Yu pikin de fred fɔ fɛt fɛt wit gɔn? (Gun Violence) Mek wi tok abaut dis!

We sɔntin siriɔs lɛk gɔn vaylɛns apin na wi kɔntri ɔ ɛnisay na di wɔl, i rili nɔmal fɔ fil fred ɛn wɔri se sɔntin bad go apin to wi smɔl pikin dɛn ɛn di pipul dɛn we dɛn lɛk. So, as mama ɔ papa, yu go de wɔnda, "Aw a go tɔk to mi pikin bɔt dɛn siriɔs tin ya? Wetin a fɔ se? Wetin a nɔ fɔ se?" Na rili big kwɛstyɔn. Bɔt nɔ wɔri, lɛ wi luk sɔm tin dɛn we go ɛp.

Ustɛm yu fɔ tɔk bɔt dis wit yu pikin dɛn?

We sɔntin lɛk gɔn vaylɛns apin, pikin dɛn nɔ kin rɛdi fɔ tɔk bɔt am wantɛm wantɛm. I kin tek dɛn sɔm tɛm fɔ prosɛs am ɛn ɔndastand am. Sɔm pikin dɛn kin want fɔ tɔk, bɔt dɛn nɔ no aw fɔ bigin. If dɛn kam to yu we yu de du wok na di kichin ɔ we yu de klin di os, dat kin bi sayn fɔ sho se dɛn want fɔ tɔk to yu bɔt sɔntin. Tink bɔt am, sɔntɛnde dɛn go bigin fɔ aks yu smɔl smɔl kwɛstyɔn dɛn instead fɔ aks yu dairekt wan. Ɔda pikin dɛn de we, pas fɔ tɔk , drɔ, siŋ, ɔ du sɔntin we gɛt atis . Na dat na dɛn we. Bɔt if yu pikin nɔ lɛk di tin we apin so, ɔ i nɔ want fɔ tɔk wantɛm wantɛm, nɔ tɔk atɔl . Dat go jɔs mek dɛn fred mɔ. If yu fil se yu pikin want fɔ no bɔt sɔntin bɔt i tan lɛk se i de fred fɔ aks, yu kin aks wit rili lɔv se, "Ɔni, ɛnitin de we yu want fɔ tɔk bɔt?" ɔ "Yu de tink bɔt sɔntin?"

Wetin wi fɔ tɛl pikin dɛn bɔt gɔn fɛt-fɛt?

Dis na pɔynt we rili impɔtant. Di kwɛstyɔn dɛn we yu pikin kin aks na di bɛst gayd fɔ no ɔmɔs ditil yu fɔ gi. Nɔ tray fɔ kɔba ɔltin wan tɛm. Ɔda tin dɛn we wi fɔ mɛmba na:

• Tɛl di tru, bɔt i jɔs: Tɛl di tru bɔt wetin apin. Bɔt nɔ fɔ tɔk bɔt tin dɛn we de mek pɔsin fred ɔ we nɔ nid , mɔ fɔ smɔl pikin dɛn. Kip tin dɛn simpul ɛn to di say we dɛn go ebul fɔ du dɛn. Fɔ ɛgzampul, yu kin se sɔntin lɛk, “Pikin/dɔta, sɔntin apin we mek sɔm pipul dɛn vɛks, bɔt i dɔn dɔn naw. Big pipul dɛn de we kin tek kia ɔf di wan dɛn we involv.” Yu men gol fɔ bi fɔ mek dɛn nɔ fred ɛn mek dɛn fil sef.

• Ɔndastand ɛn sɔpɔt aw yu pikin de fil: Nɔ ɛva ɔndastand wetin pikin dɛn de tɔk ɔ aw dɛn de fil. If dɛn tɛl yu se dɛn vɛks ɔ dɛn de fred, nɔ tray fɔ stɔp dɛn filin bay we yu de tɔk tin lɛk, "O, nɔ tink bɔt am. Natin nɔ go apin to yu." Bifo dat, tɔk bak bɔt wetin dɛn bin tɔk, ɛn mek dɛn fil se dɛn ɔndastand dɛn. "Yes, son, a andastan se yu de rili fred fo dis insident. Dat na normal tin." We yu de tɔk tin dɛn lɛk dis, pikin dɛn no se yu rili de lisin to dɛn ɛn ɔndastand dɛn.

• Tɛl di tru tin dɛn akɔdin to di pikin in ej ɛn di lɛvul we i ɔndastand: Nɔto ɔl pikin dɛn na di sem. Dɛn ej, dɛn maynd lɛvɛl, ɛn di we aw dɛn ɔndastand tin difrɛn. So, tink bɔt aw pikin dɛn kin ɔndastand ɛn absɔb tin dɛn. If yu tink se yu pikin rɛdi fɔ tɔk, yu kin bigin fɔ aks se, "Wetin yu yɛri bɔt da tin de?" ɔ "Wetin yu padi dɛn bin se na skul?" Dis go ɛp yu fɔ ɔndastand wetin di pikin dɔn ɔlrɛdi no ɛn wetin de na in maynd.

