Yu want fɔ du wetin yu dɔn plan fɔ du na layf? (Goal Setting) Dɛn 5 tin ya go ɛp yu bɔku!

Yu gɛt gol ɔ sɔntin we yu want fɔ du na yu layf? Sɔntɛm na fɔ lɛf fɔ it bɔku bɔku it dɛn, fɔ lan nyu langwej, ɔ fɔ ivin lɛf bad abit we dɔn de mɔna yu fɔ lɔng tɛm. So, sɔntɛnde, fɔ rich gol lɛk dis nɔ kin izi lɛk aw wi kin tink, nɔto so? Bɔt nɔ wɔri. We yu no aw fɔ sɛt gol dɛn fayn fayn wan, yu kin mek dis waka izi pas aw yu tink. Tide, wi go tɔk bɔt fayv rili impɔtant tin dɛn we go ɛp yu bɔku.

1. Di gol dɛn we klia ɛn we yu go ebul fɔ du, kin wok fayn!

We yu bigin fɔ chenj, na di wan dɛn nɔmɔ we gɛt klia ɛn rial gol dɛn go ebul fɔ du am. Dis na di fɔs tin ɛn di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl. Tink bɔt am, i fayn fɔ tink se, "A go du mɔ gud fɔ di envayrɔmɛnt." Bɔt i nɔ klia smɔl, nɔto so? Yu nɔ gɛt klia aidia bɔt wetin yu go du ɛn aw yu go du am. Ɛn i at fɔ mɛzhɔ. Bɔt if yu tink se, "A go separet ɔl di plastic bɔtul dɛn, it tin dɛn, ɛn ol magazin dɛn we kin gɛda na mi os fayn fayn wan ɛn risaykul dɛn," aw dat klia? Yu sabi gud gud wan wetin yu fɔ du. Ɛn, na sɔntin we yu kin rili du. We yu gɛt klia, patikyula gol lɛk dis, i kin izi fɔ mek yu bren ɔndastand am gud gud wan. I de sɛn signal to yu bren we se, "Okay, dis na wetin a nid fɔ du."

Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, brok yu gol to smɔl smɔl pat dɛn we klia ɛn we yu kin mɛzhɔ. Dɔn wetin tan lɛk big mawnten go tan lɛk se dɛn de du smɔl smɔl stɛp dɛn. Wit di gladi gladi we yu go gɛt fɔ klaym wan stɛp, yu go want fɔ klaym di nɛks wan.

Wetin mek gol dɛn nid fɔ klia?

Imajin se yu de drayv motoka, bɔt yu nɔ no ustɛm yu want fɔ go. Ilɛk aw fa yu go, i go stil yusful. Nɔ, nɔto so? Gol dɛn na di sem. If di gol nɔ klia, yu go west di tray we yu de tray. Dɔn bak, sɔntɛnde, di gol dɛn we wi nɔ kin no klia kin mek pɔsin strɛs ɔ wɔri we i nɔ nid. Bikɔs, yu nɔ go ebul fɔ no wetin fɔ du ɛn aw fɔ bigin. Fɔ ɛgzampul, instead fɔ se "A go gɛt wɛlbɔdi," sɛt klia gol dɛm lɛk "A go waka fɔ 30 minit ɛvride, stɔp fɔ drink drink dɛn we gɛt shuga kpatakpata, ɛn drink tu lita wata ɛvride." Dɔn i go izi fɔ yu fɔ wok fɔ am ɛn si aw fa yu dɔn kam. We yu komplit ivin wan smɔl gol, yu bren de pul di gladi gladi ɔmon "Dopamine." Dis kin mek yu rili intres ɛn ɛnkɔrej yu fɔ go bifo.

2. I tek sɔm tɛm fɔ mek yu gɛt nyu abit, peshɛnt!

Wi ɔl want fɔ si di rizɔlt kwik kwik wan, nɔto so? Bɔt, i kin tek tɛm fɔ mek nyu tin bi abit. Yu nɔ go ebul fɔ chenj di abit dɛn wan de. We yu bigin fɔ du nyu tin, lɛk fɔ grap ali mɔnin ɛn du ɛksɛsayz, i kin tek tu to tri mɔnt fɔ mek i bi sɔntin we yu kin du ɔltɛm ɛvride.

