Yu pikin de fred fɔ go skul? Dɛn kɔl dis Scolionophobia? Lɛ wi tɔk bɔt am!

I tan lɛk se yu smɔl pikin nɔ want fɔ go skul? Sɔntɛnde i kin kray se, "O, Mama/Papa, a nɔ go ebul fɔ go skul tide?" If yu nɔ want fɔ du dat smɔl, na nɔmal tin. Bɔt dis nɔto jɔs fɔ nɔ want, fɔ sɔm pikin dɛn, we dɛn tink bɔt fɔ go skul kin mek dɛn fred ɛn wɔri bad bad wan. Dɛn kin jɔs kɔl dis kɔndishɔn `Scolionophobia` ɔr de frayd pasmak fɔ skul. Pan ɔl we i nɔto ɛksaktɔli sik na di `DSM-5 (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders)`, dɔktɔ dɛn kin tek am se na sɔntin we de ɔnda di kategori fɔ `spɛsifi k fobia`.

Bɔku tɛm kin de we smɔl pikin dɛn nɔ kin want fɔ go skul. Dis na nɔmal tin. Bɔt insay dis kes we dɛn kɔl `Scolionophobia`, di pikin kin fil rili insɛf ɛn wɔri ivin we i tink bɔt fɔ go skul. Sɔntɛnde, i kin ivin mek wi at pwɛl. Dis kayn pikin nɔ kin go skul fɔ sɔm dez we i nɔ gɛt ɛni klia rizin, ɔ fɔ rizin dɛn we wi nɔ no. Dɛn kin kɔl dis bak `skul fɔbia` ɔ `skul nɔ gri fɔ tek pat`. Wan ɔda nem na `didaskaleinophobia`. Dis kכndyushכn kin bכku tεm wit כda `anxiety disorders`.

So, udat go fred fɔ go na dis skul?

כltεm bitwin 18 εn 24 mכnt, dat na arawnd wan εn af to tu ia, pikin dεm we rili yכŋ kin gεt ``sεparashכn anxiety.`` Dis min se dεn kin kray, dεn kin agyu, εn dεn kin fred we dεn separet frכm dεn mama, papa, כ di wan we de kia fכ dεn. Bɔt bɔku tɛm, dis sik kin dɔn as pikin dɛn de ol. If i du dat, dɛn kin gɛt ``scolionophobia.``

We wi luk mɔ, dɛn kayn pikin ya kin fred fɔ go skul:

• If mama ɛn papa dɛn de protɛkt dɛn pikin dɛn pasmak: Sɔm mama ɛn papa dɛn kin lɛk fɔ protɛkt dɛn pikin dɛn pasmak ivin pan smɔl tin dɛn. Dis kin mek bak dis kayn tin apin.
• Sɔm pikin dɛn kin bɔn smɔl mɔ wɔri: na jɔs dɛn nature.
• If na yu wangren pikin na di famili.
• If yu na di smɔl pikin na di famili.
• If yu de sɔfa wit wan sik we nɔ de mɛn.

Imajin, Nimali in pikin, smɔl Sandun. Na in wangren pikin na di famili. In mama ɛn papa ɔl tu lɛk am bad bad wan ɛn dɛn de kia fɔ am lɛk bebi. Sandun bin de fred smɔl frɔm we i bin smɔl. We i bigin fɔ go skul, i kin kray ɛvri mɔnin, ɛn se, "Mi bɛlɛ de at, mama." Na we i sho am to dɔktɔ, na in dɛn kam fɔ no se Sandun gɛt dis fred fɔ go skul.

Aw bɔku yu de si se yu de fred fɔ go skul?

Dis ``skul fכbia'' de afekt bitwin 2% εn 5% pan di pikin dεm. Dat min se fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, na lɛk wan pan ɛvri 20 pikin dɛn kin gɛt dis sik.