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Pikin dɛn we de na yɔŋ gred (arawnd 5-8 ia ol) .

Kip tin shɔt ɛn simpul fɔ smɔl pikin dɛn we dɛn ol dis ej. Mɛmba dɛn ɔltɛm se big pipul dɛn de lɛk mama, papa, ɛn ticha dɛn fɔ kia fɔ dɛn ɛn protɛkt dɛn. Mek dɛn fil sef .

Fɔ ɛgzampul, if nyus bin de se dɛn dɔn shot na skul, yu kin tɔk bɔt wetin dɛn skul de du fɔ mek dɛn nɔ gɛt wan prɔblɛm. Fɔ ɛgzampul, fɔ kip di skul get dɛn lɔk, fɔ kip di domɔt dɛn we de na do lɔk, ɛn fɔ du imejɛnsi drɔl.

Fɔ pikin dɛn we rili yɔŋ, i nɔ kin izi fɔ ‘se’ wetin dɛn de fil wit wɔd. Da tɛm de, yu kin yuz tin dɛn lɛk pikchɔ buk, drɔin we yu kin drɔ yusɛf, fɔ ɛp dɛn. Yu kin tɛl dɛn fɔ drɔ wetin dɛn de fil.

Pikin dɛn we dɔn big (arawnd 9-12 ia ol) .

Yu kin tɔk to pikin dɛn we ol dis ej di we we yu go tɔk mɔ bɔt smɔl, bɔt di we we dɛn go ɔndastand. Tɔk bɔt aw i nɔ fayn fɔ mek pɔsin fil bad, fɔ kil pɔsin, ɛn fɔ yuz tin dɛn we denja lɛk gɔn di rɔng we. Bɔku tɛm, pikin dɛn we ol dis ej kin aks kwɛstyɔn dɛn lɛk, “A rili sef?” ɔ “Aw a go protɛkt misɛf?” “Wetin mek pipul dɛn de du dis?” Ɛksplen to dɛn wetin wi sosayti ɛn dɛn skul de du fɔ protɛkt dɛn. Mek dɛn tɔk wetin dɛn want .

Tin dɛn (13+ ia) .

Tinja dɛn kin gɛt rili strɔng filin ɛn opinion bɔt tin dɛn lɛk gɔn vaylɛns. So yu kin aks dɛn dairekt wan se, “Wetin yu tink bɔt wetin apin?” Lisin to wetin dɛn de tink. Yu kin tɔk bak bɔt wetin mek pipul dɛn kin du bad to ɔda pipul dɛn da kayn we de. I kin bi bikɔs dɛn gɛt prɔblɛm wit dɛn maynd , ɔ dɛn gɛt prɔblɛm fɔ kɔntrol dɛn wamat, ɔ dɛn de yuz drɔgs ɔ rɔm . Mek dɛn no se pipul dɛn de na di kɔmyuniti we go ɛp dɛn pan dɛn tin ya (lɛk dɔktɔ, ticha, polis, rilijɔn lida dɛn). Di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl na dat, if dɛn fil se dɛn vɛks, dɛn at pwɛl, ɔ dɛn strɛs, dɛn kin tɔk to yu ɔ ɔda big pɔsin we dɛn kin abop pan ɛn dɛn nɔ kin kip am to dɛnsɛf.Mɛmba yu pikin fɔ se yɛs. Dis na fayn tɛm bak fɔ tɔk bɔt di bad tin dɛn we kin apin we pɔsin tek drɔgs ɛn rɔm. If yu nɔ ebul fɔ fɛn di ansa to kwɛstyɔn we yu pikin aks wantɛm wantɛm, se, "A nɔ no fɔ tru, mi pikin, bɔt a go luk am ɛn tɛl yu." Ɔ, tray fɔ fɛn di ansa togɛda yuz wɛbsayt dɛn we fit yu ej ɛn we yu kin abop pan.

Ilɛk us ej yu pikin ol, peshɛnt fɔ lisin to am . Dat na di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl. Mek pikin dɛn aks kwɛstyɔn, tɔk bɔt wetin dɛn de fred, ɛn tɛl yu ɔl wetin de na dɛn maynd. I kin rili fil fri fɔ dɛn ɛn yu we dɛn no aw dɛn de fil.

Wetin bak a nid fɔ no?

Ɔda smɔl smɔl tin dɛn de we yu kin du apat frɔm fɔ tɔk.

• Tek tɛm wit wetin yu pikin dɛn de wach: Nɔ pe atɛnshɔn to wetin yu pikin dɛn de si bɔt gɔn fɛt-fɛt na TV, intanɛt, ɛn soshal midia. Pan ɔl we pikin dɛn kin want fɔ no mɔ, dɛn tin dɛn de we dɛn kin si ɛn di tin dɛn we dɛn kin tɔk bɔt kin mek dɛn vɛks, fred, ɛn wɔri mɔ. Tek tɛm aw yu de tɔk bɔt dis kayn nyuz bifo dɛn. Nɔ lɛf di nyus na yu TV ɔl di de na os.