Wetin mek dis de apin?

Dis na bikɔs i kin tek tɛm fɔ mek yu bren aksept dis nyu tin as "dis na pat pan mi nɔmal layf." Wi bren de wok wan patikyula we. I kin tek tɛm ɛn tray fɔ chenj da patɛn de ɛn yus to nyu patɛn. I tan lɛk se yu de mek nyu rod na fɔrɛst. I at fɔ waka fɔs, bɔt as yu de kɔntinyu fɔ waka na da rod de, afta sɔm tɛm i kin bi klia ɛn izi rod fɔ fala. i tek tεm lεk dis fכ di nyural path dεm na wi bren fכ fכm εn strכng.

So, nɔ wɔri if yu nɔ yus to nyu abit insay sɔm dez. Dat na nɔmal tin. Peshɛnt ɛn kɔntinyu fɔ tray. Afta sɔm tɛm, i go bi abit bifo yu ivin no am.

3. Memba yu gol ol taim, na im de tren yu bren!

I rili impɔtant fɔ mɛmba yusɛf ɔltɛm bɔt wetin yu dɔn plan fɔ du. Ɛvri mɔnin we yu wek, tɔk yu gol lawd wan. Mɛmba yusɛf se, "A go du dis, a go wok tranga wan fɔ dis." Ɔ, rayt yu gol wit big lɛta dɛn ɛn put am na say we yu go si am bɔku tɛm. Dis go mek yu bren mɛmba da gol de ɔltɛm. Imajin se yu de plant gadin. Yu nid fɔ wata ɛn kia fɔ da gadin de ɛvride, nɔto so? Na da tɛm de di plant dɛn go gro fayn fayn wan. Yu gol na di sem tin. We yu de mɛmba yusɛf ɔltɛm, i tan lɛk se yu de wata da gol plant de. Ɛnitɛm we yu du dat, dɛn kin tren yu bren fɔ mek di we dɛn we yu nid fɔ mek da gol de bi rial tin.

Aw dis kin wok?

Dɛn kɔl dis `(Affirmations)` ɔ sɛlf-affirmations. We yu de tink ɛn tɔk fayn ɔltɛm bɔt yu gol, yu `(Subconscious mind)` de hit. Dɔn, we yu nɔ no, di tin dɛn we yu de du ɛn di tin dɛn we yu de disayd fɔ du, dɛn kin shep yu di kayn we we go ɛp yu fɔ rich da gol de. I tan lɛk se pɔsin we de insay yu de sho yu di rod. I de ɛp yu bak fɔ kip yu `(Focus)` ɛn `(Motivation)` na ay levul.

4. Nɔ sɛt gol fɔ mek ɔda pipul gladi, i nɔ go wok!

Dis na mistek bak we bɔku pipul dɛn kin mek. If yu rili want fɔ chenj, di tin we yu want fɔ du fɔ kɔmɔt insay yu. Yu fɔ du sɔntin bikɔs yu rili want, nɔto bikɔs yu galfrɛn, bɔyfrɛn, kɔch, yu mama ɛn papa, ɔ ɛni ɔda pɔsin want yu. Imajin, yu padi de fos yu fɔ go rɔn ɛvri mɔnin. If yu nɔ rili want fɔ rɔn, aw lɔng yu go du am? Sɔntɛm tu ɔ tri dez, dɔn yu stɔp fɔ sɔm rizin. Bɔt, if yu want fɔ gɛt wɛlbɔdi ɛn gɛt in shep, yu kin du am bifo ɛnibɔdi tɛl yu fɔ du am.

Wetin mek Intrinsic Motivation impɔtant?