Dis na tin we dɛn kin si mɔ:

• Na yɔŋ pikin dɛn, we ol lɛk 5-6 ia.
• Na di pikin dɛm we ol lɛk midul skul, we ol lɛk 10-11 ia. (Dat min se i ol lɛk fayv ɔ siks ia so)

Dɔn bak, yu kin si di sayn dɛm fɔ Scolionophobia di tɛm we big chenj kin apin na di pikin in layf, lɛk we di pikin bigin fɔ go na sɛkɔndari skul.

Wetin mek dis fred fɔ go skul de gro? Wetin na di rizin dɛn?

Sɔmtɛm, nɔr kin gɛt klia kɔz fɔ dis sik, "Scolionophobia." Bɔt prɔblɛm dɛn we kin apin na skul ɔ na os kin mek di pikin wɔri ɔ fred fɔ go skul.

Di tin dɛn we di say we dɛn de na os kin du:

Pikin dɛm wae gɛt Scolionophobia kin strɛs bak wit tin dɛm lɛk dis na os:

• Fɔ fred fɔ fɛt fɛt na os ɔ na di say we dɛn de: Sɔntɛnde, pikin kin fred we i si fɛt-fɛt de apin na os, ɔ bikɔs bad tin de apin rawnd am.
• Ikɔnomi prɔblɛm: We mɔni prɔblɛm de na os, pikin dɛnsɛf kin fil am.
• Fɔ it ɛn drink we yu nɔ gɛt: We yu nɔ gɛt bɛtɛ it ɛn drink, dat kin mek yu strɛs bak.
• Nɔ gɛt fayn os ɔ nɔ gɛt os.
• Mama ɛn papa ɔ di wan dɛn we de kia fɔ dɛn nɔ de pe atɛnshɔn to am gud gud wan: If mama ɛn papa dɛn ɔl tu de na wokples, tɛm nɔ de fɔ tɔk to di pikin ɔ aks dɛn kwɛstyɔn dɛn. Imajin, Kasun in mama ɛn papa de wok frɔm mɔnin te nɛt. Kasun nɔ gɛt ɛnibɔdi fɔ sheb in sɔri-at wit.
• Big chenj dɛn na di famili: Tin dɛn lɛk fɔ muf os, mama ɛn papa dɛn dayvɔs, ɔ pɔsin we de day.

Di tin dɛn we di skul ɛnvayrɔmɛnt kin du:

Pikin dɛn kin gɛt ‘Scolionophobia’ afta dɛn dɔn gɛt dɛn kayn tin ya na skul:

• Ɔda pikin dɛn kin buli, trɛtin, ɔ trɛtin dɛn bɔdi: Sɔm pikin dɛn kin provok, trɛtin, ɔ tray fɔ bit ɔda pipul dɛn. Dis kin mek di pikin fred fɔ go skul.
• Fɔ fred se ticha ɔ skul wokman dɛn go kɔrɛkt am, pɔnish am, ɔ provok am: Pikin kin gɛt fred lɛk "Di ticha go kɔl mi," ɔ "Di ticha go bit mi."
• Disabiliti fɔ lan: Fɔ ɛgzampul, pikin dɛn we gɛt kɔndishɔn lɛk dislɛksia (dɛn nɔ kin ebul fɔ rid ɛn tɔk) ɔ diskalkul (dɛn kin at fɔ ɔndastand nɔmba ɛn aritmɛtik) kin gɛt wɔri bikɔs dɛn nɔ kin ebul fɔ du skul wok.
• Fɔ wɔri ɔ fɔ fred bad bad wan fɔ big big disasta: Fɔ ɛgzampul, fɔ fred sɔntin lɛk fɔ shot pɔsin na skul. Pan ɔl we dɛn kayn tin ya nɔ kin apin na wi kɔntri, pikin dɛn kin fred bikɔs ɔf tin dɛn we dɛn kin si na nyus.

If yu de fred fɔ go skul, wetin na di sayn dɛm?