• Mek pikin dɛn fil se dɛn ebul fɔ kɔntrol dɛnsɛf: Afta wan bad bad tin lɛk fɔ shot, bɔku pipul dɛn kin fil se dɛn nɔ ebul fɔ du natin. Sɔntɛnde lɛk dis, we pikin dɛn fɛn smɔl tin fɔ du fɔ ɛp ɔda pipul dɛn, dat kin ɛp pikin dɛn fɔ fil se dɛn ebul fɔ kɔntrol di tin dɛn we de apin to dɛn. If i pɔsibul, mek yu pikin dɛn tek pat pan tin dɛn lɛk fɔ gi tin to di wan dɛn we nid ɛp, fɔ volontia, ɔ fɔ rayt lɛta fɔ kɔrej dɛn. Sho dɛn gud nyus stori dɛn bɔt aw ɔda pipul dɛn de ɛp insay tɛm lɛk dis.

• Tɛl yu pikin dɛn se we yu de wach, dat kin ɛp fɔ mek dɛn nɔ du dɛn tin ya: If dɛn yɛri ɔ rid sɔntin we pɔsin de tray fɔ mek ɔda pɔsin fil bad, dɛn fɔ tɛl yu, ticha na skul, ɔ ɔda big pɔsin we dɛn abop pan wantɛm wantɛm . If dɛn si dɛn padi ɔ pɔsin we dɛn sabi we vɛks bad bad wan ɔ in at pwɛl, tɛl dɛn se i impɔtant bak fɔ tɛl big pɔsin.

• If yu ebul, tɔk to yu pikin dɛn bɔt gɔn sef di we aw dɛn go ɔndastand. Gɔn nɔto tɔys, ɛn ɛksplen di denja dɛn we i kin kɔz jɔs.

• Kɔntinyu fɔ du di tin dɛn we yu kin du ɛvride lɛk aw i de dɔŋ ya:Afta dis kayn tin apin, if yu kip di tin dɛn we yu pikin kin du ɛvride as nɔmal as yu ebul, dat kin ɛp am fɔ fil sef. Mek shɔ se dɛn de du ɛksɛsayz, dɛn de slip fayn, ɛn it di rayt tɛm. Mek shɔ se dɛn de du ɔl dɛn homwok ɛn go na spɔt ɛn klab dɛn afta skul. Bɔt mɛmba se if dɛn de tray tranga wan fɔ bia wit dɛn tin ya, nɔ fos dɛn. Gi dɛn sɔm tɛm fɔ rilaks.

• Wach fɔ strɛs: Na kɔmɔn tin fɔ mek pikin dɛn fil strɛs afta tin lɛk dis. If yu notis big chenj na yu pikin in bihayvya (nɔ de slip fayn, nɔ de it, de fred ɔltin, nɔ want fɔ de nia ɔda pipul dɛm, de wɔri ɔltɛm, nɔr de intres pan tin dɛm wae dɛn bin de du trade) we de las fɔ sɔm dez, nɔr delay fɔ tɔk to yu famili dɔktɔ ɔr pikin mɛntɛl hεlth spɛshal (a `behavioral health care provider` ɔ `child psychologist`). Dɛn kin ɛp yu pikin fɔ kɔntrol in wɔri ɛn ɛp am fɔ bia wit di prɔblɛm.

As tɛm de go, di lɔv we yu gɛt, sɔpɔt yu, ɛn di we aw yu de tɔk to dɛnsɛf gud gud wan, na in go ɛp yu pikin dɛn fɔ fil trɛnk insay dɛn tranga tɛm ya. Yu kin ɛp dɛn fɔ fil sef ɛn sef.

Fɔ dɔn, tin dɛn we wi fɔ mɛmba

Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, i rili impɔtant fɔ tɔk to yu pikin bɔt dɛn bad bad tin ya we kin apin we kin mek yu at pwɛl ɛn lisin to dɛn.

• Lisin wit peshɛnt ɛn wit lɔv. Lisin te dɛn dɔn wetin dɛn gɛt fɔ tɔk.
• Tɔk insay simpul wɔd dɛn we fit dɛn ej.
• Ɔndastand aw dɛn de fil (frayd, sɔri, vɛks) ɛn sɔpɔt dɛn. Se, "I nɔmal fɔ mek yu fil da we de."
• Yu de wit dɛn ɔltɛm, mek dɛn fil sef ɔltɛm. Ɔg dɛn.
• If yu notis se yu pikin de biev we nɔ kɔmɔn ɔltɛm, nɔ de te fɔ go to dɔktɔ.
• Yu fɔ tek kia ɔf yu maynd wɛlbɔdi bak. Na if yu strɔng nɔmɔ yu pikin go strɔng.

Wit dɛn tin ya, yu kin ɛp yu pikin fɔ gɛt kɔnfidɛns afta dɛn kayn tin ya we de mek i fred, gi am trɛnk, ɛn ɛp am fɔ gɛt fayn abit bɔt di wɔl.

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