Yu pikin sɛf kin fil se na in wangren de? Na dis na aw fɔ gɛt ɛp wit dis prɔblɛm tru soshal kɔnekshɔn!

I dɔn bi kɔmɔn fɔ lɛ wi pikin dɛn fil se na dɛn wangren de dɛn tɛm ya. I go mɔs bi se yu bɔy pikin ɔ gyal pikin kin fil di sem we sɔntɛnde, nɔto so? Tide, wi go tɔk ditayli bɔt wetin rili na fɔ de yu wan, wetin mek wi pikin dɛn kin fil am, ɛn wetin na soshal kɔnekshɔn , uswan kin bi di bɛst sɔlv fɔ dis, ɛn aw dɛn impɔtant na pikin dɛn layf.

Wetin fɔ de yu wan rili min?

Fɔ de yu wan na sɔntin we wi ɔl kin fil sɔntɛnde. Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, we wi want fɔ de wit ɔda pipul dɛn, fɔ de nia dɛn, fɔ lɛ dɛn lɛk dɛn ɛn du gud to wi, wi kin fil se na wi wangren de, wi de fa frɔm ɔda pipul dɛn, ɛn wi de fa frɔm ɔda pipul dɛn . Imajin, aw yu pikin go fil if di ɔda pikin dɛn nɔ jɔyn am fɔ ple di gem na skul? Dat na di kayn sɔri-at ɛn ɛmti tin we kin kam wit dis filin fɔ de yu wan.

Situeshɔn dɛn we pikin dɛn we de smɔl ɛn smɔl pikin dɛn kin fil se na dɛn wangren de:

Bɔku rizin dɛn de we mek wi pikin dɛn kin fil se na dɛn wangren de. Na sɔm ɛgzampul dɛn ya:

• We yu fil se yu wangren de ɛn yu nɔ gɛt padi, ɔ we ɔda pipul dɛn fil lɛk se dɛn de lɛf dɛn: Imajin aw i go sɔri if na yu pikin nɔmɔ lɛf na do we di ɔda pipul dɛn na di klas de ple togɛda. Yu go tink se, ‘Nɔbɔdi nɔ bisin bɔt mi, a nɔ gɛt padi.’
• We yu fil se, ‘A nɔ de ya, a nɔ fit insay’: Sɔntɛnde pikin dɛn kin fil lɛk se dɛn nɔ de na dɛn klas, dɛn padi dɛn grup, ɔ ivin dɛn famili. Sɔntɛnde, dɛn kin fil se na dɛn wangren de.
• We pikin tink se na dɛn wan gɛt prɔblɛm, tink lɛk, "Dis prɔblɛm kin apin to mi nɔmɔ, nɔbɔdi nɔ go ɛva gɛt dis, nɔbɔdi nɔ go ɔndastand mi," di pikin kin ivin de fa frɔm ɔda pipul dɛn.
• Fɔ fil bad afta yu dɔn fɛt wit yu mama ɔ papa, yu padi, ɔ yu brɔda ɛn sista: Ivin smɔl bad at kin mek pikin dɛn fil se na dɛn wangren de ɛn dɛn kin de fa.
• Ilɛksɛf na we pɔsin we dɛn lɛk dɔn day ɔ we dɛn skata: We pɔsin na in famili day, in mama ɛn papa separet, ɔ we in bɛst padi muf go na ɔda skul, pikin dɛn kin fil se na dɛn wangren bad bad wan.

Yu tink se pikin dɛn kin fil lɛk se dɛn na dɛn wan ya dɛn tɛm ya?