If wi du sɔntin bay wilful, fɔ wi yon gladi at, wi gɛt bɔku trɛnk fɔ kɔntinyu fɔ du am. Dat na in dɛn kɔl intrinsik motiveshɔn.Bɔt, if wi du sɔntin fɔ fos ɔda pipul dɛn ɔ fɔ mek ɔda pipul dɛn gladi, na fɔ shɔt tɛm nɔmɔ. Dɔn bak, i nɔ de mek wi gɛt gladi-at. Sɔntɛnde, i kin jɔs mek pɔsin vɛks ɛn fil bad. Yu gol dɛn fɔ bi yu yon. Na da tɛm de nɔmɔ yu go fil fɔ wok to dɛn wit dedikeshɔn. I rili impɔtant fɔ mek yu gɛt rɛspɛkt fɔ yusɛf.

5. Ivin if yu mit tin we de ambɔg yu ɔ mek mistek along di rod, dat nɔ min se yu nɔ ebul fɔ du am!

Wi ɔl na mɔtalman. So, i rili nɔmal fɔ mek smɔl mistek ɛn shɔtkɔm along di rod we yu de wok fɔ rich wan gol. Dɛn mistek ɛn tin ya we kin mek yu nɔ ebul fɔ du natin, na rili pat pan yu waka. Na dɛn yu de lan frɔm. We yu bren de tray fɔ tink nyu we, fɔ yus to nyu abit, dɛn tin ya na nɔmal tin. Imajin, yu bigin fɔ it tin dɛn we gɛt wɛlbɔdi. Bɔt wan de na yu padi in pati, yu it smɔl tumɔs pan swit it. Naw yu tink se, "Oh, a bi komplit fail, a neva fit du dis"? Nɔ tink da we de.

Di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl na fɔ nɔ blem yusɛf we yu mek mistek, bɔt fɔ bigin tink bak se, "Okay, i nɔ bad, a lan lɛsin frɔm dis, a de go bak to mi gol." Ɔlman kin mek mistek. Na so di wɔl tan. Di impɔtant tin na fɔ grap frɔm usay yu fɔdɔm ɛn go bifo.

Aw yu kin lan frɔm mistek?

Sɔntɛm yu go nid fɔ tray bɔku tɛm fɔ du wetin yu dɔn plan fɔ du. Natin nɔ bad wit dat. Ɛnitɛm we yu lan nyu tin. Yu rialize se, "A du am dis we las tɛm, so a go du am dis we nɛks tɛm." Dis na wetin na resilience . I min se yu nɔ fɔ giv ɔp we prɔblɛm kam, yu fɔ gɛt am, ɛn yu fɔ gɛt trɛnk bak. Dis abiliti rili impɔtant pan ɔltin na layf.

Di tin dɛn we impɔtant pas ɔl fɔ mɛmba (Take-Home Message) .

So, mi padi, di joyn fɔ rich yu layf gol dɛn kin tranga sɔntɛnde. Bɔt, if yu mɛmba dɛn pɔynt dɛn ya, yu go mɔs mek da joyn de izi ɛn gɛt sakrifays pas aw yu tink.

• Sɛt yu yon gol dɛn we klia ɛn we yu go ebul fɔ du . Brek big gol dɛn to smɔl smɔl pat dɛn.
• Gi yu bren tɛm fɔ mek yu gɛt nyu abit. Na fɔ peshɛnt.
• Mɛmba yusɛf bɔt yu gol ɛvri mɔnin. Rayt am ɔ imajin am na yu maynd.
• Mɛmba se yu de du dɛn tin ya fɔ yusɛf, nɔto fɔ mek ɔda pipul dɛn gladi.
• Nɔ at pwɛl if yu mek mistek ɔ yu mit sɔntin we de ambɔg yu. Lan frɔm am ɛn bigin bak. Nɔ blem yusɛf.

Mɛmba se yu gɛt di pawa fɔ du wetin yu de drim. Tek smɔl smɔl tin dɛn, bɔt kɔntinyu fɔ go bifo ɛn nɔ giv ɔp. Yu go win!

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Gol, fɔ sɛt gol, mental wɛlbɔdi, fɔ mek pɔsin want fɔ du sɔntin, abit, di we aw di bren de wok, layf chenj