Fɔ bɔku pikin dɛn we gɛt Scolionophobia, di men sayn dɛn na dɛn bɔdi . We di pikin de tink bɔt fɔ go skul, i kin gɛt dɛn tin ya:

• Rɔnbɛlɛ.
• Ɛd we de at.
• Nɔs ɛn vɔmit.
• Bɛlɛ we de at.
• Trem ɔ shek we pɔsin nɔ ebul fɔ kɔntrol.

Dɛn sayn ya we pɔsin kin gɛt na in bɔdi na rial tin. Di pikin nɔ de akt. Di fred we de na in at de mek i nɔ izi fɔ am na in bɔdi.

Pikin dɛn kin gɛt sayn dɛn bak we gɛt fɔ du wit dɛn maynd . Fɔ ɛgzampul:

• Klinging: Fɔ fred fɔ lɛf yu mama ɛn papa ɔ di wan dɛn we de kia fɔ yu. Tray fɔ de wit dɛn ɔltɛm.
• Fɔ fred fɔ di daknɛs.
• Naytmɛr drim dɛn.
• Fɔ wɔri ɔltɛm bɔt in yon sef ɔ fɔ sef fɔ ɔda pipul dɛn.
• Tin dɛn lɛk fɔ swɛt, fɔ ala, ɛn fɔ rɔl na grɔn (`Tantrums`).

Fɔ ɛgzampul, Amaya in gyal pikin we nem Mihri. Ɛvri mɔnin we i de go skul, i kin se, "O, mi bɛlɛ de at," ɛn sɔntɛnde i kin ivin trowe. We i kam bak na os frɔm skul, i fayn. Dis na di sayn dɛm we i bin tɔk bɔt na in bɔdi.

Aw dɔktɔ kin no dis?

Nɔ spɛshal diagnostik krayteria nɔ de fɔ `Scolionophobia`. Dat min se, nɔr ɛksaktɔ list nɔr de fɔ "if yu gɛt dɛn sik ya, yu gɛt dis sik."

Fɔ ɔndastand wetin mek yu pikin nɔ gri fɔ go skul, dɔktɔ kin aks yu ɔ yu pikin tin dɛn lɛk:

• Wetin na yu pikin in sik?
• Ustɛm dɛn sayn ya kin bigin?
• Aw lɔng di sayn dɛm dɔn de?
• Dɛn sayn ya kin wɔs bikɔs ɔf wan patikyula tin ɔr sɔmtin wae apin to pɔrsin?
• Wetin yu kin du fɔ ridyus dɛn sik ya?

Na bay di ansa to dɛn kwɛstyɔn ya, na in dɔktɔ kin disayd us sik di pikin gɛt.

So, aw yu de trit dis?

Pikin dɛm wae gɛt smɔl smɔl sayn dɛm fɔ Skɔlionofobia kin ebul fɔ lɛf fɔ fred fɔ go skul, sɔntɛm if dɛn mama ɛn papa ɔ ticha ɛp dɛn.

Bɔt if di sayn dɛm wae de sho se yu gɛt dis sik bad bad wan , ɔr if i gɛt fɔ du wit ɔda kayn maynd wɛl bɔdi prɔblɛm, pikin dɛm kin bɛnifit frɔm tritmɛnt dɛm lɛk:

• Tɔk tɛrapi:
• Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): Dɛn kin kɔl dis "tɔk tritmɛnt." I min fɔ ɛp di pikin fɔ no di tin dɛn we nɔ rayt ɛn we nɔ go ɛp am. Dɔn di pɔsin we de mɛn di pikin kin tich di pikin aw fɔ chenj dɛn tin dɛn de we nɔ kɔrɛkt wit tin dɛn we kɔrɛkt ɛn we gɛt sɛns. Fɔ ɛgzampul, if di pikin tink se, "Mi ticha kin kɔl mi ɔltɛm," di pɔsin we de mɛn di pikin kin ɛp di pikin fɔ no if dat na tru ɛn wetin mek na so i bi.
• Dayalɛktik Biɛvhɔ Tɛrapi (DBT): Insay dis DBT tritmɛnt, dɛn kin tich pikin dɛn 4 tin dɛn fɔ ɛp dɛn fɔ dil wit difrɛn filin dɛn we nɔ kin izi fɔ dɛn. Di pɔsin we de mɛn di pikin kin tich di pikin tu tin dɛn we de pe atɛnshɔn pan fɔ aksept am ɛn tu tin dɛn we de pe atɛnshɔn pan chenj. Di gol na fɔ ɛp di pikin fɔ ɔndastand aw di tin dɛn we i de tink bɔt de afɛkt di we aw i de biev. We dɛn ɔndastand dis, dɛn kin ebul fɔ kɔntrol di bad we aw dɛn de fil ɛn di padi biznɛs we dɛn gɛt wit ɔda pipul dɛn.

