Na 5:30 p.m. I go mɔs bi se yu stil de go bak na os frɔm wok. Yu titi ɔ bɔy pikin we dɔn pas 12 ia jɔs kam na os frɔm skul. Bɔt wetin dɛn de du na os dɛn wan? Yu tink se dɛn de kip kɔmpin wit dɛn padi dɛn ɛn du sɔntin we nɔ fayn? Yu gɛt ɛni wan pan dɛn smɔl smɔl tin dɛn ya we yu de fred ɔ dawt na yu maynd? If yu fil da we de, nɔto yu wangren de. Dis na prɔblɛm we bɔku mama ɛn papa dɛn kin gɛt dɛn tɛm ya.
Insay di sosayti tide, mama ɛn papa dɛn ɔl tu de wok. Sɔntɛnde, na wan pɔsin nɔmɔ de kia fɔ dɛn na di famili. So, bɔku tɛm, pikin dɛn kin kam bak na os afta skul ɛn big pɔsin nɔ de wach dɛn. Wi de tɔk bɔt yɔŋ pikin dɛn. Fɔ yɔŋ pikin dɛn, bɔku tin dɛn de we dɛn kin du afta skul ɛn klas dɛn fɔ tek pat pan.Bɔt fɔ yɔŋ pikin dɛn we ol bitwin 12-18 ia, na smɔl program dɛn nɔmɔ de we fayn ɛn we kin mek dɛn bizi.
Wetin mek wi nid fɔ tink bɔt dis so?
Dis na tin we siriɔs smɔl pas aw wi de tink. Difrɛn stɔdi dɛn dɔn sho se yɔŋ pikin dɛn we de spɛn tɛm dɛn wan we big pɔsin nɔ de kia fɔ dɛn kin gɛt bɔku prɔblɛm fɔ du bad tin .
Tink bɔt dis: Wan stɔdi we di American Academy of Pediatrics bin du sho se pikin dɛn we ol 8 ia we de spɛn pas 10 awa insay di wik dɛn wan kin lɛk 10% fɔ tray fɔ tek drɔgs lɛk marijuana. Dɛn kin smok ɛn drink rɔm tu tɛm pas pikin dɛn we big pipul dɛn kin kia fɔ dɛn ɔltɛm.
Filip B. Kaninham, MD, we na prɔfɛsɔ fɔ saykayatri na di Mɛdikal Yunivasiti na Sawt Karolina, bin tɔk se: “Fɔ lɛf pikin dɛn we dɛn nɔ de kia fɔ dɛn, na big tin we kin mek pɔsin gɛt tin dɛn lɛk fɔ yuz drɔgs ɛn fɔ gɛt bɛlɛ we titi dɛn kin gɛt.” "So if yu pikin lef yu pikin in wan afta skul te yu rich haus, dem de pan big risk fo get trobul."
So, us sɔlvishɔn dɛn wi go fɛn fɔ dis prɔblɛm we wi nɔ lɛf yu wok ɛn de na os? Lɛ wi tɔk bɔt am.
Nɔto wetin wi de du fɔ wi pikin dɛn, na wetin wi pikin dɛn kin du fɔ wi!
Wi nid fɔ chenj di we aw wi de tink bɔt dis kwɛstyɔn smɔl. Insted fo tink se, "Aw wi go tek kia of wi pikin dem?", i beta fo stat tink se, "Wetin dis pikin dem go du fo wi, fo sosayti?"
Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, fɔ sɛn pikin dɛn fɔ go wok na di kɔmyuniti na fayn sɔlv. Jɔs tink bɔt dis, dis de gi dɛn fayn chans fɔ yuz dɛn fri tɛm fayn fayn wan.
- Ɛp wan ples usay dɛn de kia fɔ ol pipul dɛn we de nia de.
- Mek dɛn put an pan wan kɔmɔn tin we dɛn kin du na di tɛmpul, chɔch, ɔ tɛmpul.
- If yu pikin lɛk animal, ɛnkɔrej am fɔ volontia na ɔganayzeshɔn we de ɛp animal dɛn.
We pikin de du gud tin lɛk dis, di chans fɔ mek dɛn go na di rɔng rod kin rili ridyus. Dɔn bak, di pikin kin bigin fɔ fil se i valyu insɛf ɛn i gɛt wok fɔ du.
Wan ɔda fayn tin we yu fɔ du na fɔ gɛda wit yu neba dɛn ɛn mek smɔl arenjmɛnt. Fɔ ɛgzampul, yu kin tɛl di ɔda mama ɛn papa dɛn se, "Mi na mama ɔ papa we de wok, bɔt a kin spɛn tri awa insay di wik fɔ du sɔntin wit di pikin dɛn na wi neba." If yu kin tek turn fɔ wach di pikin dɛn, na big ɛp fɔ ɔlman.
