Yu kin tich yu pikin fɔ kɔntrol insɛf! Lɛ wi tɔk bɔt dis.

Sɔntɛm yu kin rili wɔri we yu smɔl pikin bigin fɔ kray lawd wan wantɛm wantɛm ɛn strɛch na midul na shɔp, ɔ na pati wit bɔku fambul dɛn, ɔ na os, nɔto so? Da tɛm de, i rili impɔtant fɔ tich pikin dɛn fɔ kɔntrol dɛnsɛf ɛn fɔ biev fayn, nɔto fɔ du ɛnitin we dɛn want. Dis na wan pan di valyu tin dɛn we wi kin gi wi pikin dɛn as mama ɛn papa.

Wetin mek i impɔtant fɔ mek pikin dɛn kɔntrol dɛnsɛf?

Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, we pikin dɛn lan fɔ kɔntrol dɛnsɛf, dɛn kin ebul fɔ disayd fɔ du di rayt tin ɛn biev di we we go mek dɛn gɛt gud tin fɔ du, ivin we dɛn de mɔna dɛn. Dis abiliti go rili ɛp dɛn fɔ gɛt sakrifays na layf .

Tink bɔt am dis we. If yu se na afta dina nɔmɔ dɛn go gi yu ayskrim, yu pikin go kray, beg, ɔ ivin ala fɔ mek yu gri. Bɔt pikin we ebul kɔntrol insɛf ɔndastand se if i akt (sɔntɛnde wi kin kɔl dis ``Temper Tantrum``) i nɔ go gɛt di ayskrim ɛni we, so i fayn fɔ peshɛnt.

Di ebul fɔ kɔntrol insɛf rili impɔtant fɔ di pikin in edyukeshɔn, fɔ gɛt padi biznɛs wit ɔda pipul dɛn, ɛn fɔ gɛt wɛlbɔdi.

Naw lɛ wi luk aw fɔ ɛp pikin dɛn fɔ kɔntrol dɛnsɛf, akɔdin to di ej grup dɛn.

We dɛn fɔ tich pikin dɛn fɔ kɔntrol dɛnsɛf

Di we aw dɛn de tich dɛn tin ya kin chenj we di pikin ol. Lɛ wi si aw dat kin wok.

Aw yu kin ɛp pikin dɛn te dɛn ol 2 ia?

Bebi ɛn smɔl pikin dɛn kin fil bad izi wan bikɔs big difrɛns de bitwin wetin dɛn want fɔ du ɛn wetin dɛn rili ebul fɔ du. Na dat mek bɔku tɛm dɛn kin akt, kray, ɛn strɛs. Sɔntɛnde lɛk dɛn tɛm ya, i go fayn fɔ mek dɛn nɔ pe atɛnshɔn to dɛn . Tray fɔ mek dɛn nɔ bɔn dɛn tin ya bay we yu gi dɛn tɔys ɔ du ɔda tin.

Fɔ pikin dɛn we dɔn rich tu ia, we dɛn de strɛs ɛn ala, yu kin lɛf dɛn fɔ shɔt tɛm as a rizulyt. Dis na tin we dɛn kɔl ``Time-out''. Put dɛn na ples lɛk kichin chia ɔ di stɛp we de dɔŋ di stej fɔ sɔm tɛm. Dis kin tich di pikin se i bɛtɛ fɔ de in wan ɛn fɔ mek in at kol pas fɔ biev di we aw i nɔ de kɔntrol insɛf.

Fɔ pikin dɛn we ol bitwin 3 ɛn 5 ia

Yu kin yuz ``Time-out'' bak wit pikin dɛm we ol dis ej. Bɔt instead fɔ gɛt wan patikyula tɛm, dɔn di ``Taym-aut'' we di pikin kol . Dis kin ɛp di pikin fɔ ebul fɔ kɔntrol aw i de fil. I rili impɔtant bak fɔ prez pikin we i de kɔntrol insɛf pan tin we de mek i fil bad ɔ we i nɔ izi fɔ am. Se tin dɛm lɛk, "A gladi se yu bin de kol," ɔ "Yu du gud wok nɔ vɛks, bɔy pikin/dɔta."

Fɔ pikin dɛn we ol bitwin 6 ɛn 9 ia

We pikin dɛn bigin fɔ go skul, dɛn kin...I de ɛp pikin dɛn fɔ ɔndastand di bad tin dɛn we kin apin to dɛn we dɛn de du tin ɛn aw dɛn kin ebul fɔ pik bitwin gud ɛn bad bihayvya. Fɔ ɛgzampul, ɛp yu pikin fɔ si "stɔp" sayn na rod, mɛmba am fɔ tink bifo i du sɔntin. Bifo yu du sɔntin kwik kwik wan we dɛn fil bad, ɛnkɔrej dɛn fɔ kɔmɔt nia di prɔblɛm fɔ sɔm tɛm ɛn fɔ mek dɛn at pwɛl . We dɛn du dat, mek shɔ se yu prez dɛn. Dɛn go mɔs yuz dis we tumara bambay.

Fɔ pikin dɛn we ol bitwin 10 ɛn 12 ia

Pikin dɛn we ol dis ej kin rili no aw dɛn de fil. Ɛnkɔrej dɛn fɔ tink bɔt wetin mek dɛn nɔ ebul fɔ kɔntrol dɛnsɛf ɛn analayz am. Ɛksplen to dɛn se sɔm tin dɛn we kin tan lɛk se dɛn kin vɛks fɔs, nɔ kin so bad afta ɔl. Ɛnkɔrej dɛn fɔ tek tɛm tink bifo dɛn du sɔntin we sɔntin apin. Ɛp dɛn fɔ ɔndastand se nɔto di tin we de apin de mek dɛn vɛks, bɔt na di we aw dɛn de tink bɔt am. Prez dɛn we dɛn de yuz dɛn we ya fɔ kɔntrol dɛnsɛf.