• Exposure therapy: Dis kin min fɔ mek di pikin gɛt di tin we i de fred smɔl smɔl. Fɔs, yu kin bigin bay we yu mek dɛn imajin wetin go apin na skul. Smɔl smɔl, yu kin rili gɛt da fred de. Fɔ ɛgzampul, if di pikin de fred fɔ go na di skul get, fɔs luk di get frɔm fa, ɛn di nɛks de, go nia am smɔl, ɛn dis we ya, di fred go stɔp smɔl smɔl.

• Mɛrɛsin: Mɛrɛsin kin ɛp, mɔ if yu pikin gɛt ɔda prɔblɛm wit in maynd. Fɔ ɛgzampul, dɛn kin gi pikin dɛn mɛrɛsin fɔ mek dɛn nɔ fil bad we dɛn kɔl Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors (SSRI). SSRI, lɛk Sertraline (Zoloft®) ɔ Fluoxetine (Prozac®), kin trit wan ɔndalayn wɔri prɔblɛm. Bɔt mɛmba se dɛn fɔ jɔs gi dɛn mɛrɛsin ya ɔnda dɔktɔ in sɔpɔtishɔn.

Di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl: Dɛn fɔ jɔs du ɔl dɛn tritmɛnt ya ɔnda di gayd we kwalifay dɔktɔ ɔ mental wɛlbɔdi advaysa de gi . Nɔ jɔs du ɛnitin we yu fil fɔ du.

Ɔda tin dɛn de we kin mek pɔsin fred fɔ go skul?

Yɛs. Pikin dɛm wae gɛt dis maynia sik ɔr ɔda kayn maynd wɛl bɔdi kin gɛt dis kayn we fɔ nɔr fɔ go skul. Pikin dɛm wae gɛt skɔlionophobia kin gɛt wan ɔr mɔr pan dɛn tin ya bak:

• Pwɛl at.
• Jɛnɛralized Anxiety Disorder (GAD) we de mek pɔsin wɔri.
• Obsesiv-Kɔmpulsiv Disɔda (OCD). (Yu go mɛmba se wi bin tɔk bɔt dis na wan atikul we dɔn pas.)
• Oposishɔnal Defiant Disɔda.
• Pɔst-Traumatik Strɛs Disɔda (PTSD).
• Sɔshial Wɔri Disɔda.

So, if pikin de fred fɔ go skul, i rili impɔtant fɔ chɛk if di kɔz na ɔda sik lɛk dis.

Aw mi pikin go ebul fɔ lɛf fɔ fred fɔ go na dis skul?

If dɛn trit bɔku pikin dɛn di rayt we, dɛn nɔ kin fred fɔ go skul igen. Fɔ ɔda pipul dɛn, di wɔri we dɛn kin wɔri bɔt skul nɔ kin kɔmɔt kpatakpata, bɔt dɛn kin lan fɔ liv wit am.

Apat frɔm ɛni fɔmal tritmɛnt, pikin dɛn kin lan aw fɔ bia wit di prɔblɛm fɔ mek dɛn nɔ wɔri, lɛk:

• Lan aw fɔ tink gud wan ɔr fɔ tink gud wan: Dɛn tin ya kin ɛp fɔ ridyus strɛs. Simpul mayndfulnɛs ɛgzampul dɛn de na Yutub we ivin yɔŋ pikin dɛn kin du.
• Praktis fɔ ɛksesaiz fɔ blo: If yu tek dip briz ɛn pul briz sloslo, dat kin ɛp fɔ mek yu maynd kol.
• Ripit fayn, affirm stetmɛnt (`affirmations`): Fɔ tɔk tin lɛk "A kin", "A strɔng", "A go pas dis".

