔ, nɔto so atɔl! I nɔ tan lɛk dat, nɔto so? `(Self-Esteem)` na silent, bɔt rili pawaful pawa insay yu maynd. I tan lɛk tik in rut; pan ɔl we yu nɔ de si dɛn frɔm do, na dɛn rut dɛn de ol di tik tranga wan.

Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, ``Self-Esteem`` min:

• Yu lɛk yusɛf.
• We yu si yu gud kwaliti dɛn ɛn di tin dɛn we yu ebul fɔ du.
• Natin nɔ de fɔ mek yu fil prawd fɔ yusɛf ɛn di tin dɛn we yu ebul fɔ du.
• Yu rili gladi fɔ udat yu bi.
• Yu biliv pan yusɛf. Di filin fɔ "A kin du dis."
• Yu no se yu na valyu pat pan dis sosayti, dis wɔl, se yu gɛt rayt fɔ de ya.

Imajin, we yu gɛt gud mak pan ɛgzam we yu stɔdi tranga wan fɔ, we yu mama ɛn papa ɔ skul ticha se, "Pikin/Gɔpi, a rili proud fɔ yu," we yu de ple ɛn laf wit yu padi dɛn, ɛn we yu fil se dɛn dɔn put yu insay dɛn gem ɛn stori, yu kin fil gladi we yu nɔ go biliv, nɔto so? Na da tɛm de, yu `(Self-Esteem)` ɛn yu kɔnfidɛns pan yusɛf kin rili strɔng.

Bɔt afta dat, layf nɔ kin go di sem we ɔltɛm. De go de we tin nɔ go go di we aw yu tink. Sɔntɛm yu nɔ gri wit yu padi smɔl, ɔ yu nɔ de du fayn lɛk aw yu bin tink se yu go du ɛgzam. Na da tɛm de dis trɛnk we de insay, dis ``Self-Esteem'', de ɛp yu, ɛn mek yu nɔ fɔdɔm.

Wetin i min fɔ nɔ gɛt bɛtɛ rɛspɛkt fɔ wisɛf? Wetin kin apin if yu nɔ gɛt bɛtɛ rɛspɛkt fɔ yusɛf?

Sɔmtɛm we pikin dɛn lɛk yu nɔ kin fil fayn bɔt dɛnsɛf, wi kin se dɛn nɔ gɛt bɛtɛ rɛspɛkt fɔ dɛnsɛf ɔ dɛn nɔ gɛt kɔnfidɛns pan dɛnsɛf. Na sɔm tin dɛn we kin apin:

• Bɔku tɛm, dɛn kin tink se dɛn nɔ impɔtant pas ɔda pipul dɛn ɛn dɛn nɔ gɛt bɛtɛ sɛns. Tink lɛk, "O, aw dɛn bɛtɛ pas mi!" kam na yu maynd.
• Dɛn nɔ de si dɛn yon gud kwaliti ɛn talɛnt. I tan lɛk se dɛn de luk dɛnsɛf na miro ɛn nɔ si di gud tin dɛn.
• Insted fo tink se "A kin du dis," plenti taim a kin tink se "A no kin du dis," en "Dis no go wok."
• Dɛn kin fred fɔ tray nyu tin dɛn bikɔs dɛn nɔ gɛt kɔnfidɛns pan dɛnsɛf, ɛn dɛn kin shem fɔ du ɔltin. Dɛn kin tink se, "Wetin fɔ du if a nɔ ebul?"
• Ilɛksɛf smɔl tin nɔ wok, dɛn kin giv-ɔp kwik kwik wan. Dɛn kin tink se, "A nɔ gud pan dis" ɛn giv ɔp fɔ tray.
• If ɔda pipul dɛn trit dɛn bad, ilɛksɛf dɛn tɔk smɔl tin, dɛn kin fil bad ɛn pwɛl at, ɛn dɛn kin tink se na dɛn fɔlt.

Bɔt dis na sɔntin we yu fɔ mɛmba. ``Self-Esteem`` ɛn sɛlf-kɔnfidɛns nɔto tin we dɛn bil wan nɛt. I kin tek sɔm tɛm. Bɔt dɛn tin ya na trɛnk we ɔl pikin kin du, ɛn dɛn rili nid fɔ gɛt. Ɔl pikin kin du am. Na bikɔs ɔl pikin gɛt bɔku gud kwaliti dɛn insay dɛn. Ɔl pikin na in yon na dis wɔl. Ɔl pikin gɛt sɛns, i fit fɔ lɛk am, pɔsin we ɔda pipul dɛn lɛk, pɔsin we ebul fɔ gi nyu aidia. Ɛni pikin fɔ gɛt gud at, fɔ du tin tret, ɛn fɔ rɛspɛkt am.

So aw wi go inkrisayz dis (Self-Esteem)? Mek wi si?