Lɛ wi ɛksplen dis mɔ na di tebul we de dɔŋ ya.
| Risk Bihayvya | Pozitiv Ɔda we fɔ du tin |
|---|---|
| Westɛm, fɔ kip kɔmpin wit di rɔng padi dɛn. | Fɔ gi yusɛf to spɔt, fɔ ple myuzik, art, ɔ ɔda tin we yu lɛk fɔ du. |
| Westɛm we yu nɔ nid fɔ de na di Intanɛt ɔ vidio gem dɛn. | Ɛnkɔrej fɔ wok na di kɔmyuniti, fɔ volontia, ɔ fɔ go na laybri. |
| Tɛmt fɔ tek drɔgs, sigrɛt, ɛn ɔda tin dɛn. | Fɔ no di pikin in talɛnt ɛn ɛp am fɔ divɛlɔp dɛn. (e.g. smɔl biznɛs, kraft) |
| Ɔltɛm, yu kin de yu wan ɛn yu at kin pwɛl. | Ɛp fɔ bil rilayshɔn wit big pɔsin we yu kin trɔst (ticha, kɔch, fambul). |
Di impɔtant tin fɔ tɔk to yu pikin
Di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl na fɔ kɔntinyu fɔ tɔk fayn wit yu pikin .
"Wea yu pikin de? Udat na dia padi? Wetin dem de du?" I kin tan lɛk se na ‘naughty’ tin smɔl fɔ aks bɔt dɛn tin ya, bɔt na mama ɛn papa dɛn wok. Na di kayn we aw yɔŋ pikin dɛn kin tray fɔ push dɛn bɔda dɛn de. Wi nid fɔ ɔndastand dat ɛn gayd dɛn wit lɔv.
We yu de tɔk to pikin dɛn, nɔ fɔ trit dɛn lɛk pɔsin we nɔ gɛt sɛns, we denja, ɔ we de mek mistek ɔltɛm. Bifo dat, tɔk wit di kɔnfidɛns se "dɛn kin gi dis pikin rispɔnsibiliti, se i kin ɔndastand wetin rayt ɛn wetin rɔŋ." Dɔn bak, if yu tɛl yu pikin se i nɔ fɔ du sɔntin, i rili impɔtant fɔ mek yu sɛt ɛgzampul bay we yu nɔ du am yusɛf.
Ɔda tin dɛn we yu kin du:
- Yu fɔ no yu pikin in padi dɛn: fɛn ɔndastand udat dɛn bi, usay dɛn de, ɛn udat na in mama ɛn papa. If i pɔsibul, tɔk to dɛn mama ɛn papa dɛn de bak.
- Monitor from distance: Divεlכp wan sistεm fכ monitar yu pikin we yu de wok.
- Sɛt wan patikyula tɛm fɔ kam na os.
- Aks dem fo giv yu c ALL wen yu get haus.
- Aks wan neba we yu kin abop pan fɔ chɛk di pikin fɔ si if i dɔn kam na os.
Dɛn tin ya kin tan lɛk se na prɔblɛm, bɔt mɛmba se natin nɔ de we impɔtant pas aw yu pikin go sef ɛn aw i go gɛt tumara bambay.
Mɛsej we dɛn kin kɛr go na os
- Pan ɔl we yu pikin yɔŋ, dɛn stil nid big pɔsin fɔ kia fɔ am ɛn fɔ gayd am. No giv op komplit bikos "na big boi nau."
- Nɔ mek yu pikin in fri tɛm west. Dayrɛkt dɛn to fayn fayn tin dɛn lɛk spɔt, tin dɛn we dɛn lɛk fɔ du, ɛn fɔ wok na di kɔmyuniti.
- Tɔk to yu pikin ɔltɛm. Trit dɛn wit rɛspɛkt, lisin to dɛn kwɛstyɔn dɛn, ɛn mek ples na os usay una go ebul fɔ tɔk fri wan.
- Yu fɔ no yu pikin in padi dɛn ɛn in mama ɛn papa. Dis rili impɔtant fɔ mek yu pikin sef.
- If yu notis big chenj na yu pikin in bihayvya (e.g., wae yu vɛks pasmak, yu de wangren ɔltɛm, yu de skip skul wok) wae yu nɔr kin ɔndastand, ɔr if yu sɔspɛkt se dɛn de yuse sɔmtin lɛk drɔgs, i nɔr kin ɛva let fɔ tɔk bɔt am. I rili impɔtant fɔ aks fɔ advays frɔm dɔktɔ (dɔktɔ) we yu kin abop pan .
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