Naw luk, dis dez, no bi jos yong pikin, pipul fo ol ej se dem de fil lonely mo. Wetin mek na so i bi? Wan men rizin na dis dijital wɔl we de go bifo kwik kwik wan . We dɛn du ɔltin na fon, kɔmpyuta, ɛn tablɛt, fɔ tɔk to dɛnsɛf fes-to-fes, fɔ smayl yay-to-ay, ɛn ɔda tin dɛn, di chans dɛn we dɛn kin gɛt fɔ mek padi biznɛs, gɛt tayt padi biznɛs, ɛnI nɔ kin apin jɔs lɛk aw i kin apin. Fɔ tɔk di kɔrɛkt tin, fɔ mek gud padi biznɛs ɛn padi biznɛs wit famili strɔng, i rili impɔtant fɔ mit fes to fes ɛn tɔk, fɔ spɛn tɛm togɛda. We dat nɔ de, sɔm pikin dɛn ɛn yɔŋ pipul dɛn kin fil se na dɛn wangren de. Ivin if dɛn gɛt bɔku bɔku padi dɛn na fon, if dɛn nɔ gɛt ɛnibɔdi fɔ tɔk to bɔt wetin de na dɛn maynd na rial layf, dat na fɔ de dɛn wan bak.

Fɔ de yu wan lɛk dis fɔ lɔng tɛm nɔ kin fayn fɔ pikin in maynd ɛn bak fɔ in bɔdi wɛlbɔdi . I nɔ kin afɛkt dɛn maynd nɔmɔ, bɔt i kin afɛkt dɛn wan ol bɔdi.

Bɔt gud nyus de! We dɛn de fɔ ridyus dis wanwɔd. Di bɛst we fɔ du dat na fɔ mek pipul dɛn gɛt mɔ kɔnekshɔn wit ɔda pipul dɛn.

So wetin na dis soshal kɔnekshɔn?

Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, dis min fɔ gɛt di sɛns fɔ bi pɔsin, fɔ gɛt tayt padi biznɛs wit ɔda pipul dɛn, ɛn fɔ gɛt kɔnekshɔn wit ɔda pipul dɛn, ɛn fɔ fil se ‘A de pan dis grup’ ɛn ‘dɛn pipul ya gri wit mi’ . Dis na di men tin we mɔtalman nid, jɔs lɛk it, drink, ɛn slip. Jɔs lɛk aw angri kin apin we wi nɔ gɛt tin fɔ it, na so di ɛmti filin fɔ de mi wan we a bin dɔn tɔk bɔt, kin apin we wi nɔ gɛt dis soshal kɔnekshɔn.

So, wetin kin apin we pikin gɛt gud soshal kɔnekshɔn lɛk dis?

• Di filin fɔ de yu wan kin ridyus bad bad wan. Dɛn nɔ kin fil se na dɛn wangren de ɔltɛm.
• Ilɛksɛf wantɛm wantɛm dɛn fil se na dɛn wangren de, i kin izi fɔ dɛn fɔ bia wit dis. Dɛn kin mek dɛnsɛf biliv se, ‘O, dis go fayn afta sɔm tɛm, a gɛt pɔsin fɔ tɔk to.’
• Ivin we dɛn fil se na dɛn wangren de, dɛn kin ebul fɔ wɛl kwik kwik wan ɛn gladi bak. Dis min se dɛn nɔ kin spɛn bɔku tɛm fɔ ol di sɔri-at.

Aw soshal kɔnekshɔn de ridyus di wanwɔd?

Dis soshal kɔnekshɔn rili fayn fɔ pikin dɛn maynd wɛlbɔdi ɛn bak fɔ dɛn bɔdi wɛlbɔdi. We pikin gɛt gud soshal kɔnekshɔn, instead fɔ fil se na in wangren de, i kin fil tin dɛn lɛk:

• Dɛn kin fil se dɛn rili de nia di pipul dɛn we de na dɛn layf. Dat min se dɛn kin fil lɛk se dɛn gɛt rili tayt padi biznɛs wit pipul dɛn lɛk dɛn mama, papa, brɔda ɛn sista dɛn, padi dɛn, ɛn ticha dɛn.
• Ɔda pipul dɛn kin fil se pipul dɛn lɛk dɛn, kia fɔ dɛn, lisin to dɛn, ɛn ɔndastand dɛn. Imajin aw i go kɔrej pikin fɔ tɛl in mama bɔt wan prɔblɛm, ɛn di mama go lisin ɛn se, "Pikin/dɔta, nɔ fred, a de ya." Na da kayn filin de de.
• Dɛn kin fil se dɛn gri fɔ tek dɛn wit ɛni kɔndishɔn, dɛn de insay dɛn grup, ɛn dɛn valyu dɛn jɔs lɛk aw dɛn valyu. Bifo dɛn wɔri bɔt tin dɛn lɛk ‘A blak, a skinny, a fat,’ dɛn kin fil se a gɛt kɔnfidɛns se ‘A gud di we aw a de, ɔda pipul dɛn lɛk mi, ɛn a valyu.’
• Dɛn kin fil lɛk se dɛn de pan sɔntin.Dat min se, yu kin gɛt filin lɛk, ‘Dis na mi famili, dis na mi grup fɔ padi dɛn, dis na mi skul kriket tim, dis na mi vilej kɔmyuniti.’ I fayn fɔ fil lɛk se yu nɔ de yu wan, se yu gɛt ples we yu de pat pan.
• Dɛn kin fil se dɛn gɛt pipul dɛn we dɛn go abop pan, dɛn kin fil fayn ɛn gladi we dɛn de wit dɛn. Di biliv se ‘ilɛk us prɔblɛm a gɛt, pɔsin de we a go tɛl dɛn, ɛn dɛn nɔ go lɛf mi’ na big trɛnk fɔ di maynd.
• Dɛn kin fil lɛk se nɔto dɛn wan, bɔt na pat pan sɔntin we big pas dɛnsɛf. Sɔntɛm na kɔnekshɔn to di nature. Ɔ, dɛn kin fil dis filin bak we dɛn de du gud wok, soshal savis, we dɛn lɛk. Dɛn kin fil lɛk se, ‘A de du sɔntin we impɔtant fɔ dis wɔl.’

Mama ɛn papa dɛn kin ɛp fɔ mek pikin dɛn nɔ de dɛn wan!

Naw, sɔntɛm yu de tink se, ‘So aw a go ɛp mi pikin fɔ lɛf dis kayn we aw i de in wan? Aw a go ɛp am fɔ mek dɛn soshal kɔnekshɔn ya?’ Bɔku tin dɛn de we mama ɛn papa dɛn kin du fɔ dis.

Ɛp fɔ divɛlɔp sɔshal skil dɛn

Di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl na fɔ tich pikin dɛn di soshal skil dɛm we dɛn nid fɔ bil dɛn soshal kɔnekshɔn ya.

• Tich ɔda pipul dɛn fɔ bi gud ɛn ɛp: Yu kin bigin wit smɔl smɔl tin dɛn lɛk, ‘Mi pikin, if da padi de fɔgɛt fɔ kam wit pensil tide, gi am yu ɛkstra pensil’, ‘If yu anti na os nid smɔl ɛp, duya du am.’ Dɛn tin ya go mek di pikin fil se ɔda pipul dɛn gri wit am.
• Tich dɛn aw fɔ mek gud padi biznɛs we go mek yu gɛt wɛlbɔdi: Yu nɔ nid fɔ bi padi wit ɔlman, bɔt i impɔtant fɔ fɛn padi dɛn we go gri wit yu, we gud fɔ yu, ɛn we ɔndastand yu. Yu nid fɔ tich dɛn bak fɔ de fa frɔm bad padi dɛn we de mɔna dɛn.
• Tich yu pikin fɔ tek tɛm lisin to wetin ɔda pipul dɛn de tɔk (Active Listening), ɛn fɔ tɔk wetin dɛn tink wit pɔlitiks ɛn klia wan. Dɛn tin ya rili impɔtant fɔ gɛt gud padi biznɛs. Mek yu pikin ɔndastand aw i impɔtant fɔ luk pɔsin we i de tɔk ɛn lisin to am.
• Lan fɔ wok as tim ɛn rɛspɛkt di we aw ɔda pipul dɛn de tink. Yu kin gɛt dɛn skil ya bay we yu tek pat pan skul spɔt tim, skaut grup, ɔ ɔda grup aktiviti.