Dis tan lɛk we yu plant tik na gadin. Yu nid fɔ wata am, fɛtilayz am, ɛn mek i gɛt san layt. Na da tɛm de nɔmɔ di tik go gro, blo, ɛn bia frut. Yu ``Self-Esteem'' na di sem. Pipul dɛn de we go ɛp yu fɔ gro am, ɛn tin dɛn de we yu kin du yusɛf.

Ɛp frɔm mama ɛn papa ɛn ticha dɛn

Yu mama ɛn papa ɛn ticha dɛn na skul kin ɛp yu fɔ lan nyu tin dɛn ɛn tray nyu tin dɛn. Jɔs tink bɔt di de we yu fɔs lan fɔ rayd baysikul, ɔ di de we yu lan fɔ rid nyu wɔd. Dem de prez yu wen yu trai, wen yu du yu bes, wen yu du somtin on yu own, en se, "Wel done, son/daughter, yu so smart!", no? Dis kin mek yu fil gud bɔt yu abiliti, lɛk, "A kin du tin bak, nɔto so?"

Sɔpɔt frɔm padi dɛn

Yu padi dɛn bak rili impɔtant. We dɛn put yu insay dɛn gem, tɔk, ɛn aktiviti, ɛn trit yu wit rɛspɛkt, gud, ɛn fayn, yu kin fil se nɔto yu wangren de, ɔlman gri wit yu, ɛn yu na impɔtant mɛmba na dis grup. Dis filin na big sos fɔ `(Self-Esteem)`.

Tin dɛn we yu go ebul fɔ du fɔ yusɛf

Naw lɛ wi si wetin yu go ebul fɔ du yusɛf. Dis na tin dɛn we rili simpul, bɔt we rili wok.

• Mek wan list fɔ di tin dɛn we yu go ebul fɔ du:

Tek wan smɔl pepa ɛn tray fɔ rayt ɔl wetin yu ebul fɔ du.

• Yu kin drɔ? Siŋ? Dans? Ple kriket, trowe hoops, rɔn ɛn jomp? Yu kin ple myuzik inschrumɛnt (lɛk di flut ɔ kibɔd)?
• Yu kin rayd baysikul, swim, rɔn fast, trowe bɔl fayn, sɔlv wan pazl, ɔ tɛl stori we go mek yu padi dɛn laf?
• Yu na gud pɔsin fɔ rid? Yu sabi fɔ du matematiks? Yu intres pan sayɛns, istri, ɔ di envayrɔmɛnt?
• Nɔ fɔgɛt di smɔl smɔl tin dɛn, okay?Yu kin mek yu bed, drɛs, ɛn rɛdi fɔ yusɛf? Yu kin stat yu homwok bifo ɛnibɔdi aks yu fɔ, yu kin brus yu tit? Yu kin ɛp fɔ du di wok dɛn na os bay we yu de put di dish dɛn na tebul, ɛp fɔ mek di it dɛn, klin afta yu dɔn it, gi yu animal fid (dɔg, pusi), ɛn kɛr am go waka?

Afta yu dɔn mek dis list, luk am ɛn si ɔmɔs tin dɛn yu go ebul fɔ du. Alaw yusɛf fɔ gladi ɛn proud fɔ dɛn. Tray fɔ du sɔm pan di tin dɛn we de na dis list ɔltɛm. Ɛnitɛm we yu du am, yu go fil fayn bɔt yusɛf. Ɛn yu go bi pɔsin we sabi du dɛn tin dɛn de. We yu fil se yu kin du dɛm, yu kɔnfidɛns ɛn ``Self-Esteem'' go ɔtomɛtik inkrisayz.

• Mek wan list fɔ yu gud kwaliti dɛn:

Di tin dɛn we yu ebul fɔ du nɔto jɔs di tin dɛn we yu ebul fɔ du. Dɛn kin inklud bak di gud kwaliti dɛn we yu gɛt na yu abit. Tink bɔt aw yu de trit ɔda pipul dɛn.

• Yu de tray fɔ bi pɔsin we gud , we de du tin tret , ɛn we ɔnɛs ?
• Yu na padi biznɛs ? Yu na pɔsin we de ɛp ɔda pipul dɛn? Yu na pɔsin we de mek ɔda pipul dɛn gladi bay we i de krak jok ?
• Yu na gud lisin ? (Yu kin lisin we yu padi at pwɛl?) Yu lɛk animal dɛn?
• Yu na pɔsin we rili gɛt trɛnk ɛn we de du tin? Ɔ yu na pɔsin we rili kol ɛn rilaks ?
• Yu kin ebul fɔ mek tin dɛn (yu kin tink ɛn mek nyu tin dɛn), yu gɛt maynd (yu kin gɛt prɔblɛm dɛn we yu nɔ de fred), ɔ yu sabi fɔ spɔt?

Tray fɔ sho wan pan yu gud kwaliti dɛn ɛvride. Si aw di gud kwaliti dɛn we yu de sho de mek difrɛns to di wan dɛn we de arawnd yu. Dɔn bak, si aw yu kin fil fayn we yu de yuz yu gud kwaliti dɛn.