Fɔ pikin dɛn we ol bitwin 13 ɛn 17 ia (yɔŋ pipul dɛn) .

We pikin dɛn rich dis ej, dɛn fɔ ebul fɔ kɔntrol bɔku pan di tin dɛn we dɛn de du. Bɔt mɛmba smɔl pikin dɛn fɔ tink bɔt di bad tin dɛn we go apin to am fɔ lɔng tɛm if sɔntin apin. Ɛnkɔrej dɛn fɔ stɔp ɛn tink bifo dɛn du sɔntin we dɛn fil bad, ɛn fɔ tɔk tin dɛn bifo dɛn slam domɔt ɔ ala. If nid de, yuz pɔnishmɛnt dɛn lɛk fɔ tek sɔm ɔnɔ fɔ sɔm tɛm fɔ mek yu no mɔ bɔt di mɛsej we se fɔ kɔntrol yusɛf na impɔtant tin fɔ du. Leta, we dɛn sho se na dɛn de kɔntrol, alaw dɛn fɔ gɛt dɛn ɔnɔ dɛn de bak.

Wetin yu kin du we yu pikin dɛn nɔ ebul fɔ kɔntrol dɛnsɛf?

Pan ɔl we i at fɔ du, nɔ gri fɔ ala we yu de kɔrɛkt yu pikin dɛn. Bifo dat, tɔk tranga wan ɛn klia wan. We pikin de trangayes, ala, ɔ slam domɔt, na fɔ de kwayɛt ɛn ɛksplen se dis kayn we fɔ biev nɔ fayn, se bad tin kin apin to am, ɛn wetin kin apin to am.

Di tin dɛn we yu de du fɔ ɛp yu pikin fɔ ɔndastand se i nɔ go ebul fɔ gɛt wetin i want tru di we aw i de vɛks.

Fɔ ɛgzampul, if yu pikin vɛks na di stoa afta yu dɔn ɛksplen wetin mek yu nɔ go gi am kandy, nɔ gi am wetin i aks fɔ . Dis go tich dɛn se dɛn traŋa nɔ fayn ɛn i nɔ bin wok.

Dɔn bak, tɔk to yu pikin in klas ticha bɔt di say we dɛn de na klas ɛn di rayt we fɔ biev. Aks if dɛn de tich ɔ model fɔ sɔlv prɔblɛm na skul.

Bi gud ɛgzampul yusɛf.

Di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl na fɔ sɛt ɛgzampul fɔ kɔntrol yusɛf gud gud wan.. If sɔntin de mɔna yu bifo yu pikin dɛn, tɛl dɛn wetin mek yu vɛks, dɔn tɔk to dɛn bɔt aw yu go ebul fɔ sɔlv di prɔblɛm. Fɔ ɛgzampul, if yu lɔs yu ki, bifo yu vɛks, tɛl yu pikin dɛn se dɛn dɔn lɔs ɛn wi go luk fɔ dɛn togɛda. If yu nɔ ebul fɔ fɛn dɛn, du di nɛks tin we yu kin du (lɛk fɔ mɛmba usay yu bin gɛt yu ki dɛn las tɛm). Sho dɛn tru yu bihayvya se gud kɔntrol aw yu de fil ɛn fɔ sɔlv prɔblɛm na di bɛst we fɔ dil wit prɔblɛm dɛn.

If yu kɔntinyu fɔ gɛt prɔblɛm pan ɔl we yu de du dɛn tin ya, aks yu dɔktɔ if yu go ebul fɔ gɛt ɛp frɔm famili advays savis.

Di tin dɛn we impɔtant pas ɔl fɔ mɛmba (Take-Home Message) .

Okay, so na sɔm tin dɛn we yu nid fɔ mɛmba frɔm wetin wi dɔn tɔk bɔt:

• Fɔ tich pikin dɛn fɔ kɔntrol dɛnsɛf na big invɛstismɛnt na dɛn layf .
• Tich dɛn tin ya di we we fit di pikin in ej . Nɔto di we we smɔl pikin go ɔndastand, bɔt na di we we smɔl pikin go ɔndastand.
• Nɔ fɔgɛt fɔ prez yu pikin we i sho se i de kɔntrol insɛf. Dat na big ɛnkɔrejmɛnt.
• I impɔtant fɔ mek yu nɔ gɛt wanwɔd we yu pikin nɔ ebul fɔ kɔntrol insɛf. Fɔ ala nɔ go sɔlv prɔblɛm.
• Bi gud ɛgzampul fɔ yusɛf . Pikin dɛn kin lan mɔ frɔm wetin wi de du pas wetin wi de tɔk.
• Nɔ giv-ɔp to pipul dɛn we de vɛks. If yu du dat, yu pikin go lan se na we fɔ wok.
• Nɔ ɛva shem fɔ go to pɔsin we sabi du in wok if nid de.

If yu mɛmba dɛn tin ya ɛn ɛp yu pikin fɔ kɔntrol insɛf wit peshɛnt ɛn lɔv, yu go ebul fɔ mɛn am fɔ bi pikin dɛn we gladi ɛn we gɛt sakrifays.

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