Bil bonding wit yu pikin ɛvride.

Dɔn bak, fɛn tɛm fɔ tɔk to yu pikin ɛvride ɛn spɛn tɛm wit am. I nɔ mata aw yu bizi, sɛt 15-20 minit ɛvride jɔs fɔ yu pikin.

Di pikin nid fɔ fil kɔnfidɛns se "Mama/Papa ​​de mek tɛm fɔ mi, lisin to wetin a de tɔk, ɛn de fɔ mi ilɛk us prɔblɛm a gɛt."

Dis na di trɛnk we dɛn gɛt pas ɔl. If yu spɛn sɔm tɛm wit yu pikin ɛn tɔk bɔt wetin apin da de de, i go mɔs tɛl yu bɔt di gladi-at, sɔri-at, ɛn prɔblɛm dɛn we i gɛt. Dis go ɛp yu fɔ ɔndastand wetin de apin to yu pikin, if na in wangren de, ɛn us kayn ɛp i nid. Ivin smɔl tin dɛn lɛk fɔ ple togɛda, fɔ rid buk, ɔ fɔ ɛp fɔ kuk kin mek dis padi biznɛs strɔng.

If yu mek yu pikin in soshal kɔnekshɔn strɔng dis we, i nɔ go ɛp am tide nɔmɔ, bɔt i go ɛp am bak fɔ in wan ol fiuja, ivin as i de gro. Pikin we gɛt tayt padi biznɛs wit in famili, i go ebul fɔ du wɛl na di sosayti.

So, wetin na di impɔtant tin dɛn we wi fɔ mɛmba frɔm wetin wi dɔn tɔk bɔt? (Mɛsej we dɛn kin tek go na os)

• Fɔ de yu wan na sɔntin we ɛnibɔdi kin fil. Nɔ shem fɔ am, nɔ fred am, ɛn nɔ tink se na di pikin in fɔlt.
• Bɔku rizin dɛn kin de we kin mek pikin dɛn fil se na dɛn wangren de. Yu fɔ no dis ɛn pe atɛnshɔn to di chenj dɛn we de apin na yu pikin in bihayvya.
• Soshal kɔnekshɔn na di bɛst sɔlv fɔ de yu wan. I rili impɔtant fɔ pikin dɛn maynd ɛn bɔdi wɛlbɔdi.
• Mama ɛn papa dɛn kin ɛp fɔ ridyus dis wanwɔd bay we dɛn de divɛlɔp dɛn pikin dɛn soshal skil ɛn bil strɔng padi biznɛs wit dɛn. Yu na yu pikin in fɔs ɛn bɛst ticha.
• Spend sɔm tɛm fɔ tɔk to yu pikin ɛvride, lisin to am. Mek dɛn no se yu de wit dɛn. Tɛl dɛn se, “I nɔ mata wetin, a de wit una.”

If yu si se yu pikin de fil se na in wangren de, tɔk to dɛn bɔt dat wit lɔv ɛn fayn we. Sɔntɛnde, dɛn nɔ kin gɛt di wɔd dɛn fɔ tɔk bɔt am, bɔt dɛn go opin dɛn at we dɛn si se yu intres. If nid de, nɔ shem fɔ go to dɔktɔ , fɔ advays pɔsin na skul, ɔ fɔ go to pɔsin we sabi gi advays . Di pikin in gladi at ɛn in maynd impɔtant pas ɔl ɔda tin!

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