Tin dɛn we una kin du as mama ɛn papa:

• Lisin to yu pikin: Peshɛnt lisin to wetin yu pikin de tɔk. Nɔ tɔk tin lɛk, "Wetin na dat, jɔs nɔ lay."
• Ɔndastand di pikin: Aksept se di tin dɛn we i de fred na rial tin.
• Tɔk to ticha dɛn: Tɛl di ticha dɛn na skul ɛn gɛt dɛn sɔpɔt.
• Sɛt smɔl gol dɛn wit yu pikin: Nɔ ɛkspɛkt big tin wan tɛm. Tek am wan stɛp wan wan tɛm.
• Go to dɔktɔ: If yu gɛt prɔblɛm, go mɔs go to dɔktɔ ɔ pɔsin we de advays yu bɔt yu maynd .

Wetin a fɔ aks mi pikin in dɔktɔ?

Yu kin aks yu pikin in dɔktɔ tin dɛn lɛk:

• Wetin na di rizin we mek mi pikin nɔ gri fɔ go skul?
• Mi pikin gɛt mental wɛlbɔdi diagnosis?
• Yu tink se mi pikin go bɛnifit if i go to dɔktɔ we de mɛn am?
• Aw a go ɛp mi pikin fɔ lɛf dis kayn we aw i de fred fɔ go skul?

We yu aks dɛn kwɛstyɔn ya, yu go ebul fɔ ɔndastand di tin we de apin ɛn fɛn di bɛst we fɔ ɛp yu pikin.

Yu de fred fɔ du skul wok?

Yɛs. Sɔm pikin dɛn kin rili fred fɔ du skul wok lɛk fɔ du dɛn os wok. Dɛn kɔl dis fred fɔ du homwok devwahrphobia . We dɛn gi pikin dɛn we gɛt devwahrphobia tumɔs wok na skul, dɛn kin gɛt panik atak ɔ ɔda bad bad wɔri simptom dɛm. Dis na sik bak wae nid fɔ pe atɛnshɔn, jɔs lɛk skɔlionophobia.

So, wetin na di tin dɛn we wi fɔ mɛmba frɔm dis stori?

Scolionophobia na fɔ fred pasmak fɔ skul. Pan ɔl we nɔto fɔmal diagnosis, bɔku spɛshal pipul dɛn kin tek am se na patikyula fred. Sɔm pikin dɛm wae gɛt Scolionophobia kin gɛt siriɔs wɔri wae dɛn tink bɔt fɔ go skul. Dɛn kin skip skul fɔ sɔm dez dɛn wan tɛm fɔ no rizin.

Di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl na fɔ ɔndastand se dis nɔto di pikin in fɔlt ɛn nɔto sɔntin we dɛn du bay wilful.

If pikin gɛt smɔl smɔl sayn dɛn, di wɔri we pɔsin kin wɔri bɔt na skul kin stɔp if ticha ɔ in mama ɔ papa ɛp am. Bɔt if di sik bad bad wan, dɛn kin ɛp dɛn pikin ya wit tritmɛnt ɛn if nid de, dɛn kin gi dɛn mɛrɛsin we dɔktɔ gi dɛn.

If yu pikin gɛt dis prɔblɛm, nɔ ɛva lɛf am. Go to dɔktɔ fɔ advays yu. Di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl na fɔ gi yu pikin lɔv, ɔndastandin, ɛn sɔpɔt am.

` Fɔ fred fɔ go skul, fɔ fred fɔ skul, fɔ fred fɔ pikin dɛn, fɔ mek pikin dɛn gɛt maynd, fɔ wɔri, fɔ nɔ de na skul, fɔ fred didaskaleinophobia, fɔ fred pikin dɛn