• Turn "A nɔ ebul" to "A ebul!":

We tin kin tan lɛk se i at fɔs, nɔto pikin dɛn nɔmɔ, bɔt ivin wi big pipul dɛn kin tink sɔntɛnde se, "Um, a nɔ sabi dis," "A nɔ ebul fɔ du dis," "Dis tu at fɔ mi." Na da tɛm de, pul da smɔl "A nɔ ebul" tink de na yu maynd, ɛn insted tink se:

• "A go tray."
• "A kin handle dis, a go giv am wan tray."
• "A de du mi bɛst."
• "A de aks fo helep from pesin we sabi du dis." (No shem nɔ de fɔ aks fɔ ɛp, nɔto so?!)

We yu tink wit kɔnfidɛns lɛk dis, yu kin fil fayn bɔt yusɛf. Ɛn yu go mɔs tray fɔ du nyu tin dɛn. Ɛkspɛkt gud tin dɛn. Tɛl yusɛf se, "A tink se a go ebul fɔ du dis." Dɔn praktis, stɔdi, ɔ rɛdi fɔ du dat. Yu go sɔprayz (ɛn proud) fɔ wetin yu ebul fɔ du!

• Tray yu bɛst:

Yu kin fil fayn bɔt yusɛf we yu tray fɔ du sɔntin. Yu nɔ nid fɔ bi di fɔs pɔsin pan ɔltin. Yu nɔ nid fɔ win ɛvri tɛm. Imajin, yu de drɔ wan pikchɔ. Ivin if i nɔto di pikchɔ we fayn pas ɔl na di wɔl, if yu drɔ am wit pawa, wit yu bɛst tray, yu kin gladi fɔ am. We yu gi yu bɛst ɛfɔt to sɔntin, yu `(Self-Esteem)` de gro ɔtomɛtik wan.

• Spend tɛm wit di wan dɛn we yu lɛk:

Du tin dɛn we yu kin ɛnjɔy wit yu mama, papa, famili (brɔda ɛn sista dɛn, brɔda dɛn, sista dɛn, brɔda dɛn), ɛn yu bɛst padi dɛn. Ple togɛda, chat, wach fim, go na shɔt trip. Dis go mek yu fil lɛk se yu de pan dis kɔmyuniti, nɔto yu wan. Tink bɔt di tɛm dɛn we ɔda pipul dɛn bin tek yu, put yu insay dɛn grup, ɛn lɛk yu. Si aw yu bin de fil bɔt yusɛf da tɛm de. Nɔ fɔgɛt fɔ si di gud tin dɛn we ɔda pipul dɛn gɛt.

• Du gud tin fɔ ɔda pipul dɛn (bi gud):

Ɛp yu mama ɛn papa. Ɛp fɔ pripia it, klin di os, klin yu rum, fid yu animal, du gud to yu brɔda ɛn sista dɛn, ple wit dɛn. Lisin we yu padi kam tɛl yu sɔntin. Sheb sɔntin we yu gɛt (wan pensil, sɔm it). Ɛp yu neba fɔ kɛr lod. Ɛp di ticha fɔ put di buk dɛn, ɛp fɔ ɛras di bɔd. Mek pɔsin laf. Jɔyn pikin we in wan de na klas fɔ ple gem, ɔ tɔk to dɛn bɔt aw fɔ ple.

• Tink bak bɔt wan gud tin we yu bin du:

Tink bɔt sɔntin we gud we yu du yestede ɔ dis mɔnin. Sɔntɛm yu ɛp yu mama, ɔ yu gi yu padi pensil. Aw yu kin fil we yu tink bɔt am? Luk, we yu de du gud tin, yu de fil gud bɔt yusɛf. Yu si se wetin yu de du impɔtant, i gɛt big minin. Mek dɛn fayn fayn trɛnk dɛn de, dɛn gud kwaliti dɛn de, shayn brayt brayt wan insay yu!

Di mɛsej we impɔtant pas ɔl fɔ kɛr go na os

So, mi padi, `(Self-Esteem)` na laik di bes, strongest padi we yu get fo yu hat. We da padi de strɔng, yu kin gɛt trɛnk we yu nɔ go biliv fɔ bia wit ɛnitin ɛn win ɛni prɔblɛm.

Yu na pɔsin we gɛt valyu. Nɔ ɛva fɔgɛt dis. No di tin dɛn we yu ebul fɔ du, di gud kwaliti dɛn we yu gɛt. Nɔ fred fɔ tray nyu tin dɛn. Yu kin fɔdɔm, bɔt yu kin grap bak. Fɔ fɔdɔm na pat bak fɔ lan. Ɔltɛm, trit yusɛf wit lɔv ɛn gud. Yu kin du am! Yu strɔng pas aw yu tink!

` Self-esteem, self-confidence, mental well-being, positif tinkin, pikin mental divεlכpmεnt, fכ gladi